[UPDATE: Our S.W.A.G. Test for Asian Men is getting slammed! Please be patient if you don’t get your test results immediately as the script is processing like mad with the influx of test takers.]
TL;DR I made a dating market value test specifically for Asian men (#SWAGTEST) that you can click here to find it below. If I had taken this quiz in 2004, the me from before (pre-Asian Playboy), would have scored -11 points. See if you can beat that! What do you think is my score now? Find out below…
Women are virtually impossible to figure out.
There. I said it. I’m a professional dating coach and former pickup artist, and I admit that even I haven’t discovered the Jedi mind trick that turns women into an open book with a textbook formula that has 100% accuracy. The day any man figures out and codifies the operating manual for women, he will be awarded the Nobel Prize of Male Badassery.
Here’s why: We can’t read minds.
Learning pickup artistry is about figuring out what works on most women and using that as a guidebook in dating; there are no magic pills. It works because there are a set of male behaviors that women are evolutionarily geared to prefer, and all we can do about it as men is to stack the deck in our favor as best as we can so that she invariably chooses us.
But no pickup artist is ever 100%. If he says he is, he is lying to you and trying to swindle your money. I’ve been at the game for ten years and even I’m not perfect. And that’s because I can’t read a woman’s mind and I’m never 100% sure what she’s thinking.
But what if there was a way to take a sneak peek inside women’s minds? What if there was a way to figure out what women think of you when they see you? What if you could even put a number on that?
As it turns out, there is.
For several years the internet has been flooded with dating market value tests, quizzes, and calculators.
Dating market value (or sexual market value) is a soft measurement of how women perceive you as a potential dating or sexual partner, especially with respect to your competition (other non-Asian men who don’t have the same kind of negative stereotypes that we do). Are you marriage material? Boyfriend material? or “let’s just be friends” material?
The idea is simple: you take certain traits (such as your physical appearance or occupation), give them point values, and add them up to figure out how your sexual market value ranks compared to other men for the average female’s attention. It’s like rating yourself on a scale of 1 to 10… but on steroids!
There’s a positive side and a negative side to the concept. On the one hand, it’s a very reasonable way to rate yourself. If you drive a shitty rust bucket, obviously that’s going to lower your score. If you’re a body builder, obviously that’s going to raise it. But these calculators all have a huge, glaring problem.
They’re calibrated according to white guys.
They don’t account for things like accents, cultural and physical differences (yes, these things can impact women’s perceptions of you) because we’re a minority and Asian features aren’t a problem for white male privilege. When it comes to rating Asian men, dating market value calculators just don’t go far enough to cover our unique traits and mannerisms nor does it take into account the differences between Asian men born overseas vesus immigrant Asian Americans.
So that’s why I wrote my own based on the TEN THOUSAND plus Asian men I’ve taught AND the reaction of thousands of white, black, and Hispanic women have had with them. That’s over 10 years of experience seeing what works on Asian men and what doesn’t.
Thus the S.W.A.G. (Something We Asians Got) Score to indicate your dating market value as an Asian man.
There’s not a single person on this planet, out of the 6 billion people living on it, that has even remotely the same referential experience that I do in having seen first hand what, how, and to which degree that women will respond to certain Asian men.
You may not like the answer you receive, but I guarantee that it will be the most accurate assessment of your dating IQ and sexual market value bar none.
You can find and take the test below. Go ahead and take a moment to go fill it out and tally your dating market value, then come back here and finish reading the article.
When you get back, I’ll review the major variables in my dating market value calculator covers so you can understand why you got your value and what you can do to improve your score.
There’s some 40 odd questions so give yourself time to seriously reflect and answer them.
Your answer will be emailed to you once you’ve finished.
I’ll wait for you.
Dating Market Value Calculator for Asian Men
Note 1: This is for calculating your dating market value in relation to other non-Asian women, it will still apply to Asian women with some few differences (like how Asian women will understand why you live with your parents and not give you negative points, but every other women will judge you harshly).
Note 2: This calculator only takes into account your passive value with some lifestyle and social aspects taken into consideration. This is about the value your first impression gives her and NOT the long term relationship or sexual value, although many of the questions you answer are implied and carry over into that form of value. It also does not factor in (though some questions do) your technical skillset like conversation, banter, or “Game.” This is for that first (or near first) impression women have of you and on which line you fall under in their mind: Are you dateable? Or not dateable?
NOTE 3: There are some answers that could go either positive or negative depending on the girl that you’re interacting with. For example, wearing colored eye contacts will turn on some girls while freaking out others. Same thing what happens with peacocking with items from Hot Topic and such. In this particular calculator, we just made it a positive, but be aware that those items are polarizing to women and can swing you either way. Then there were some items where (like body or facial hair) it didn’t matter either way, just that if you had facial hair, it was trimmed and not a scraggly rat’s nest. It’s the Polarizing Effect where you want people to either hate you or love you, but you don’t want them to feel lukewarm towards you.
You done? Good.
Check your email for the score. Be sure to white list our email and check your spam so we can review your score, why you got the score that you did, and what you can do about it.
Your Personal Appearance
The good news is that women don’t expect you to look like a movie star.Most women are perfectly content to be with normal guys, and most guys are capable of at least being average to above-average.
If you fall below average, it’s not her problem for not liking you – it’s yours, so stop blaming her. You don’t have to live with your mom’s haircuts forever (most salons will cut and style men for under $50). You don’t have to live with bad fashion (stores like H&M are both cheap AND fashionable). You don’t have to live with being overweight (fresh ingredients are cheaper than Taco Bell).
There’s nothing you can do about acne scars, being short, or having Asian eyelids, so don’t worry about it. But you can put your best foot forward with your appearance by paying attention to how you look, rather than shrugging your shoulders and thinking that what you did for yourself in high school is still cool.
The bottom line: Accept what you cannot change. Change what you can. But if you refuse to do anything, you’re the one holding yourself back.
There’s good news and bad news. The good news is that this is 21st century, not 1814, and women don’t rely on you to fully support them, so your financial situation is no longer the sole factor in a woman’s decision about a man.
The bad news is that if you’re completely destitute, don’t have a car, or are living with your parents, you can kiss women goodbye. You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to earn the big bucks, but you can improve your job hunt by going to college.
There are even night or online classes if you’re strapped for time. You can hire someone to write your resume for you. You can rent an apartment if you can’t afford a house, or buy a used car if you can’t afford a BMW.
But no woman wants to be with a burger flipper who lives in his parents’ basement because that’s truly beneath what women can be expected to tolerate, so becoming more independent greatly increases your chances with women.
The bottom line: Don’t make yourself broke trying to buy Ferraris you can’t afford; do apply for good jobs, do move out of your parents’ house, and do get your own car. Become financially independent and stable so that you can make yourself an equal match for a modern, working woman.
Your Social Life
This might sound strange, but in order to improve your social life, you need to start out by actually having one in the first place. Sitting back and complaining about how much white or black women ignore Asian men does nothing but make you, and other Asian men, look like a child.
Stop spending all of your time on video games and social media; spend that time talking to real people with real faces. Don’t stunt your social growth by limiting yourself to one type of friends; diversify your social circle with both sexes, many races, and different types of people from different walks of life.
And most importantly, don’t just hang out with unattractive girls because you think you can’t do any better; when a hot girl sees you with other hot girls, she wants what they’ve got, and when she sees you with ugly girls, she doesn’t want to be ugly by association.
Even better: don’t slouch, hug the wall, or stand silently and stupidly when in social situations. Be lively and active, the fun guy everyone wants to be around.
The bottom line: If you want to maximize your social life, hang out with a lot of different people from a lot of different crowds and don’t be a wallflower when they try to engage you. Do not rely on the internet for your social life.
Let’s face it – you can’t change this. You can’t turn into a white guy, no matter how many suspiciously white-looking Asian girls you see all over YouTube.
If you’re Asian, you’re “stuck” with it for life. But that doesn’t mean you have to let yourself be a living stereotype.
If you have a thick accent, take speech classes to reduce it. If you have crooked Asian teeth, try talking to a dentist about Invisalign. Don’t slurp your noodles loudly because that’s the Asian thing to do; in America eating loudly is considered rude. Don’t grow your nails long because it means you don’t have to do manual labor; women don’t care about that here. Don’t mutter to yourself in your native language or speak it to your friends when a lady is with you; if she can’t understand you, she’ll think you’re talking about her.
There’s a silver lining and a special bonus to being Asian – you have an excuse to take her to festivals and restaurants she’d otherwise never get to see. Don’t be afraid of sharing your culture!
The bottom line: You can’t erase who you are, and you shouldn’t, because your Asian culture is unique and exotic. But don’t turn yourself into a walking stereotype. If you’re pursuing American women, change and adapt to their American tastes.
Now let me tell you something in perfect confidence (promise you won’t tell my secret!):
Way back in the day, when I was still a nerdy rocket scientist who had no idea how to dress himself or behave around women, my dating market value was a -11.
NEGATIVE ELEVEN, people!
I would have scored even worse if I hadn’t had my own place near the beach, drove a Mercedes, worked out, surfed, and played beach volleyball. On paper, I was a “catch.”
But that was only on paper. My actual dating value, my reproductive and sexual equity in the social marketplace, wasn’t just bad… it was terrible! And it was no surprise that I couldn’t get women to pay any attention to me!
But when I started taking care of my appearance and improving my social life, I completely flipped the script.
You ready for this?
After I started improving myself, I scored a whopping 33.
And that’s before I even became a pickup master. That was me as a normal, socially active guy.
That’s right – you don’t have to be an expert to improve your dating market value and boost your chances with women. You can be a totally normal, average guy like I was and still give yourself a good chance.
But you HAVE to put forth the effort.
No complaining. No telling yourself you’d do better if only you could do this or that. No telling yourself it’s because you’re short (I’m 5’5”). No blaming it on your race. No blaming it on the women. Be a big boy and take responsibility for yourself and your own actions, and I promise you’ll see an improvement.
It’s easier than you think.
But now that you know where you need improvement, you’re going to need to know how to improve yourself. To give yourself a jump start, check out the Asian Playboy Digital Course that includes significant sections on fashion, body language, and lifestyle.
But if you’re really intent on becoming as good as you can with women as fast as you possibly can, there is no substitute for having the help of a seasoned professional who can watch you in action, analyze your performance, and give you personalized tips on what you’re doing right and what you could be doing better.
If you’re prepared to take that step, check out one of my world-famous dating and seduction bootcamps today to see how YOU can revolutionize your dating life! You WON’T be disappointed.