A wise man once stated, “Amateurs study tactics. Professionals study logistics.”
Truer words have never been spoken.
Let’s discuss, right now, what we believe to be the most important factor in the E-Phase’s (Evaluate, Extract & Escalate) portion on “How To Have a One Night Stand”: Logistics.
In our PUA bootcamps, we do a very simple exercise designed to both facilitate the pull and to illustrate how simple the pickup process is. For the sake of time (and the human attention span), let’s do a condensed version of that exercise to help you achieve your first one night stand RIGHT AWAY. This is not the full exercise that we do in our PUA bootcamps, but it’s the super simple version. I’m going to break your night down into 5 steps.
Before we get to the actual process, I want you to imagine yourself at home, in bed, just having slept with a new girl you just met at a club for a one night stand. You guys had several hours of crazy, passionate, animalistic, SAFE sex and now you’re lying in a puddle of lusty lovejuices, her arm draped restfully across your chest, feeling your heartbeat in a romantic trance (in other words, a whole lot of the F-Phase (Future: Fun! or Fake?!).
From this scene of serenity and accomplishment, we’re going to work BACKWARDS. We are going to REVERSE ENGINEER SUCCESS!
Much like the life of Merlin the magician (nerd alert!), we’re going to go back in time, observing all our movements with this girl. Keep in mind, this is not a hypnotic exercise; this is designed to iron out the most important element of your logistics.
Step 1) How did you get the girl into your bedroom?
You’ve just slept with her but, of course, you needed to get her into your bedroom in some way (sure, you could go at it on the couch or in the hot-tub or on the kitchen counter, if you’re frisky, but let’s just go with the basics).
What was your excuse or method? This could be anything from, “Hey, let’s go in my room so we don’t wake up my roommate” to simply picking her up and carrying her in. Either way, figure out a method and write it down.
And the MOST important element of any real man’s Game is… Where’s your condom(s)?
Put them in your nightstand, under the lamp, or (my favorite) taped behind the head board. But ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS have condoms handy! It’s not only for her protection but also YOURS. There’s never any good excuse to have unprotected sex no matter how attractive and wonderful a stranger she is.
Step 2) How did you make the girl comfortable in your apartment?
A girl stepping into your apartment after the club for a one night stand is always going to be on edge; it’s instinct. Therefore, it’s our duty as men to make her comfortable. When she’s comfy, she’ll be more willing to open up and let things happen. Being both Dominant and then Disqualifying to put her at ease is a great start to the D-Phase (Dominance, Direct Intent & Disqualify).
If she’s using her logical mind, she’s going to be wary of any kind of advances and is much less likely to ‘go with the flow’. Whether it be a glass of wine or some fun, upbeat music, figure out your method and write it down.
And for the love of all that is good and holy, make sure your bathroom is CLEAN!
Step 3) How did you bounce the girl to your apartment from the club?
Transportation is the biggest hang-up of same night lays and one night stands, so let’s get it on lock before even going out.
- You’ve already been with this girl, so how did you get to your place from the bar?
- Did you drive?
- If so, did you drink (DON’T DRINK AND DRIVE)?
- Do you have cab money?
- How far away is it?
We can’t rely on her driving your ass, so be prepared in advance. Along with writing down your mode of transport, make sure you make a note to find out her situation, as well, she may have driven her friends or herself, so it might behoove you to figure out the parking situation for either of your cars.
Step 4) How did you isolate the girl in the club?
We’re certainly not going to do the majority of gaming in front of her friends, so we’re going to need to isolate her if we’re going to pursue the one night stand. Remember that you’ve already brought this girl home and had success with her, so you’re simply answering the question of ‘How did you isolate her?‘ in order to put it down on the list.
My favorite is the standard, “My feet hurt, let’s go sit over there?” but you can choose any way you’d like. Write that down, too.
But basically, the key component of any solid C-Game (Compliance, Comfort & Connect) is your ability to consistently and always ISOLATE a girl. After all, if you can’t approach a girl and move her 20 feet to an isolated couch, how are you going to drive her home 5 miles away? Learn to always scope our your tactical club logistics, find your isolation zone, and isolate her!
Step 5) How did you open the girl?
This is the final step of the exercise and the LEAST important part of the interaction. You’ve already isolated this girl, taken her home, made her comfortable in your apartment and had a little How’s Your Father, but what did you say that started the ball rolling?
Like I said, we’re not a company of ‘lines to get you laid‘, so I’ll let you decide what to say to make this all possible.
For more information on sticking your approaches, read about the A-Phase (Attitude, Attract then Approach). If you’re having trouble bantering or you’re constantly getting stuck inside your head, check out the B-Phase (Be In The Moment, Banter & Buying Temperature).
That’s it, folks; five easy steps to getting you laid without micromanaging lines or routines or gambits or games. This plan will allow you to incorporate any style of game you run and all of your field-tested tactics into the framework that will make it all possible.
Not only is this a fun and simple exercise you can do to plot out the roadmap of your one night stand, it’s also a perfect representation of what the ABCs Of Attraction stands for; getting YOU laid as simply as possible without compromising who YOU are as a person.
You see, there are hundreds and hundreds of websites, articles, books, videos, and CDs out there designed to get you laid. Most of these products focus on your ‘Inner Game’ and a huge percentage of the others teach you what to say and when to say it.
Since you’ve been following the ABCs Of Attraction, you know that we teach a holistic style of game that focuses not on what to say or how to say it, but on where we want to physically and emotionally take a woman. This is why our students make such solid progress so quickly and it is why, after a weekend with us, our students are approaching beautiful women and hooking them with a smile and the age-old opener “Hi”.
This is Individual Power, not the power of lines or routines.
That being said, there are still specifics which must be calculated in order to achieve the goal of taking a woman home. Other companies teach the routines to incorporate while working towards this goal, but miss the biggest part of the successful execution of the act of bringing a girl home.
When YOU are ready to step up to the plate, sign up for one of our bootcamps in your city and join the growing elite fraternity of ABCs graduates!
Good luck!