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What's up all,
So, I put my deposit down for the LA bootcamp a couple of weeks ago but hadn't printed out the material until last week. With about 2 months until the bootcamp, I figured I better make maximum use of the next 60+ days to get goin'.
For me, I just got out of a looooong relationship (11years) and I wanted to take the bootcamp for 2 main reasons...to get my social skills back to where it needs to be to attract the type of women I want and because it looks fun as hell!! Like many guys in the community, I want to become a better man in general. I think a big part of my last relationship failed because of a lack of "alpha-ness" as well as other reasons, so I am taking this time in my life to improve every aspect of my life.
So it begins....
Lifestyle:
- I have been focusing on cool hobbies...I used to be in a band in college so I am playing guitar again and listening to music as I have totally fallen off with new music.
- I am currently training for the Tough Mudder endurance race up in NoCAl. I read that Johnny Wolf was also training for it and thought that was awesome!! For all those who don't know, its a 10mile, 22 obstacle, ass kicking, soul crushing race in the mountains. I ran one tough mudder up in big bear in May and the chicks who do this were pretty hot!!! If anyone is interested, hit me up,
- work: I am a financial advisor and I am really focusing on my business now. Had my best year last year, but this year sucked due to my breakup so I am doing everything I can to get my finances together.
Now, the homework...
So, it looks like the whole point of the pre-homework is to get over AA. Love these exercises so much. As much as i am uncomfortable doing them,they are a commitment and I'm just going to knock them out.
This past week, I started easy...just smiling and saying hi to people. I do this at work all day, but was really trying to do it everywhere...Starbucks, grocery store, mall. I am going to focus this upcoming week on making some type of compliment.
Friday Night: Libertine on Sunset
So, it was my cousins birthday and I figured that this would be a great venue to start approaching. We got to the venue around 10 and rolled up with about 20 people. I decided that I wanted to at least do 5 sets...nothing crazy, with the goal of just being social. I decided to use the "cheers!" opener. Unfortunately, everyone I came with were f'd up within 30min of us being there so I went solo sarging for my real outing.
Set 1: 3 set - white girls. Got a good response to the opener and followed up with my name and saying how fun they looked. Bantered a little about where they were from and the venue but stepped out quickly. Shouldve stayed but wanted to keep moving around.
Set 2: - 2 Hispanic girls who looked like they were totally bored. Opened but quickly went no where
Set 3: we had a table and my cousins were getting loud and crazy. I plopped down in the party next to us. Mixed set of guys and girls...about 8 total with some so so looking girls. Just opened with my name and why they were there. One girl complimented me on my clothes. I was bantering with one girl on a sofa then 3 of my drunk cousins sat next to me...here comes the AMOG. The guy in the group gets pissed that we are sitting with his girls. I get a little testy and start mouthing off to him. My cousin pulls me back to our sofas and that was the end of that.
Set 4: I open 2 girls next to me getting drinks. I ask her to order for me and we toast With her group of friends.
Set 5: mixed 2 set. Start chatting up a girl who turns out to know my cousin. . We chatted for about 10 min and I was out.
PROs
- this being my first night out in a while, felt pretty good.
- did what I set out to do.
- started to recognize the profiles at the bar. AFCs, AMOGs,
Deltas
- Between approaches, felt awkward at times without much to do...as my cousins were just drinking, and drinking...I probably needed to be more engaged With them rather than waiting for the next approach and looking around.
- I didn't stay in set long enough in many cases...didn't really know what else to say so I would end it without trying to continue.
- eye contact. I need to work on my body language and looking in people's eyes more.
Well, that concludes my first week...
Next week, 20 smiles and 5 compliments daily...
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