Post subject: Re: 1000 COLD Approach FURY - Inspired by Ben J
Posted: 13 Sep 2012, 14:58
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This is yesterday's. Starting backwards. At church (church girl) Me - Hey, I'm LAPB Her - Hi, I'm Jessica. We go on to talk about how nice everyone is and about how college it's so much different. We found out we went to the same college. We got some cake together and then exchanged phone numbers for coffee later. (I ended up texting her and found out she had a boyfriend)
Goods - I was pretty quiet inside of church, but when we got outside, I began talking to people. This actual set, we had a really nice conversation. I escalated minimally to get a phone number. Bads - I ONLY escalated minimally. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Girl walking out the door. Me - Hey! Her - Yo! Me - I'm LAPB, I think you're really cute. Who are you? Her - I'm Leticia, that's really nice of you. We began talking a bit about her past and mine, but not REALLY deep. When I told her to give me her number, she said she had a boyfreind. I told her it was just coffee and she still said no.
Goods - Good connection, we had a very similar past. Bads - I couldn't get past the boyfriend thing.
______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Girl in the hallway before I walked out of the hallway
Me - Hey! You're really cute. Girl - Thanks! *keeps walking* Me - Wait. ... I want to keep talking. Girl - Sorry, I have a boyfriend and he's waiting for me outside.
Goods - Set was too short. Good part would be that I approached. And that I also told her to wait, but anyone can do that. Bads - I didn't get her to suck my dick in front of her boyfriend. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Girl in Hist. Of Music class behind me. She sits right behind me, so I lean back and tilted my head backwards with a big ass smile on my face. Me - Hey! Her - Yo! Me - You wanna text? Her - Sure! Me - What's your name? Her - Rae Me - Ren? Her - Ren Me - Ren it is. We text for a while
Goods - I knew it would work because it felt completely natural. Like it was exactly what I wanted to do. I knew it was what I wanted to do and and I knew it would work, it was weird. Like one of those "in state" moments or something like that. I can't describe it right now. Bads - I escalated too quickly over text and she stopped texting me. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Asian girl studying business We both had earphones on, so I passed her a note saying "HEY. I think you're adorable, but you're working so I didn't want to disturb you by poking you then saying hi I'm LAPB" We talk for a bit, I find out she's a foreign student who's been here for 1 1/2 years. For that little amount of time, the japanese chick spoke english pretty well. In the end, she said she had to get back to work.
Goods - Interesting way to approach. It was similar to Japan's "love letters" thing I saw in an anime once. Hahah I'm such a dork. Bads - I think I failed to escalate. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ (side note, not an approach) (girl from 3 set the other day, I messaged her over facebook and got her number, then I called to setup a date the next day. Everything went wrong. I told her we'd be getting Jamba. She said okay. Then I told her to call me when she gets out of class so I can pick her up. She said okay, but she was gonna grab something to eat. I told her "okay, but grab me something sweet, too " She asked what should she buy me And I said a chocolate chip cookie... I love those things.
We text back and forth and while she demanded I go to the cafe and sit with her AND her friends, I wanted her to come to me. Then I told her, if she has the cookie, I'll come by. She says "yes" I come by, she doesn't have the cookie. She's sitting on the inside with her guy friend sitting on the outside and the girl friend on the other side of the table - meaning that spot next to her friend was supposed to be for me. I leave.
Everything was completely not what it was supposed to be. This girl all of a sudden decides to just completely change the plans without a single notice. How'd I feel? I felt like it was time to drop her.
I was in the computer lab helping out math students with homework and whatnot. There were other tutors there. But this really cute girl kept wanting me to help her. I thought she was interested in me.... Key word "I thought"
What happened was I tell her I think she's cute, I tell her to give me her number, she declines and rathers me put in my number. I do so and put my number in under "booty call' She's not gonna call me. I know. I was a douche. Because I hadn't even gotten to know her yet and already wanted her number. I then persisted to asking for her number again after about 3 minutes. Which was when the "maybe" turned into a definite "no, fuck off"
Goods - I learned a LOT from this set. First of all - when people are working, don't disturb them to hit on them. That's rude. Also, listen to them, because not listening is rude. Thirdly, don't ask for a girl's number when you know nothing about them - they could be a serial killer. Fourthly, I must learn to calibrate even more depending on each situation. Other good thing - I thought it was hilarious as I walked out of the room. Bads - I completely failed this set and was laughed at by another girl. Oh well?
-905
LAPB outs.
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Post subject: Re: 1000 COLD Approach FURY - Inspired by Ben J
Posted: 17 Sep 2012, 16:48
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Me - Hey! Thanks.. again Her - Oh, you're welcome Me - You're in my Music class. Listen. This test on wednesday, it took me by total surprise. Her - Yeah, me, too. But I learn by teaching myself.
We talk some more about classes. I tell her we should study together and get her number.
Hug & go.
Goods - I've felt a little rusty since it's been like 4 days, but I went anyways. Yes. Fairly good tonality and amounts of kino, etc. Bads - The interaction was too small for anything really bad to happen.
-904
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Post subject: Re: 1000 COLD Approach FURY - Inspired by Ben J
Posted: 18 Sep 2012, 22:23
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2 half assed approaches today. Thought I'd add em anyway.
Oh and 1 decent one.
Girl sitting on bench
I smile huge at her and walk towards her, she looks at me like what the fuck are you smiling for?
Me - Hey. I'm having a great day and thought you look really nice so I came by to say hi. Her - Oh thanks. Me - I'm LAPB *shake* Who are you? Her - I'm Jasmine. Me - Mmh. I've got class right now, what are you up to? Her - Just texting my boy friend. Me - Would you like another one? Her - Haha - no. Me - *imitates it in a stupid voice* Her - Ass hole. Me - Okay, you obviously hate me already. But I've still got love for you. Keep the compliment. I'm going back to class.
Goods - Her hand touch my hand which touched my dick. She indirectly gave me a handjob. Just kidding. Bads - Maybe she saw me walking out of the bathroom and was like "ew, he just grabbed his dick with that hand he shook mine with"
____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Girl on the dance floor at this line dance thing.
Me - Hey! Her - Hey! Me - I've never seen you here - who are you? Her - I'm Alyssa! Who are you? Me - I'm LAPB. You look really young to be here. Her - Yeah! I'm 15. Me - Are you fucking with me right now? *I give her a huge smile and keep dancing* Her - Nope! I'm really 15. Me - Cool. *Begin dancing away*
Goods - Much better than the last girl. High energy even though I was exhausted. Good eye contact, smile, bl, value was kept because I kept dancing while talking to her whereas she stopped once or twice to talk to me. Bads - Jailbait. Who wants some? _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Girl with tattoo (Guess there was more than 2.)
Me - HEY! Her - HEY! Me - *some joke I don't remember about her being a delinquent* We laugh a bit and shit talk each other for fun. With smiles & whatnot. I find out she's been in juvie and rehab and stuff. I tease her some more about us playing basketball and her pulling a knife on me. We walk outside and she see's her friend. I introduce myself right away and begin talking to the friend. Then I go back to the target and get her number. Then start talking to them like as a group.
Afterwards, I gave them both hugs, but a tighter one to the target.
Goods - Again, exhausted, but I had some good energy going on. Topics never seemed to have faded from the back of my head and there were no bad pauses because I was escalating past comfort. I seemed to do well with the grenade friend, especially for not having a wing. Bads - I wasn't escalating past comfort. Very low kino. I didn't compliment her on anything yet... Hm. This might turn into a friend zone if I keep going this way.
-901
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Post subject: Re: 1000 COLD Approach FURY - Inspired by Ben J
Posted: 20 Sep 2012, 18:45
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Wednesday: Lupe Fiaaaaaaaasco! She was sleeping in the Cafe and had english class with a friend of mine. So I saw her get up and leave, so I run to catch up.
Me - Hey! Snoozes! Her - Hey! Hahaha Me - I'm LAPB. Who are you? Her - I'm Lupe. Like Guadalupe. Me - Like Lupe Fiaaaaasco! Hahaha, I'll call you "Snoozes"
Then I walk her towards her class while talking with her about various subjects including jokes and whatnot making her laugh when I needed to. Then. Before we make a turn for her class, I say "Hey, I think you're quite interesting. Are you single?"
Her - Yes, I am. Me - Okay, cool. Give me your phone number & we can set something up. Then we started talking about her schedule. She wants to hang out in the mornings at school, but I decline and say I am not going to wake up that early. Then add a joke about rolling out a sleeping bag and sleeping here. We say we'll do something and I give her a big hug and walk towards my car. I've texted her, but she hasn't texted back. Maybe she doesn't have texting. I'll give her a call tonight.
Goods - It seemed like a really solid number. She has to be into me... or else she would've said she was taken or was disinterested, etc. Bads - Not sure if I was wearing cologne yesterday... Bads.. I didn't just scoop her up and take her to lunch with me, but I think that's kind of inappropriate for the situation.
Today Girl in Spanish Class I talked to her once by making a joke.
Then, outside of class, we were walking out and she was ahead of me, so I called out to her "Elizabeth! What ~~~~~~" We started talking about the subject of Spanish and exchanged phone numbers to study.
I texted her and then set up the date for tomorrow via "Fruits, sweet & swirly, and some espanol. Sounds good?" Then after she agrees, "Cool, meet me at the mall at 1 tomorrow." She asks where and I say "Meet me at the food court." She says "Okay"
I'll do something about that to not be in the friend zone or "study buddy" zone. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Girl in English class. Rather than going on facebook, as I was being bored, I decided to pass a note to the girl behind me. We'd never talked before.
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Post subject: Re: 1000 COLD Approach FURY - Inspired by Ben J
Posted: 24 Sep 2012, 20:29
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So I skipped out on approaching for a couple days to hang out with friends and catch a breath because of how often I go out.
I know. BAD LAPB. I'm coming back indirect with this approach.
We're both sitting at the table. I put my head down, turn towards her, and go "urghh" Yes fellas, that was my opener. "Urghh"
Me - Do you speak Spanish? Her - Yeah, I do. Do you know math? Me - Yep. I took Calculus 2 senior year. 2 + 2 = fish. Hahahahaha. I then took a look at her math. I told her I didn't get it. Her professor sucked. He should get a cat. We then began building comfort by talking about where we came from and whatnot. Then my friend gets there and I introduce the two of them and start talking to her again. After a bit, I tell her I have to go. Me - I have to go now, it was nice meeting you. . . BUT I wanna keep talking to you. What would you prefer? Ice cream or frozen yogurt? Her - *She smiles at my reapproach* Definitely ice cream. Me - Great. What's the best way to contact you? Her - My cell phone I get the number, comment on how she already changed area codes because she used to live in L.A. Text her and setup a date for next Friday and she says she'll "think about it"
I'll call Wednesday and lock it in.
Goods - Completely social - acceptable approach. Good reapproach. The actual mark of approaching seemed to lack dominance on my part and my texting messed up the wordplay compliance I was aiming to achieve. I also get the reference experience of being able to BT spike a girl (make her laugh) without going direct. This is very interesting. Bads - I messed up the wordplay compliance effect I was going for. However, that's amendable. _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Filipino girl at the Language Lab. I'm studying spanish with my friend Jessica, who I'd say is pretty damn hot. We're joking around and being loud when everything's only semi-quiet. In comes this Filipino girl. She sits down. I smile at her and she smiles back.
5 minutes later, I tell my friend to study something and I'll be right back.
Approach Me - Hey! Did you know half your eyebrow is blue? Her - What? No. No way! It is not We're both smiling and know what's going on. We talk and talk and the interaction is great, but she keeps breaking eye contact. I think she's nervous even though she was trying not to show it. Soon I feel like I've been ignoring my study buddy for too long and say I have to get back. 3 minutes later, she ups and leaves. I call her name and wave to her to come back, but she says she has to go.
I wave with more urgency and still she says she has to leave. She smiles and leaves. I turn back around.
Goods: I recognized good signs from an Asian. That hardly ever happens. I had decent social proof with my friend Jessica. Oh, and I learned 18 new words in Spanish. Bads: I should've persisted. She smiled meaning I could've ran out there and got her number and set up a date, but I didn't I just turned my back around.
Good day, fellas. -896
Comments, Pieces of Wisdom, other shit. Greatly appreciated.
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Post subject: Re: 1000 COLD Approach FURY - Inspired by Ben J
Posted: 25 Sep 2012, 13:16
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This is yesterday's. Starting backwards. At church (church girl) Me - Hey, I'm LAPB Her - Hi, I'm Jessica. We go on to talk about how nice everyone is and about how college it's so much different. We found out we went to the same college. We got some cake together and then exchanged phone numbers for coffee later. (I ended up texting her and found out she had a boyfriend) You did well here even for her having a bf, the only thing you can find out is how serious they are and pry for any sort of info that would clue you in on if she isn’t happy in the relationship and be likely to cheat.
Goods - I was pretty quiet inside of church, but when we got outside, I began talking to people. This actual set, we had a really nice conversation. I escalated minimally to get a phone number. Bads - I ONLY escalated minimally. If you escalated further even in knowing that she has a bf, that isn’t the brightest idea and I am pretty sure you know why and understand why you shouldn’t. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Girl walking out the door. Me - Hey! Her - Yo! Me - I'm LAPB, I think you're really cute. Who are you? Her - I'm Leticia, that's really nice of you. We began talking a bit about her past and mine, but not REALLY deep. When I told her to give me her number, she said she had a boyfreind. I told her it was just coffee and she still said no. It seems like you are going for the number way to fast. There is no reason for all of these quick closes as it doesn’t make the interaction more solid when you do it. Play it smooth, build a connection, stay with her for about 10 mins if you can then go for the number. However if you are really pressed for time then give her a justified reason to get her number and grab it.
Goods - Good connection, we had a very similar past. Bads - I couldn't get past the boyfriend thing.
______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Girl in the hallway before I walked out of the hallway
Me - Hey! You're really cute. Girl - Thanks! *keeps walking* Me - Wait. ... I want to keep talking. Girl - Sorry, I have a boyfriend and he's waiting for me outside.
Goods - Set was too short. Good part would be that I approached. And that I also told her to wait, but anyone can do that. Bads - I didn't get her to suck my dick in front of her boyfriend. …Now you are living in some sort of fantasy world, if she isn’t going to stop for you to have a convo, then you can’t escalate, if you can’t escalate then you can’t get her to suck your dick…-_- _____________________________________________________________________ Girl in Hist. Of Music class behind me. She sits right behind me, so I lean back and tilted my head backwards with a big ass smile on my face. Me - Hey! Her - Yo! Me - You wanna text? Her - Sure! Me - What's your name? Her - Rae Me - Ren? Her - Ren Me - Ren it is. We text for a while
Goods - I knew it would work because it felt completely natural. Like it was exactly what I wanted to do. I knew it was what I wanted to do and and I knew it would work, it was weird. Like one of those "in state" moments or something like that. I can't describe it right now. We went through this and you still have a problem with listening…start listening. Second the girl is texting with you because she is interested, stop escalating so fast with these girls, slow down eager beaver. She has no comfort with you, so you can’t get away with pushing the boundaries to fast. Bads - I escalated too quickly over text and she stopped texting me. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Asian girl studying business We both had earphones on, so I passed her a note saying "HEY. I think you're adorable, but you're working so I didn't want to disturb you by poking you then saying hi I'm LAPB" We talk for a bit, I find out she's a foreign student who's been here for 1 1/2 years. For that little amount of time, the japanese chick spoke english pretty well. In the end, she said she had to get back to work. First off I like the creativity, I am going to have to do something like this myself. The only way you would have gotten her to stop what she was doing to continue the conversation would have been by engaging in a conversation that she likes talking about. Everyone hates studying or working on something boring. Goods - Interesting way to approach. It was similar to Japan's "love letters" thing I saw in an anime once. Hahah I'm such a dork. Bads - I think I failed to escalate. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ (side note, not an approach) (girl from 3 set the other day, I messaged her over facebook and got her number, then I called to setup a date the next day. Everything went wrong. I told her we'd be getting Jamba. She said okay. Then I told her to call me when she gets out of class so I can pick her up. She said okay, but she was gonna grab something to eat. I told her "okay, but grab me something sweet, too " She asked what should she buy me And I said a chocolate chip cookie... I love those things.
We text back and forth and while she demanded I go to the cafe and sit with her AND her friends, I wanted her to come to me. Then I told her, if she has the cookie, I'll come by. She says "yes" I come by, she doesn't have the cookie. She's sitting on the inside with her guy friend sitting on the outside and the girl friend on the other side of the table - meaning that spot next to her friend was supposed to be for me. I leave. If she didn’t buy you food then it is no big deal, I personally would have stayed in there for the practice. Second it the fact that she invited you to hang out with her and her friends means she isn’t comfortable enough to be alone with you, so that is your fault for not gaming properly. Everything was completely not what it was supposed to be. This girl all of a sudden decides to just completely change the plans without a single notice. How'd I feel? I felt like it was time to drop her.
I was in the computer lab helping out math students with homework and whatnot. There were other tutors there. But this really cute girl kept wanting me to help her. I thought she was interested in me.... Key word "I thought"
What happened was I tell her I think she's cute, I tell her to give me her number, she declines and rathers me put in my number. I do so and put my number in under "booty call' She's not gonna call me. I know. I was a douche. Because I hadn't even gotten to know her yet and already wanted her number. I then persisted to asking for her number again after about 3 minutes. Which was when the "maybe" turned into a definite "no, fuck off" You pushed way to hard way to fast. Then you didn’t take the hint to slow down and game properly, you just go for it again. Stop the technically sloppy gaming. I can’t give you too much shit for it though because I did that when I was younger.
Goods - I learned a LOT from this set. First of all - when people are working, don't disturb them to hit on them. That's rude. Also, listen to them, because not listening is rude. Thirdly, don't ask for a girl's number when you know nothing about them - they could be a serial killer. Fourthly, I must learn to calibrate even more depending on each situation. Other good thing - I thought it was hilarious as I walked out of the room. Bads - I completely failed this set and was laughed at by another girl. Oh well?
The one last thing I forgot to mention is, if you are going to break up a girls relationship you better keep the girl long term because there is no point to break up a relationship and make another guy learn game that may not need to, just so you can validate your ego. Fuck the girl because you like her personality, she is a cool girl, and she is worth you seducing. Other than that you are just a homewrecker.
-905
LAPB outs.
_________________ “Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless - like water. Now you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup, you put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, you put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow, drip, creep, or crash. Be water, my friend.” -Bruce Lee
Post subject: Re: 1000 COLD Approach FURY - Inspired by Ben J
Posted: 25 Sep 2012, 13:20
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Me - Hey! Thanks.. again Her - Oh, you're welcome Me - You're in my Music class. Listen. This test on wednesday, it took me by total surprise. Her - Yeah, me, too. But I learn by teaching myself.
We talk some more about classes. I tell her we should study together and get her number.
Hug & go.
Goods - I've felt a little rusty since it's been like 4 days, but I went anyways. Yes. Fairly good tonality and amounts of kino, etc. Bads - The interaction was too small for anything really bad to happen. If you are feeling rusty for not gaming, just do drills (Literally drill your pickups as if you are really doing a pickup) -904
_________________ “Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless - like water. Now you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup, you put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, you put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow, drip, creep, or crash. Be water, my friend.” -Bruce Lee
Post subject: Re: 1000 COLD Approach FURY - Inspired by Ben J
Posted: 25 Sep 2012, 13:46
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2 half assed approaches today. Thought I'd add em anyway.
Oh and 1 decent one.
Girl sitting on bench
I smile huge at her and walk towards her, she looks at me like what the fuck are you smiling for?
Me - Hey. I'm having a great day and thought you look really nice so I came by to say hi. I like the way you framed her behavior so she will act nice to you. Her - Oh thanks. Me - I'm LAPB *shake* Who are you? Her - I'm Jasmine. Me - Mmh. I've got class right now, what are you up to? Her - Just texting my boy friend. Me - Would you like another one? Her - Haha - no. Creative line to make her laugh but that wasn’t going to fly with this girl. The line was funny but what the the purpose for doing it and the reaction you expected to get from it. Me - *imitates it in a stupid voice* Her - Ass hole. Me - Okay, you obviously hate me already. But I've still got love for you. Keep the compliment. I'm going back to class.
Goods - Her hand touch my hand which touched my dick. She indirectly gave me a handjob. Just kidding. Bads - Maybe she saw me walking out of the bathroom and was like "ew, he just grabbed his dick with that hand he shook mine with"
____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Girl on the dance floor at this line dance thing.
Me - Hey! Her - Hey! Me - I've never seen you here - who are you? Her - I'm Alyssa! Who are you? Me - I'm LAPB. You look really young to be here. Her - Yeah! I'm 15. Me - Are you fucking with me right now? *I give her a huge smile and keep dancing* Her - Nope! I'm really 15. Me - Cool. *Begin dancing away* Hahaha, that is always the most awkward moment and has happened to me on more than one occasion. Goods - Much better than the last girl. High energy even though I was exhausted. Good eye contact, smile, bl, value was kept because I kept dancing while talking to her whereas she stopped once or twice to talk to me. Bads - Jailbait. Who wants some? _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Girl with tattoo (Guess there was more than 2.)
Me - HEY! Her - HEY! Me - *some joke I don't remember about her being a delinquent* We laugh a bit and shit talk each other for fun. With smiles & whatnot. I find out she's been in juvie and rehab and stuff. I tease her some more about us playing basketball and her pulling a knife on me. We walk outside and she see's her friend. I introduce myself right away and begin talking to the friend. Then I go back to the target and get her number. Then start talking to them like as a group.
Afterwards, I gave them both hugs, but a tighter one to the target.
Goods - Again, exhausted, but I had some good energy going on. Topics never seemed to have faded from the back of my head and there were no bad pauses because I was escalating past comfort. I seemed to do well with the grenade friend, especially for not having a wing. Bads - I wasn't escalating past comfort. Very low kino. I didn't compliment her on anything yet... Hm. This might turn into a friend zone if I keep going this way. Great way to play it solid, it’s funny but you game solidly when you want to but you don’t sometimes and I have never understood the reason. -901
_________________ “Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless - like water. Now you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup, you put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, you put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow, drip, creep, or crash. Be water, my friend.” -Bruce Lee
Post subject: Re: 1000 COLD Approach FURY - Inspired by Ben J
Posted: 25 Sep 2012, 14:27
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Thank you Jay!! I appreciate these comments so much. I'll keep in mind to slow down. So insta-dates are probably the best idea for what you are saying So much wisdom in your critiques. From what I gather, I need to slow down the escalation. Talk for longer before getting phone number. And keep gaming until I can get results consistently. I have dates upcoming. 1 tomorrow. 1-2 next week. And pretty much my days are booked solid. So I try and do as much as I can without killing myself (very easy to do in the desert).
Here's 2 approaches I did today, maybe I'll have more when I come back.
First approach of the day. 4-set. 1 Asian girl 1 white guy 2 mexican guys. I'm sitting across the room and wondering.. "I wonder what would happen if I went over there and approached the girl directly... Hm.. I should try it to see"
"Hey!" She recognizes me! Oh boy. We started talking about that one time we met that she so clearly remembers that I vaguely remember. I listen and respond appropriately. Yes. I listened. Progress, baby, progress.
Then afterwards, I shook with the mexicans and asked if she was dating the white guy. They both went "NO!" Me - Ok, great. Because I'm totally hitting on you right now and it'd be pretty awkward if he was your boyfriend. She goes on and completely denies this guy. Poor guy. We talk for a bit, she doesn't remember her phone number but opts to give me her facebook instead and I give her my number for when she finds her phone, she can text me. I don't really care.
I was just wondering how it'd result in. The white guy congratulated me on my game "well played" and about 10 sets of eyes were on me because I was so loud and sitting on the table because there were no chairs while talking to her. God, I'm an attention whore.
Goods - I recovered from not recognizing her immediately. Completely outcome independent. Had fun and GOOD eye contact (I notice that I was missing a lot of that lately). Bads - I didn't recognize her immediately. Some parts of what she said, I couldn't understand because she had just transferred here last year. _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
So, lately, I've been working on my eye contact by making contact with each girl I walk past and smiling at them. About 95% of them smiled back. I figured, those 95% should be whom I'm approaching. So, I'm walking my way to the cafe at my school and I pass by this cute latina chick. I smile at her and she smiles back. I keep walking, then think "Damn, I should've said something" So I run back and 3/4 the way there, I begin and walking and call out to her Me - Hey! ...You! ...White shirt! ...Blue jeans! Her - Oh, hey Me - *stop walking. shoulders back. Leaned back. smile on my face. etc.* I saw you walking there and thought you had a really cute smile and wanted to stop and say hi. Hey Her - Oh, thank you. Me - I'm LAPB. Who are you? *Shake and I hold her hand for a few seconds before letting go* Her - I'm Jasmine. But I have to go... Me - Okay, give me 30 seconds to make you fall in love with me. She goes "ok" and stands back to see what I'd do.
I simply stand there and stare into her eyes. After about 10 seconds, I make hand and face gestures as if I wanted to say something for the rest of the 30 seconds. Still staring into her eyes as she turns away and turns back (she does it like 3 times) laughing like embarrassed and I'm thinking "I got this chick"
Me - I got nothing. But. You are wearing a white shirt and blue jeans, casual. But your sandals, I really like them. They're sparkly. And your toenails. You painted them yourself. You're dark, but your name is Jazmin, so you're mexican. Her - Yes, yes, yes, and yes. I ask her a few questions and find out she has to go to work. I tell her I wanna keep talking to her. Me - I'm really busy this entire week. When next week are you free? Her - Idk, but not weekends. I work all weekends. Me - Okay.. Wednesday. Her - What time? Me - 5:23. Her - Are you serious? Me - Yes. Her - I have work. Me - Okay, well give me your number and we'll figure something out. Her - Okay sure. *she gives me her number* We hug and I try to kiss her on the cheek cause it was just right there and she pushed off. Me - Get outa here! (I said it in a sweet, joking manner) Ha. I need to push more.. Too much pulling.
Goods - It was completely improvisational. What's really funny is that what I said was so stupid, yet she was still into me. Ha! Bads - Too much pull. I need to push. I've been only positive emotions so far and so I need to give her some negativity for the full range of emotions. In other words, I can't just keep complimenting.
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Post subject: Re: 1000 COLD Approach FURY - Inspired by Ben J
Posted: 25 Sep 2012, 15:43
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Wednesday: Lupe Fiaaaaaaaasco! She was sleeping in the Cafe and had english class with a friend of mine. So I saw her get up and leave, so I run to catch up.
Me - Hey! Snoozes! Her - Hey! Hahaha Me - I'm LAPB. Who are you? Her - I'm Lupe. Like Guadalupe. Me - Like Lupe Fiaaaaasco! Hahaha, I'll call you "Snoozes"
Then I walk her towards her class while talking with her about various subjects including jokes and whatnot making her laugh when I needed to. Then. Before we make a turn for her class, I say "Hey, I think you're quite interesting. Are you single?" NO reason to ask that question, if your game is tight then she’ll make the decision whether she wants to be with you or not.
Her - Yes, I am. Me - Okay, cool. Give me your phone number & we can set something up. If you are going to get the number, you should timebridge her (Set up a date in the near future, basically describe a plan of where you will take her and what you will do). You didn’t really set up a date so if things become flaky then it is because of this mistake. Then we started talking about her schedule. She wants to hang out in the mornings at school, but I decline and say I am not going to wake up that early. Then add a joke about rolling out a sleeping bag and sleeping here. We say we'll do something and I give her a big hug and walk towards my car. I've texted her, but she hasn't texted back. Maybe she doesn't have texting. I'll give her a call tonight.
Goods - It seemed like a really solid number. She has to be into me... or else she would've said she was taken or was disinterested, etc. Bads - Not sure if I was wearing cologne yesterday... Bads.. I didn't just scoop her up and take her to lunch with me, but I think that's kind of inappropriate for the situation. A girl can be really into you and sometimes you will get the benefit of the doubt, however when you don’t play things solidly, even if they may really like you; You didn’t do what needed to be done for them to be comfortable to continue having any sort of an interaction with you.
Today Girl in Spanish Class I talked to her once by making a joke.
Then, outside of class, we were walking out and she was ahead of me, so I called out to her "Elizabeth! What ~~~~~~" We started talking about the subject of Spanish and exchanged phone numbers to study.
I texted her and then set up the date for tomorrow via "Fruits, sweet & swirly, and some espanol. Sounds good?" Then after she agrees, "Cool, meet me at the mall at 1 tomorrow." She asks where and I say "Meet me at the food court." She says "Okay"
I'll do something about that to not be in the friend zone or "study buddy" zone. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Girl in English class. Rather than going on facebook, as I was being bored, I decided to pass a note to the girl behind me. We'd never talked before. I am not sure how many interactions you have had with this girl, but if you would explain that then it would give me an indication to whether you shouldn’t or try fucking this girl.
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