NOTE, this is my REVIEW, not the 3 day experience, growth and field report of my bootcamp infield progress and experience. My bootcamp 3-day field report can be found HERE:http://www.abcsofattraction.com/community/post27697.html Before I begin, I'd just like to thank and acknowledge the gang for all of their efforts and hard work. Flying out nearly every week, trying to get used to all the different time zones and teaching the same thing over and over again to people who have virtually the same problems, I cannot help but feel respect for you guys willing to go out of the way to teach us skills. Even if it's for quite a bit of money. So like JT once said to me, I'd like to say I feel the same way about you guys: "I have mad respect for what you guys do. But I definitely do not envy it."
You guys were there for us for the entire weekend, teaching us tactics, drills, and giving us so many exercises to practice on; you gave us 3 in field night sessions where you were there watching us and giving us feedback. You encouraged us when we needed it, you were happy for us when we accomplished something we normally did not. And you were brutally honest and always manage to hit the spot when we were struggling and pointed out our flaws and how to get rid of them.
And since you guys were brutally honest with me and I feel I've improved and benefited from it because of it, I'd like to be honest with you guys as well. As I said, I appreciate everything you've done for us and regardless of how much we paid or the fact that we paid for this experience, you guys have definitely given me an experience I will never regret and I know now that this will be the start of a new journey in life - the metamorphosis into a true (Asian) Adonis.
Instructors and Wing GirlJT was definitely the real deal.
My biggest fear, ridiculous as it may sound, was that I'd turn up to the address on the ticket in Sydney and have booked my flight and hotel just to find out that the address was fake, and I got scammed. He showed up. I mean, the Asian Playboy is a celebrity. Who knows who might be impersonating him, right? My 2nd biggest fear was that he did not live up to my expectations or he was past his prime. That was also solved. J.T., when I first saw him, I knew he was special and I knew he was different. He had the sense of authority, dominance, and an unparalleled aura of confidence. He was relaxed, but at the same time composed and had this air of authority. This was confirmed by when we went to HUGO's.
Example: While there were some negative things said about us, i.e. "Hey look, it's those group of guys that come back here every year. What's with that? They some kind of special training program or something?" (paraphrased), there were also some positive things. I've been approached by some guys, mostly white, and there was one called Alex, who asked me if it was the Asian Playboy himself teaching the bootcamp. And then he started saying how he idolized J.T. and he was on the same world stage with big name guys like Mystery, Style, etc. He even asked if I can get an autograph from J.T. but he didn't have a paper or pen and neither did I.
And he definitely knew what he was doing. I could tell how much time he spent in the material and how much he had to read and accumulate to get to where he is today. He put in a huge amount of work, but at the same time, he has this talent to do it and go through with it and he gives off the vibe and impression to us that sort of says, "Hey... if I can do it, so can you." And that was extremely encouraging. He was encouraging, brutally honest, and was there to share our moments of victory.
Now... while J.T. did give us the bootcamp and I feel I did benefit from it, I feel like for some reason his heart wasn't in it. I've read all the reviews from the U.S. and perhaps it's because November is close to the end of the year and he is just tired or the fact that he's been teaching for years and years on that it just turned a bit boring for him, but I was expecting the same kind of passion and dedication the reviews said about him - him following every student around (if not him, then another instructor like Gareth) and observing them in the field and feedback for every single set we did. I was expecting 1 on 1 debriefing from all the instructors. And I was sort of expecting them to help us with our assignments that we worked so hard on and actually attempted like you told us to.
For example: We never went over our stories. At all. We never went over or discussed what the Ralph Loren Photo Routine was. At all. And to tell you the truth... when we went over the stories... basically all Gareth did was read the instructions of the assignments and explained what the instructions meant. Which... we could've done ourselves. We wrote the stories so we can... I dunno.... perhaps get some feedback on how to shape our stories?
I mean, don't get me wrong, I appreciate everything you guys have done and all the material you've given us, but I honestly kind of wished you guys put more heart into it. It's like watching one of the doctors in our hospital who used to be so passionate, eager and full of zeal to go out there and interact with patients and go out of the way to save their lives and know who they are, through years of doing the same kind of job again and again finally lose all the heart and passion they had when they first started. He talks to them in a monotonous way, prescribes them a med, treatment or a surgical consult, and then says in a drony voice, "next" and moves on to the next patient.
As for Gareth, well... I won't lie. We obviously have issues with each other that began way before bootcamp even started that increased over the 3 days of the bootcamp to the point of no return. We will never be great friends, I understand that. However, I also understand that what we have is a professional-client relationship. And that's what it is and only what it is. You're not here to be my therapist and listen to my life stories. And I'm not here to be best friends with you. You're my teacher and I'm your student. And so I'll review you only as a client to a professional, a student reviewing a teacher. Everything else is irrelevant.
Gareth was a wonderful instructor and he obviously has a lot to teach. The best part was that he really knows what he is doing. For example, when he sent me out into the field after he reviewed my sets, I found that he has that 6th sense where he knows immediately what my biggest sticking point is and why I messed up. I guess you can call it intuition, and his intuition is scary. He told me to go to a girl, approach and open her, and then all you do is look at her eyes and report back to him what the color of her eyes are. It was a wonderful basic exercise that forced me to open my eyes and pay attention. My focus has been all about what I'm going to do next when I never really pay attention to what the girl is saying. This will also help me as a learning doctor, as I need to pay attention not to what I'm going to ask next, but what the patient is trying to tell me.
And his text to sex was definitely spot on and he knows what he is doing. I love his flow charts and he did convince me enough to go for the text to sex program... though now that I think about it... I kind of wished I waited for a while until the price dropped. I'm already flat out broke from what I spent on bootcamp and I spent even more. LOL.
However, much as that may be, for some reason I get the feeling that he is nervous, edgy, and a bit insecure. Obviously it doesn't show when he's approaching sets - he is relaxed, composed, and practically on par with J.T. It was proven when he did that triple pull with J.T. when they pulled a walking set and managed to sit them down and isolate them. He's won the world's best new pickup artist award for a reason. But when he is with us, he gives the impression that he is tired and annoyed and like JT, he is sick of doing all of this. And trust me, medical students and other practitioners of the health field have the uncanny ability to detect insecurity from a mile away especially when it's this obvious.
As for Ralph, he is my favorite instructor by far. He probably hasn't been doing this for as long as J.T. and Gareth has, but while he understands what we have is a professional-client relationship, he at least still has the heart and passion of what J.T. and Gareth may have had in their earlier days when they first started ABCs and that's what I liked. He was not so blatantly obvious about keeping his distance and regarding me only as a client to professional. He at least still listened to what I had to say and he did not treat me like I was $$$ CASH $$$ like Gareth, and more so... J.T. And he was willing to go out of his way to do the social circle game at 7:00 AM... AM!!! He sacrificed sleep for us (though technically we sacrificed sleep for us) and he was willing to answer any and all questions.
I don't think I have much to criticize about him, actually. He was my favorite instructor.
Lucy was awesome as well. She was our wing girl and acted as social proof and when she told me that my friends had to talk to me and pulled me from the two blonde doctors (see bootcamp field report, Day 1). One of them even asked if she was my girlfriend. LOL. That led to asking me if I was single and what kind of girl I liked. She saved my ass many a times. And she even went out of her way to wing me with my 1st set in HUGO's. Didn't turn out that well, but she tried and she did have her heart in it. The heart and passion faded out over day 3, but I'm sure if I asked her to wing me, she would've. And also... girls got jealous that she was with me. I felt great. Really wished she could have joined us during day 2, but she had work to do so I understand.
So... is it worth taking?Now don't get me wrong. I still think the bootcamp is worth taking. It's an awesome experience and there was a VAST amount of information and stuff they can teach you. BUT it's only for people who are willing to push themselves. Don't rely on the teachers because they can only do so much (and probably will only do so much). It's as Gareth said, "You're an adult. I mean, it's your money and you're free to do with it as you please." They have a duty, and if they fulfill their duty, the rest is up to you. If you're so scared that you cannot even go up to a single girl without pissing yourself, then you obviously just wasted your money and will not benefit from it. Which is why they're telling you to at least get your approach anxiety to a manageable level before you sign up.
What about the Text to Sex? Social Circle game?
Text to sex - I actually thought when they said "bonus" seminar, they actually meant... "FREE BONUS" seminar. A bonus seminar is not a bonus if you have to pay for it. I mean, 100 dollars is a reasonable price, but with that being said, I could've just brought the text to sex program with the 50 dollar discount from thanksgiving and be done with it. They do give a 100 dollar discount to alumini who attended for the online text to sex program, but with the seminar costing 100 dollars, it cancels out and I still have to pay full price. But I'm not complaining. Gareth obviously lives up to his reputations. His text to sex is the BEST online program out there... or... probably one of the only ones and he is best by default, but his templates and results are amazing and I am pretty eager to try them out.
Social Circle Game - this is a pilot program that JT started when he first noticed Ralph with so many social connections. Obviously Ralph does know what he is doing. And the importance of social circle game is that it's what we play this generation. It's not about night game or day game anymore. Most game now is played in the social circle. You meet girls through social circles and you have the best chance with them if you play your cards right. Obviously, however, you still need to be proficient at cold approaches or else you'd never even establish a social circle.
And for people who work 9-5 jobs like I do (and enjoy it enough not to want to give it up), the chances of us going out to cold approach strangers and at clubs is pretty low as we don't have much time. And this is why we need to be able to do involve ourselves with our classmates or work buddies and learn to attract potential mates through there.
There was a lot of useful advice such as making friends with bouncers, promoters, and such that gives you HUGE social proof, especially if you're going out by yourself. A lot of stuff deep down I already knew, but never really believed, but when Ralph told it, it all made sense.
Well, that's my review. Like it or trash it, it's there for all to view. Enjoy.
