Latino Women

One of the ways I usually measure my success rate with Day2 is by whether the women stay around during parting moments for a goodbye kiss (as explained in movie Hitch). Reading the body language and judging by how successful the date went, I would then go in for the kiss.

The problem with Latino women is that they are accustomed to give men a peck whenever they meet you up and when saying good-bye. I just had a day2 with this Latino today and even though I think it just went so-so, she gave me a peck at the end. It's not a bad thing in this case.... but last week, I had a day2 with a Latino also, and it went really well and I was planning to go for a long kiss but she freaking leaned in fast and give a peck and didn't give me a chance to go for my long kiss.

Any thought on this?

very simple, why wait for the kiss until end of date?

better do it after 1-2 hours on day 2. it can be anywhere, sitting next to each other in the cafe, or while walking in the park or sitting on a bench or wherever....

even if she rejects your first KC try, she will appreciate the effort, repeat it 30min later and so on....

I guess with my ex, she rejected me 3 times before the KC worked, so dont bother about a KC rejection.

My advice to you is: before the end of the date, find a place to sit down close together, either on a park bench or your home couch. Then ask her questions like "when was your first kiss?" or "Do you like chocolate covered strawberry or whipped cream?" or something like that. Examine her body language. If she licks her lips and keep staring you in your eyes, go for the KC.

Cesar, I love latin women... and understand them veeery well. My solution has been to amp up the passion and really show my machoism. This is also because they have a saying that American men (white men? ) are cold. They love passion. At this point I will kiss the left cheek, turn to the right -and somewhere in between that turn to the right put my forefinger and thumb under the chin and lift head back just a little and turn center for the real kiss. I think this subcommunicates to her that this romantic kiss is coming and she complies.

Keep in mind.. especially if they are heavily cultured they also have a huge guilt complex of being perceived as a slut. So, they have been taught to do things in secret. If you are out with her friends.. play little games where you hold hands when and where her friends can't see. Breaking that contact when it would become obvious and then resuming in secret.

Latin women are usually very passionate and expect a man to be a man that knows what he wants. You can win them over by communicating amore de primavera. That your just supposed to know them, that there's something about her, and its a destiny. It works with most women, but you can blatantly lay this on thick and unfocused with Latinas. Some of this is because Latin men in South America tell a women on the first night - first 5 minutes - how much they want to kiss them, baby I love you, I want you to be the mother of my babies... etc... so, while they know that's bullshit something more closer to the truth seems to work real well. Keep in mind you need to have obviously built attraction. I share this knowledge in all confidence that you don't use it just to get laid or on innocent victims. You can play a destiny thread with out promising a ring. But, they really do like ritualistic storybook path.

**NOTE regardless of the above, if a Latin woman decides she likes you... I don't care what stage of the ABC's you are in. She will climb a mountain to catch you.

**Another Latin pick up secret. If someone scratches your palm with their finger while shaking hands it means they want to hook up. Imagine holding a girls hand or shaking it and then using your middle finger or pointer finger to tickle her palm. Learned this one from the Colombianas.

Johnny,
That's some awesome insight..no wonder i f..ked up with so many latin women.


SC

I held back some other details thinking that I should start a thread... but, why procrastinate.

1) Most are Catholic - huge guilt culture and strongly ritualistic...

2) Family oriented - they don't want to shame their family so they do lot of things in secret. If they are FOB or not American there are often more women than men in their home country ( because of war, etc ) and they have to protect their reputation to find a good suitor. The men also in those countries often cheat and have their pick. So it's a supply-demand and a survival thing. They are hard wired to find a loyal suitor. They spend LOT and I mean LOT of time with a large extended family. I've seen a Latin girl spend more time with her family over a month than a White girl for an entire year!

3) Love music and dance - this is strong in their culture. They throw all night rumbas for birthdays, weddings, babies, Quinceanera. What other culture do you know that spends gobs of money on a 15 year old girl? Ritualistic.. maybe?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quincea%C3%B1era

4) They often idolize and dream about playing the traditional female role. They also look for a man to show the traits that support that as a partner. Latina's gossip and talk about love and relationship with their gf's more than any other women I know. They are one of the few women where you can lay it on thick, always hold hands, and say I love you, te amo, mi amor, without it lowering your value. In fact, being cold as they say it lowers your value. You could feel very clingy or suffocated with one... but, if you so choose they make great partners in the long run.

5) Generally as long as they feel that passion I described they will put up with just about anything. Really tough women.

**IMPORTANT FORGOT** They also face prejudices from their friends for dating men outside their culture. I know everyone does, but.. latin men will especially let them have it at the club asking them in Spanish why they are with pale face, etc... The men in that culture are not shy about calling her out and have little consideration for manners in that regard. Where as if I where to do the same in regards to a white girl dating a black guy, etc.. I would be a racist. I'd be afraid someone would call 911 on me.

Anyways.... I could go on and on... keep in mind this applies greatly to Central / South American women. Not as much in the heavily Americanized culture.

Wow!! JOhnny, your replies are so insightful! Thanks!

I have heard that Latin men are very straightforward and hopeless romantics but from what I heard that kind of behavior actually irritate the Latinas... but like you said, probably the traditional FOB Latinas are more likely to buy into the whole dominant male behavior.

Thanks for the tips man, I will def try those next time =)

Glad to be of help. This wouldn't necessarily change your approach to opening them. But, the slightest sign of interest and I personally play my destiny thread - amore de primavera with high passion.