so guys - thanks for the replies - been busy with a lot of things so haven't been on forum much - finally got motivated to go to gym to lose 15 pounds of weight (I'm kinda chubby) - gonna drop a bit more then start hitting the weights. I decided to put aside 1 hour a day no matter how tired/sick I was (finally) to do this - I been procrastinating to go to the gym for a very long time. It's now habitual.
Been getting more success recently. Things I've noted
1) gymming - I noticed girls been looking at me much more than when I was totally chubby. I didn't realise this was so important.
2) The value I have for these girls is I am a social connector - I give the impression that I will bring them up the food-chain. I have people in my social circle they would like to meet.
3) I learnt to cook - and invite them all up in a group setting for cooking - strictly invite only - afterwards invite them individually on another day up to my place for cooking
This includes guys in the group setting too - but only high value guys - it also leads to a strong social circle that helps me with my businesses. Btw, I also figured that you don't actually need to know how to cook. Initially, the girls all want to put a hand in the kitchen, so we guys just lounge with a beer and they do the cooking lol. Afterwards, when I invite them individually up for cooking, it's actually very rare I have to 'cook' - coz we just hook up
But steak and spinach is a good bet generally and easy to make.
4) I've been making some of these girls friends (even though I would want to hook up with them!!!) - because it leads to abundance when they introduce me to their girlfriends (who tend to be hot too!!). Shit, the guys they introduce me to are so high value too damn which makes me sometimes wonder why the hell they would choose me over them (e.g. billionaire's sons, other bigger and better club owners, businessmen, tv personalities, directors and producers). The more people I meet, the luckier I get.
5) I have begun to cut out of my social life anyone who is low value. Not because I want to, but because I just don't have anytime to hang out with them anymore. I especially also started cutting out Asian guys who hate on themselves for being Asian. I realised I have wayyyyy too many of these guys in my life - I never ever thought of myself being inferior to other races (even before BC) - so I don't understand this dumbass perspective - in fact I think being Asian is an advantage for everything.
6) I start framing from the beginning of any relationship - what is 'allowed behaviour' and what is 'not allowed'.
things like:
- I don't like it when you are late and you don't call me
- do not bring guys I don't know to the club and expect me to bring them in
- if you say you will be there, you better be there at the time and place
- I tell them I'm very discrete with my relationships and hate it when girls kiss and tell
- I detest liars and I myself live in total honesty - I tell them I'm not ready for marriage, so don't expect anything too serious with me - if they aren't cool with that, they are automatically made into friends, and I get them to intro me to their girlfriends. I do lose a lot of women saying this, but I rather this than drama. I hate drama so much. It carries over to business - no one does business with unethical person over time. Most of the time, girls really hate liars. They don't care if you sleep with multiple women or flake a date with them because you met someone else, etc. This is why most of my ex's remain my good friends.
I will try start bringing out more white girls when I go out - thanks for the suggestion mymeowcat. It's funny - these girls are from rich backgrounds and fairly famous in some cases - but they feel/act inferior to hot white girls (even though some of these white girls are just low-grade 'models').
