Aug 2010 NYC Bootcamp with Kevin, William and Graphyte

LONG BACKGROUNDER (You can skip to the actual review, I just want this off my chest).

I had been thinking of taking the bootcamp ever since I stumbled upon the Better Asian Man website and subsequently the ABCs website. I was one of the angry asian dudes you know the deal. Anyway, I grew up in Asia and moved to the US around two years ago fresh from a breakup from a serious 4-year relationship where I was basically made into a human doormat by my then-girlfriend.

Anyway, I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself and I decided to hang out with some naturals, which I have been doing for the past 2 years. Can't bring myself to approach because having many friends who are girls - I didn't want to be the creepo who hits on every moving object wearing a skirt in a club - which means I got nowhere for the past 2 years despite me having a relatively secure job, decent-ish social skills. Despite this, I was able to transform myself from a total geek, to someone who girls regularly call to go out with (as a friend).

Anyway what's important is that I was able to familiarize myself with the night life scene in general. I remembered the first time I went to a club with my buddy there were two HBBlondes that were near the bar, and he started talking to them - and I was so afraid I turned around to the other direction and started circling the bar like 15 times in panic, went out and sat on my car for like 15 minutes, and came back to make sure the HBs were gone!!! Being a rational guy in general I can't believe I could panic like that!!

For the past 2 months before the bootcamp I immersed myself in every PUA book I can get my hands on. Sometimes my head would be swimming with info but still with disbelief that anyone can actually do this. Eventually I stumbled upon the local lair. I remember my heart pounding out in the parking lot where the lair was meeting. It was my first time to actually meet some real live PUAs! In any case, I decided to swallow the red pill - it wasn't so bad. I didn't actually open any sets when they went to sarge that night. Although I did try to wing. The exchange: "Hey guys, I see that you met my friend XYZ over here. Soooo, dude (talking to the one I'm winging) looks like I need to leave. Bye! " LOL!! But then everybody was so cool about it, like they understood what I was going through. I resolved to push more with this further.

So I did the assignments, maybe I overdid it because when the bootcamp came, all I could see were a whole bunch of scribbles that didn't really make sense or sound like it would be good material for me to work on. Haha...

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ACTUAL REVIEW (FINALLY)

Day 1: I drove from CT to NYC on a friday afternoon - huge traffic jam, so I arrived 1 hour late (sorry guys). When I arrived at William's apartment, there were 3 other students, along with William, Kevin and Graphyte. They were in the middle of the lecture. To tell you the truth my mind was racing about what was about to happen that night, and I think that I went through a lot of the stuff on the ABC blog, website and forums that I felt that I had heard enough and I just wanted to DO IT. In any case we practiced on the openers - none of mine were really up to par. William pulled me aside and went through everything meticulously until it was perfect.

First venue: It was a really cool rooftop club (never been there). I felt a really good vibe and I was really psyched to just push on. Graphyte was assigned to be my personal coach for the night. On the elevator I spot two HBRussians. Graphyte told me I looked really nervous. So I went to the bar and ordered a drink, and I noticed they were right beside me. So I said f*k it - So after I got my drink I held my drink up to kick start - and I just got two really sharp stares!! So I shrugged in front of them and said "alright!", and turned my back on them. So I went around to scout some more. Notable sets: One hot HBBlack chick sitting alone Graphyte told me to open. She really hooked to my natural opener and had a great conversation, until the waitress brought 2 drinks. So I joked, "hmm somebody's really thirsty". After 10 minutes of conversation she finally mentioned she had a boyfriend - and it was this huge black dude that looked like a pro football player. I just continued on smiling and talking and gave a toast to both of them and ejected.

I spot two asian chicks sitting talking intently. I decided to the the kickstart again and they just stared at me. So I ejected. (William later told me those two were just being b*ches that night and taught me how to deal with them). Then there was this 4-set of french chicks. I don't even remember the opener. I eventually focussed my attention on this HBBlack/French chick who looked like she was really into me. She starts dancing to the music. I lose stuff to say or didn't know how to proceed. So I eject. Graphyte told me I could have gotten their number if I pushed on. Lastly there were these 4-set of asian girls the hottest one of which was giving me IOI's across the room. So I went in and opened direct. I pretended I was just looking for my friend because he seemed to have gotten lost in the crowd. "Oh that's ok, why don't you stay with us!" PLUS a kino on my arm. My heart jumped!! I have never gotten anything that direct from a girl!!! Graphyte started to wing me but then he went to school with the her so I got lost in the conversation. But wow what a set!!

I must have opened like more than 15 sets that night. I can't remember being badly blown out or humiliated or anything like that! And I actually lost count after 10 - and I was just having fun. Everyone felt sorry we had to leave. I HAVE NEVER IMAGINED I COULD DO THIS!! On the drive back to CT I was grinning from ear-to-ear and I believe I actually dreamed that night again in my sleep!


Day 2: Me and my classmates met up early in a hotel room to work on our material for the C phase. When we arrived at William's apartment we practiced some of the stuff we worked on. This day was the scariest day for me because I knew that we would be expected to go further than bantering and chatting. I realized that AA was a problem, but it won't be as big as what we were supposed to do that night.

Second venue: Another cool rooftoop club. *Background: I have tried like 4 times before to get into this club with my friends before with no success*. Anyway, I knew this was one of the more popular clubs in NYC. In any case we got in early, and we got bottle service. I immediately start scouting the area: lots of tourists, hot foreign chicks. Graphyte was again assigned to be my personal coach that night but it was pretty crowded so I end up swapping wings a lot with my classmates, Will and him. Memorable sets: One of my classmates started to open this 3 set of italian chicks. They seemed hesitant so I decide to go into the set to help him out, and we got them to sit at our VIP table. I get my eyes set on the one that was about the same height as me. She ends up talking to me because of EXCELLENT WINGING by Will and one of my classmates. SHE DOES NOT SPEAK ENGLISH but her accent was SOO hot. I start speaking Spanish which she understood a little. I eventually go direct and start whispering in her ear. She starts giving me "the look" like she wants to kiss me(or do something else) - my hand was caressing her hair. I hear Will at the back whispering "GO FOR IT" and my face was like 2 inches from her face and I STOPPED. AARRRGH! She starts smiling. She ends up offering her email address and wanted me to add her on facebook.

The table was never without girls and our place was hopping!! My classmates were pulling girls left and right. At one point we actually had a problem of whether we had too much girls there and they were kind of standing around the table enjoying OUR company!! I start seeing so many hot girls I my ADD starts acting up I start having problem choosing a target!! Eventually I settled on the girl who turned out to be living in CT too. I start bantering, BT spiking - but eventually didn't give me her number. I overhear her talking to her friend "Naah, I'm really picky when it comes to guys". (I think I should have isolated her and done the C-phase stuff away from the table where there would be more privacy).

One of my last sets was a 2-set of Austrialian chicks. One of them was a HBBrunette with a great body. Apparently they were about to leave in 2 hours for Mexico or some shit. I immediately start running my stuff on them. I eventually couldn't pull them away from where they were.

This night I can't remember how many I opened - let me just say maybe too many? I conquered my fear of kino-ing girls and realized that I really have nothing to be afraid of as long as my game is tight and I'm socially calibrated. I remember being bummed out that night during the debriefing. My classmates had actual MAKE-OUTs on the second day. I had my chance and I blew it!! William and Kevin saw it and recognized it and offered me some advice. Driving back home, I was so bummed that I wasn't able to do it, but I'm happy about the progress I've gone so far.


Day 3: It was raining hard, and I got soaked in the pouring rain, and was late to class to boot. I missed the fashion session but I wasn't about to do it anyway. We did another 3 hours of lecture, and Will actually gives us some pointers on what to do once we get numbers. Will tells us that he actually got up early that morning to run some day game!! THAT's dedication! Will: That was really inspiring man!


That night me and one of my classmates decide we haven't had enough sarging yet!! It was raining and drizzling, so we went out anyway. I was kind of proud doing that.


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SOME REALIZATIONS:
I realized that I get into the friend zone a lot because of my problems with the D phase. Will told me this and this was very true!! I will certainly work on this with the same dedication I had to get over AA. I also realized that I tend to have fun when sarging and the structure gets lost. Then I just get stuck in the B phase. I have to be mindful that there is an objective for every sarge and there is a reason for every stage. I need to take care of some inner game stuff to get rid of my sexual anxiety.


CRITIQUES/COMMENTS ON THE BOOTCAMP:
Will and Kevin were actually pretty nice guys. I thought they would be like drill sargents who would, like, yell at us for not following directions. William is the most methodical and socially aware man I know. During the bootcamp I actually felt like he knew what everyone was capable of from the get-go and encouraged us to go further than that. He sarges very precisely and he is certainly an expert at what he is doing!! Kevin is more like a good buddy who never judges but is always interested in seeing you succeed. Graphyte was an excellent wing and a cool guy who certainly knows his stuff too! I spent a lot of time with him at the bootcamp and I was telling him my problem about running out of stuff to say and I got a lot of B-phase material from him. To tell you guys honestly though - I was mentally prepared for really harsh comments but it never landed. I guess you guys go for the carrot method rather than the stick.


LAST WORDS:
Would I recommend this bootcamp to anyone?? HELL YEAH. If you are sitting in your living room reading this and even REMOTELY considering doing a bootcamp. GO AHEAD and do it. These guys are on a mission and they are interested in seeing YOU succeed. Nothing will happen overnight of course. But if you want to break your boundaries and go beyond your comfort zone - DO IT. I have new boundaries now - but these days I'm excited to break through them.

off the top of my head, it must be mike, smart ass mother fucker.

it's ricky, i love you man, gg, good luck with life, i love you dude, good game. "-G


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