Last edited by whoorple on 20 Jul 2012, 21:57, edited 1 time in total.
Post subject: Re: Can't get a read on this girl at all!
Posted: 15 Oct 2011, 19:26
Joined: 31 May 2011, 22:04 Posts: 546 Location: Santa Monica, CA
Bootcamp Graduate: YES (BC: June 2011 in Los Angeles)
First off, welcome to the forum.
As for your dilemma, I think you should first assess your own actions.
More often than not, I see guys asking stuff like "what's wrong with this girl?", only to discover her behavior is a mere response to one or more mistakes he made. Neil Strauss himself made a habit of critically analyzing himself before anything else and reaped rewards because of it. Just keep this in mind each time you're reviewing a particular relationship. Go over field reports about her. Double and triple check how you've handled each scenario up 'til now. Get feedback. If nobody can identify something you've done wrong, perhaps she's just emotionally unavailable.
As far as what you're telling me, it almost sounds like way way too much time is spent texting or talking on the phone. Each text or phone call erases that much more you two can discuss face-to-face. If you must, tell her flat out "I don't want a phone/text buddy"
I use texting for logistics and scheduling. Occasionally I'll send a joke to a chick if there's a large gap of time between our interactions. But that's it.
She says she's heartbroken. So what? I tell women "I never look in the rearview mirror". The past is the past. I will never treat a new woman poorly because of some other woman's fuck-ups.
How much effort has been put toward building comfort with this girl? It sounds like no preliminary efforts were made to ease common concerns or LMR.
In this instance, it's up to you whether you want to give her another chance. I don't have too much tolerance for those who can't respect the value of my time. Plenty of other women who'll follow through with their words. And if you don't want anything from her, just let communication go cold. No replies. Just ignore her. She'll get the hint.
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