I recently finished an ABC's of Attraction boot camp in Vegas. I arrived late Friday evening at Gareths hotel at 5pm. We spent 4 hours in a classroom environment. In the class there were two others besides myself. One boot campers was under 21 so he could not go clubbing later that evening. Prior to the boot camp, I was mainly running game with fellow wings in the Seattle Tacoma area, but I had determined that I was stuck, and I need help in moving on. One of the things that I felt that I needed was an actual structure to my game. I felt that most of the time I was just doing a shot gun approach to dating. Do the best at approaching, throw anything at the target to see if she responds. My game was also limited to sarging with others. Although I tried to sarge on my own, I just could not see how to make any improvement. Prior to joing the boot camp I had done a nice guy recovery with our local nice guy specialist in Seattle. I had also attended a Landmark Education course and had spent some time with a female coach who considered herself a dating specialist. I felt unhappy with my female couch in Seattle and I joined the Seattle lair a month later, where I met Wolf of the Lair & Tacoma Wingmen. He is an alumni of the ABC's of Attraction bootcamp.
During the first day of camp, we focused on the A and the B of the abc's. There were some gold nuggests of wisdom given out during that 4 hours that made the bootcamp worthwhile all by itself. After the bootcamp, Gareth directed us to return home and get prepared to go clubbing. We met at his hotel at 10pm and traveled to club TRYST in the Wynn hotel. Gareth had placed us on the guest list. During our first night in the field he directed us to make 10 quick approaches and several BT's. Sarah and her friend, entered the club with us, Gareth followed up shortly thereafter. By the time Gareth arrived, I the girls advised him that I was already on approach number four, he came over to me and by that time I was moving on to number 9. He stopped me at that point and directed me to run some longer game "convo's. Club TRYST seemed to be bachelorette party central. I actually had one girl do a standing lap dance on me, when I approached their table. I also had lots of guys coming up to me and they were complimenting me on my style of dress. ( Gareth and I were probably the best dressed guys in the club ) All three of our mentors spent time watching us from afar and made observations and comments about what we could correct. My biggest hurdles to overcome were body language and not smiling enough. It was tough to overcome but I immediately saw the difference. I returned to my hotel after 2pm and jotted down notes for reviewing in the morning. I would be meeting the other guys at the food court of my hotel before class to go over notes and review the prior days learning.
The second day of camp, started without a hitch, Gareth covered the C and D of attraction. We put together DHV stories for use that night. This evening we were headed out to the XS nightclub in the hotel Encore. The door cover charge was considerable more, but reasonable. I began to open a few sets just to warm up, I opened a 9 who was wearing shorts to skimpy to be called daisy-dukes. When it came time to execute the next stage of the program, ( direct openers) I fell apart. I could not seem to make it happen. I found myself wading in the atmosphere of the club, not making any approaches and trying to look for a best set to open. Gareth, at some point realized it wasn't happening for me that night and came over to chat. He pulled me aside and we talked about second night failure. During the time that we were chatting two awesome girls actually approached us, again, I feel Gareth and I were once again the best dressed guys there and thats why it happened. During the conversation with Gareth I found myself getting 5th wheeled, where I am asked to take their picture, but I don't get to be in it. I explained to Gareth how that happens and how upset it makes me, He seemed to understand. I hate to relate this but maybe it might put this all into perspective. I've never seduced a woman into bed, I'm not a virgin, I've had sex, it's just that I've never had that seduction success like most guys from city don't seem to have. After chatting with Gareth, he got me rolling again and we watched a party of young girls, all dressed in black go up to the bar, he directed me to open and without waiting I approached with an opener, hey guys is this a little black dress party or what? I felt rejuvenated, that I was out there rolling again. I opened many sets that night, but did not come close to the 20 or so sets that I opened Friday night.
We met again for camp on Sunday, although this time we got a chance to sleep in and relax. Gareth went over the E and F of the abc's. Sunday night was open for the boot campers. We were not required to go out clubbing and I did not feel like going. I was sitting in the pub at my hotel, however, when a fellow Seattle-ite asked me if I was coming out. I replied I was relaxing, he told me to quit being a cheap shot, so I came over to club. He was at club XS. I entered the casino and saw Gareth and crew in the lobby. I came into the club and began running sets. The night before I did not have much success with C & D but that night I was doing much better. I had several sit downs with some nice girls. At one point in the evening Gareth got clusterf*cked. He had been chatting up two hot blondes, I saw my chance to wing him and as I did two more joined, then a brunette joined and two more blondes were on the way. I bowed out because I did not know how to handle so many hot girls. ( OMG ) Gareth got overwhelmed as well and dumped the girls off on someone who had purchased table service. The evening went well from then on, I ran sets till 2am and let for my hotel.
I have to say that the boot camp was well worth it. I am looking forward to attending another ABC's bootcamp either in Seattle or another market. The structure of the boot camp and it's education material is spot on and up to date. I almost feel that it's virtually a no fail system.
Gareth and his team were very helpful, friendly, but they were also firm, there was no slacking in the field.
What are the take-aways that I got from the instruction?
1) Anything is possible. The best guy in the club won't get the girl if he has no game.
2) Body language is 70-80% of game, but it won't seal the deal on it's own, you need game for that.
3) Always smile. Creepy guys and wall-flowers don't.
4) Always look your best, it raises your passive value, girls will approach a well dressed man, especially if he is wearing great shoes.
5) Talk to everyone, it's builds social proof if you get to know everyone in the club. Girls are watching for this, they'll see the popular guy.
6) One boot camp will never be enough, I intend to take another, I want to be as best as I can.
7) Let go of your baggage, be present, state can't move if it's trying to carry the baggage with it. Don't give a f*ck, in otherwords.
Don't take yourself seriously, girls won't, they are there to have fun, and they want to be with the fun guy.
Post Camp Accomplishments.
Post boot camp, I have been sarging every other night. I have greatly reduced my AA to the point that I can open any set. Prior to the boot camp I could not open mixed sets and only sarged if I could be in the company of other wings. I don't need wings to sarge anymore, but if they wish to join me, then the party will be that much more fun. I talk to everyone now, and I am looking for ways to expand my game. ( I work from home, BTW ) I no longer wait till Friday to go out, there are fun things to do during the week. I have noticed that I am a more relaxed person in public and others have said that to me. I saw a recent photograph of me, and I could see the difference. I am making my life happen and am getting out of the rut, so much so that I anticipate moving to California later this year to pursue this lifestyle full time.
Post Camp Action Items.
Expand my game, public, online, social groups, learn to run game wherever I am.
Create events and sarge events for my fellow wings and I.
Join an improv group, I have an open invite from a local improve group in this town, or take comedy classes.
Enhance my fashion without over pea-cocking. Get great style without looking like a clown.
Create the ultimate bachelor - party pad. Logistics is where it's at.
Focus on having a rocking good time and connecting with people.