My 12 Weeks Post-Bootcamp Motivation & Missions

As part of ABCS Post BC Challenge, Week 1 Motivator is to hit 10 sets:

Fri nite:

1) Opened a 3 set of girls by asking them situationally about Justice's tie: "yo what do you guys think about his tie? Do you like it a lot, or....do you like a lot?"
Eventually other wing comes in and we all mini isolate into our own conversations. 2 girls are from austrailia visiting the belly dancer that lives here. isolated my own aussie and it was going well enough. Tried pulling them to other side of bar but failed. Eject b/c they werent all that attractive and apparently the belly dancer was not having it.

2) Saw 2 guys clearly hitting on two girls. 1 of the guys clearly already blew himself out, and the other is still gaming his girl. I go in w/ the intent of amogging them just for the hell of it, and go direct on the girl. Kino turn her while they're in the middle of conversation and just i am about to deliver my line, i realize, "ohhhhh shit this chick's face is totally busted up close. fml." I really half ass it, and she can totally tell. She replies, ummm thanks w/ this weird look on her face. The 2 guys immediately try to intro themselves to me, and i respond by going logical on them. This gives the girls an excuse to bounce, and so they leave. sweet, i just amogged myself and these 2 guys. oh well fuck it.

3) Approached a 2 set w/ Justice's great semidirect opener. Immediately the hotter one says she does not know why there are no guys coming up to them, and asks me my name. Sweet, IOI #1. I run thru basic bantering and light comfort. Can't quite see this chick's face that well, but she has a smoking hot toned body because she's a swimmer/lifeguard. Eventually I see Justice eject out of his own 2 set so i call him over and intro him to the girls. Like an awesome wing, he immediately gives me mini iso w/ my chick and takes on the grenade. I run thru standard shit, have her comply 3 times and then tried to get them to sit down, but unfortunately there is no place to sit. Regardless, number closed by inviting her out to rooftop party, and future projected about smoking out and playing a lil wayne/pink floyd mix. Eventually they leave to get drinks.

4) We see this seated area clear out, and i move over to take the seats. However these 3 black chicks beat us to the punch. I open them situationally telling them, 'sharing is caring' and we should share the space. I immediately introduce myself and they are pretty receptive. The one closest to me would be way cuter if she lost a little weight, but she does have massive mammaries so i'm game. she passed the handshake sexual CT so that was awesome. Went thru my standard shit and she is eating that stuff alive. Various IOIs included: initiating kino, complimenting my lips, loving my career/aspirations/travel exp, stating that blacks/asians make the hottest kids, telling me, "yr the kind of guy that is cute, but knows it," laughing at everything i said, blah blah blah. Needless to say she passed all the compliance tests. Unfortunately the 3rd girl in the middle is not being occupied so every once in a while i bring her into conversation. Turns out the 2 friends are visiting my girl in New Jersey, and they are from Maryland originally. She briefly mentions her BF for a bit (huh? that's cool) and then Justice shows up. Eventually they all eject, and the interaction is over. Logistics seemed pretty hard; she was commuting from NJ after all, and they were all traveling together. so. that was fun. in retrospect, i think if i were able to isolate her (dancefloor anyone?) i could have gone for the makeout.

5) saw these 2 girls and go direct on one of them. she's receptive but immediately mentions her boyfriend is getting drinks. cool beans. I eject pretty soon after.


These next sets were approaches done by my wing. They are descriptions of what happened after i go in to wing.

3 girls join us in our seated area while in conversation. One of them opens justice situationally. Eventually I intro myself and BLP so that I'm isolated w/ 1 of the girls, and ready to take on the middle chick if Justice needs help. Nope it's all good, cause that's his target. I run ABC convo, run 3 CTs, and generally occupy my girl. I avoid direct cause i'm not really into her, but she's decently receptive. She suddenly hops up however and tells her friends she needs to go to the bathroom. This gets rid of all the girls and it's just back to justice and i. doh.


Justice opens this intimidating 5 set. After 30 secs i go in, and say hi. turns out they're all au pairs from different countries. I intro myself to 3 of them, and the last one holds me hand for like 15 secs. Awesome, sexual IOI #1. I immediately switch the convo to spanish once i realize she's from mexico and she freaking loves it. I get extra flirty w/ this stunning mexican latina:

me: oh tu nombre es angelica? que linda! (oh yr name is angelica? how cute!)
...
her: i was here for 8 months but i'm going to mexico in 2 weeks.
me: ummm what? thanks for inviting me?? but i see, you totally came out tonight, just so you could meet me finally. right?
her: hahaha okay you can come w/ me to mexico.
me: f that, lets go tomorrow! why are you going back to mexico?
her: haha okay! let's go! i am going back because that's when my visa is done.
me: what??? no, you can't go back just yet!
her: why not?
me: cause we haven't fallen in love yet (credit: tommy wu. fucking love that shit)
her: oh....well we will have to make it up tonight (or something like that)
me: (dumb response i can't remember)

ummmmm hello????? that's a HUGE IOI. yikes. I immediately make mental plans to pounce on that shit, but just as I'm preparing my attack, the absolutely hammered polish girl jumps from justice's mini BLP and jumps right into our convo, while simultaneously grabbing onto me. fuck, this is awkward and I could not get rid of her. she is literally clinging to me and asking me all these questions about myself. eventually i finally blp my way back to the mexican, but the connection/energy between us was lost. I could feel it. and then the drunk chick comes back and i lose the set, as they "have to go to the bathroom w/ her." fml. any suggestions on how to deal w/ drunk chicks guys? the mexicana was definitely something I could have rolled with pretty far. although logistics were pretty shitty; 5 girls coming from long island, 1 DD.

Those were the notable sets of friday night. The next day for the US soccer game I go out w/ friends in the afternoon to watch us blow the game against ghana, while getting simultaneously shitfaced. Fortunately I still have an eye for the cuties and make a couple of approaches. They are as follows:

6) Saw 3 set of girls in the corner. I approach after what was perceived to be eye contact/approach invitation. Nope, just my boozing eyes failing. I approach w/ direct and fumble thru it. Again kids, for the record, gaming and drinking do not mix. Intro myself to friends, plow for a bit about god knows what, and never really hit the hook point. eventually i gotta pee like a MF and peace the fuck out.

7) Saw this indian/hispanic cutie in the corner and approach direct, again fumbling over my words. god damnit i hate drinking and gaming. There are no winners, ever. Basically sister/friend come to save her, i plow a little bit, go nowhere and then leave for more shots. Eventually stumble home w/ the roommate and pass out for 6 hrs, eventually waking up at midnight. cool, too late to go out for sat nite. fml.

7/10 done for the weekend. Maybe if i grow some balls I'll do some day game. unfortunately my AA during the day is ridiculously high for some reason. so that's cool.

hahahaa. First of all, these are my FAVORITE types of sets; where the dudes are obviously complete chodes and the chicks aren't into it. In most cases, I'll position myself behind the guy, make eye-contact with the girl and give here the "Hey, come here!" maneuver (with a big smile). If she's hating the conversation enough, this is enough to get her over and when she's like "Do I know you?" or whatever, you can just say "No, but I can tell you don't know that dude either and he's boring your face off, so I thought I'd help you out" That is a HUGE DHV and she'll be instantly attracted to you simply for demonstrating that you understand her, the way she thinks, and social situations enough to manipulate them like that. Try it out, defintiely.

Also, I can TOTALLY picture you getting to that girl and then hitting the brakes. One of the things that amuses me to no end is going in with a huge pair of balls (that swagger that's liek "Ha-ha i am gonna go hit on this super hot chick because I am a fearless master of men") and then when you get to her, just being like "Oh, fuck: This chick is beat!" and coming to a complete standstill. Most of the time, in that situation, she's like "ugh, this guy is TOTALLY not in my league" and that kind of juxtaposition makes me laugh hilariously. I've done it to so many sets back in the day, hahaha.

Good on you for completing the mission!

Week 2: Pre game routine and stack!

Pre game routine:

Workout/gym
Music!!! This is a big one. Play beats that you really puts in you into a party, sociable state.
Can never go wrong w/ a little Jay-z, pitbull, led zeppelin, and rolling stones, etc

Stack -

A: You guys are way to cute to not come say hi to. I just had to introduce myself. Hi, my name is ________

introduce/shake hands CT
cycle thru backgrounds routine, ethnicities, etc

B: 5 five, playing games, jokes, banter. etc.

isolate asap. hey my feet hurt let's sit down.

C: Learn about her qualities, what makes her tick, her passions, not facts. why she chose do do things/feelings. etc. Share my own DHVs about taking risks/traveling/passions/aspirations, etc. qualify.

D: I think you so fucking/adorable/stunning/etc

topics: first kiss. what did you think love would be like when you were younger. what is yr sexiest quality.

E: Find her logistics, who drove/living where/staying w/ who, etc. number close w/ qualification first. decide to go for SNL/day2

This week's mission is to spend the week looking for three different wings. Your primary source of like-minded, goal driven, wingmen will be ABCs alumni. So here are steps you can take towards finding brothers-in-arms:

1. Get the emails and phone number of all your fellow bootcampers! Email them and give them a text as to your plans.
2. Go to the ABCs of Attraction Forum, post an introduction and look for wingmen in or near your city.
3. Every major city has an online "lair" where they communicate. Google for lairs in your area, register, and interact with your local community.
4. Look for internet MeetUp groups in your city. Sometimes you'll find general get togethers to guys actively looking to go out and meet women.
5. Try FaceBook, MySpace, and other social networking sites!
6. If you're meeting up with someone (whether he's ABCs or not) and they are (significantly) better than you, avoid being a VALUE LEECH! Basically, he's giving you value by being a better wingman and giving you quality (hopefully) advice. In return, you should avoid being a value leech and offer to buy him a drink or lunch.
7. Pay it forward. When you yourself get really good at the Game and achieving measurable success, then help someone else less fortunate than you. Adopt a newbie! But remember, help yourself FIRST before you considering helping anyone else. Like a plane going down, you have to put on YOUR oxygen mask first before your child. Otherwise, you'll both end up in trouble.
8. Throw a wingwoman in the mix for social proof!

#1. DONE.
#2. DONE. NYC bitches!!
#3. DONE. NYC Sarge, baby
#4. DONE. Already part of it
#5. DONE. Too many friends.
#6 DONE.
#7 NOT YET DONE - I am not that great of a PUA. yet.
#8 Nope - have female friends, but none SPECIFICALLY for sarging. we'll see what i can do.

-g

Week 4: Logistics get you laid!

Talk to your wing from Motivator #3 and find out where he and his friends like to go. Stop in to these bars and answer some of these simple questions:

1. Where is it?
2. Where is the parking and how much does it cost?
3. Is there a cover or can you get on a list?
4. Where are the entrances and exits?
5. Where are the comfort couches, dance floors, bars, etc?
6. What nights is this place open?
7. What kind of girls go there?
8. How old are the girls?
9. What kind of music does it play?
10. Who are the promoters & bouncers?

1. UWS
2. no parking garage. parking on the streets
3. no cover. but after certain hours it gets very difficult to get in.
4. entrance is at the bottom of the hotel
5. dance floor/bar near entrance, rooftop area has seating.
6. open fri/sat
7. all over from NYC. not one particular subset, it seems like.
8. mid 20s - 30s.
9. depends on the DJ. hip hop, rock, club, etc
10. not sure. always a different one each night


The next part of this week's mission is to work backwards to plan out how you are going to get the girl back to your place by answering a few simple questions. During the bootcamp, we planned specifically what to do at every step of the interaction but for right now, I just want you to have the basics covered.

Get a piece of paper and write the answers to these questions down:

1. Where are you going to do it?
2. Do you have condoms?
3. Is your apartment clean?
4. Does it smell nice?
5. Do you live with your on your own?
6. What do you have to upsell to your place?
7. Is your apartment a reasonable distance from the venue?
8. If not, can you afford a hotel for the night?

If the answer to any of any of these questions is "no" or "I don't know", then you need to figure out an alternate game plan. It is possible to go back to her place, but at this stage of the game, you shouldn't count on it.

1. my bedroom.
2. yes
3. yes.
4. yes, plus we have air freshners and candles to support it.
5. yes, i live w/ 2 roommates.
6. pictures/wine/rooftop view/music
7. short cab ride away
8. yes.

-g