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Alright this is some of that hardcore inner game stuff that I’m really starting to realize if one gets handled, you’re literally 80% there. Let’s face it, the reason we’re all here is we’ve SUCKED with women, some more than others. Me personally, I massively sucked, I bought a girl a ticket to South Africa, I moved across the country to be with a girl because I thought she was the “one” (translation: the one girl who’d like me), hell I even did, on multiple occasions, the dreaded try to be friends with a girl and hope that one day stuff will magically turn around and we’ll fall in love. All of these outward actions and behaviors came from a deep seated destructive belief system that basically says girls can’t really like you for you. This is bad belief programming that has come about by years of negative socialization.
Well that’s the “map” of the world we have had in our heads, but guess what, ITS ONLY IN YOUR HEAD. That’s right, it has no relevance to the real world, the real word is a lot more complex, and in many ways much more welcoming than one thinks.
That said getting rid of all this negative programing in our heads is a lot easier said than done. Whenever we do something stupid in the field, whether it’s saying something stupid, not touching enough, or not going for the kiss, it all comes from a belief that the girl can’t really like you, so why try? If you’ve ever seen naturals work, they don’t have this negative programming, so when they go for a girl, they go all in. They don’t try to be friends, they don’t try fancy pickup tactics, they
know girls like them for them, so they have no need to impress.
In the end I think that’s all the pickup journey is, you’re basically shocking your mind with new information (i.e. by going out and hitting on women), so that it will finally let go of an old destructive belief system. I remember the last night of the bootcamp I basically saw JT pickup a girl and make out with her, while her boyfriend and all her friends looked on helplessly (interestingly enough I got some of the blow back from the friends, one of the girls kept yelling at me “who do you guys think you are coming in here and doing this type of stuff?”…I couldn’t help but laugh). It was funny, because JT didn’t use any “fancy pickup routines” or” advanced seduction techniques” (I laugh as I write that). He was simply messing around, and told the girl to come over and join him. And from there he basically let the girl “game” him. He can do that because he has successfully made the journey, and convinced his mind girls like me for me.
I’m also starting to realize that in my own journey, 8 months in, I’ve basically had multiple chances to get laid, that in retrospect I wonder, what the fuck was I doing there? What’s happening is an old destructive belief system rears its head, and all of a sudden you’re like WHOA WHAT THE FUCK AM I DOING? I DON’T BELONG HERE I’M A STUPID AFC And bam stupid act. The obvious long term solution to this is to expose yourself to the situation like a 100 times, till your mind goes hey I do this all the time, its normal. While a short term strategy I have been experimenting with lately is to do NOTHING, i.e. just stand there and look into the girls eyes. And let her engage you, it actually works quite well, especially in later parts of the interaction, when the girl is more invested in you.
Guess in the end it’s true what they say, you are your own worst enemy.
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