Day Game Workshop - helping someone with ZERO confidence

JT asked me to join Showtime and help him with his San Francisco Day Game workshop from this past weekend. My first ever experience with the ABCs of Attraction was learning Day Game just over a year ago. I was going to meet Showtime shortly before meeting the two students who signed on for this workshop. Upon walking through the mall and heading towards the same area I first met Showtime, I suddenly had a rush of emotions and memories I had during the first ever workshop I ever took. I remember that experience a year ago not knowing what to expect. I had butterflies in my stomach, sweaty palms, and feeling very stiff all over my body. This time, however, as I recalled all the emotions and craziness running through my head from a year ago, I could feel that things were different. This time around I was more confident, more relaxed, and more knowledgeable. Although helping Showtime coach was a fun and interesting experience, I also learned a lot from it.

Something I've always been fortunate to have is the ability to learn things very fast. Even though I've only been at this for just over a year, being a fast learner along with hard work and constantly pushing myself in the field to learn what works for me and what doesn't helped me a lot in such a short period of time. Here I am helping these students new to the game and they are looking to me for guidance. Because I remember what it was like to have high approach anxiety and having low self-esteem and low confidence, I came from a place where I thought I could relate well with most students; even though I've improved myself greatly in terms of inner confidence and outer game, the memories and emotions I had before are still fresh. I was able to give them pep talks and help them to relax and realize that approaching isn't a big deal.

Another benefit to being a fast learner was that I was able to push the students and have them approach sets that I thought they could handle. After doing a couple of approaches I had an idea as to what kind of women were more likely to be more open to their approaches. Each time I saw improvement, I would put them into slightly more difficult sets. I believe what helped were my demos. One student had a problem being more dominant and stopping moving targets. I pointed out what he needed to do and demonstrated it. I was able to stop a moving 2-set for a moment. Although I could have kept talking and keep them in my frame, I let them go and did not follow them. In order to stop a moving set you must control the frame. I think my demo helped. After several approaches, he was eventually able to stop a set.

I also showed them that it's not a big deal to approach a set and get rejected. Who cares? It's not a big deal and it's all a part of learning. One student approached an Asian girl and shortly after, her Asian friends came in. A 1-set turned into a 7-set and the student admitted to getting intimidated and ejected. Showtime told me to go approach so without hesitation, I did. I opened well but the other 6 friends were being total bitches and pushed me out of the set (not physically). I looked at the students and brushed it off. Again, not a big deal.

Now aside from all my strengths I used to help these students out, a weakness of mine that I discovered was that I had a hard time developing their routine stacks. I'm not going to lie, my game relies mostly on my passive value and charm. I think a lot of it is what carries me through the pick up... at least in the beginning. I have a hard time trying to find a way to make a good routine stack with students who haven't developed a sense of confidence in their passive value or charm. However, there were small things in my game that I found were useful for them. For example, after going direct, something I often like to do is tell the girl, "so tell me something about yourself." Most of the time they will say something, and even if they don't, the moments the girl uses to think about something to tell you will buy you time to think about something to talk about and lead conversation. When I observed the students using this, I found that they stayed in set a lot longer. By the end of the workshop, the students walked away with multiple number closes and, as a result, made me feel like I was able to help them take that first leap into improving themselves and to be better off in life.

When it was all over, I realized what a unique experience it was being on the other side. It feels nice knowing that you helped someone improve himself. One day you meet someone who probably has zero confidence. Then the next time you see him, he can be a more improved version of himself with much higher confidence; a lot like how I feel like I am now. It's a really cool feeling knowing you left a student better off than he was when you originally met him.

How different would you say the daygame bootcamp is compared to the nightgame? I know it's a lot slower, but I'm sure there are other elements involved. I'm interested in taking it thats why.

It's a little different. It is, indeed, more slower and more of a waiting game. We still follow the ABCs structure. However, at night where you would come in with high energy, during the day you'll need to tone down your energy a bit. Just like bootcamp we cover indirect canned and direct openers. Situational openers aren't covered as much in a night game bootcamp as it is in a day game workshop. We'll show you how to come up with situational openers and the right ways to use them. What's really nice during day game is that everyone is always doing something; so situational openers are almost always there to use. Also, we will teach you how to stop moving sets and get instant-dates. We'll cover how to approach on the streets, coffee shops, department stores, malls, etc.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_s2wBP2u2Qg

What city are you considering taking the day game workshop?

Since I live in Hawaii, the west coast. I'm going to be in Europe for the summer, so it's going to have to be after August.