Trying to get the first official date SITUATION

Hey guys, need some quick advice. What's the best way to ask for the date on the phone after meeting? I usually end up asking for a date and the girl's always seem to flake or squirm around a concrete date time even after great conversation when meeting previously? Why are they so damn inconsistent?

I never call. I text.

Usually it consists of
1. The Bait message
Example: "Sexy dress, great style, perfect shade of lipstick...but enough about how I looked last night, how is Vicky doing today?"
2. 1-3 witty/funny messages for a BT spike (oftentimes including a recollection from our meeting like an inside joke)
3. Asking "When are you free this week?"
4. Then its all about planning.....which I explain here: http://www.abcsofattraction.com/community/post25289.html#p25289

Typically I have everything planned out already before Step 1 to avoid any lag time. It's not smart to make it to Step 3 and realize you have no clue where you're going to take her. Just think several steps ahead.

Hey man, thanks for that. I always thought texting was not good as opposed to direct convo on the phone? anyway, can I give u a little more detail and get your opinion? So I called and asked for a date that same day, she kinda said yes than said no, said she was busy with work and basically flaked around for a bit before asking if I was available in a couple days and so-and so time. I said I would think about it and get back to her. So know I'm confused. Should I still pursue? seems to me like her interest died down. I am thinking of dropping a line in a couple days with an ultimatum of sorts- I want to say if she's still interested we can go out or if she has anyone single friends to refer them my way....would that be cool for me to ask?? what would u do?

You can use phone conversations if you want.

I never use them for scheduling. It's just unnecessary. Plus, all too often, a first call can hurt more than help if ones tonality isn't at its prime.

I save the chatting for in person and I'll tell them that if they complain.

I'd say stop asking questions. TELL her everything. Lead the dynamics of this whole thing. If she rejects, then so be it. Move on.

Tell her when and where to meet you within that window of time she claimed to be open. If possible, make sure it's in the evening.

If you feel she's flakey, acknowledge it and tell her she has your attention and you're interested. If she wishes to continue the same energy and fun chat from when you met, then you two should do exactly that.

You must lead the chat/texting until you get a solid yes or no. Leaving it up in the air implies you're insecure, indecisive or not interested enough to follow through.

I also don't recommend the ultimatum this early. You must improve your planning efforts. Once they are top notch, and you know you've done everything properly, if then she still flakes, let her know it wasn't cool and you expected more consistency/reliability/honesty from a woman of her caliber. Then move on with the ball in her court.

And as for asking for single friends, I wouldn't do that. If that's your objective, then you'll have to befriend the girl, earn her trust, prove your sincerity and demonstrate DHV high enough for her to feel comfortable hooking you up. Girls you don't close aren't going to play match maker for you. They're going to move on.

Thanks man!