You were never taught how attraction works. That's it. That's the whole problem.
As seen on: ABC Nightline | NBC | Harvard | Yale | Wharton | LA Weekly
ABOUT JT TRAN I grew up Vietnamese American in the South at a time when being Asian meant being invisible at best, a target at worst. I went to college on scholarship. Became an aerospace engineer. Did everything right. And I still couldn't get a date. I wasn't bad-looking. I wasn't awkward. I just had no framework for how social dynamics and attraction actually worked. Nobody in my life ever showed me. When I finally figured it out, I didn't keep it to myself. I started the ABCs of Attraction so other men, especially those who've never had the big brother to show them the ropes, could learn what I had to figure out the hard way.
"Be successful BECAUSE you're an Asian man. Not in spite of it." — JT TranI've spoken at Harvard, Yale, and Wharton. I've been featured on ABC Nightline and NBC. I've coached men from college students to 60-year-old professionals across six continents. More than 100 former students have gone on to get married. I am the only dating coach in the world to have presided over a student's wedding. What I teach works. Not because it's slick. Because it's built on real psychology, 20+ years of field-tested results, and a system that treats you as a capable man who just needs the right framework.
THE SYSTEM
The ABCDEF System: A Map, Not a Script
The ABCDEF System is a six-phase framework. At every stage, it develops three things at the same time:- Inner Game: how you think, feel, and carry yourself under pressure
- Outer Game: what people see before you say a word like your body language, your command presence, and how you occupy a room
- Verbal Game: what you say, how you say it, and when to say nothing at all
Bruce Lee
Absorb what is useful, Discard what is not, Add what is uniquely your own.
A — Attitude, Attract, Approach
Approach anxiety isn't a personality flaw. It's a missing skill. This phase teaches you how to walk up to a woman with a clear head, genuine intent, and no fear of rejection stopping you cold. You learn how to build attraction from the very beginning with rejection free, proven conversation starters.
B — Be Present, Banter, Buying Temperature
Most men either perform too hard or mentally check out. This phase teaches you to stay present in your body and in your emotions, build her attraction, and make her want to stay in the conversation with you. You'll learn the art of bantering, being funny, building attraction, keeping the conversation going, and building emotional resilence.C — Compliance, Comfort, Connect
She needs to feel safe before she'll feel anything else as you read her actual level of interest in real time. This phase shows you how keep a conversation going, interesting and attractive. You'll learn how to build genuine emotional connection and consent without slipping into "let's just be friends" territory.D — Dominance, Direct Intent, Disqualify
Attraction stalls when nobody leads. This phase teaches you to express what you want clearly, take the lead on where things go, and stop waiting for her to give you permission while not being pushy or creepy.E — Evaluate, Escalate, Extract
Talking to a woman for three hours and going home with nothing is not a win. This phase teaches you to get her number, set up the date, or move things forward for romantic, physical intimacy instead of stalling indefinitely.F — Future, Fun Up Artist, or Fake Pickup Artist?
Techniques can get you short-term results. This phase is about building something that lasts. You'll identify the patterns that make men self-destruct after early wins and replace them with the real thing. If you want the woman your dreams, you also need to be the man of her dreams as well.THE BOOTCAMP
What Actually Happens Over 3 Days
This isn't a seminar. You don't sit in a hotel conference room taking notes. You go out into the real world, approach real women, and get real-time feedback from instructors watching every interaction.Before You Arrive: The Pre-Bootcamp Home Study Course
Before the weekend even starts, you receive a full multimedia suite of audio, video, and written material designed to help you hit the ground running.- A dozen lecture videos covering the core concepts before Day 1
- Infield footage of JT demonstrating the Kickstarter Opener in real approaches
- How to be genuinely funny without trying
- How to touch and escalate with women in a way that feels natural, not forced
- How to dress to attract the women you actually want
- Inner game audio guide to get your head right before you walk in
- Mission journal, approach frameworks, and a storytelling prep guide
You also get a private 30 to 60 minute Coaching Intake Call with your personal coach before Day 1.
This isn't a sales call. It's a working session. You'll go over logistics, travel, and the schedule so nothing surprises you on arrival. More importantly, JT or a certified coach will personally workshop your conversation material with you. Your stories, your openers, your attraction material. What's working gets sharpened. What isn't gets fixed. You walk into Day 1 already ahead.
No other bootcamp does this before the weekend even starts.
Students have reported that just going through the home study course and using the Kickstarter Opener gave them better results with women than anything they'd tried before. The bootcamp itself is where the real transformation happens. But you won't be starting from zero.
What a direct approach actually looks like.
Before we get into Day 1, watch it happen. This is JT opening a two-woman set with a direct opener. No tricks. No routines. Just the system in action.Day 1: Phases A and B — Approach and Attract
The Workshop The day sessions run in a real classroom format with professional PowerPoint presentations covering theory, never-before-seen infield video footage, and live drills and exercises to dry-run before you go out that night. No lectures in a hotel lobby or restaurant. You also receive a 200+ page workbook to take notes in and take home as a permanent reference for everything covered across all three days.- Phase A: How to manage anxiety using proven mental and physical techniques
- How to reframe rejection so it stops being something you fear
- Powerful body language that signals confidence before you say a word
- The Kickstarter Opener and other proven indirect approaches
- Phase B: How to stay emotionally and physically present in the conversation
- How to banter so you build attraction and never run out of things to say
- How to keep the conversation moving forward instead of stalling
- Never-before-seen infield footage of JT building attraction with women who had zero interest at the start
Night 1: Infield
This is the part no book, video, or online course can replicate. You step into a real venue with real women and real stakes. Your coaches are right there, watching every interaction, catching every mistake before it becomes a habit, and pushing you into approaches before your brain has time to talk you out of it. The first approach is the hardest thing you will do all weekend. And then it's done. After that, something starts to shift. One thing skeptical students always wonder: will the coaches actually approach, or will they just stand on the side and point at girls? Here's what students who've been to other programs have to say about the difference."I had attended another bootcamp before where the coach didn't do a single approach, probably because he didn't want to get blown out in front of students. I saw JT do approaches before my eyes and learned so much by observing the way he interacted with women. I knew for sure then and there that he is the real deal." — B.Z. — 5-Star Yelp Review, San Francisco Bootcamp
"I was afraid the coaches would bring us into the club and leave the students unattended while they went to enjoy themselves. The coach JT Tran was anything but. They took an active role in actually observing the students and helping them throughout the night. They were rarely, if ever, distracted." — Eric F. — 5-Star Yelp Review, New York Bootcamp
"All of a sudden we see JT Tran bring over two gorgeous women. He approached them by just calling them beautiful and waving his hand. It caught me off guard. After the first night of practicing, I felt a lot calmer when talking to girls." — Tim R. — 5-Star Yelp Review, Los Angeles Bootcamp
"The real value this weekend was what I learned during the infield portion. I experienced several aha moments that completely changed my inner game, specifically my inner belief system of what I was capable of. I was able to crash through my self-built walls of limiting beliefs." — Yangers B. — 5-Star Yelp Review, San Francisco Bootcamp
"My approach anxiety was completely transformed into approach excitement. By the end of the bootcamp I feel there's no girl that I cannot approach." — Rui — 5-Star Yelp Review, Los Angeles Bootcamp3-to-1 instructor-to-client ratio. You get seen. You get corrected. By midnight, most students have approached more women than they did in the past six months.
What Celebrities Are Saying:
“They are an ethical company, they are committed to client satisfaction, and their methods do work.”
-James Matador, VH1’s “The Pickup Artist”
What Men Are Saying:
“I highly recommend the boot camps!”
“I highly recommend the boot camps to anyone who is serious about learning how to successfully approach women and how to develop better relationships with them.”
-Huang L, Washington D.C. Bootcamp Alum
“Don’t make the mistake of thinking this program won’t help you.”
99.9% of the curriculum is about how people interact and applies to everyone. Don’t make the mistake of thinking this program won’t help you.”
-Spaceghost, San Francisco Bootcamp Alum
“This was totally worth it.”
“After looking back at all I’ve done in those three days, then looking at myself and seeing how much I’ve changed since I signed up for the boot camp, this was totally worth it. I definitely recommend this to others who really want to change their lives.”
-Chris Pham, Las Vegas Bootcamp Alum
“I just took the ABCs of Attraction’s bootcamp here in Dallas, Texas. It was absolutely amazing. I know people think of ABCs as being for the Asian community. But, I learned a LOT from [the instructors]. Absolutely beautiful women… ABCs of Attraction is taking over the international community. All of the other white guys out there that like women of different races can learn a lot from JT on how to approach Latin women, Asian women, white women, tall, short, dark… All over the world, ladies watch out… I’m coming”
-Johnny Dane, Dallas Bootcamp Alum
“It’s been two weeks, and man my life has CHANGED!”
“The real feelings of gratitude came once I got back to my own life after [my bootcamp]. It’s been two weeks, and man my life has CHANGED!”
-Paul R, Los Angeles Bootcamp Alum
“I would recommend this bootcamp to friends.”
“This bootcamp was definitely worth the flight to Thailand and the 12hr+ trip from Bankok to the island… I would recommend this bootcamp to friends.”
-Speed, Thailand Bootcamp Alum
“Don’t make the mistake of thinking this program won’t help you.”
“99.9% of the curriculum is about how people interact and applies to everyone. Don’t make the mistake of thinking this program won’t help you.”
-Sam S, San Francisco Bootcamp Alum
“Hey guys, it’s Jay. Just finished the ABCs Orlando Bootcamp… And it was totally amazing. I signed up just to see what it was all about, and it just blew my mind away. When you sign up on the site, you think it’s all only for Asians, and as you can see, I’m not Asian. But, the guys catered to you perfectly; it was just remarkable. It helped me with a lot of sticking points in my game. It helped me overcome approach anxiety by basically pushing me, literally, into sets. On the first night, I was scared to approach any set that had more than one girl, but, following the ABCDEF structure, you CAN’T lose. It’s totally easy to remember, and now I have things to say. These guys are great, and they taught me a lot.
“It will be the best thing you ever did!”
“I’d highly recommend you sign up for the next ABCs Boot Camp that’s closest to your city! It will be the best thing you ever did! Up to this day I am receiving the residual effects of this type of training!”
-Ross Shelton, Seattle Bootcamp Alum
“The bootcamp was definitely worth taking”
“The bootcamp was definitely worth taking for me. I thought of it as taking a class that will teach me a lifelong skill and it is! It was definitely worth the money.”
-Edo, NYC Bootcamp Alum
What Celebrities Are Saying:
“He’s one of the best teachers out there”
“I can really honestly say that he’s one of the best teachers out there, especially if you’re an ethnic minority or Asian. I know firsthand there can be a lot of limiting beliefs that go along with that and he’s simply the best in the business in really breaking down those beliefs and showing you first hand that you can really get girls even if you are an ethnic minority and there are stereotypes against you. I think his ABCs of Attraction system, it’s really genius because it’s so simple. It’s the ABCs, you can’t really go wrong with that and it’s not a very complex thing… Overall, anyone thinking about taking one of Asian Playboy’s ABCs of Attraction Bootcamps, definitely recommend you go. I know from firsthand experience that it will make you a lot better with women…”
-Daniel Rose, Founder of Six Pack Shortcuts with Mike Chang
Day 2: Phases C and D — Connection and Dominance
Day 2 is where the system gets more demanding and the results get more real. This is the day most students describe as the one that changed everything.
The Advanced Workshop
Day 2 continues in the same classroom format with indepth critique and personalized feedback from the night before plus it covers direct game, which is a requirement for any man who isn’t conventionally attractive so you can break past any stereotypes she might have of you.
You’ll learn to lead women, make them feel genuinely comfortable with you, and create the kind of deep emotional connection that makes them want to stay.
- Phase C: How to build compliance so you can lead her naturally
- How to make her comfortable enough to open up emotionally
- How to create a deep, genuine connection without slipping into the friend zone
- Phase D: How to be openly dominant without coming across as aggressive or creepy
- How to be sexual in a way that makes her feel safe and excited at the same time
- How to get her to pursue you by backing off at the right moment
- Advanced body language positioning techniques taught nowhere else
Night 2: Infield
Night 2 raises the bar. The challenge is to be more dominant, more sexual, and to push toward real romantic and physical intimacy. Students who held back on Night 1 don’t get to on Night 2. This is where the work either pays off or shows you exactly what you still need to fix.
“JT approached a set of really attractive college girls, brought them over to the table, and introduced me to the really hot blonde sorority type. Past me would have never thought this kind of girl could be into me. But thanks to all the training and new-found confidence in myself, I not only made out with this girl but also pulled her from the club. The self-satisfaction and internal happiness of having achieved what was previously unthinkable.”
— K.N. — 5-Star Yelp Review, NYC Bootcamp
“She asked to make out with ME. Even though she’s a foot taller than me and way out of my league. Talking to women was the scariest thing I had to do and it really is as easy as talking to a regular person no matter how beautiful they are.”
— Tim R. — 5-Star Yelp Review, Los Angeles Bootcamp
“Not only did I take a girl home on the first night, but I also achieved the same success on the second night. This was eye-opening for me, showing that with JT’s guidance, I could truly transform my dating life.”
— Bobby B. — 5-Star Yelp Review, NYC Bootcamp
“I had tons of doubt before I came in, but the materials taught in the bootcamp work. I got laid on the second night even though I was the worst student on the first night due to my approach anxiety.”
— Kevin A. — 5-Star Yelp Review, LA Bootcamp
This is what a weekend can do.
This student had never been with a woman. Watch what happened after one bootcamp weekend with JT.
Day 3: Phases E and F — Escalation and the Future
Day 3 covers the final two phases of the system and takes everything into daytime environments. Note: daygame infield is included in Premium bootcamps only, not Certified bootcamps.
The Lifestyle Workshop
Phase E is about evaluation and logistics. Not every woman is right for you, and you’ll learn to assess that clearly instead of chasing out of scarcity. You’ll also learn the mechanics of taking things further: how to handle logistics, how to take her home, and how to make her feel like the whole thing was her idea.
- Phase E: How to evaluate whether you actually want a relationship with this woman
- How to escalate physically and emotionally at the right pace
- Logistics: how to take her home while making her feel safe and excited
- How to make her think seducing you was her decision
- Phase F: How your lifestyle either supports or undermines everything you’ve built
- If you want the woman of your dreams, you need to become the man she’s been looking for
- How to identify the gap between who you are now and who you need to become
Daygame Infield (Premium Only)
You’ll take everything you’ve learned out of the club and into real daytime environments. Coffee shops, streets, bookstores, parks. Real women in normal situations, no alcohol or dim lighting required. Learning to approach during the day is what separates men who can only work a nightclub from men who can meet women anywhere, anytime.
“The third day we went to a mall to practice daygame. I approached more women in these 3 days than I probably have in the past year, and I was pushed to do bolder things that I always felt too awkward to do.” — Phil S. — 5-Star Yelp Review, Daygame Student
“The Sunday daygame session was the one I was looking forward to the most. It was a different experience and one I wanted. JT was there to help us when we needed it — they had their approaches too but they still made time for their students.”
— Louis T. — 5-Star Yelp Review, Daygame Student“Whenever you are doing the approach, the coach will watch closely behind the corner, observing your vibe, conversation flow, and body language. After you are done, he will pull you to the corner and tell you what you are not doing well. And practice with you what you can do better. Rinse and repeat. So every time, you are making new progress as opposed to making the same mistakes again and again.”
— James T. — 5-Star Yelp Review, Daygame Student“After the workshop, I feel absolutely comfortable approaching any girl in a club, mall, or cafe. It has been just a couple of days, but recently went to a meetup event and collected 10 phone numbers of great girls.” — Jon L. — 5-Star Yelp Review, Daygame Student
“I NEVER thought I could number-close a 9/10 blonde in the daytime. It blew my mind.”
— Gary Huang — ABCs Community, NYC Bootcamp
What Happens After the Weekend
So the real question isn’t what happens during the bootcamp. It’s what happens to your life afterward.
“Two months after the bootcamp, I was no longer a virgin. Next thing I knew, I was doing things I used to think was impossible: dating women taller than me, white girls, Latinas, all outside of what I previously thought was possible. I went from the asexual guy for 24 years to being the guy who can’t stay single for long.”
— Christopher D. — 5-Star Yelp Review, Los Angeles Bootcamp“After the first bootcamp, over 2 years I went on 20 first dates and dated 4 different women between 3 and 8 months each. I had taken other programs before but none were as effective as JT’s program.”
— David W. — 5-Star Yelp Review, Nashville Bootcamp“I have attended RSD and Pickup Alpha but those two programs don’t even begin to compare in quality. It was the first program that actually broke me down in tears for the feeling of progress I made this past weekend.”
— Dan K. — 5-Star Yelp Review, Los Angeles Bootcamp“There are certain things in life you’ve done and then wondered why you didn’t start earlier. Like going to the gym. This is one of those. I wish wholeheartedly that I had done the ABC programs earlier.”
— Eric F. — 5-Star Yelp Review, New York Bootcamp“I was so impacted by the experience that I signed up for their long-term training program and even joined the upcoming Euro Tour. If you’re serious about growing as a man, both socially and emotionally, JT and the ABCs team will take you there.”
— Angel N. — 5-Star Yelp Review, Nashville Bootcamp
More than 100 former students have gone on to get married. JT is the only dating coach in the world to have presided over a student’s wedding like William.
“The ABCs bootcamp taught me how to be a man. They helped me fill in the last missing piece: how to be desirable to women. That led me to just one woman who is the love of my life. I’ve been married for 4 years now, I love my wife, and our life together is amazing.”
— William L. — 5-Star Yelp Review (JT officiated his wedding)
After the Bootcamp: Your Lifetime Support System
The weekend ends. The training doesn’t.
- 12 weeks of structured post-bootcamp missions to keep you building momentum
- Text and phone templates so you know exactly what to say to get her on a date
- Infield daygame footage to keep refining your approaches after the weekend
- Advanced lecture material from the full ABCs video library
- Access to Club Khan, the private alumni community
Total post-bootcamp value: over $500 in resources, included at no extra cost.
WHO THIS IS FOR
Built for Men Nobody Ever Taught
You’ve achieved a lot professionally and can’t understand why dating feels impossible by comparison. You’re analytical, disciplined, and used to solving hard problems. But nobody ever taught you this one.
The culture you grew up in rewarded restraint and humility. Dating in the West rewards expressiveness and directness. That’s not a character flaw. It’s a gap. And gaps are learnable.
Most of our students are Asian men raised in Western societies. About 25% are non-Asian: Black, Latino, white, South Asian. What they share is the same thing. They don’t feel like the conventional dating narrative was written for them. It probably wasn’t.
We’ve coached men from 18 to 65. Night portions require 21+ due to venue restrictions. Daygame workshops have no age limit.
This is not for men who want shortcuts, want to manipulate women, or aren’t willing to do real work. If that’s you, there are plenty of other programs that will take your money and send you home with a script.
QUESTIONS & ANSWERS
No. And that distinction matters.
Pickup artistry teaches scripts, routines, and psychological manipulation tactics. It’s built around performance. It often works short-term and collapses long-term because it’s not real.
The ABCs of Attraction is a holistic personal development system. Dating is the training ground, not the end goal. The methodology was built specifically to avoid the manipulation and inauthenticity that defines standard pickup artistry. We don’t teach you to be someone else. We teach you to show up as yourself, with the skills to actually be seen.
JT is 5’4″, mid-looking Asian man who is not conventionally attractive. The system was built specifically for men without natural advantages. That’s not a marketing line. It’s the origin story.
No. JT built the system to specifically address what Asian men face in Western dating culture, including racism and social stereotyping. But the core framework teaches human social dynamics that work for everyone. About 25% of students are non-Asian.
Good. You haven’t picked up bad habits yet. We’ve coached men from zero experience to advanced students looking for an edge. The system adapts to where you are.
Premium bootcamps are led by JT Tran directly and include the Day 3 daygame infield. Certified bootcamps are run by JT’s hand-picked, trained coaches and does NOT include daygame infield. Both follow the same ABCDEF curriculum and 3-to-1 instructor ratio.
The bootcamp investment is $3,000. If you book on your first call with us, we offer a one-time fast-action rate of $2,500. That’s the only discount we offer and it doesn’t come back.
We back every bootcamp with a 100% satisfaction guarantee. If you don’t feel you got real value from the program, we’ll work with you until you do.
Yes. The daytime lecture and workshop portions are open to everyone. Night portions require 21+ due to venue restrictions. Under-21 students attend at half price for the daytime-only format. Daygame workshops have no age restrictions.
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The Gap Isn’t Closing on Its Own
Here’s what 20 years of doing this teaches you.
The men who don’t sign up don’t suddenly figure it out on their own. They wait for a better time. Then another better time. Then they look up and it’s been three years and nothing has changed.
The men who show up at the bootcamp, even the ones who are terrified walking in, leave different. Not because we gave them a new personality. Because they finally did the thing they kept putting off.
Three days. Real approaches. Live coaching. A framework that works for the rest of your life.
Not ready to commit yet? Book a free coaching call. We’ll talk about where you are, what’s getting in the way, and whether the bootcamp is the right fit. No pressure. No pitch.
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Still on the fence?
Over 12,000 men follow this community on Facebook. They aren’t there for motivation quotes. They’re there because the system works and they’ve seen it work on men exactly like them.
If you’re still reading, you already know this is something you need to do. The only question is whether you’re going to do it now or spend another year in the same place.
Spots at each bootcamp are capped deliberately. Small groups mean a 3-to-1 coaching ratio and real individual attention. When a bootcamp sells out, it sells out. There’s no waitlist exception.
100% Satisfaction Guarantee
If you complete the bootcamp and don’t feel you got real value from the experience, tell us. We’ll work with you until you do. We’ve coached thousands of men over 20+ years. We don’t take your money and disappear.
This guarantee exists because we’re confident in what we deliver. It’s also how we hold ourselves accountable to every student who shows up and does the work.
What happens after you register
You’ll receive your Pre-Bootcamp Home Study Course immediately. Go through it before you arrive. Students who come in prepared get dramatically more out of the weekend.
The bootcamp runs Friday through Sunday. Evenings go late because that’s when the real work happens. Plan accordingly. Full schedule details are in your confirmation.
