Refecltions on two years post-bootcamp

I thought I might just share what I’ve been through in two years post-bootcamp. If you’re interested, read on.

Some background - In the late winter of ’06, age 28, I had come out of a 5 year relationship. Sinking into depression, I allowed myself to sit at home for a year, gaining a shit ton of weight, and losing any and all social skills I had.

I was an AFC in every sense of the word. I was a huge fucking fatass, I’d be wearing flannel (actual shit from the 90’s), kahki’s and white sneakers on a daily basis. I looked like I had aspersers disease and I kid you not – I once got mistaken for a lesbian.

So, you can imagine that my social skills were shot to shit, which was only fueled by a steady diet of Pizza, beer, Xbox Live and internet porn. That’s when a friend of mine told me check out The Game. I did, I started reading, and reading, and reading. I picked up a few things here and there, my fashion vaguely improved, but I had a way to go.

So, come January of ‘08, around a year after my breakup, I try speed dating, and I fall for this one chick – hard. I went out with her three times, of course I didn’t k-close or anything like that, and I came across as a desperate retard. Smelling the desperation, she stopped returning my calls.

That’s what made me enroll in the bootcamp. That one fucking chick. Well, maybe not so much her, but my reaction to her. I was devastated when this chick didn’t call me back and the saddest fucking part was that she wasn’t that hot, she picked her teeth during dinner with her fingers, and she told me flat out “I only want friends.” I knew that if I was devastated this much by this girl, I had a problem that had to be fixed.

It was anger and desperation that made me join the bootcamp. I wanted to fuck everything out there without having to pay for it (which thankfully I never resorted to). But, I think in the back of my mind I knew that wasn’t going to happen, and let’s be honest – it didn’t.

If I could take away one thing from the bootcamp, I’d say that it showed me the man I was capable of becoming. It showed me that there was a future for me to look forward to.

About a year and half after the bootcamp, I went out just about every week, or multiple times a week, sarging, just slowly, slowly building up my social skills.

I don’t have a whole lot of totally crazy-ass PUA stories, I have stories of a normal, single guy in a city full of hot women. I’ve opened girls, gotten numbers, pulled a few times, asked out a girl at work I had a crush on (only to realize that she didn’t meet my standards), had a few makeouts and yes, some pulls.

And that’s all I really wanted, to be fucking normal around women. Mission accomplished. That guy who broke up with his girlfriend three years ago could have NEVER done ANY of that. Not to mention, I’m just plain social now. Put me in a room where everyone knows everyone but me, and I can become their friend. Put me in a room where no one knows each other, and I can become their leader.

Also, I take care of myself. I dress like I’ve always wanted, I’ve lot a shit ton of weight, I eat healthy and exercise all the time. I can appreciate feeling like an attractive, sexy man because my whole life I felt the exact opposite. Seriously, to have women start calling you sexy and hot to your face after never hearing it your whole life is the biggest fucking high out there.

So, For the past few months I’ve have my first serious girlfriend. She’s hot, great in bed, and after talking to hundreds upon hundreds of women, I can safely say that I’m not settling. I chose her, not compromising my own needs, and not out of fear of being alone. How many men can say that about their significant others? Not a whole lot, I’m betting.

I really hope things work out with me and her, but if they don’t, I’m not scared. It would severely suck balls, and it would definitely be depressing, but it wouldn’t be devastating. I known now that I’ll be able to pick my life up no matter what happens. I can say that don’t want to be alone, but I can say just as safely that I'm not afraid to be alone.

And I still like internet porn.

Man awesome FR. I'm glad you finally found your girl. And yay for internet porn. It's like your mother, always keeps on giving

Good shit, man. Your pictures look like those late night workout infomercials where they show a before picture, and then they show a completely different person for the after picture (e.g. the before picture is a white man, the after picture is a black woman). Are you sure that's you? Anyway, very inspiring. Thanks for sharing.



Fo shizzle, my nizzle!

- SpacePirate

I actually hear that in person from people I run into that I knew from back then.

Great post Dougie. I'm really happy for you.

I think that one of the most powerful things about the whole transformation is just what you said. Not being scared once you get the girl. Confidence is a very very attractive quality to have.

This is awesome stuff to read, man. I really feel a wave of pride wash over myself when I read that guys are following our lead and making their lives happen.

I know from personal experience that you are an awesome, generous, and great guy that deserves nothing but the best. I'm super happy that our company (since I wasn't on the bootcamp) can point you in the direction of your most dramatic successes and help you find a place of pure happiness and exhilaration.

I am beside myself with admiration when I commend you on the hard work and discipline it took you to get you where you are today and I hope that a) you will continue doing what makes you so happy and b) you will spread the word and help others just as we've chosen to do.

Sorry you're not the only white guy anymore,

-G

Dougie, hey bro! I'm really fucking proud of you man!

I'm glad to have been able to teach you and be your instructor during the course. I'm even more happy that you are continuing to benefit and get better and better!

GREAT INSPIRATION to others!

Warm regards,

Johnny Wolf

haha, thanks Johnny. I'll still remember of the advice you gave me during the bootcamp to this day. And the way I met my girlfriend - I kino turned, went direct, moved, used an amog blocker, number closed - all just like I had been taught. Just those little steps helped me clear the way to find someoene who I really love.

And do you remember Dan (aka Iron Dan) who was in the bootcamp with me? I just found out he got engaged recently. And I was there when he met her - a cold approach at a venue. This was a guy who couldn't open a single set our first night.

It's good shit, man... good shit.

Oh shit! That is a fucking excellent record! Was Jared on that bootcamp with you too? Cuz he has a girlfriend now too which would mean all three of you fuckers went from taking the bootcamp to being in a long term relationship with a girlfriend or getting married!

Hey tell Iron Dan that I want an invite to his wedding! WTF that is awesome I am SOOOOOOOO proud of all of you guys! And from fucking cold approaches using the techniques too!

-Johnny Wolf

This makes me all warm and fuzzy inside... thanks for posting this!