“Your Game is only as good as your LIFE.”
– JT “the Asian Playboy” Tran
Over the years we have had thousands of students complain about how mystifying the seduction process is and how difficult it is to find out where one stands with a woman. These students have either taken programs with other companies and been left in the dark, or have simply been unable to continue struggling on their own and have discovered that there was a larger image they just weren’t getting.
It is with this, original confusion in mind that we generated the holistic structure of the ABCs of Attraction. Which is a simple, progressive timeline that applies both to individual interactions, as well as the entire frame of a relationship and it is broken down into 6 phases: A through F (the simple, but comprehensive ABCDEF structure).
In this series of articles, I’ll describe these phases and the three, main components of each (Inner Strength, Physical Confidence, Verbal Attraction), explaining them all and what comprises them.
The final, most important, phase is F: Future (Fun! or FAKE?!)!
(And yes, F does stand for the OTHER F, ie F-cking!)
If you’ve been following along the entire series of articles (with the E-Phase before this), you will have found yourself in a very favorable situation by now. You’ve approached, built a romantic connection, and then made a sexual connection with an attractive woman and I bet it feels great!
In the F-Phase, you learn how to LEAVE the Game in order to control your FUTURE. It’s time to become a FUN UP ARTIST and *not* a PICK UP ARTIST!
The Physical Confidence you achieve by practicing and knowing how to satisfy not only yourself, but your woman is an INCREDIBLE feeling. That Sexual Confidence will exude in all your interactions with women and they’ll be able to detect it. Why else do married men and taken men find themselves accosted by women moreso than when they were single?
It’s because women know you’ll be good in bed! And all FUTURE women will know it too!
Further more, there is no other skill in the world like seduction and to be able to maintain these relationships that you’re cultivating out in the field, you have to look at the big picture (remember this is a holistic structure!) and do some serious introspection here at the end of the line.
I cannot tell you how many PUAs out there live double lives. I’m not talking about the cool type of double life like James Bond would lead, traversing the globe under the guise of salesperon for Universal Exports, all-the-while engaging in top-secret MI6 missions.
No, what I’m talking about are the guys who live their lives reading everything they can about the game, posting on every forum 100 times a day, and going out to clubs and honing their seduction skills. This is great and the only way to get good at the game, but for some this is ALL they do! There is no growth or foundation for a successful lifestyle.
Most of these guys still live in their parents’ basements and have no friends!
This is the kind of FAKE double life that is sad (to someone that cares about people in general), deceiving (to the women that wind up a part of it), and pathetic in general.
Maybe they get good at Pickup and take home the drunken girl from the club once in a while. She’ll wake up in the morning, look around, and take off as quickly as possible. Maybe she’ll run into his parents at the kitchen table like that scene from Trainspotting. On the way home, she’ll regret everything she did and, probably, will never go home with another guy.
Will she call our “PUA” again? Definitely not.
“In order to be a good Pick Up Artist, it helps to be a good MAN first.”
– JT “the Asian Playboy” Tran
It is important to remember that Pickup is a small division of your life. Like anything, it takes incredible immersion to get good at, but if you lose perspective and your quality of life suffers, you will lose the ability to create long-lasting, meaningful connections. These connections are the reason why we got into the game in the first place and that is incredibly important not to forget.
So instead of concentrating on being a FAKE PICK UP ARTIST, start becoming a FUN UP ARTIST!
- Career / Money / Status
- Fitness / Testosterone
- Goals / Ambition
- Sexual Prowess / Understanding
- Relationship Value (do you provide worth, social circle, ie know you leave them better than you found them)
- Moral fortitude (right/wrong, spiritiual, religion)
- Competitive/martial spirit (fire in your belly)
- Lasting contributions / Legacy (ie libraries, legacy, helping people, children)
- Family & Cultural Understanding
- Education / Knowledge
These pillars, when enhanced, serve to create a continual reservoir of internally generated validation and confidence. Whatever happens or whomever does what to you, it doesn’t matter because YOU AS A MAN KNOW YOUR OWN SELF-WORTH!
While learning to attract women, we all come to the realization that our inner game is the most powerful aspect of our seduction abilities and that our lifestyle directly reflects our passions, motivations, and how we feel about ourselves. Ironically, these are the things that are most attractive to a woman, so why would we skimp in this area of our development?
Of course, you should always remind yourself that you need to be able to PROJECT your emotions, ambitions and self worth into the world and the woman. That your will can bend the fabric of reality to your design and desire. You bring her into YOUR world and YOUR future, she is the princess to your prince as you make your way to your throne and kingdom, through Verbal Attraction.
Fun or Fake simply reminds us that, though we possess a particular skill, it is how that skill fits into our life that decides whether we truly succeed at it or not. It questions our intentions and our focuses and, last but not least, reminds us that this whole process should be fun! Sure, it’s tough in the beginning. Learning anything new is always difficult at some point, but once we start truly succeeding, the world is our oyster.
That, gentleman, is the purpose of the ABCs of Attraction.
“To get the girl of your dreams, you have to be the man of hers.”