The Racist Bullying Crisis: Why 54% of Asian American Children Are Targeted by Bullies

On December 2009, thirteen Asian students were sent to the hospital after being targeted by racist bullies

On December 2009, thirteen Asian students were sent to the hospital after being targeted by racist bullies

Hey guys, it’s JT Tran, your friendly neighborhood Asian Playboy, with a more serious article today on a topic that (according to one study I’ll talk about later) at least half of us have faced in one form or another – the Asian bullying crisis.

A certain YouTube video is trending right now about an Asian guy getting badly beaten by six or seven other guys. Just as with the news of Private Danny Chen’s death, people rallied to the side of the man being attacked. It seems our nation’s youth is tired of the bullying and the victimizing, and that struck a chord with me, because, like many young Asian men, I was bullied as well.

When I was growing up in the South (Texas to be exact), I was “fortunate” enough to attend an academy for academically gifted children. It was “fortunate” because it also painted me with a huge fourth grade target on my back.

As I walked every morning to go to this academy, I would cross paths with a blonde, Caucasian boy going to a different public school. He definitely lived on the other side of the tracks as his clothes were worn and dirt seemed to be his constant companion.

And, each day, as our paths collided, he would push me and call me a gook, a chink, or a slant. I would tell my parents and my teachers. They said that violence isn’t the solution and just avoid him.

“Take the higher road,” they said piously.

Asian bullying has even gone viral with this parody video

Asian bullying has even gone viral with this parody humor video

So I would try to avoid him and cross the street, but he always made a point to cross the street and confront me. I still don’t understand why he did so, but he seemed to make it his routine to go out of his way to shove me down each day. Each time I regained my balance, I felt a sense of shame.

In fact, at one point, he raised his fists in a mock punch and I raised mine to defend myself. This just incensed him even more and I went to school with a bloody nose. Why didn’t I push him back? Why didn’t I do something about this? I wondered about these questions and my actions, or, rather, lack thereof, and I started to feel bad about myself.

Years later, in high school, I got into another situation with a different bully. He was much bigger than me being six foot tall, so that made me an easy target. When he started picking on me I did the same thing as I had always been taught. I passively accepted it and tried to ignore it.

However, one day I just became completely fed up with the situation and I decided to take action. He started making fun of my mother and called her “Connie Chung.”

I had had enough.

I pretty much had to jump to meet him eye to eye, but I took a swing and punched him – right in the face. Looking back on it, I’m glad my teacher saw this and stepped in and stopped the fight, because he would have completely kicked my ass, but I don’t feel bad about it. Even though I got into a lot of trouble with my parents for getting detention over it, I don’t regret it.

After the bully called my mother "A Connie Chung", I had to jump up in order to even slap him in the face

After the bully called my mother "A Connie Chung", I had to jump up in order to even slap him in the face

I had done something that I had never done before: I made a stand for myself and my sense of self-respect.

Unlike my previous experience with a bully, I didn’t feel that lingering sense of shame. Instead, I felt vindicated. I felt that my actions were justified. I felt I had done the right thing by standing up for myself, and that gave me a new sense of confidence and empowerment I didn’t have before.

Now, my Asian brethren, I’m not endorsing punching the lights out of any guy that looks at you funny, but I do believe you should stand up for yourself – not only because it takes care of the situation at hand but because it will make you feel like a better person. Violence isn’t always the solution and resorting to violence can be very dangerous. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t stand up for yourself and take some sort of action.

I remember Brooks (one of my female AMWW writers and former Playboy model) telling me how she was at Bennigans (or a similar restaurant) with her Asian boyfriend. As she went to the bar, she overhead a waitress talking about Asian men, how Asian men had small penises and weren’t good in bed. Brooks COMPLETELY flipped and started shouting at the top of her lungs. She made a complete scene, got the management’s attention and ended up getting the racist waitress fired.

That’s a perfect example of not resorting to violence, but still standing up for yourself (or in this case, her boyfriend). And not only that, it made a socially effective message:

  1. Being racist is NOT OK
  2. Informed everyone around her of that fact
  3. Debunked the “small penis” Asian stereotype for all to see
  4. Got the racist person fired from her position
  5. Which probably started making the waitress rethink her attitude and opinions

But is Asian bullying a crisis? Bullying happens all the time to everyone, right?

Studies show that 54% of Asian kids get bullied, be it physically, mentally, or emotionally. That is astoundingly higher than the national average of 20% of children. That means that 1 out of very 2 Asian man you know, has been bullied before in his life. That’s nuts! And it’s more than the bullying crisis that gay/homosexual teens face, but has gotten all the news coverage and support from the celebrities.

But more than that, going back to Private Danny Chen (where it was just recently announced that one of his attackers was only getting 30 days of jail-time) and the military, Asian Americans in the military have the HIGHEST SUICIDE RATE of any group or ethnicity (“Soldiers of Asian descent have dramatically higher suicide rates than other racial groups. Their risk is double or triple that of other soldiers, and four times higher in the war zone.”). Let me repeat that: the ASIANS HAVE THE HIGHEST SUICIDE RATE IN THE MILITARY.

Private Danny Chen: Asian Americans have the highest suicide rate in the armed forces

Private Danny Chen: Asian Americans have the highest suicide rate in the armed forces

Danny Chen has called a “gook,” “chink,” “dragon lady” and unfortunately he didn’t know how defend himself or stand up for himself against these racists that might have made the bullies back down. A lot of it has to do with how we’re raising our children and the fact that we’re such an easy target for people to take out their racist, prejudiced beliefs.

In fact, there was a school that had so many racist bullying events and the Asian Americans feared so much for their safety that they had to stage a strike and REFUSE to go to school. Yes, Asians refusing to go to school until the American establishment could guarantee their safety. We are the most prone group to be targeted by bullies and racists.

So yes, I definitely believe there is an Asian bullying crisis.

Another study shows that an overwhelming 99% of Filipinos have been victims of racism in the past year, but that the majority of them decided to take action about it by either standing up for themselves or reporting it to authorities. After doing so, they too, just like I did, felt a new sense of confidence and self-worth. By taking action, they felt better about themselves as a person.

Bottomline is that CONFRONTING RACISM BOOSTS SELF-ESTEEM. You don’t have to take my word for, just check out the psychology study “Filipino Americans and Racism: A Multiple Mediation Model of Coping” for yourself.

Believe it or not, bullying affects your confidence, self-esteem and self-image. Which in turn affects your dating life.

I don’t mean it in the clear-cut example of AMOGing, where another guy may try to assert some sort of dominance over you and the girl you’re talking to, making some snide joke about Asians and trying to impress her. It’s deeper than that.

If you are or have ever been a victim of bullying and failed to do anything about it, your confidence has most likely been deflated. If you couldn’t stand up to your bully, you probably felt ashamed, like I did.

This lack of confidence can carry over to your adult life, where you may feel unworthy of the beautiful woman at the club or the cute girl that goes to your gym. While a more confident man might strike up the courage and ask her out, you’re sitting back and wishing you could do the same.

Gentlemen, I now challenge you. The next time you feel like a victim of bullying or any racial comments, slurs or incidents, I challenge you to make a stand. I challenge you to take action. I challenge you to do what is right.

Do not stand idly by and let it slide, because you will feel ashamed, depressed and angry. Have enough self-worth to realize that no one deserves to be bullied – you included. By doing so, you will gain that sense of empowerment you’ve been craving. You will feel the confidence flow through your body.

You will know what it’s like to be strong.

And you will finally feel vindicated, as I did, when you stand up for yourself and what is right.

  • http://twitter.com/statis Mike Kim

    cool article dude!

  • http://twitter.com/statis Mike K.

    cool article dude!

  • http://twitter.com/theasianplayboy JT Tran

    Thanks man!

  • http://twitter.com/theasianplayboy JT Tran

    Thanks man!

  • Van-gp

    I do agree that it is how you’re raise.  However, in my case, I had friends who were not afraid to stick by me when I’m out numbered by the usually older and much taller bullies.  Even when one of us were caught alone, we understood that eventually one of the bullies would be caught alone by us.  This trend went well on from elementary into early high school before both group grudgingly accepted that we were simply tired of getting our asses kicked at one time or another.

    Then I entered the military – which is why I get so infuriated when my Asian friends bring up Chen.  The military isn’t for everyone – and likewise, it shouldn’t be.  You either have to develop thick skin quickly, along with a sharp wit and tongue, or you will not be very happy.  Sorry, but I would rather have a racist douche watching my back in the middle of a gun fight, then some quiet kid, who can’t stand up for himself.  And while I was never fully called a racial slur just for the sake of offense, I’ve been jokingly referred to as the “Two Inch Man” or “Lucky Fucky.”  In retrospect, I have given back as much as I’ve taken.  I blared out in a burglar alarm noise as an African-American military member entered the room.  I’ve continuously said, “No mas” or “No Habla” to my Puerto Rican friend, even though he’s from Mexico and corrects me everytime on it.  I purposely spoke slower and used baby talk at times when conversing with a couple of southern white boys who spoke in a stereotypical southern drawl – despite one of them being an Officer.

    With bullying as in with the military – I do not see it as a form of abuse, at least, not initially.  I see it as another guy’s way of saying, “I want to respect you – now give me why I should – even if you have to beat it into me!”  Unfortunately, so many of us have been groomed to not make eye contact and to shrink away at confrontation – it does more damage to us then it helps.

  • Van-gp

    I do agree that it is how you’re raise.  However, in my case, I had friends who were not afraid to stick by me when I’m out numbered by the usually older and much taller bullies.  Even when one of us were caught alone, we understood that eventually one of the bullies would be caught alone by us.  This trend went well on from elementary into early high school before both group grudgingly accepted that we were simply tired of getting our asses kicked at one time or another.

    Then I entered the military – which is why I get so infuriated when my Asian friends bring up Chen.  The military isn’t for everyone – and likewise, it shouldn’t be.  You either have to develop thick skin quickly, along with a sharp wit and tongue, or you will not be very happy.  Sorry, but I would rather have a racist douche watching my back in the middle of a gun fight, then some quiet kid, who can’t stand up for himself.  And while I was never fully called a racial slur just for the sake of offense, I’ve been jokingly referred to as the “Two Inch Man” or “Lucky Fucky.”  In retrospect, I have given back as much as I’ve taken.  I blared out in a burglar alarm noise as an African-American military member entered the room.  I’ve continuously said, “No mas” or “No Habla” to my Puerto Rican friend, even though he’s from Mexico and corrects me everytime on it.  I purposely spoke slower and used baby talk at times when conversing with a couple of southern white boys who spoke in a stereotypical southern drawl – despite one of them being an Officer.

    With bullying as in with the military – I do not see it as a form of abuse, at least, not initially.  I see it as another guy’s way of saying, “I want to respect you – now give me why I should – even if you have to beat it into me!”  Unfortunately, so many of us have been groomed to not make eye contact and to shrink away at confrontation – it does more damage to us then it helps.

  • Noemail

     be realistic Van, the racist would shoot you in the back.

  • Noemail

     be realistic Van, the racist would shoot you in the back.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Elliott-Gordon/100003072193351 Elliott Gordon

     As a guy who gives dating tips for men myself, I think it’s also important to mention here that victims are bullied are often not just physically, but also psychologically bullied. I was bullied in eighth grade,  And I didn’t even know it. The guys who are bullying me were popular, and I just wanted them to like me.  I would stand up for myself when they beat me up, but then the next day they would be nice to me.   The fact that I seek approval from them cause them to bully me more. I think it’s important to mention this, because often the most popular kids in school ARE the bullies.  Bullying can be black-and-white, with the victim feels completely justified, but it can also not be black and white–where the victim is confused and manipulated by the bully.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Elliott-Gordon/100003072193351 Elliott Gordon

     As a guy who gives dating tips for men myself, I think it’s also important to mention here that victims are bullied are often not just physically, but also psychologically bullied. I was bullied in eighth grade,  And I didn’t even know it. The guys who are bullying me were popular, and I just wanted them to like me.  I would stand up for myself when they beat me up, but then the next day they would be nice to me.   The fact that I seek approval from them cause them to bully me more. I think it’s important to mention this, because often the most popular kids in school ARE the bullies.  Bullying can be black-and-white, with the victim feels completely justified, but it can also not be black and white–where the victim is confused and manipulated by the bully.

  • Rakiba

    Great article. Please note that the perps in the awful Chicago gang beating were largely Asian themselves. This doesn’t discredit the bullying number or the crisis but it shows that bullying is an issue that also transcends racism.

  • Rakiba

    Great article. Please note that the perps in the awful Chicago gang beating were largely Asian themselves. This doesn’t discredit the bullying number or the crisis but it shows that bullying is an issue that also transcends racism.

  • jazzfunkcollector

    I’m a Eurasian girl and I’m afraid to leave the house because of racial bullying and racial-sexual bullying  which has gotten physically violent  in the past. My victimisers have been both men and women . I think your artical is very helpful to men and some women but I’m at a loss still as to what to do.=(

    I’m a small woman and I’m extremely shy, quiet and nonviolent. I can’t stand to even watch violence on telivision without feeling sick and extremely saddened. I don’t know what to do and feel more and more hopeless everyday. Even if I took formal training to learn how to defend myself I don’t think I could.In all the situations where I was faced with physical violence or sexual violations on my body I ended up freezing like a deer. I’d think I’d be used to it and react in a better way now =( I’m an athlete so I should be able to defend myself but all I’ve ever managed to do was ball up in the fetal position and try to protect my face/head.

    I would do as Brooks did in the restaurant situation when it comes to overhearing racist remarks by employees at different establishments however, my experiences have never turned out triumphant like her’s. I get made out to be the bad girl. I get made to feel like a nuisance with lots of sighing and eye rolling. and told I’m “pulling the race card on them ” when I  even  have witnesses to back me up on overt racism. nothing gets done and I end up feeling stupid and more wothless and useless as a human.I wish my voice mattered.

    I don’t know what to do. I stopped leaving the house unless I absolutely have to.I cut off ties with friends because I’m depressed.I used to horseback ride but I know I’m very unwelcome in that environment . I love nature and I love long walks but I’m terrified to leave my house. I feel like there is no point in being alive anymore.

  • jazzfunkcollector

    I’m a Eurasian girl and I’m afraid to leave the house because of racial bullying and racial-sexual bullying  which has gotten physically violent  in the past. My victimisers have been both men and women . I think your artical is very helpful to men and some women but I’m at a loss still as to what to do.=(

    I’m a small woman and I’m extremely shy, quiet and nonviolent. I can’t stand to even watch violence on telivision without feeling sick and extremely saddened. I don’t know what to do and feel more and more hopeless everyday. Even if I took formal training to learn how to defend myself I don’t think I could.In all the situations where I was faced with physical violence or sexual violations on my body I ended up freezing like a deer. I’d think I’d be used to it and react in a better way now =( I’m an athlete so I should be able to defend myself but all I’ve ever managed to do was ball up in the fetal position and try to protect my face/head.

    I would do as Brooks did in the restaurant situation when it comes to overhearing racist remarks by employees at different establishments however, my experiences have never turned out triumphant like her’s. I get made out to be the bad girl. I get made to feel like a nuisance with lots of sighing and eye rolling. and told I’m “pulling the race card on them ” when I  even  have witnesses to back me up on overt racism. nothing gets done and I end up feeling stupid and more wothless and useless as a human.I wish my voice mattered.

    I don’t know what to do. I stopped leaving the house unless I absolutely have to.I cut off ties with friends because I’m depressed.I used to horseback ride but I know I’m very unwelcome in that environment . I love nature and I love long walks but I’m terrified to leave my house. I feel like there is no point in being alive anymore.

  • jazzfunkcollector

    Danny chen was such a handsome young man RIP =(

  • jazzfunkcollector

    Danny chen was such a handsome young man RIP =(

  • Captain LoongZilla

    As Chinese born in Malaysia, we were being discriminated by the Malaysian Government.  My family immigrated to New Zealand where I grew up and spent sixteen years there.  I wasn’t well liked by the girls there.  New Zealand women have a preference for British men.  I left New Zealand and immigrated to England five years ago.  I get a lot of random racist verbal abuses from people here and at the same time I don’t get any special treatment from British women.  It’s quite frustrating to have to deal with racist verbal abuses from red necks and try to pick up chicks at the same time as a minority.

  • Captain LoongZilla

    As Chinese born in Malaysia, we were being discriminated by the Malaysian Government.  My family immigrated to New Zealand where I grew up and spent sixteen years there.  I wasn’t well liked by the girls there.  New Zealand women have a preference for British men.  I left New Zealand and immigrated to England five years ago.  I get a lot of random racist verbal abuses from people here and at the same time I don’t get any special treatment from British women.  It’s quite frustrating to have to deal with racist verbal abuses from red necks and try to pick up chicks at the same time as a minority.

  • Xavier

    Not entirely true. With the way some things are handed out there, the rich are getting entitlements meant for the poor.

    It’s NOT a race issue, it’s a class issue.

    You got discriminated against by three governments: Malaysian(“so-called” third world), NZ(“so-called” first world), British(“so-called” first world).

    Maybe part of the problem is government too.

    Just ’cause you don’t SEE racism, doesn’t mean it isn’t there.

    You don’t need to get bashed around to have a racially motivated crime done against you … ignoring your qualifications, jobs only for their citizens and “you are not part of our culture” are great barriers to entry.

  • Xavier

    Not entirely true. With the way some things are handed out there, the rich are getting entitlements meant for the poor.

    It’s NOT a race issue, it’s a class issue.

    You got discriminated against by three governments: Malaysian(“so-called” third world), NZ(“so-called” first world), British(“so-called” first world).

    Maybe part of the problem is government too.

    Just ’cause you don’t SEE racism, doesn’t mean it isn’t there.

    You don’t need to get bashed around to have a racially motivated crime done against you … ignoring your qualifications, jobs only for their citizens and “you are not part of our culture” are great barriers to entry.

  • Xavier

    The Alpha idea is to act all confused that you are speaking up for your rights, and that you are being a nuisance.
    I hate those types of people; they are usually managers.

  • Xavier

    The Alpha idea is to act all confused that you are speaking up for your rights, and that you are being a nuisance.
    I hate those types of people; they are usually managers.

  • Xavier

     Just ’cause you “cut off ties” with your friends, doesn’t mean they cannot stop by to see you.
    I get the feeling your “friends” may also have been part of the problem … if they sure as heck can’t support you they are probably undermining you.
    Make more friends, try BigBrothersBigSisters http://www.bbbs.org

  • Xavier

     Just ’cause you “cut off ties” with your friends, doesn’t mean they cannot stop by to see you.
    I get the feeling your “friends” may also have been part of the problem … if they sure as heck can’t support you they are probably undermining you.
    Make more friends, try BigBrothersBigSisters http://www.bbbs.org

  • Captain LoongZilla

    No idea what you are talking about here.  I am talking about getting called a “chink” by random strangers in United Kingdom are not racism then I don’t know what is?  At the same time, I don’t see that I get any special treatment from British women because I am something rare or exotic.

    Malaysia Government has policies that actively discriminates anyone who is not Malay.  Everyone is pretty much equal and have the same rights under the laws of New Zealand and United Kingdom.  In New Zealand, you have special rights if you are Maori.

  • Captain LoongZilla

    No idea what you are talking about here.  I am talking about getting called a “chink” by random strangers in United Kingdom are not racism then I don’t know what is?  At the same time, I don’t see that I get any special treatment from British women because I am something rare or exotic.

    Malaysia Government has policies that actively discriminates anyone who is not Malay.  Everyone is pretty much equal and have the same rights under the laws of New Zealand and United Kingdom.  In New Zealand, you have special rights if you are Maori.

  • Xavier

    “Everyone is pretty much equal and have the same rights under the laws of
    New Zealand and United Kingdom.

    “In New Zealand, you have special
    rights if you are Maori.”

    Those two sentences don’t make sense. “Everyone is equal, but some people have special rights?”
    So how different does that make New Zealand from Malaysia?
    And remember: A foreign born Asian, will get treated differently from a local born Asian, in a Western country.
    Or is it just “not racism” if only SOME Asians are treated worse than others?

  • Xavier

    “Everyone is pretty much equal and have the same rights under the laws of
    New Zealand and United Kingdom.

    “In New Zealand, you have special
    rights if you are Maori.”

    Those two sentences don’t make sense. “Everyone is equal, but some people have special rights?”
    So how different does that make New Zealand from Malaysia?
    And remember: A foreign born Asian, will get treated differently from a local born Asian, in a Western country.
    Or is it just “not racism” if only SOME Asians are treated worse than others?

  • Captain LoongZilla

    You’re correct, Maori have special rights to protect their way of life.  It was a bit of an afterthought when I wrote it.

    I think you have overestimated the sophistication of rednecks.  They called me a “chink” as soon as they see me.  Do you think they are really going to care where I was born and my nationality?  I have reported incidents like that to the police because it was getting to point where I couldn’t bear it anymore.  Police in England classified those incidents as “racist crime”.  Go figure.

    I will be leaving this country when I am done here for my mother country.

  • Captain LoongZilla

    You’re correct, Maori have special rights to protect their way of life.  It was a bit of an afterthought when I wrote it.

    I think you have overestimated the sophistication of rednecks.  They called me a “chink” as soon as they see me.  Do you think they are really going to care where I was born and my nationality?  I have reported incidents like that to the police because it was getting to point where I couldn’t bear it anymore.  Police in England classified those incidents as “racist crime”.  Go figure.

    I will be leaving this country when I am done here for my mother country.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_H5PS5MBXLRK7ZFZMBZSMWKDD2M Tom M

    Get a grip. Most white working people didn’t ask you to come here and will be very happy when you leave. The same way you feel in Asian countries when white corporate invaders interfere with your culture. White racism is not only a good thing but it’s the only thing the white working-class has as a natural weapon. The corrupt white elites  with their billions can sidestep any problem and live wherever they want. The white working-class must struggle for their land  or die. Actually nonwhites have been quite fortunate so far. Between social Marxist media people and the churches they have kept the majority of the white working-class neutered. But that day is going to end. And then it will be more than bullying that the invaders will have to worry about. The Insurgent resist.com

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_H5PS5MBXLRK7ZFZMBZSMWKDD2M Tom M

    Get a grip. Most white working people didn’t ask you to come here and will be very happy when you leave. The same way you feel in Asian countries when white corporate invaders interfere with your culture. White racism is not only a good thing but it’s the only thing the white working-class has as a natural weapon. The corrupt white elites  with their billions can sidestep any problem and live wherever they want. The white working-class must struggle for their land  or die. Actually nonwhites have been quite fortunate so far. Between social Marxist media people and the churches they have kept the majority of the white working-class neutered. But that day is going to end. And then it will be more than bullying that the invaders will have to worry about. The Insurgent resist.com

  • Dan K

    Is racist bullying against asians also influenced by NeoNazism and white supremacy organizations like the KKK and the “National Socialist Movement” organization?

  • Dan K

    Is racist bullying against asians also influenced by NeoNazism and white supremacy organizations like the KKK and the “National Socialist Movement” organization?

  • jazzfunkcollector

    thank you for the suggestion. I have recently started volunteering with some organizations I think are very important and that has helped me to feel a little less isolated and worthy as a human. I will check out BigBrothersBig Sisters to see if they have a chapter in my area. I think what they do is very important.

    I don’t think my friends are bad people. I do think I tend to put on a front of pretending everything is okay while in reality it really isn’t because I don’t want to burden people and as a result my friends tend to think I have everything figured out and thus, they  forget about me…

  • jazzfunkcollector

    thank you for the suggestion. I have recently started volunteering with some organizations I think are very important and that has helped me to feel a little less isolated and worthy as a human. I will check out BigBrothersBig Sisters to see if they have a chapter in my area. I think what they do is very important.

    I don’t think my friends are bad people. I do think I tend to put on a front of pretending everything is okay while in reality it really isn’t because I don’t want to burden people and as a result my friends tend to think I have everything figured out and thus, they  forget about me…

  • jazzfunkcollector

    A Filipino man was set on fire by members of a white supremacist group in my country. Also,a Japanese woman was attacked by a white supremacist while leaving a bar in my country. The attack was said to be pre meditated and racially motivated. this occured in 2008. I can provide links if you’d like.

    I’ve notices those sorts of organizations have been growing and popping up more and more where I live and I have even seen posters which I have reported to the authorities and to building owners.

    Even though Asians have the model minority stereotype applied to us, we often experience overt racism and racial violence in spite of and often also BECAUSE of those stereotypes. It seems many members of white supremacist groups love to target individuals they view as easy targets .I’ve noticed  It’s always many white supremacists against one person of colour, or if it is one on one, those bullies often choose a small woman to pick on.

    I suppose somebody like Tom M feels it’s okay to beat up, bully, maim and even kill people, often women and children (because white supremacist and neo nazi groups seem to love to pick on small women and children) who were born in “western” countries. Also, where I live ALL white people are either immigrants themselves or the descendants  of immigrants. I think this applies to all of North America, Australia, New Zealand….anywhere with a colonial history. There is no homogenous “white culture” in North America, and many Europeans I know laugh at the idea that White North  Americans are supposed to, or believe they  have some sort of united culture.

    Tom M, I didn’t ASK to be born in North America myself. I didn’t ASK to be born to a white father and an Asian mother,and I plan to move to Asia when I have the financial means to do so. But I suppose you feel I should be killed or violently hurt for something I had absolutely no control over. You are just as much an immigrant as I am. Only difference is I don’t believe in hurting others, ever. This land was never for “white people” whatever that means (I see the definition of what is “white” seems to change with what is convenient to people. I’ve noted that white supremacists often cite Greek history when bringing up history and why white people are supposedly superior while at the same time denying “whiteness” to modern day Greek people) to struggle over or die. the only people who have a right to such a sentiment are Aboriginal people.

  • jazzfunkcollector

    A Filipino man was set on fire by members of a white supremacist group in my country. Also,a Japanese woman was attacked by a white supremacist while leaving a bar in my country. The attack was said to be pre meditated and racially motivated. this occured in 2008. I can provide links if you’d like.

    I’ve notices those sorts of organizations have been growing and popping up more and more where I live and I have even seen posters which I have reported to the authorities and to building owners.

    Even though Asians have the model minority stereotype applied to us, we often experience overt racism and racial violence in spite of and often also BECAUSE of those stereotypes. It seems many members of white supremacist groups love to target individuals they view as easy targets .I’ve noticed  It’s always many white supremacists against one person of colour, or if it is one on one, those bullies often choose a small woman to pick on.

    I suppose somebody like Tom M feels it’s okay to beat up, bully, maim and even kill people, often women and children (because white supremacist and neo nazi groups seem to love to pick on small women and children) who were born in “western” countries. Also, where I live ALL white people are either immigrants themselves or the descendants  of immigrants. I think this applies to all of North America, Australia, New Zealand….anywhere with a colonial history. There is no homogenous “white culture” in North America, and many Europeans I know laugh at the idea that White North  Americans are supposed to, or believe they  have some sort of united culture.

    Tom M, I didn’t ASK to be born in North America myself. I didn’t ASK to be born to a white father and an Asian mother,and I plan to move to Asia when I have the financial means to do so. But I suppose you feel I should be killed or violently hurt for something I had absolutely no control over. You are just as much an immigrant as I am. Only difference is I don’t believe in hurting others, ever. This land was never for “white people” whatever that means (I see the definition of what is “white” seems to change with what is convenient to people. I’ve noted that white supremacists often cite Greek history when bringing up history and why white people are supposedly superior while at the same time denying “whiteness” to modern day Greek people) to struggle over or die. the only people who have a right to such a sentiment are Aboriginal people.

  • Captain LoongZilla

     I wasn’t really sure if Tom M post was referring to me and told me to get a grip.  I couldn’t be bothered with dealing with racists.

    One of thing I don’t really understand about westerners and western culture in general is that they have a tendency to express violence or verbal abuses towards people they hate out loud.  I see that in the East for example in Japan, if people don’t like you for whatever they don’t say it out loud and they just keep it to themselves.

    I am staying in Frankfurt with a Spanish friend who is dating a Ukrainian girl at the moment.  She told me that there is no chance you can hook up with Ukrainian and Russian women in Ukraine because they don’t like anyone who is not European.

  • Captain LoongZilla

     I wasn’t really sure if Tom M post was referring to me and told me to get a grip.  I couldn’t be bothered with dealing with racists.

    One of thing I don’t really understand about westerners and western culture in general is that they have a tendency to express violence or verbal abuses towards people they hate out loud.  I see that in the East for example in Japan, if people don’t like you for whatever they don’t say it out loud and they just keep it to themselves.

    I am staying in Frankfurt with a Spanish friend who is dating a Ukrainian girl at the moment.  She told me that there is no chance you can hook up with Ukrainian and Russian women in Ukraine because they don’t like anyone who is not European.

  • wow.

    You are fucking despicable and a complete and utter joke. 

  • wow.

    You are fucking despicable and a complete and utter joke. 

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_F5SDI4KBW3OPGS3YDXKX3JSSAI Daniel

    Is racism against Asians in the form of bullying, mocking, and ignorance prevalent in other western countries which are outside the English speaking world such as Spain, Netherlands, Sweden, and Denmark due to the spread of American and Hollywood media?

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_F5SDI4KBW3OPGS3YDXKX3JSSAI Daniel

    Is racism against Asians in the form of bullying, mocking, and ignorance prevalent in other western countries which are outside the English speaking world such as Spain, Netherlands, Sweden, and Denmark due to the spread of American and Hollywood media? Can someone answer this?

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_F5SDI4KBW3OPGS3YDXKX3JSSAI Daniel

    Have u heard about Stormfront, which is the one of the largest internet hate sites run by a white supremacist Don Black?

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_F5SDI4KBW3OPGS3YDXKX3JSSAI Daniel

    Have u heard about Stormfront, which is the one of the largest internet hate sites run by a white supremacist Don Black?

  • JKwong

    Personally the bullying I’ve experienced as an Asian kid came from other minorities, ironically. They have some kind of sense that they can’t be racist just because they’re minorities

  • JKwong

    Personally the bullying I’ve experienced as an Asian kid came from other minorities, ironically. They have some kind of sense that they can’t be racist just because they’re minorities

  • Sarah | ABCs Of Attraction

    That’s a really valid point. A lot of minorities are racists against fellow minorities. It’s a bit of a defense mechanism I’d say.

  • Sarah | ABCs Of Attraction

    That’s a really valid point. A lot of minorities are racists against fellow minorities. It’s a bit of a defense mechanism I’d say.

  • Sarah | ABCs Of Attraction

    I think there is racism in those countries in part because of western media. However, there are always just going to be ignorant people in any culture. We do our best to bridge the gap between cultural misunderstandings. I hope we can eliminating all types of bullying in the future.

  • Sarah | ABCs Of Attraction

    I think there is racism in those countries in part because of western media. However, there are always just going to be ignorant people in any culture. We do our best to bridge the gap between cultural misunderstandings. I hope we can eliminating all types of bullying in the future.

  • Daniel

    Sarah, do asian males who grew up Western European nations other than Britain and Ireland such as Sweden face similar insecurities and social stigmas in dating interracially as in America?  Have u talked to any asian males who have lived or grew up in a Western European country other than Britain to confirm this?

  • Daniel

    Sarah, do asian males who grew up Western European nations other than Britain and Ireland such as Sweden face similar insecurities and social stigmas in dating interracially as in America?  Have u talked to any asian males who have lived or grew up in a Western European country other than Britain to confirm this?

  • http://twitter.com/theasianplayboy JT Tran

    The highest suicide rate for Asians are Korean adoptees in Swedish households.

  • http://twitter.com/theasianplayboy JT Tran

    The highest suicide rate for Asians are Korean adoptees in Swedish households.

  • Daniel

    Jt and Sarah, have u really talked to any Western European (i.e. Swedish, Dutch, French) raised asian males (excluding Ireland and Britain)?  Do they really have similar problems and social stigmas in dating nonasian women as in America?

  • Daniel

    Jt and Sarah, have u really talked to any Western European (i.e. Swedish, Dutch, French) raised asian males (excluding Ireland and Britain)?  Do they really have similar problems and social stigmas in dating nonasian women as in America?

  • http://twitter.com/theasianplayboy JT Tran

    Yes

  • http://twitter.com/theasianplayboy JT Tran

    Yes

  • Daniel

    Do u mean asian-european guys who grew up in other Wester Euro Nations (excluding english speaking Ireland and Britain) face similar interracial dating problems as in America?

  • Daniel

    Do u mean asian-european guys who grew up in other Wester Euro Nations (excluding english speaking Ireland and Britain) face similar interracial dating problems as in America?

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_F5SDI4KBW3OPGS3YDXKX3JSSAI Daniel

    To make it more clear, do asian-european guys who grew up in Western European Nations face the similar interracial dating problems and stereorypes in their countries as their asian american counterparts in the US?

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_F5SDI4KBW3OPGS3YDXKX3JSSAI Daniel

    To make it more clear, do asian-european guys who grew up in Western European Nations other than Britain and Ireland face the similar interracial dating problems and stereorypes in their countries as their asian american counterparts in the US?

  • http://twitter.com/theasianplayboy JT Tran

    Yes

  • http://twitter.com/theasianplayboy JT Tran

    Yes

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_F5SDI4KBW3OPGS3YDXKX3JSSAI Daniel

    I think you should probably extend your bootcamps to major cities in other European countries besides Britain such as Amsterdam, Stockholm, etc. to help more Asian European Guys out?  Currently the Asian-European Guys you help just either fly from their countries in mainland Europe to the US or Britain? 

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_F5SDI4KBW3OPGS3YDXKX3JSSAI Daniel

    I think you should probably extend your bootcamps to major cities in other European countries besides Britain such as Amsterdam, Stockholm, etc. to help more Asian European Guys out.  Currently the Asian-European Guys you helped out just either fly from their countries in mainland Europe to the US or Britain?

  • K Takaki

    You must be stupid. America was made for immigrants. It is a country for ALL people of ALL COLORS and ALL CREEDS. And don’t forget that you fuckers killed all the native Americans (descended from Asians) first to get this land. So maybe you fucking Euros should go back to Europe because America isn’t your land? Now white Europeans in Europe against Asians going into their countries, I can understand, because those countries were supposed to be only for white people. But America is different. It’s supposed to be the land of the “free” and for immigrants, by immigrants. So you can’t apply that to America. Same with Asian countries. Asian countries were made for Asians so whites should stay out of Asia just like Asians should stay out of Europe. But to reiterate and pound it into your KKK dumbfuck white trash head, America is a land for EVERYONE all immigrants as long as they value freedom and justice/fairness in democracy.

  • K Takaki

    You must be stupid. America was made for immigrants. It is a country for ALL people of ALL COLORS and ALL CREEDS. And don’t forget that you fuckers killed all the native Americans (descended from Asians) first to get this land. So maybe you fucking Euros should go back to Europe because America isn’t your land? Now white Europeans in Europe against Asians going into their countries, I can understand, because those countries were supposed to be only for white people. But America is different. It’s supposed to be the land of the “free” and for immigrants, by immigrants. So you can’t apply that to America. Same with Asian countries. Asian countries were made for Asians so whites should stay out of Asia just like Asians should stay out of Europe. But to reiterate and pound it into your KKK dumbfuck white trash head, America is a land for EVERYONE all immigrants as long as they value freedom and justice/fairness in democracy.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/James-Ca/100003509379825 James Ca

     You have a point! I’m an Asian American male that has never felt like he ‘fit in’ western White culture. All races should live separately from each other–to limit racism and avoid racial competition. In fact, that is what I’m planning to do soon. (head back to Asia where I belong).

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/James-Ca/100003509379825 James Ca

     You have a point! I’m an Asian American male that has never felt like he ‘fit in’ western White culture. All races should live separately from each other–to limit racism and avoid racial competition. In fact, that is what I’m planning to do soon. (head back to Asia where I belong).

  • Sarah

     Hi James,
    I understand your point of view, however, what we teach at the ABCs of Attraction is how to overcome racial stereotypes and self-perceived limitations. We encourage people to go outside of their race and diversify. I encourage you to not give up! It’s a great time exchanging cultural differences with a great group of people.

  • Sarah

     Hi James,
    I understand your point of view, however, what we teach at the ABCs of Attraction is how to overcome racial stereotypes and self-perceived limitations. We encourage people to go outside of their race and diversify. I encourage you to not give up! It’s a great time exchanging cultural differences with a great group of people.

  • Rafa Arandas

    I just want to make one thing clear, though…this incident is very horrible and disgusting, and I condemn it utterly. May Danny rest in peace.

    But on a somewhat unrelated note, very few Chinese-Americans do join the military. Even in the World War, the number was maybe a third to that of Japanese-Americans. And online, I have indeed noticed quite a few Chinese-American citizens, apparently extremely hateful of other races and  actually declare their loyalty to China over America. I’d like to think this is a minority, but, honestly…

  • Rafa Arandas

    I just want to make one thing clear, though…this incident is very horrible and disgusting, and I condemn it utterly. May Danny rest in peace.

    But on a somewhat unrelated note, very few Chinese-Americans do join the military. Even in the World War, the number was maybe a third to that of Japanese-Americans. And online, I have indeed noticed quite a few Chinese-American citizens, apparently extremely hateful of other races and  actually declare their loyalty to China over America. I’d like to think this is a minority, but, honestly…

  • Muaythaiyao

    Well, I am almost 50 and I went to US as an immigrant at the age of 14 (1977); that’s before the rise of china, and Us just got their ass kicked in Vietnam war, so you can imaging how tough a time I had with the bullying. There was this black guy who just wouldn’t leave me alone and finally I couldn’t take his shzt anymore and fought him one on one. I lost, the guy was bigger than me and a great wrestler, but guess what, he never talked any shxt to me anymore, even though I lost the fight, but he left me alone!! You got to just fight back when been bullied, you will be surprising at how the tide would change if you just go crazy and fight back hard and don’t stop!!!

  • Muaythaiyao

    Well, I am almost 50 and I went to US as an immigrant at the age of 14 (1977); that’s before the rise of china, and Us just got their ass kicked in Vietnam war, so you can imaging how tough a time I had with the bullying. There was this black guy who just wouldn’t leave me alone and finally I couldn’t take his shzt anymore and fought him one on one. I lost, the guy was bigger than me and a great wrestler, but guess what, he never talked any shxt to me anymore, even though I lost the fight, but he left me alone!! You got to just fight back when been bullied, you will be surprising at how the tide would change if you just go crazy and fight back hard and don’t stop!!!

  • Iuyarus

    I rarely bullied anyone and I was rarely bullied..

  • Iuyarus

    I rarely bullied anyone and I was rarely bullied..

  • Iuyarus

    japanese chinese and all that or whatever.. should just say they are native americans.. don’t they have mongoloid head shapes?? and you should uh.. act native american.. because why not.. you have the same skull.. 

  • Iuyarus

    and people from India should just say they are white.. same skull type.. 

  • Iuyarus

    japanese chinese and all that or whatever.. should just say they are native americans.. don’t they have mongoloid head shapes?? and you should uh.. act native american.. because why not.. you have the same skull.. 

  • Iuyarus

    and people from India should just say they are white.. same skull type.. 

  • Iuyarus

    or get native no nevermind it’s not the same thing i’m an idiot…

  • Iuyarus

    or get native no nevermind it’s not the same thing i’m an idiot…

  • Iuyarus

    don’t commit suicide because then you won’t reincarnate.. you can only reincarnate if you have kids.. and you want to reincarnate so you can experience newer technologies.. instead of going to stupid nirvana.. which probably sucks..  stay on earth..

  • Iuyarus

    don’t commit suicide because then you won’t reincarnate.. you can only reincarnate if you have kids.. and you want to reincarnate so you can experience newer technologies.. instead of going to stupid nirvana.. which probably sucks..  stay on earth..

  • kaydenpat

    Good post.  Didn’t know that Asian Americans had the highest suicide rate in the US military.  I remember reading an article about Black students harassing Asian students in Philadelphia to the point where Asian parents had to band together and protest.  I wonder if that’s what you refer to in this post.  Hopefully, this whole bullying nonsense is being addressed by people who can make a difference.  Perhaps fining the parents of bullies is a way to get their attention.  Or penalizing schools which tolerate bullying.

  • kaydenpat

    Good post.  Didn’t know that Asian Americans had the highest suicide rate in the US military.  I remember reading an article about Black students harassing Asian students in Philadelphia to the point where Asian parents had to band together and protest.  I wonder if that’s what you refer to in this post.  Hopefully, this whole bullying nonsense is being addressed by people who can make a difference.  Perhaps fining the parents of bullies is a way to get their attention.  Or penalizing schools which tolerate bullying.

  • wastedtalent

    My Asian American experience:

    I grew up in an affluent suburb of Detroit and was targeted for racial bullying by my peers and teachers up until Junior High School. Gradually, I felt the need to fight back and started to win a few. Inevitably, the win totals were amassing and my peers began to fear me. This felt good like an addict getting his fix and it had inflated my ego as I became the bully. At the time, I was convinced and believed that was how you gain respect and that is just the way this world is. Consequently going into my adult years and as a result, violence became a natural reaction and I have gone through several criminal legal issues and civil lawsuits. I now realize my actions were overreactions since I went miles after taking a few inches and I paid a hefty price. I do not regret fighting back or “standing up for myself” when I was the “easy target” as I am not completely opposed to violence but in many instances I wished I had not gone to those extremes. To this day, I am still paying the price for my past deeds so I say stand up for yourself but with much discipline. Take pride that you’ve manned up and stood your ground but do not let it get to your head and do not completely destroy your opponent/bully.

  • wastedtalent

    My Asian American experience:

    I grew up in an affluent suburb of Detroit and was targeted for racial bullying by my peers and teachers up until Junior High School. Gradually, I felt the need to fight back and started to win a few. Inevitably, the win totals were amassing and my peers began to fear me. This felt good like an addict getting his fix and it had inflated my ego as I became the bully. At the time, I was convinced and believed that was how you gain respect and that is just the way this world is. Consequently going into my adult years and as a result, violence became a natural reaction and I have gone through several criminal legal issues and civil lawsuits. I now realize my actions were overreactions since I went miles after taking a few inches and I paid a hefty price. I do not regret fighting back or “standing up for myself” when I was the “easy target” as I am not completely opposed to violence but in many instances I wished I had not gone to those extremes. To this day, I am still paying the price for my past deeds so I say stand up for yourself but with much discipline. Take pride that you’ve manned up and stood your ground but do not let it get to your head and do not completely destroy your opponent/bully.

  • http://twitter.com/djmagic112 Mr Serious

    Its disgraceful, no child regardless of the gender, age, race should be bullied and its sad to see these small minds doing it.

  • http://twitter.com/djmagic112 Mr Serious

    Its disgraceful, no child regardless of the gender, age, race should be bullied and its sad to see these small minds doing it.

  • jack_sprat2

    And now a word from a white man, who was once bullied himself, in the long, long ago. Not only is Tran correct in what he says, but most boys of my generation (Boomers) and the several just before it, grew up with novels and short stories which drove that lesson home. It’s the dominant theme of the Western dime store novel, for instance.

    It was a part of the rite of passage. Some fell along the way, of course, but not so many as do now under far less onerous conditions. It helped to know that that was the way of things for everybody. Not that it wasn’t always worse if you were an Italian or Mick–funny thing, the Irish and the Polish didn’t normally taken much offense at simple words or common stereotypes, unless you insisted on throwing them in their faces–in a neighborhood full of Puerto Ricans. (Watch the movie “West Side Story” to get some of the flavor of NYC in bye-gone days.)

    Interesting that he should mention the atypically East Asian behavior in such matters of the Filipinos. I’m not surprised at the fact that there IS a difference, for two reasons: (1) They have a long familiarity with us and thus have had time to be changed thereby, and (2) I’ve known Thai, Chinese, Japanese, and Koreans. ALL of them were prejudiced against Filipinos, admitted to it, and declared that it was the norm, that EVERYONE in that part of the world looks down on them.

    Personally, I like those that I’ve met, without fail. Perhaps that’s because we’re more like them than they are like the rest of you, I don’t know.

  • jack_sprat2

    And now a word from a white man, who was once bullied himself, in the long, long ago. Not only is Tran correct in what he says, but most boys of my generation (Boomers) and the several just before it, grew up with novels and short stories which drove that lesson home. It’s the dominant theme of the Western dime store novel, for instance.

    It was a part of the rite of passage. Some fell along the way, of course, but not so many as do now under far less onerous conditions. It helped to know that that was the way of things for everybody. Not that it wasn’t always worse if you were an Italian or Mick–funny thing, the Irish and the Polish didn’t normally taken much offense at simple words or common stereotypes, unless you insisted on throwing them in their faces–in a neighborhood full of Puerto Ricans. (Watch the movie “West Side Story” to get some of the flavor of NYC in bye-gone days.)

    Interesting that he should mention the atypically East Asian behavior in such matters of the Filipinos. I’m not surprised at the fact that there IS a difference, for two reasons: (1) They have a long familiarity with us and thus have had time to be changed thereby, and (2) I’ve known Thai, Chinese, Japanese, and Koreans. ALL of them were prejudiced against Filipinos, admitted to it, and declared that it was the norm, that EVERYONE in that part of the world looks down on them.

    Personally, I like those that I’ve met, without fail. Perhaps that’s because we’re more like them than they are like the rest of you, I don’t know.

  • jack_sprat2

     That really isn’t true. Even in the 1960′s, black soldiers were alright once they made it in-country. The cracker pecker-wood noncoms mostly lost the sharp edge of their notions for the duration. Many never got it back. Reality has that effect on folks and there’s very little more real than combat.

  • jack_sprat2

     That really isn’t true. Even in the 1960′s, black soldiers were alright once they made it in-country. The cracker pecker-wood noncoms mostly lost the sharp edge of their notions for the duration. Many never got it back. Reality has that effect on folks and there’s very little more real than combat.

  • jack_sprat2

    It’s institutionalized in Japanese schools. The suicide numbers due to bullying used to be much higher over there. (Maybe still are, although their youth has seemed to turn asocial on its own time.) It seems to be a perverted source of pride for many older Japanese men, most especially the more successful ones (who were probably the biggest bullies,)  that their nation’s children still follow the old ways somewhat.

    Pretty much anywhere in East Asia, except maybe The Philippines, the lot of biracial children is almost universally one of being bullied.

  • jack_sprat2

    It’s institutionalized in Japanese schools. The suicide numbers due to bullying used to be much higher over there. (Maybe still are, although their youth has seemed to turn asocial on its own time.) It seems to be a perverted source of pride for many older Japanese men, most especially the more successful ones (who were probably the biggest bullies,)  that their nation’s children still follow the old ways somewhat.

    Pretty much anywhere in East Asia, except maybe The Philippines, the lot of biracial children is almost universally one of being bullied.

  • jack_sprat2

     A question, young lady: Are you also as shy about your sexuality and physical or emotional contact with the objects of your affection? If so, then you may suffer from a condition called love-shyness. Google it, but don’t just accept the first thing that comes up, because it’s still a controversial subject among psychs. It’s mostly a lasting problem for boys and men, because we NEED to take the initiative, but your shyness seems profound enough to keep even a lovely woman from the opportunity for a breakthrough, without a concerted and well-considered effort on your part. Read and seek help in the wisdom of others. There are self-help communities on-line.

    It would be a shame for the world to lose you.

  • jack_sprat2

     A question, young lady: Are you also as shy about your sexuality and physical or emotional contact with the objects of your affection? If so, then you may suffer from a condition called love-shyness. Google it, but don’t just accept the first thing that comes up, because it’s still a controversial subject among psychs. It’s mostly a lasting problem for boys and men, because we NEED to take the initiative, but your shyness seems profound enough to keep even a lovely woman from the opportunity for a breakthrough, without a concerted and well-considered effort on your part. Read and seek help in the wisdom of others. There are self-help communities on-line.

    It would be a shame for the world to lose you.

  • jack_sprat2

     Which country would that be? (I’m not being facetious.)

    The English lower classes aren’t in any mood to feel sympathetic for anyone else these days. They’ve been buggered to a fare-thee-well by their so-called “betters”, made to feel like foreigners in their own country. Such states of affairs seldom end well. They are the deaths of Empires.

  • jack_sprat2

     Which country would that be? (I’m not being facetious.)

    The English lower classes aren’t in any mood to feel sympathetic for anyone else these days. They’ve been buggered to a fare-thee-well by their so-called “betters”, made to feel like foreigners in their own country. Such states of affairs seldom end well. They are the deaths of Empires.

  • jack_sprat2

    Yes, he is, but…would you be any different were the situation reversed? Can you be certain? Those to whom he refers, at the very top, ARE isolated from the consequences of their crimes against their own countrymen. Those at the bottom are mostly oblivious. Each is freely interbreeding. Those in the middle, as our friend describes them, “the white working people”, ARE desperately trying to maintain some vestige of the world of their grandfathers. As they get angrier and more frightened with each passing day, mostly for the vanished prospects for their own children. Watching the system be gamed, in so many ways, for the benefit of the “Other” is salt in their wounds.

    One of the things about that vanishing world that they miss was the fact that you could speak your mind and not be “tattled on” to Mommy State and Daddy Personnel Department. Pity that nobody bothered to consider that the only lasting change is that which begins from within. Instead, those in charge systematically removed the incentives for adapting one’s self to changing circumstances. Why should they cooperate? It gets them NOTHING worth having.

  • jack_sprat2

    Yes, he is, but…would you be any different were the situation reversed? Can you be certain? Those to whom he refers, at the very top, ARE isolated from the consequences of their crimes against their own countrymen. Those at the bottom are mostly oblivious. Each is freely interbreeding. Those in the middle, as our friend describes them, “the white working people”, ARE desperately trying to maintain some vestige of the world of their grandfathers. As they get angrier and more frightened with each passing day, mostly for the vanished prospects for their own children. Watching the system be gamed, in so many ways, for the benefit of the “Other” is salt in their wounds.

    One of the things about that vanishing world that they miss was the fact that you could speak your mind and not be “tattled on” to Mommy State and Daddy Personnel Department. Pity that nobody bothered to consider that the only lasting change is that which comes from within. Instead, those in charge systematically removed the incentives for adapting one’s self to changing circumstances. Why should they cooperate? It gets them NOTHING which they value.

  • jack_sprat2

    Son, the folks who invented that nonsense are the same ones who created the Federal Reserve Bank and brought down the financial system. It’s a tissue of lies designed to divide and conquer.

    It’s ludicrous on its face to maintain that a people haven’t the right to decide the rules which govern them. The Indian had as much right as we did to do so, but wealthy men did as wealthy men are wont to do. Note that few of them ever spent much time on the frontier. There are always desperate newcomers to do their dirty work for them.

    BTW, how is it that you imagine yourself any different from the fellow to whom you were responding? He is you; you are he. Peas of a pod you are.
    Read what you wrote, fool.

  • jack_sprat2

    Son, the folks who invented that nonsense are the same ones who created the Federal Reserve Bank and brought down the financial system. It’s a tissue of lies designed to divide and conquer.

    It’s ludicrous on its face to maintain that a people haven’t the right to decide the rules which govern them. The Indian had as much right as we did to do so, but wealthy men did as wealthy men are wont to do. Note that few of them ever spent much time on the frontier. There are always desperate newcomers to do their dirty work for them.

    BTW, how is it that you imagine yourself any different from the fellow to whom you were responding? He is you; you are he. Peas of a pod you are.
    Read what you wrote, fool.

  • jack_sprat2

     Cross purposes. He will never feel as if he belongs, because people almost never change themselves that much, even if they wish to do so. What changes is the blood, eventually. You cannot wave a wand and make it magically so.

    When I was a lad, only a half century ago, Catholics almost never married Lutherans. Sectarianism was almost as strong as in the centuries immediately following Luther’s manifesto. Funny thing, it’s the reality of one’s grandchildren that changes one’s actions. Only that, in truth.

    But, that only works for those who feel as if they’re part of it all. Here, the middle has been ostracized. Bad enough when those who did this were one’s contemporaries or one’s parents. Now, though, it’s Millennial whites who have inherited ashes. They have been grievously wronged. They have been blamed for everything over which they never had control, or even a minor part in.

    Oh, yes. They also have the guns. And the training in how to use them. And they are very motivated. Should Barry be reelected, tremble.

  • jack_sprat2

     Cross purposes. He will never feel as if he belongs, because people almost never change themselves that much, even if they wish to do so. What changes is the blood, eventually. You cannot wave a wand and make it magically so.

    When I was a lad, only a half century ago, Catholics almost never married Lutherans. Sectarianism was almost as strong as in the centuries immediately following Luther’s manifesto. Funny thing, it’s the reality of one’s grandchildren that changes one’s actions. Only that, in truth.

    But, that only works for those who feel as if they’re part of it all. Here, the middle has been ostracized. Bad enough when those who did this were one’s contemporaries or one’s parents. Now, though, it’s Millennial whites who have inherited ashes. They have been grievously wronged. They have been blamed for everything over which they never had control, or even a minor part in.

    Oh, yes. They also have the guns. And the training in how to use them. And they are very motivated. Should Barry be reelected, tremble.

  • jack_sprat2

     Not any more than is bullying anywhere else in the world. Think locally. We are all of us strangers to one another, fighting for a place to stand. Not everybody always fights fair. So stand up for yourself. When it makes sense. Not when a couple of drunks are running their fool mouths in a bar, like Vincent Chen did, back in the day. Beware the man wearing shit-kicker boots.

  • jack_sprat2

     Not any more than is bullying anywhere else in the world. Think locally. We are all of us strangers to one another, fighting for a place to stand. Not everybody always fights fair. So stand up for yourself. When it makes sense. Not when a couple of drunks are running their fool mouths in a bar, like Vincent Chen did, back in the day. Beware the man wearing shit-kicker boots.

  • jack_sprat2

    Unless you’re Filipino, or wealthy, your own children will likely suffer more than they would have done in America. I know quite  bit about the gentle habits of most of your “fellow” East Asians as regards biracial children. Mazel Tov.

  • jack_sprat2

    Unless you’re Filipino, or wealthy, your own children will likely suffer more than they would have done in America. I know quite  bit about the gentle habits of most of your “fellow” East Asians as regards biracial children. Mazel Tov.

    You’re the point of a spear, son. Your parents fashioned you for that purpose, whether they knew it or not. You are the change that you’re seeking. Did you imagine that the lot of a spear was always to remain safely mounted to the wall above a fireplace, a relic of bygone glory? Now, young man, is your time for battle. Live it in your days, or run from it. The choice is yours.

  • jack_sprat2

    Things spoken are open to negotiation. Things unspoken remain unchanged. And so, the Japanese and the Koreans will ever be racist. Just as the Chinese will always think of the world as at least four distinct peoples–Western barbarians and Eastern barbarians and Han and “other Chinese”.

    Here, much sooner, we will be different. And the same. But not so easily as once we were. Consensus has been murdered by those at the top, abetted by those at the bottom.

  • jack_sprat2

    Things spoken are open to negotiation. Things unspoken remain unchanged. And so, the Japanese and the Koreans will ever be racist. Just as the Chinese will always think of the world as at least four distinct peoples–Western barbarians and Eastern barbarians and Han and “other Chinese”.

    Here, much sooner, we will be different. And the same. But not so easily as once we were. Consensus has been murdered by those at the top, abetted by those at the bottom.

  • jack_sprat2

     No more so than it is for the majority. Kids bully for their own reasons, which mostly have to do with their own lives.

  • jack_sprat2

     No more so than it is for the majority. Kids bully for their own reasons, which mostly have to do with their own lives.

  • jack_sprat2

     It isn’t. It never has been for many. Overseas Chinese = Jews. Those who maintain their distance, profiting from those about them, from generation to generation, learn contempt for them.

  • jack_sprat2

     It isn’t. It never has been for many. Overseas Chinese = Jews. Those who maintain their distance, profiting from those about them, from generation to generation, learn contempt for them.

  • Average Joe

    You need to get your facts straight since Vincent Chin was minding his own business at his bachelor party when
    Ebens and Nitz came up to him shouting racial slurs. Ebens instigated
    that whole incident all because he was out of work due to the U.S. auto
    industry losing ground to the Japanese auto industry, and he did this
    despite the fact that Chin was not Japanese. Both he and his stepson
    Nitz then took the gutless way out by ganging up on Chin while he was
    alone and beating him with a baseball bat.

    So yes, the couple of drunken fools on that day were two white racist assholes looking for any excuse to vent their ignorance.

  • Average Joe

    You need to get your facts straight since Vincent Chin was minding his own business at his bachelor party when
    Ebens and Nitz came up to him shouting racial slurs. Ebens instigated
    that whole incident all because he was out of work due to the U.S. auto
    industry losing ground to the Japanese auto industry, and he did this
    despite the fact that Chin was not Japanese. Both he and his stepson
    Nitz then took the gutless way out by ganging up on Chin while he was
    alone and beating him with a baseball bat.

    So yes, the couple of drunken fools on that day were two white racist assholes looking for any excuse to vent their ignorance.

  • Sarah

     Thanks for the response and insight. It’s really interesting to see the correlation between your situation growing up vs. the current trend. If more people could understand the hows and the whys behind bullying, it would help get rid of the enormous amounts of pressure that young people face.

  • Sarah

     Thanks for the response and insight. It’s really interesting to see the correlation between your situation growing up vs. the current trend. If more people could understand the hows and the whys behind bullying, it would help get rid of the enormous amounts of pressure that young people face.

  • Sarah

    That’s a really interesting story. I think it’s safe to say that if you are habitually and violently being bullied and school officials and adults refuse to intervene effectively, then other measures have to be taken for personal safety. I’ve seen a lot of articles and conversation about teaching kids martial arts because it teaches kids to respect each other and only use violence when absolutely necessary and in the safest way possible.

  • Sarah

    That’s a really interesting story. I think it’s safe to say that if you are habitually and violently being bullied and school officials and adults refuse to intervene effectively, then other measures have to be taken for personal safety. I’ve seen a lot of articles and conversation about teaching kids martial arts because it teaches kids to respect each other and only use violence when absolutely necessary and in the safest way possible.

  • Mami

    I read it as I was checking bullying on Asian in America as one of my friend’s son is bullied in the middle school.  And  bullying is usually not one vs one.  One vs many.  
    What if you against 7-8 kids?if it’s one on one, you can try to fight back.  But if not, can you still encourage that?My friend’s son in the middle school receives verbal abuse every day from 7-8 black kids.  I can’t encourage him to fight against them….I can only tell his mother to report to the principal and let the school do the right thing to deal with.  Because 1 boy can’t fight and win against 7-8 kids and if he didn’t win, it can only make you feel worse and also worsen the situation.

  • Mami

    I read it as I was checking bullying on Asian in America as one of my friend’s son is bullied in the middle school.  And  bullying is usually not one vs one.  One vs many.  
    What if you against 7-8 kids?if it’s one on one, you can try to fight back.  But if not, can you still encourage that?My friend’s son in the middle school receives verbal abuse every day from 7-8 black kids.  I can’t encourage him to fight against them….I can only tell his mother to report to the principal and let the school do the right thing to deal with.  Because 1 boy can’t fight and win against 7-8 kids and if he didn’t win, it can only make you feel worse and also worsen the situation.

  • Sarah

     You make a valid point. Obviously one boy can’t fight against 8. However, if the school is not taking action against this type of behavior, other measures should be taken. Violence should not be the end all to bullying.

  • Sarah

     You make a valid point. Obviously one boy can’t fight against 8. However, if the school is not taking action against this type of behavior, other measures should be taken. Violence should not be the end all to bullying.

  • Kenny

    Believe me, violence is the ONLY solution. You frickin’ nerds need to take that swing or else you’re toast. I teach my son to swing as hard as possible should he felt some sort of bullying. Think of it like two countries going to battle, you have to be motivated to fight to the end or you will lose and be conquered for all your generations to come, if any. 

  • $26064557

    Believe me, violence is the ONLY solution. You frickin’ nerds need to take that swing or else you’re toast. I teach my son to swing as hard as possible should he felt some sort of bullying. Think of it like two countries going to battle, you have to be motivated to fight to the end or you will lose and be conquered for all your generations to come, if any.

  • Kenny

    Well, let’s go pull in more boys and kick some ass, what are we waiting for, Hangover Part III??

  • $26064557

    Well, let’s go pull in more boys and kick some ass, what are we waiting for, Hangover Part III??

  • SuperHappyCow

     what the FUCK?

    do you wear an eyepatch and a cane by any chance?

  • SuperHappyCow

     what the FUCK?

    do you wear an eyepatch and a cane by any chance?

  • SuperHappyCow

     oh my god lol

  • SuperHappyCow

     oh my god lol

  • SuperHappyCow

     *takes notes*

  • SuperHappyCow

     *takes notes*

  • mingzi

    When I experienced bullying it was at the hands of black kids… and it’s much harder when you can’t go to the administration for racism. Nobody wants to touch it if the perpetrators are another minority.

  • mingzi

    When I experienced bullying it was at the hands of black kids… and it’s much harder when you can’t go to the administration for racism. Nobody wants to touch it if the perpetrators are another minority.

  • Bob

    You’re f**king retarded.

  • Bob

    You’re f**king retarded.

  • Bob

    You should just live with the cows… because why not… you have the same IQ.

  • Bob

    You should just live with the cows… because why not… you have the same IQ.

  • 80sGuy

     Let’s kick some @$$!!!

  • Guest

     Let’s kick some @$$!!!

  • http://twitter.com/MoonKyoungJe David Moon

    Ass. You can say ass now.

  • http://twitter.com/MoonKyoungJe David Moon

    Ass. You can say ass now.

  • 80sGuy

     I know, why else do think I waste my time here?

  • Guest

     I know, why else do think I waste my time here?

  • 80sGuy

    Seriously, you guys really need to get together and kick some serious ass. By the way, I like your last name.

  • $26064557

    Seriously, you guys really need to get together and kick some serious ass. By the way, I like your last name.

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/35TGVHYBCKG4KP45PORINHHUHM OlG

    i am asian from russia. the best solution against the bully is not face him in school or in public. find out where he lives. do something hurtful to him near his house. make him feel insecure near his house, so he is afraid to even come out. find his phone, call him and tell him “come out mother fucker, i am waiting for you” this will make him fearful to even come near window. become a bully of a bully….

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/35TGVHYBCKG4KP45PORINHHUHM OlG

  • Melissa

    “This lack of confidence can carry over to your adult life…etc”

    This is so true. I’m approaching 25 and have only just realised this. Imagine that. :/

  • Melissa

    “This lack of confidence can carry over to your adult life…etc”

    This is so true. I’m approaching 25 and have only just realised this. Imagine that. :/

  • zeki k

     whites should revolt against zionist jews but even as the majority theyre still too chickenshit because its easier to take it out on other minorities

  • zeki k

     whites should revolt against zionist jews but even as the majority theyre still too chickenshit because its easier to take it out on other minorities

  • zeki k

     why do whites conventiently play the colorblind game when  they should be revolting against the zionists who have usurped ‘their’ rightful white land from them ages ago? cowardice? pathetic.

  • zeki k

     why do whites conventiently play the colorblind game when  they should be revolting against the zionists who have usurped ‘their’ rightful white land from them ages ago? cowardice? pathetic.

  • zeki k

    western convenience and falsified global white privilege enabled for you by the wolf in sheeps clothing zionists has left you whites a washed up pathetic mess. instead of fighting for human rights, youve become a cowering pathetic pill-popping wreck. you make me fucking sick

  • zeki k

    western convenience and falsified global white privilege enabled for you by the wolf in sheeps clothing zionists has left you whites a washed up pathetic mess. instead of fighting for human rights, youve become a cowering pathetic pill-popping wreck. you make me fucking sick

  • zeki k

     if english whites had the balls to revolt against their zionist satanic queen, the biggest benefits scrounger, that ever lived maybe you could claim some of that pride back. unlikely though because worshipping the damn pagan flag at footie games is all you pathetic cunts have got left.

  • zeki k

     if english whites had the balls to revolt against their zionist satanic queen, the biggest benefits scrounger, that ever lived maybe you could claim some of that pride back. unlikely though because worshipping the damn pagan flag at footie games is all you pathetic cunts have got left.

  • zeki k

     yeah shame moronic whites are so eager in a comatose sheeplike state of bloodthirst only too eager to be programmed to kill every other non-white race except their own bloodthirsty pagan satanic zionist leaders.

  • zeki k

     yeah shame moronic whites are so eager in a comatose sheeplike state of bloodthirst only too eager to be programmed to kill every other non-white race except their own bloodthirsty pagan satanic zionist leaders.

  • zeki k

    if the delusion of white privilege wasnt so globally rampant asian communities wouldnt have such a problem with miscegenation. unfortunately, like everything else whites and their hebrew zionist buddies just got to stick their nose in everything and blame everyone else for the left mess when things dont go ‘the way they want it to’

  • zeki k

    if the delusion of white privilege wasnt so globally rampant asian communities wouldnt have such a problem with miscegenation. unfortunately, like everything else whites and their hebrew zionist buddies just got to stick their nose in everything and blame everyone else for the left mess when things dont go ‘the way they want it to’

  • zeki k

     haha a white person on an asian article telling us asians that overseas chinese are like jews. overseas chinese nothing like jews. unlike jews and whites they dont stick our overgrown nose into everyones business , pilfer other peoples culture under the guise of globalism and then claim it as their own.

  • zeki k

     haha a white person on an asian article telling us asians that overseas chinese are like jews. overseas chinese nothing like jews. unlike jews and whites they dont stick our overgrown nose into everyones business , pilfer other peoples culture under the guise of globalism and then claim it as their own.

  • zeki k

     once again the whitey sticks his dirty nose into peoples experiences and tells an asian that racism is colorblind and the asian experience is ‘no different’ from the majority. christ. cling onto that falsified privilege til the end of time wont you. self-aggrandising twats

  • zeki k

     once again the whitey sticks his dirty nose into peoples experiences and tells an asian that racism is colorblind and the asian experience is ‘no different’ from the majority. christ. cling onto that falsified privilege til the end of time wont you. self-aggrandising twats

  • Corinne Waters

    some people shouldn’t have children

  • SasakeKai

    Shut up you white supremacist piece of sh*t. The most hate I have ever had were from whites. I have always been treated as humans by blacks, especially those straight from Africa, and Hispanics have been decent as well. Whites? You and your yellow fever bullshit and false sense of superiority even though you are nothing but murdering, genocidal (Native Americans), dishonorable, barbarians. One day you will taste your own medicine for what you did to East Asia in the past (stripping resources, raping, and pillaging to make your own countries wealthier) and continue to do in the form of Hollywood brainwashing and propaganda to promote self hatred and white worship in East Asia.

  • SasakeKai

    Shut up you yellow fever disgusting white supremacist piece of sh*t don’t you dare talk to this innocent part-Asian girl and get your filthy hands off her.

  • SasakeKai

    Nobody cares about white males who deserve to be bullied because you continue to bully all peoples of color and continue your western imperialistic white supremacism around the world and Americanization and Hollywood-isation propaganda against East Asian males. You have not paid for the crimes of committing genocide on the Amerindians/American Indians nor have you paid for the crimes of destroying East Asian culture and the foundations of East Asia, dividing, pillaging, stripping the lands of all resources, and raping the women. You have not paid for doing the same dishonrable, lying, cheating, murdering, stealing, raping, pillaging in Africa and the Middle East and the Americas of course.

    Karma will be a b*tch.

  • SasakeKai

    The English and whites should taste the same genocidal medicine you fed to the Amerindian Native Americans. You have yet to taste the firebombings, nukings, rapings, and pillagings you unjustly subjected East Asians to. ANd now you make East Asian women voluntary rape victims by brainwashing them with Hollywood media to worship whites. You truly despicable subhumans do not deserve to continue living.

  • SasakeKai

    Agree.

  • SasakeKai

    What would have happened if I joined the military and those racist white bastards trying to attack me like they did Chen, would have ended with them no longer being able to walk…. and the other things I would do should be left unspoken should there be some CIA fuckers on this site. This is why no East Asian American should join the US military. The fact that you put up with that abuse shows you how retarded most military men are. The key to unit effectiveness is unit cohesion. Racial attacks and abuses definitely do not help unit cohesion. In fact it creates ‘traitors”. Then again i would never serve in the US military which serves white, jewish interests. I am an East Asian male and a proud East Asian male with samurai and Northern Chinese warrior lineage. Why would I want to serve the military that actively attempts to destroy my people and my ancestor’s homelands and continue to impose their white-jewish supremacist, western imperialism on me and all colored peoples? I would rather fight as a revolutionary on behalf of all oppressed peoples against the bully western imperialist white supremacists.

  • HeungMao

    To be honest, yes, I declare loyalty to China over America. Why? Because of THIS.

  • ngtran

    Well the bullying really depends on what unit your with because every unit is different,I seen it from every race tho ( asian being the least) I am currently in the military been in since 2010 I did get the bullying growing up but the only difference is i did resort to violence ,I was very smart made high grades ,etc. Then again i was still a the only asian guy in my grad class. I just didnt take the shit like most ppl do.Tho i have a very violent nature if i am crossed i am very quick to react. I’m not very big either 5’4 .It did for help my experiences to stop the bullying from highschool to military career i will say i just now heard of the danny chen on here thats fked up. I remembered getting fked with going through basic training by 2 hillbillies note my platoon consisted of( me the only asian guy), handful of whites and rest black and Hispanic. I did get the most racist comments from the hillbillies. I never heard of a gook before than they kept callin me that than callin chink.I bushed it off hoping for their sake they would stfu. 1 1/2 weeks into it i woke one up in the middle of the night and told him ima beat his face with my rifle if he did not get out of the fkin bed and get ready for ass wooping, the 1st hillbilly i fked up the 2nd one woke up and hit me with a flash light, it had goten so bloody. For 3 weeks every night we would wake up and beat the shit out of each other til eventually we stopped and almost forgot wtf we were fighting for.This may be on rare occasion, but i became very great friends with those two. So I bush it off if they did said chink etc. i would just come back and fk with them sayin at least i dont fk my cousins and watch my parents have sex. Other than that there is a minority program thats pretty serious about racism most ppl dont realize the military is made up of mostly blacks and Hispanics now. Other than that man I wouldnt be quick to judge all military guys dumb. I currently serving and getting a degree in Comp network engineering. Why i joined is to be a warrior like our ancestors, i believe where my family is if i am strong i shall be trained in protected them and the country they live in.

  • Shamooo

    You’re actually right. Asians who stand up for themselves and fight back against whites/blacks don’t get fucked with like that. Asians get picked on because of stereotypes about being quiet/submissive – if you just play into those stereotypes nothing’s gonna change. Don’t be a fucking victim.

  • Kate

    This breaks my heart. We are hosting a Japanese exchange student later this year and I will be offended if anyone picks on him. I was bullied in school because I was quiet. People automatically assumed I was a snob. I bet the writer of this article has a good job and nice family and friends. I bet the dirty blonde boy is still an adult bully!

  • http://www.facebook.com/cris.tobal.794 Cris Tobal

    Mongolians, Kazakhs, Nogais, Uzbeks have raided, and enslaved millions of Europeans for many hundreds of years. Unlike east Asians, Central Asians would known the shit out of any European.

    East Asians need to man up and be a little cruel, or you will always be victim of bully. Threaten or beat the shit out of many White Americans like like the Black and Mexican do, only with this that the White American society will respect you.

  • Marry

    It is so sad to know that east asian american students are bullied at such a high rate. Such a pathetic fact makes me think whether I should stay in U.S. after finishing my master’s degree here for the sake of my future kids. It is unimaginable how painful and helpless it could be for my kids to be bullied by assholes of other ethnic groups all their way of growing up.

  • discriminating teachers

    Asian American students are not only bullied by their peers but bullied and discriminated by the teachers in school!!! So disgusting.

  • dn

    i believe we need more members of van nuys asian boys to represent asians

    bein violent and smart

  • phd edporto.

    Testing.+

  • wu

    thanks so much for posting this. i love how you’ve compared this to the lgbt bullying that is getting so much media attention. when i was in middle school my school made a very publicized agenda to stop bullying and i think society has more or less accepted bullying to be a product of adolescence. however their portrayal of bullying is usually something like a big white kid picking on a little white kid with glasses. the problem is they don’t realize that there’s a big factor of bullying based on racial or sexual standards. it seems that america has fully embraced lgbt issues but asian americans are still seen as not having enough of a “plight” to warrant any kind of attention.

    i absolutely hate it when people talk about how asian americans are “politically silent” or “submissive” because it’s in our culture. way to go JT for standing up for yourself and breaking that stereotype.

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