I took the day workshop with Andrew this past weekend. In short, it was a blast. I learned a lot and it was super fun. I made well over 10 approaches on day 1 and number closed, went on instant date, and got a future date on day 2.
Coming into this workshop, I was skeptical. I wasn't sure what kind of coach I would be getting. I was afraid I'd be meeting with a PUA who is just obsessed with women and getting laid as much as possible at all cause. But to my relieve, Andrew is very NORMAL! He's someone that I would hangout and have a beer with. And more importantly he's good with women, and KNOW WHY he's good with women, which is important if you want to teach.
I'm going to tell you how the workshop went. But for this testimonial to be useful for you, I think I need to tell you where I am in terms of my social skills, personality and experience with women.
I'm a fairly social and confident guy (most of the time). I do fine with women in my social circles. And I know some of my female friends are attracted to me. And sometimes, when my energy level is high, and I'm surrounded by friends, I would have enough confidence to approach girls and just have fun. But this is rare. The problem is, when I'm attracted to a girl, I can't be my usual cool confident self. And I had never had the guts to cold approach a girl, for example in a grocery store.
This all changed during the workshop.
DAY 1
Our "field" is the Westfield mall and the surrounding Union Square area. The workshop started with Andrew explaining the A-B-C-D-E-F elements of a pick up and some other concepts.
We also discussed my background, personality, my past experiences with women. Discussing ME was crucial in priming me with general "good feeling" about myself and later in the day boosted my confidence.
Finally we set a goal of making at least 10 approaches. And off to the field. This is where the fun begin!
My first approach was horrible. I had a huge approach anxiety as usual. Andrew told me to talked to a girl at a bus stop. I ended up asking her about bus route (I was supposed to use an opinion opener, but I forgot.) My body language was horrible. The approach was doomed from the start.
This was where Andrew's real work began. He guided me to assess what had happened. And prep-ed me for the next approach. Basically, that's the process that we keep repeating the whole day. Approach, assess, improve, approach, assess, improve and so on. If you pay attention and willing to keep going, your approach will get better from one set to the next.
My second approach was to a set of two cute girls (way cuter than the first one
). I approached them with more confident and opened with "hey.. I've got a question for you bla bla bla." To my surprise they were very responsive. Basically I did what Andrew told me to fix from the first approach.
For the subsequent approaches, I kept improving one thing at a time based on Andrew's feedback. At the end of the day, I made well over 10 approaches (we lost count!) And all of them were positive!
The highlight of the day was when Andrew pushed me to talked to perfect 10! A gorgeous tall blond girl. And I opened with a direct opener. She was flattered and I made her blush! That would never happened if I didn't take this workshop
We ended the day with a review. And I went home smiling, couldn't wait for the next day.
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DAY 2
Andrew thaught me how to number close, do instant date, and schedule a future date. And we're off to the field (same place, Westfield mall and Union Square)
This afternoon my confidence is high, having done 10+ fun approaches from the previous day.
Andrew and I was just walking in the mall, then out of nowhere this very cute girl walked passed us from the opposite direction going into a grocery store. I was thinking of approaching her, but I wasn't sure I could pull it off. Andrew notice I was looking at something, and told me to go.
To make long story short I number closed her! In a grocery store! Remember I told you in the beginning I could never talked to a girl in a grocery store? I just did. And not only that, I got a number! And she was super cute, tottally my type.
Then on my second approach, I talked to a girl in a bookstore. Spent about 20 minutes talking and doing an instant date at a coffeshop. I got her number and planned to meet up later in the evening.
I did it all! Number close, instant date, and future date! It was so fun. It was a blast!
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After the workshop I know I can do all this. You can read all about the theory of pick ups but you won't get anywhere without practice. And praticing with someone like Andrew who can notice your strength and weakness is key. And most importantly, learning must be fun for it to be affective. And this worksop was just a blast.
