Dating Tips: How can I make girls laugh?

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Question:

Barney Stintson: “So i can crack an endless amount of jokes and teases when i’m with my close friends, but its really hard to just get into that same mindset with a stranger…any ideas on how to break that barrier?

Answer:

What makes me funny is heavy doses of cheap booze and even cheaper women. I also noticed that women found my jokes much funnier once I dropped in that I had a 13 inch cock. I’m just kidding….maybe.

I had this same problem. Cracking my boys up and girls in my social circle….then….same jokes on girls in cold approach and a God damn tumble weed would roll through the room and you could hear crickets chirp.

What I figured out is that I was trying to pull them into humor that required to much insider info for a newcomer. A girl coming into your pre existing Social Circle will laugh at jokes she doesn’t quite get to feel accepted or because she can tell everyone else is responding to you well.

In cold approach you don’t get that luxury.

Think of it like this. In humor you have “local” and “global” themes. Local themes are themes that are funny only if you have been in that exact situation or had that exact very specific experience. This is what usually manifests with your buddies. You guys build joke after joke off of themes that have been running for years. You’ve seen the same movies, been on the same trips, you know specific quirks and character traits of each member of the group. Since all members know each member very well, a joke about one of those members quirks will get a laugh out of everyone. A one liner from a favorite movie will have the group cracking up, because it probably actually ties in several “local” themes that have been long running.

“Global” themes are themes that everyone can get and that need zero prior knowledge for them to understand. As long as they have been on planet earth, have the internet, watch some TV and have seen at least the top movies, than they will get these jokes.

These jokes are often less funny, but by starting with these, you can open them up to the idea that you are funny. They can get used to you and seeing your style of humor and then you can start building “local” jokes with them as the interaction progresses. This can happen really fast. Introduce a “global” theme and if they laugh, start introducing “local” themes to add spice and conspiracy between the two of you.

Jumping in with the “local” jokes is doable, but it obviously risks them not getting it and making you feel like your cock is hanging out in 2* weather.

Or….

Just tell them you have a 13 inch cock that you want to put in or around their mouth. It works 100% of the time 20% of the time.

-Braddock

I especially agree with the part about not requiring prior knowledge for listeners to understand the punchline.

As a comedian, I write often. Typically about 25-100 jokes per day. The legendary Jerry Seinfield once said he was satisfied with about 10% of his material being worthy of using on stage.

The book I'd recommend for anyone interested in improving their humor is: "Step by Step to Standup Comedy" by Greg Dean. It breaks the joke process down into easy-to-understand sections.

But the best lesson in general is this: humor is 90% surprise.
In other words, the punchline is meant to give listeners something they weren't expecting to hear.

So, if you have an opener you want to turn into a joke, ask yourself what assumptions you make about that statement, then list ways to take it out of context.

A joke I heard on comedy central:
Religion makes parenting hard. He's Jewish, I'm Mormon, the baby's Father is Catholic.
What assumption do people make? That "he" refers to the biological father.

Be creative!

And my second major recommendation that'll not only help your game, but your general attitude and reaction to life's surprises: take an improv class. I'm a Seattle improv Alumni and after 3+ years of it, I'll testify that it's well worth it. If you're in Los Angeles, there's a shit load of schools. If you're in my old stomping ground (Seattle) I recommend http://www.unexpectedproductions.org/ or http://www.jetcityimprov.com/. Chicago has http://www.secondcity.com/. Or just type "(your city) improv class" in Google.

Your reaction time and versatility to the unpredictability of conversations will become razor sharp. Check it out!

I just downloaded... er... bought the book by Greg Dean. And it's AWESOME. I can't wait to equip it into my arsenal.

I read somewhere a very long time ago that women like a guy with a sense of humor. Over the years and learning pick up --- I found I had some serious misconceptions learned some good stuff so I'll plug them in note form here:

1) TV/Sit-coms/using material in common media: I used to copy jokes and developed a sense of humor by watching TV, sitcoms, stand up routines then use that material with women and groups in general. I found a lot of the humor in common media involves the comedian getting laughs by DLVing themselves! Be careful about this -- telling funny stories about a GF dumped you, doing the Rodney Dangerfield (I don't get any respect from people jokes), or stories about how you have a hang over and woke up next to a hooker etc....will NOT help you.

2) I think when women say "sense of humor" it means more banter, "wit". When women say "intelligence" --- obviously scoring high grades in math doesn't fall into that category. Intelligence probably means being ability with "wit", smart ass banter come-backs etc.

3) Even if you plan to steal a comedian's entire routine -- chances are you can not set it up, tell the back ground then punchline...you will likely be interrupted and it'll ruin the joke...this is likely to happen especially in a group. You might want to focus on one liners (or 2 -3 sentence ones) instead of a whole story.

4) There is a serious danger of becoming the Dancing Monkey. You are entertaining the girl but not attracting her. There is also risk (as in #1) that the girl is laughing AT you not WITH you. Depending on your sense of humor --- you can also come off as "strange" -- youtube up Steven Wright.

5) Realize a lot of humor you use in PUA or in dating situations is not cutting edge seriously funny stuff. It also depends on how you say it.

6) I wouldn't even think of the topic as making the girl laugh anymore --- I think in terms of "Banter".

Hope this helps

You make valid points. The general trick is to use whatever your target/group says as a Set Up and then dish out a Punch Line, which takes the Set Up out of context in one way or another. The best way to learn how to do this is by studying Stand Up Comedy.

As for #3, I would disagree about being interrupted. If you have the crowd's attention and you're telling a DHV story with jokes involved, and one of them comments, then you've just created a fun dialogue between a group of people. You can always revisit your DHV story AFTER you isolate your target. ("....as I was telling you earlier, blah blah blah"). On the other hand, should you be blatantly interrupted, or cut off, the cause of that isn't comedy. It's your game in general.

I will agree, however, that say you just meet a group, you shouldn't go into an intricate, lengthy joke with a mediocre punchline at best. Reading the situation, knowing what phase you're in, gauging everyone's behavior and so forth will prevent this mistake.

Yeah --- one thing I discovered while I was just developing my "sense of humor" a long time ago was that when I tried to copy lengthy portions of a stand-up comic act was that the comedian's situation is different than my house party situation. I realized that the communication between the comic and his audience is a one way interaction where the audience merely sits back and listens while giving no feed back other than laughter. In a house party situation people are expected to do two way communication and hence can throw an amateur of his routine and leave him psycholically stressed.

As I learned more about PUA --- I adopted the idea that this is OK and even cut my own threads and do multiple threading.

Or if you want to try more advanced forms of the wikipedia thing they teach in the boot camp --- you can link off into some DHV for yourself. For example:

PUA to HB: blah, blah, blah and then the girl starts to...

UG arrives: Hey guys! How's it going? Check out this new necklace my BF gave me!

PUA: Wow! I just got back from France and it was very popular there too --- all the girls like them....it was like that..

HB: What were you doing in France? Work? Vacation?

PUA: Mostly work for my own business...I'm a doctor and I give lectures on treating Angina. When I was a kid I wanted to be a ...

HB's friend: Wow! Where in France? Nice, Paris?

PUA: Started in Paris but a bunch of nurses dragged me around to Lyons and other places --- so it was kinda a vacation too

The trick is to multiple thread and even cut off your own thread ... just don't get over-run and do not have threads that go no where.

When they appear to have ADD and it feels like your jokes are being cut off, then at least you're able to exercise patience and learn to adapt to rapidly changing conversations. I hate when the UG's interrupt. Oh well.