First Dates

Out of a bunch of women I asked on my Facebook friend's list, I asked the question, "What would your ideal first date be?" After the expected, "WTF? Why do you want to know?" I got down to the knitty gritty.

So it's the general consensus that the first date is supposed to be low key. With hardly any pressure on each other. It's really more to see if the two of you are compatible or not as to not waste each others time. However, a fallacy that many guys fall into when starting out, myself included, that the first date is massively important and should be a spectacular and memorable affair not unlike that of a engagement proposal. Something to tell your grandkids about or whatever bullshit runs through your head.

Look. A lot of pressure is put on the guy for the first date, We see it all the time on television, movies, and really good trailers that end up as crappy movies. It's really a lot of bad advice for a guy but big bucks for the guy who you just hired to write your names in the sky. This is probably because Hollywood needs some kind of retarded plot device to push their crappy movies forward.






To be fair, I actually like that movie






Contrary to popular belief, everything does NOT need to be perfect or memorable. Nor should it fit into the plot of some shitty romance novel. Yes, I have heard all the water cooler talk about how women fantasize about being in a romance novel, being wisked away by some guy that looks like Fabio (Cause face it, the real Fabio is old now) on a white unicorn that happens to shoot rainbows out it's ass as it transforms into some kind of Furry.







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But really. Can you imagine what would really happen if you showed up to a girl's house or a restaurant to meet a girl on top of a white stallion? I'll admit, that's pretty bad ass, but it's not my pants you're trying to get into. In reality, I'm sure she'd freak out and think your crazy or worst, think you're loaded and then proceeds to milk you for all you're worth like the gold digger she could possibly be.

While a girl can think about how wonderful and romantic that would be and possibly pine about how she desperately wants it to happen to her, if it actually did I doubt she'd be all that receptive. Which comes down to the age old saying, "What a women *says* she wants, and what she *actually* wants are two different things."

Surprisingly dudes, girls (age group 18-23) actually prefer something chill and laid back. When I asked what they thought would be an ideal first date would be, they didn't say some fancy smancy dinner or clearing out grand central station for a pez lunch and acrobats (Arthur you douche). They said:



"probably chill at a park, shows you wanna get to know the girl, cause if your going to be the cliche of dinner and movies it just shows your interested in banging the girl"

"maybe a nice dinner with a fun activity to do after, like ice skating, something were me and my date could still get to know each other"

"like go on a picnic, not all romanticized though, just get some food and go to a park kinda thing"

"just hanging out . it doesnt need to be anything fancy . No movies cuuuuz..if its a first date, wth.. i wana talk to him.. not sit next to him for two hours"


It really is that simple guys, you don't need to stress about it for hours and hours. So not only do I hope I saved you guys some dough, but also give you the info you need have a successful first date. Oh and before I forget, I should probably list a couple activities you can do.

1. Sit outside a Starbucks and chat
2. Go to the Beach Boardwalk (If you have one)
3. Ice Skating

DO NOT DO DINNER AND A MOVIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I can't say this is the recipe for success for sex on the first date, but I will go so far as to say that this would work for something you might want to make into a long term relationship.


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A friend of mine referred to dinner dates as "feed and fucks."

Very nice article, a great read!

I love dinner on a date because I'm fuckin hungry. But to hit several birds with one stone, why not cook for her back at home base rather than wasting $$$ on a restaurant?

"Oh golly gee, look at that, my bedroom is only a few steps away from the dinner table!"

I flunked a lot of first dates because of the movie and dinner thing and went on the erroneous journey nearly a dozen times before I realized it was wrong - movies, dinner, the cliche first date often puts too much pressure on your shoulders and is way too awkward. So definitely a good piece of advice - NO MOVIE AND DINNER FOR THE FIRST DATE. Or even a show or anything that makes it too obvious you're trying to get into her pants.

Do something casual where you get to know her, get to talk to her, and find out if you guys like the same stuff and are a good match. Because as much as you're trying to get her to like you, you're also trying to find out if you like her and if she's right for you. Because for once, the saying is reversed, "It's not just about her - it's about YOU, too."

Tomorrow a chick and I are going go cart racing and I have her driving 45 minutes to my place, where we'll meet first, and then head out. Activity dates spike adrenalin, and give you a BT spike as a result.