Neil Strauss, the godfather of indirect game.

The Game has changed drastically, and the rules about how to find a woman are much different now than even a few years ago. Because of this change, there’s a great amount of confusion when it comes to studying pick up techniques online.

Hey noob! That’s right, I’m talking to YOU!

Hey noob! Yeah, you! Organic chemistry and physics might get you the job, but looking like this guy WON’T get you the girl! Keep reading to find out how the ABCDEF system can work for you!

Who says that, as a new PUA, you shouldn’t pick up more girls and have success with women right away?

You should! (more…)

“Your Game is only as good as your LIFE.” – JT “the Asian Playboy” Tran

Over the years we have had thousands of students complain about how mystifying the seduction process is and how difficult it is to find out where one stands with a woman.

If you saw a smoking-hot beauty in the club like her, what would your direct approach opener be?

A group of smoking hot babes enter a nightclub. Sexually attractive women, all dolled up in their sparkling dresses, lemon drop martinis in hand, chisel cut curves that every man would love to get their hands on, and they’re telling each other how HOT they are tonight, except for one girl…

The one girl, who just happens to be the most attractive woman of the group, isn’t being engaged by her friends.

When you bring her home, don’t you want to replicate your success? Then keep reading and find out why (and how) lay reports can help you!

Really? This again?

Another redundant lay report bragging about how some pick up artist perfectly gamed and slept with a hot blonde… Really? I KNOW you have seen these.

The LAST thing you want is for her to friend zone you!

We’ve All Been There…

You’re chatting with a gorgeous girl. Everything is going well. She’s laughing, you guys are connecting, and it seems like it’s ON.

Turns out this was just a rumor, but even Jeremy Lin knows how to get more women and be more confident.

With the Knicks season over until the next training camp starts, Jeremy Lin (in spite of his knee surgery last year) is now reaping the benefits of fame and has become a prime sexual target by women (look no further than the Kim Kardashian dating rumors from a year ago) because of it. Not too long ago, Jeremy Lin was the last ditch effort, the back bencher of an ailing team nowhere near the playoffs who wasn’t any closer to playing ball than he was to figuring out how to get more women.

Now the NY Post details Jeremy Lin’s first clubbing report in the post-playoffs where he met Victoria’s Secret Selita Ebanks.

If you saw a smoking-hot beauty in the club like her, what would your direct approach opener be?

A group of smoking hot babes enter a nightclub. Sexually attractive women, all dolled up in their sparkling dresses, lemon drop martinis in hand, chisel cut curves that every man would love to get their hands on, and they’re telling each other how HOT they are tonight, except for one girl…

The one girl, who just happens to be the most attractive woman of the group, isn’t being engaged by her friends.

Neil Strauss, the godfather of indirect game.

The Game has changed drastically, and the rules about how to find a woman are much different now than even a few years ago. Because of this change, there’s a great amount of confusion when it comes to studying pick up techniques online.

Turns out this was just a rumor, but even Jeremy Lin knows how to get more women and be more confident.

With the Knicks season over until the next training camp starts, Jeremy Lin (in spite of his knee surgery last year) is now reaping the benefits of fame and has become a prime sexual target by women (look no further than the Kim Kardashian dating rumors from a year ago) because of it. Not too long ago, Jeremy Lin was the last ditch effort, the back bencher of an ailing team nowhere near the playoffs who wasn’t any closer to playing ball than he was to figuring out how to get more women.

Now the NY Post details Jeremy Lin’s first clubbing report in the post-playoffs where he met Victoria’s Secret Selita Ebanks.

Asian stereotypes aren’t attractive. Do yourself a favor and become her sexy Asian man by using these tips to help combat the stereotypes women have of Asian men.

Women often view Asian men through negative Asian stereotypes.

Do people ever point and laugh at you because of Asian stereotypes?

Women often view Asian men through negative Asian stereotypes. When the typical non-Asian who has no real understanding of modern Asian-American culture hears “Asian men,” visions of the fobby and nerdy Asian Long Duk Dong often fill their heads.

Sarah Ann: Wing Woman Extraordinaire

Many people have a lot of myths, misconceptions and stereotypes about the PUA community and being a pickup artist.

As a wing-girl for the ABCs of Attraction (one of the few reputable professional PUA companies) it behooves me to set the matter straight as not only a woman, but also as someone who has worked with so many students and seen them grow as better, more confident men.

I understand that JT Tran cannot be responsible for all the preconceptions and biases that people have about pickup artists, but that’s because what he does is more a calling to help his brothers be successful with women, life and to battle racism and prejudices of being an Asian man than it is a job to make money.

That being said, you should understand I speak only for our company and not all the PUAs out there, although there are plenty of other great (and not so great) dating coaching companies.

NBC's Vicky Nguyen from KNTV investigates the ABCs of Attraction "Nerd" PUA Bootcamp

Readers, I am the bearer of exciting news!

If you are in the San Francisco area, you are already aware of this, but for everyone else, I am writing to inform you that ABCs of Attraction “nerd” bootcamp has garnered so much attention in the past few months from our university workshops and articles such as New York’s Paper Tigers article.

We all knew this, but that led to us being picked up by NBC Bay Area in San Francisco (KNTV Channel 11)! That’s right, we were followed around by a camera crew who captured us doing what we do best – helping men become better with women and their personal lives.

We were pleased to see how well we were represented (Vicky Nguyen used the term “Nerd” bootcamp as an affectionate), as the PUA industry does have a stigma attached to it.

"Asian American Like Me: Paper Tigers" by Wesley Yang featuring JT "the Asian Playboy" Tran

The entire Asian American blogosphere is in an uproar over the recent New York Magazine article by Wesley Yang, “Asian American Like Me: Paper Tigers – What happens to all the Asian-American overachievers when the test-taking ends?”

The popular thing to do right now are for the Asian American community activists (from female AA activists, LGBT actvists, to comic book writers and adult porn stars) to write up their rebuttals in order to ride the national attention that Wesley brings to the topic of the Bamboo Ceiling.

However, as one of the Asian Americans featured in the article that would be disingenuous (my story starts at the bottom of page 6 and is about addressing the interracial dating imbalance by being an Asian Pick Up Artist).

Would you pay if you took her on a date?

Dear Sarah Ann,

Who should pay for a date?

Sincerely, Every guy that has ever taken a bootcamp.

Here at the ABCs of Attraction, we get tons of questions about dating and relationships, so I’ve decided to start giving dating advice loud, proud, and publicly with dating rules in mind, not just to reduce the number of similar questions in my inbox, but to also inform the masses what I find to be the best ways to handle awkward situations.

It’s the age old question and one of the most contested dating rules-who should pay for a date, the guy or the girl? The answer seems simple to most chicks, “The guy, like, totally should pay, because he’s like, a guy.” Most men, on the other hand, seem at a loss once the check gets dropped off.

Want to figure out how to get a date with a cute girl like her?

I’ve gotten a lot of questions and pleads for dating tips recently about how to get a date and how to ask a girl out.

If you lost a beautiful girl like her, it’s time to figure out how to get your ex-girlfriend back.

It’s happened to the best of us. We met a beautiful, sexy, funny, vivacious girl and we thought she was perfect.

Neil Strauss, the godfather of indirect game.

The Game has changed drastically, and the rules about how to find a woman are much different now than even a few years ago. Because of this change, there’s a great amount of confusion when it comes to studying pick up techniques online.

Are you ready for a serious long term relationship?

Hey chap.

So you’re considering a long term relationship.

WOAH THERE, SLOW DOWN, PRINCE CHARMING!

Long term relationships are GREAT, but an LTR can be a LOT harder than you think…

In fact there are TONS of reasons why you SHOULDN’T get into an LTR and there are definitely some relationship problems you need to watch out for in long term relationships.

For instance, if you are new to “The Game”, DON’T settle down into an LTR yet (I’ll tell you why in just a sec).

If you didn’t already know, I’m Chinese by ethnicity, American by nationality, Asian-American by culture and Taiwanese by heritage. Confusing, I know, like most Asian-Americans, it took me years to figure out what the difference was between race, ethnicity, heritage, and nationality. My father was born in China while my grandfather was an officer in the Nationalist army.

VH1 The Pickup Artist Season 2

The use of PUA routines and stacks has its advantages and disadvantages. For the moment, let’s assume that this social tool is about enhancing the appeal of your inherent personality and not creating a script to playact a personality (although an argument can be made on both ends of the spectrum).

Instead, I want to shed some light on what can be a very useful tool, but all too often people make the mistake and believe PUA routines that they learn from handbooks are magic bullets or cure-all.

Firstly, what are the advantages? Well, if you are not a skilled conversationalist, someone who is not used to flirting, it can get the ball rolling.

For example, what do you if you don’t know what to say to get her laughing? Why, you can pull out the “Rock, Paper, Scissors” routine (which you can see demonstrated in the video below).

Motivational Speaker, Asian Pickup Artist and Dating Coach JT Tran at Wharton of Upenn

It’s become a time honored tradition for me that on each Valentine’s Day that I’m an invited feature speaker at an Ivy League Unviersity.

First it was Harvard University, then Yale University, and later the University of Chicago.

Wing-Woman Sarah Ann on Dating an Asian Guy

Hey guys, my name is Sarah Ann and I have a confession to make before I tell you how Asian guys can get any girlfriend you want.

I dated my first Asian man when I was introduced to the ABCs of Attraction in 2008 and I’ve seen first-hand the prejudice and discrimination that Asian men sometimes face in the dating arena.

Gareth Jones teaching his famous Text To Sex video training course

I know we’ve been giving a lot of attention to our Text To Sex product launch what with free video and ebook report giveaway, but you guys have been demanding MORE FREE SCHWAG! And who am I to deny my fans and loyal followers who have helped build up our community and put the fiery spirit in our men’s movement, so…

SO HERE IT IS!!!

“Unbeknownst” to me, the Melbourne Lair created a secret bootleg copy of my T2S lair speech which is just a tiny sample of the full day of T2S seminar.

Are you ready to have the time of your life AND get more women? Check out our best PUA workshop!

Dallas is known for super-sizing everything. When JT Tran and the ABCs of Attraction come to Texas, that reputation is going to be challenged in a big way.

Can a bootcamp change your life in three days? There’s only one way to find out!

In my nine years as a pickup artist, I’ve heard a lot of interesting questions. JT, what do I do about Asian stereotypes? JT, how can I talk to a girl? JT, how can I make myself look good? JT, JT, JT, what do I do?

And then the other day I heard this one: JT, can a bootcamp change my life in three days?

We all like to shop around for the best PUA workshop and do as much research as possible before we invest our money in something.

Are you ready to have more fun than you’ve ever had and change your life for the better? Then check out one of our world-famous seduction bootcamps!

If California is the land of sunkissed beach beauties, then Florida is the only state that gives us a run for our money.

Partying Thai style with the legendary Johnny Wolf–are YOU ready to take a leap forward and become a new you?

Thailand is a dater’s paradise. Beautiful weather, beautiful beaches, and plenty of beautiful girls.

San Diego–a beautiful city, beautiful women, and the perfect place for an ABCs of Attraction pickup dating coaching workshop!

A majestic skyline beyond a sparkling bay marks San Diego as one of the most beautiful cities in California, a land known for its attractive women and unique venues.

50 Shades of Grey falls short of the hype.

To give everyone a frame of reference for my reading tastes, my interests range anywhere from classic literature, plays, magazines, all the way over to Twilight (I’ll get back to this in a second).

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

It is a sad day today, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People author Stephen Covey has unfortunately passed away. One of the guys who revolutionized the self-help and business industry with the notion of “always improve yourself” and “be effective,” is no longer with us, but his teachings, memoirs, and more have withstood the test of time, and we still use his exact teachings to this very day, not just in the corporate and business world, but the self improvement, self help, and even the seduction community.

7 Habits of Highly Effective People is a staple book in not just seduction, but life overall.

Learning 'Emotional Intelligence 2.0' for Asian Men

I saw this book while I was at the airport on my way to New York City. It looked interesting and I put it on my “Recommended Reading” list as I am a huge believer that emotional intelligence and social experience is a huge predictor of success: both personally and professionally.

Especially considering after the “Paper Tigers” article by Wesley Yang and how it starkly portrayed how the Bamboo Ceiling will hold Asian men from advancement in their careers and personal lives.

Anyways, our intern coach Ben J actually got to read it before I did, so here’s his another one of his PUA book reviews!

PUA Book Review: ‘Emotional Intelligence 2.0′ by Travis Bradberry & Jean Greaves

Ben J, intern and lifestyle PUA

As we are all aware in our ABCs of Attraction Bootcamp experiences, it is briefly mentioned that our EQ (Emotional Quotient or Emotional Intelligence or EI) is increasingly important in the new ways of understanding social aptitude.

The Law of Attraction from the Asian PUA!

Ahoy ladies and gentlemen! Here’s another book review by one of our interns, Ben J, who is an incredibly avid reader and book junkie of all things self-improvement related.

This time, we talk about “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne with a special emphasis on how “The Secret” relates to dating and being a pick up artist (PUA) through the Law of Attraction.

So take it away, Ben J!

“The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne: A PUA Book Review

Ben J, intern and lifestyle Asian Pickup Artist

“The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne should seriously be required reading for everyone.

Johnny Wolf experiences Liberation using Timothy Ferris' "The 4-Hour Workweek"

Hey Johnny Wolf here. I’m sure most of you have heard of the book, “The 4-Hour Workweek” by Timothy Ferris.

I’m here to tell you that it changed my life, where I went from a 9 to 5 corporate job, then a professional Pick Up Artist (PUA), and finally to where I am now: healthier, wealthier, but most importantly, happier.

Note: This book review of “The 4-Hour Workweek” is from the perspective of self-help and self-improvement, which is the basis of the holistic PUA.