So this is a review and field report of a 1 on 1 bootcamp I did with Mike Smooth in SF. I stumbled upon the ABCs when I was looking at Pickup videos on youtube, most notably the "simple Pickup" channel which I think EVERYONE should check out (hilarious and really good stuff). One of the recommended links was an interview JT did with Good Morning America or something. I checked it out and decided to give the bootcamp a shot.
I was overly skeptical of my need to do this initially. I don't mean to be cocky but compared to my other guy friends I'm quite successful professionally and socially and have decent game with women. Women in my life, I believe, are naturally attracted to that to those certain qualities however my BIGGEST problem was pulling the trigger in a timely matter. It hit me the week of bootcamp when a woman I was casually dating told me that she was off to her ex boyfriend's house to watch Home Alone. And damn this girl is hot too, a model, a dancer from a rap video and an aspiring actress. It seems as if I have hit the friend zone yet again and unfortunately in my history has happened more times than I could count.
My second biggest problem was that since I've graduated college, it's been difficult meeting women. Sort of like a college baseball player who just got drafted into the Majors. Sporadic encounters here and there but not the results I wanted and landing in the friend zone. A majority of women in my life were either from High School or College. I needed to break free from those restrictions from women in my warm circle.
I've been in and out of this "game" stuff since high school. It started with David DeAngelo's "Double your Dating," whose tactics helped me land a girlfriend in high school and lose my virginity in literally the last semester (fuck ya!)
Mike and I hit it off with certain similarities - he was in my position at my age and in my stage at life. In two years of taking a bootcamp he was able to turn his game around to a professional quality that people would pay for. I think that's pretty awesome and something I could look up to. My lectures were held at Tony's Penthouse apartment overlooking the Bay from the Bay Bridge to AT&T park. Tony is an alumni and his pad was an absolute pussy magnet, hell the guy could just have a damn wooden bench in there and still make a girl wet from the view alone.
My goals were simple - to gain the abilities to meet and attract any woman, cold or warm. Those abilities, in turn I would like to translate into my professional and social life, which include men and senior managers of power. If I could exude confidence to attract perfect 10s in a club that gets hit on all the time, I'm pretty damn sure I could do it with a 50 year old pasty white guy that gets sucked up to for promotions (with different words of course!)
Lectures were cool, drills were hard. Mostly because you have a professional PUA scrutinizing things like me smiling while doing the Walk of Khan. Improv too was difficult also memorizing openers, BT spikes. Usual shit. Now that I'm writing this I'm bored and so are you so onto the fun stuff.
FR Night #1
Tommy, an old instructor, was having a birthday in Los Gatos. Mike, Tony and I met up at his apartment and we met some other Alumni there as well. Tommy was an interesting guy, the type you could cut in two and they both could still rock the Playboy Mansion. The bar was filled a lot of women outside of my usual Asian spectrum, mostly white, and latinas. There was maybe at most like 5 asian women. Outside of my comfort zone with women I knew I'd never see again. Perfect for practicing.
AA flared up as usual. Then I realized I dropped over a grand on this whole thing so at that point I really woke up.I started by kino turning a woman and STEPPING INTO the sets to Toast to the niners, beautiful women (yes I said that) or whatever came up in my head. Women responded with my energy, I would proceed to exchange names and ask what brings them in tonight. Birthday, company party, cougar's night out shit like that. Based on what they said I would improv and banter into the conversation some more.
One of the sets I opened via kino turn, they were there for a birthday. The girl I wanted as my target grabbed the Birthday Girl. Birthday girl thought I was her Boss or something and that I should give her other friend over there a raise. I told her bring her to me so she grabbed her and I asked why she deserved a raise. A pretty cute Filipina Girl. At this point I had perhaps 4 girls in the set listening in and I realized I needed to isolate target or else the set would be fucked. Target eventually wanders off. BG said FG is hardworking, always on time and blah blah. FG was perhaps was a bit shy, but I had a feeling she was into me because she was standing to me full frontal, chest out, big ass smile on the face. For some reason she wasn't hitting MY attraction switches, perhaps because it was going to be too much of the same for me. In my past, I've predominately dated Filipinas and I wanted to break away from that. I said nice to meet you, I'll visit your table later.
Some sets were so so, got the cold shoulder A LOT. One two set of latinas were tapping on their cell phones for most of the time I was there. I decided to use a situational and said "Don't be boring! get off your phones and get on the dance floor!" They chuckled, exchanged names and went right back to tapping. Fuckin ey dude.
Stepping aside from the FR for a moment, I hope some of you remember a comedian David Attel and his show "Insomniac" that was on comedy central in the early 2000s. He would go out at night to bars or whatever and document his encounters with people he meets, women he hit on and shit like that. Recently in an interview when asked if he would bring the show back, he said he wasn't interested in doing so. One of the reasons was that the social dynamics of nightlife has changed dramatically. Back before cell phones could text and access the internet, people really did go out to have a good time with whoever was there and who they went with. Much more receptive to social encounters. Now when people go to a bar or club, you very easily could see some tapping away on their phones texting with friends, checking in on yelp or updating their twitter/facebook about how the place sucks, no hot girls or guys or whatever. They become so connected with the outside world that they ignore the potential of the place they are in, become too lazy to contribute and complain about it.
These two latinas were those type of people - just boring. Yes they blew me out, but that's not the point. Some women are just boring and not worth your time. Move on and find someone exciting.
Back to the FR. In Mike's personal successes with hot women and his professional experience in helping clients men chase the women of their dreams, he came to the conclusion that I was attracted to whales that wear red. He picked out a fattie out with a red coat and told me to go hit on her. Whatever it's just practice. Went in with the Ken and barbie, but i modified it a bit because I needed to use mike as an example and his fashion didn't really look like something ken would wear. Went something like this:
me: Why do girlfriends always change the way their boyfriends dress?
whale: some women like it when their men look presentable
me: I know right! (high five) well my buddy has been dating this girl, guess what her name is...barbie. They've been going out for two weeks and she already feels like she has the right the change the way he dresses. There he is over by the ATMs, he's the one that looks like a Pickup Artist. What do you think?
Whale: he looks like a slob.
Her response made me genuinely laugh. So funny at the moment. At this point the boyfriend stepped in. I didn't know any AMOGing tactics. So I said nice to meet you then ejected.
Went around for a bit, a few nice to meet yous, i'm here with my BF shit like that. When I finished my circle next to the bar and saw the fattie with the red coat now chatting with two more seemingly attractive women. I decided to reboot with her in front of her friends with a classic asshole tactic of mine that I love:
Me: So I told my friend over there what you said and I hate to say this but he feels quite insulted.
Whale: I don't care...
Hottie #1: OMG Whale what did you say?!
Me: She said that my friend over there dresses like a slob.
Hottie #1: Whale, why would you say that?
Me: You know he's a real nice guy that just got into a controlling relationship. Wants to make him change the way he dresses. Anyway what's your name?
Hottie #1 was Courtney and Hottie #2 was Suzy. I think. Some banter ensues, company after party, shit like that. Tony steps in
Tony: HEEEY PHIIIL You need anything from the bar?
Phil: No man i'm good, anyway this is Courtney, Suzy and Whale. (I ignored whale's BF, never met him and just saw his arm around whale)
At this point I was trying to decide who was more interesting, suzy or courtney. I didn't know there was a wingman language that the order in which you introduce the set, is the priority your have in distinguishing your target. Tony took up suzy, whale went back to chatting with her BF which left me with courtney.
Me: Courtney your necklace makes you look drop dead gorgeous.
Courtney: Aww, thank you! Do you wanna go dance?
So I took her dancing. I tried to grind her but she wasn't having any of it. OK fine, some girls don't like it. Good thing I had a backup. One thing I like to do is in the heat of a hip hop mix or whatever, take her hand, hold her close with the other and start aggressive ballroom dancing. Women would laugh and go along with it. They think it's fun and unconventional. It's a good alternative to grinding and you still get that Kino. In my experience they tend to go along with it and think its fun. We decide to go get a drink. I preferred a shot so we get that. We chatted for a bit, told me she was heading to SF for Santacon and that I should join her. I took her number down and told her I'd give her a ring if I'm free (I knew I wasn't going to be but dammit I wanted a number close). Suzy comes in and they both head to the dance floor. I head back to my set, feeling accomplished.
This all happened before midnight I would say. Mike would coerce me to approach sets. Most sets My AA flared up for a bit, I manned up then went for it. Others, the time for opportunity would close because of my AA. Fortunately my AA was manageable. I did manage to go back to the table of the Birthday Girl set from earlier for a reboot. At this point there were some men there. I chatted up the filipina one last time just in case I could find something about her that tickled my interest. Nope.
Tony was SO PROUD of himself for getting a number of one of the handful of asians in there. Good for you Tony, Good for you!
Some other alumnis were down to pitch in for bottle service which I thought was fantastic. No way in hell was i gonna get a table by myself. Met ben, eric, julius bryan and one or two others i can't remember off the top of my head (If you guys are reading this and I forgot your name, remind me the next time we hang and you get a 151 shot on me. No you can't have tequila or vodka, i'm getting you 151, end of story. Man up.) We ended up @ Club Roe which was right across the street from where my ex girlfriend worked. Our excuse for Table Service was that it was Mike's birthday.
This venue was more difficult. Only half of club roe was opened; the other half was rented out to some formal party or something. As a result the crowd was much more compacted and the dance floor was 75% of the club. Inside was dead for sometime so I went out for a quick smoke break. Met a set outside in line, told them it was friend's bday, you should come to our table to say hello. They said sure. Mike texted me to go back in so I did.
I'm pretty sure our gang hit every possible set in there at least twice. Eventually someone brought a 2 set back to the table, I winged in for a bit. Gal's name was Simone, a cute Korean. I kicked it off with some banter, tried to do a compliance test or two but nothing hung. Over my shoulder I saw the two set I approached outside. Left the table (big mistake) to reboot. Turns out they were there with some dudes. I had no wing and didn't want to deal with the possibility of the guys following us to the table. Nice to meet you then ejected.
Wandered around for a bit, AA kicks in then goes away. opened a two set of a white/latina chick and a black chick were down to come to the table but they made it clear from the get go that they only wanted a shot. I told them you have to impress birthday boy.
"Na Sorry!" Fuck em
Tony opened a three set of asians, I winged in for him asking if he needed something from the bar. The three set closed themselves off when I did this. We got blown out. Eventually Mike picked them up and brought them in for us. There was Monica, Cindy and Latina Girl. Mike was talking to Latina Girl, Ben chatted up Cindy and I was chatting with Monica. Monica and I kicked off quite well in my opinion. The craziest thing she ever done was get really hammered and go to a "dirty" strip club or something like that and I talked about fucking in a movie theater when the movie was playing. It was kind of cool; we were talking about types of strippers and comparing "erotic dancers" and "pole dancers" (big difference, go to enough and you'll see what I mean). I told her a DHV story about how I coerced my ex to study pole dancing instead of erotic because very few strippers can genuinely pole dance and the last I heard is that she has so much money thrown at her, they needed to call the janitor in to sweep up all the bills. We laughed and had some light Kino.
This was an interesting exchange with her I'd like to document here. It was hilarious:
Monica: So why isn't the birthday boy drinking?
Me: It's a religious thing, he doesn't party all too much
Monica: So why did you get bottle service?
Me: Because it's the only way we could get him to hang out with us. So anyway...
Ben wasn't faring too well and out of the corner my eye I saw Cindy was leaning across the table away from Ben either to hear what we were talking about or show her disinterest. I don't know what happened over there but when I got into asking how they met and monica noticed that Cindy was bored. Monica motioned for Cindy to sit next to me (which would've been awesome!) or sit next to her. Cindy declined both opportunities so monica asked her if she wanted to dance. Set leaves and they pull Latina girl out of the frame in mid sentence.
Goddammit Phil you just had to ask about the other girls. Girl coding got the best of this one. Not even 15 seconds after they left, Tony vultures over to me asking if its cool if he rebooted Monica. I tell him to go ahead.
The set opportunities were dwindling. The guys seem discouraged at this point and Mike even later admitted it was a brutal environment. The gang hit almost every set in the room at least twice. Nobody was producing. Everyone seemed to agree it wasn't a target rich environment and to not be discouraged if nothing happens tonight.
Fuck that. I invested MY money, time and energy into this weekend and like hell I wasn't going to let this night past me with nothing to show for it. I work in banking, which is essentially sales, and I have days like this almost everyday. But I can't hide behind excuses, either I produce or I'm out. I was DETERMINED to make something happen, I just had to be more aggressive.
When Mike was talking to me, I told him i'd be right back. A set, or a target rather that I've been subconsciously watching at their table across the room the whole night finally gave me an opportunity. The friends went off to dance leaving this tall, hot caucasian chick with multi colored hair by herself. She was I went for it.
Me:Hey I noticed your beautiful hair from across the room and I just had to come over to meet you. My name is Phil. (handshake)
Her: Aww Thank you! I do it myself...my name is Dominica
I noticed that she did NOT let my hand go and instead pulled me down to sit with her. It doesn't get more obvious than that, I was in. I needed to pull her to my table to seek compliance but moreso I didn't want to get blamed if a jacket, purse or something was missing.
ME: What brings you in tonight
her: birthday. That's her over there
me: Oh, same here! It's my friend's birthday over there, you should come over and say hello. And plus it looks like your champagne bottle is empty so there's nothing for me to drink.
I took her hand, let her ACROSS the room with a big ass grin on my face. Brutal target environment my ass, I got the tallest girl here! I introduce her to Mike and the gang. They eventually leave, Mike standing there behind her to coach me.
Me: So what do you do when you're not flirting with guys?
Dom: I grow pot
I wanted to wife her at that moment. It's sort of like finding a girl that's into video games, sports or import racing.We banter back and forth about weed and told her about my vaporizor that she ought to check out sometime. I remember Mike telling me to do a BT spike at least once tonight so I got her with the cow handshake.
Me: What's the craziest thing you've ever done?
Dom: I had a fourway
Me: Let me guess, three guys and yourself?
Dom: Nope, three girls and one guy
Oh shit. She proceeded to tell me the story. I'd type it but I'm lazy and you could probably get a good idea from watching porn.
Me: Well the craziest thing I ever did was fuck behind a movie screen while the movie was playing. I had to cover my ex's mouth during the quiet parts of the movie. I timed my cumming during an explosion. When we left, she found out she left her panties there and had to go back. The whole time, I was sure the crowd was watching us. Crazy huh?
Dom: (Laughs) OMG yea.
Me: I really love your earings, hell your entire outfit actually looks fashionable. It's quite different than the other girls here that decided to wear the skankiest dress they have
Dom: Aw thank you, I was going to dress up in a dress tonight but blah blah blah. And you..
Me: What about me?
Dom: You have this...aura about you.
Fuck yea, Now to pull the trigger
Me: so if you were in a fourway you must be a good kisser.
Dom: HAHAHA well I am Italian so I must be.
Me: Scale of 1-10
Dom: I don't know, maybe 8?
Me: I think we oughta find out.
Kiss test on the cheeks, then i motion her for the lips. Hesitates for a second, then goes in. More like a Peck but dammit Mission Accomplished!
Me: Meh, you're ok
Dom chuckles. Now that I think about it, I should've escalated and said something like "What was that, you said you were Italian! Come here and try again!" Dammit oh well. I got her number and she took me by the hand back to her table to introduce me to her friends. All but one was pleased to meet me, this tall blonde bitch that gave me an evil stare down. I should've said something along the lines "Y U MAD BRO?!" Her arms were crossed I introduced myself, she said her name was misty. Dom says they were about to leave, so I hug her good bye (should've kissed I know I know) then successfully eject because I didn't want to deal with angry blonde bitch.
I go back to the table, the gang comes back too. All of them try to high five me, but I decline and tell them not to. I didn't do it to be a rude asshole or something but I learned a lesson back in college that if a target's set or worse, the target see that, it destroys everything you did. Also destroys any other potential sets that see it. Think about it as a woman - you shared an intimate part of yourself with a guy and he turns around and high fives his crew. Did he just do that to really get to know who i am or to impress his crew? A nod of approval is fine. So guys...DON'T HIGH FIVE YOUR BUDDIES WHEN THEY SUCCESSFULLY SARGE.
Near the end of the night, Mike makes me blitzkrieg open whoever was left in the club. All blowouts but that's fine i still felt like I made it happen.
During debrief Mike told me I could've kissed Dom sooner. I swear to God even as I type this the interaction took only 10-15 minutes but he states it took at least a half hour. Perhaps I was too caught up in the moment to care about time. But damn what a great woman to meet - a bisexual pothead that actually has an independent sense of fashion. That night I was reeling that I made the touchdown pass when everyone in the gang says it most likely wouldn't happen and in the process met someone fantastic that I'd love to follow up with.
At this point the mental exhaustion kicked in. I almost wanted to cancel the day game because the exhaustion was a lot to handle and I had to take care of a few side things. Day game is a hellova lot harder than I thought it would've been.
Sets were sparse outdoors because of the cold so we mostly stayed in the mall. The ones I did approach I usually opened with Direct Openers. Threw in some situational. I'll write about two notable examples.
One was this Asian gal that was standing near the banister by herself. She was standing looking at this chandelier made of Christmas lights so I opened with "Wouldn't it be crazy if this thing turned into a spider and did something something (I forgot). She laughed, exchanged names and stories. She was shy, wouldn't talk much. Perhaps she was, as Mike put it, "Socially retarded." After talking with her, I decided I had zero interest in her. Eject.
The next one was this cute Polish gal named Agnes. Dammit I'm kicking myself in the head thinking about this one. She was tapping away on her phone.
Me: Playing Angry Birds on the phone in this freezing weather must be difficult.
Agnes: I'm not playing Angry Birds haha. I'm texting
Me: Well you were absolutely adorable and I had to meet you
We exchange names and I jump into what brings you out here and blah blah. She said she moved to SF from the East Coast, which she moved to from Poland. Only been in SF for 6 months.
Me: It must be hard meeting new people in a big city like this
Agnes: I admit it's been difficult
Me: Hell, I've lived here my whole life and a big city can be intimidating to meet new people.
Some more banter. The whole time we maintained strong eye contact and we both we smiling.
Me: Well I'm on my way to grab a cup of coffee, you should join me
Agnes: But I'm very busy today, I'm sorry
Phil: Aww that's too bad, well it was nice to meet you today and good luck!
Agnes: Haha Ok
As I walk and leave, literally two steps out, she turns around and faces me as I walk off.
Agnes: And it was nice meeting you too!
She smiles as I walk off.
It didn't occur to me her body language was reacting accordingly with mine, perhaps an IOI. Dammit! Should've settled for a number close! Fuck.
We continued on doing day sets, Mike wanted me to do it in H&M in the mall. All women's store. When I go into an All women's store I usually feel super awkward about it and my AA flared up immensely here. Nothing was coming to fruition so we eject. Same thing in Nordstrom, though I do manage to open maybe 2-3 sets in there.
Damn Day game is hard.
Anyway this whole weekend was money well spent. I've been exposed to a new level of game that is much more direct and above all, faster pace than all the Mystery Method stuff. Most importantly, I've met members from the community that have the same passion as I do. The latter half alone is what makes it worthwhile to join a fraternity of successful men to become the type of man they aspire to be. I will be recommending Mike's workshop to my well-spirited friends and those who are willing to commit to making it happen.
Thank you Mike!