FR #8: Frustration Solo sarging

Today wasn't a very good day for sarging. Just when you thought you had something down, life comes back and kicks you in the teeth. I didn't have anyone to go with to a festival in orange county this weekend so I had to hack it solo.

Pacific Festival: Irvine, CA

I had about 6 notable sets. The girls at this event didn't seemed like wasn't receptive at all to any of my openers. Maybe its because I was there on a sarging mission rather then having fun, which is a self fulfilling prophecy for failure.

I mainly opened girls who were sitting down. I talked to a HB8,mexican girl for a while who was real cute, just polite conversation about life and everything. She was receptive, but I wasn't really feeling her and it felt like she was just talking to me by just being polite. I ejected and went on exploring some more. I went up to a dancing girl and asked what was her name and she pointed to her boyfriend, ouch blown out. There were also a lot more sets where I went up and scared the girl.

Doing solo sarging really takes a toll on your morale especially theres no wingman to hype you up. I still have a problem showing interest and escalation. This is something I really need to work on.

I NEED TO SHOW INTEREST, I NEED TO SHOW INTEREST. That's my weakness, I can't even go up to girls and say that I think they're hot. I'm not saying it because I'm protecting my ego, I gotta stop that.

I'm going to do day game tomorrow to redeem myself for such a bad night.

Also, another thing. I didn't eat lunch or dinner at all today when I went out. That was a huge mistake. Because my metabolism is so high I am what I eat, if I don't eat I will not have the brain power to think of clever things to say. I am much more clever and witty on a full stomach then an empty one. Energy drinks or alcohol did not help.

Food = power. I need it or else my brain will be mush.

Try going direct in day game. Go up to a girl in broad daylight and say to her, "Hi, I know this is random, but I just saw you and I think you are very beautiful. I had to come by and talk to you, otherwise I would've been upset at myself all day. Hi I'm WhoisApollo..." It usually is received well, because girl will admire how ballsy you are to go up to her and say that, plus if you say it right, it sounds really sincere and the girl can't help but go, "Aw... that's so sweet. Thank you." And when you see how well the girl responds to you, you'll be a lot more confident in your abilities to show interest.

Think "I'm going to succeed" then thou shalt succeed. I will try my 1st direct, kamikaze approach tomorrow, with all the butterflies in my stomach, and write my next FR on that.

As an engineer, you know how to analyze. So take a good, introspective look at your true fears. Write them down in bold, capital letters. Then really analyze what the potential results are if these fears occur. Will you suffer harm? Will you lose anything valuable? Will you gain anything valuable? Just take a private moment, when your head is clear, to weigh the situation in a COMPLETELY non-biased way. And if you finally see how harmless and truly FUN sarging is, then go out immediately after this exercise. Repeat it over and over when you need to.

As for Raigon's recommendation to go direct, I'd say no. Direct lines are short, easy to remember, to the point, but VERY cliche and by far the most difficult to transition from. No need for these unless there's a time constraint.

If you want to be more direct, just close the physical gap between you two and kino sooner than later. Women aren't stupid. They will pick up on the body language hints right away.

Other openers like Observational or Opinion, require LONGER conversations. Longer conversations give you MORE practice. MORE topics to talk about in an ENERGETIC and CREATIVE manner. You're more likely to have FUN doing this. The more words that leave your mouth, and hers, the higher chances are that you two will hit a mutually intriguing subject and build comfort.

Stop, look at your surroundings and think of something funny that both you and your target can discuss. It's easier than you think.

Great post. I learned about letting fear go at burning man. I asked a real old man who I met and looked up to "So, out of the 50-odd years that you have lived. If you can give me one advice to a young guy just starting his life, what would it be?". He said "Do not fear because fear is what holds back so many people from doing what they want".

We also had this quote on our camp banner!