I stumbled upon the ABCs of Attraction website after viewing dating related videos on YouTube and other websites on dating and pickup.
I had been married for over 20 years and separated for almost one year when I learned that a boot camp was scheduled in Washington, DC. Eager to start a new relationship and to learn new skills in approaching women I decided to register for the July event. My main goal was to increase my confidence in approaching and relating to women because I planned to date multiple women after the divorce would be final later this year and because I wanted to have options before making another marriage decision.
One of the concerns that I had was that I might be too old to participate in a boot camp like this. However, after speaking with one of the boot camp staff members by phone I was assured that it should not be a problem.
In preparation for boot camp I purchased several books that were recommended but only was able to read part of one book. I agree with other participants that one of the most important things you can do to prepare is to do the assigned homework assignments.
Each day I learned a lot during the classroom sessions. The classroom was comfortable and in a location that was convenient to restaurants and only a short taxi ride away from many nightclubs.
The first day of boot camp was my birthday and so when we invited girls to our table in the nightclub everybody said it was because we were celebrating my birthday.
I had never been to a nightclub before so Friday evening was a unique experience. My approach anxiety was fairly low because I really was not looking to create any long term relationships and didn’t care if I was going to be rejected. However, the unexpected happened and I made a really good connection with a girl almost half my age, invited her to our table and spent most of the evening at the club with her chatting and dancing. I number closed her and kept in touch with her after boot camp.
Gareth’s class on texting and phone skills proved invaluable. My experience in texting was limited, so this was one of the most valuable sessions of boot camp for me. I highly recommend it!
Ben J. was also very helpful as an assistant instructor and in providing advice on dress and by encouraging us to open sets in the clubs.
Having J.T. there was icing on the cake.
We had a nice group of men attending boot camp and so far most of us have kept in touch with each other. I felt a lot of camaraderie and we all supported each other.
Here are some of the ways that boot camp has helped me and what I liked best about it:
• It has given me the basic skill sets that allow me to have more confidence and success when approaching women. The Kino Turn was one of the most valuable skills I learned.
• It has given me the knowledge and confidence that I can approach and attract women who are very attractive and much younger than I am.
• It has taught me to dress better.
• It has encouraged me to take better care of my personal appearance. I lost 10-15 lbs. over the past several months and started seeing an esthetician, which I highly recommend, especially if you are older like me or you have skin problems like acne.
• It has given me additional ideas and resources for improving my skills.
• The Facebook groups and the ABCs of Attraction Community and Forum are great free resources for ongoing support and learning.
• The instructors know their stuff and are very approachable. Another valuable piece of advice came from Gareth after boot camp when he texted me, “Remember, there are tons of beautiful women out there!”
I highly recommend the boot camps to anyone who is serious about learning how to successfully approach women and how to develop better relationships with them.
