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P.S.
I think when the OP wrote the first post he was probably in some state of total euphoria, 'cause it sounded like some pieces I wrote when I was high on life.
P.P.S
Come to think of it, when I wrote my crap it was just for my personal amusement. The fact that the OP posted his on a public board gives me the feeling that he's probably having some issues and is seeking confirmation.
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Hate to disappoint you, buddy, in thinking that I am in some dream world and live a life of delusion.
I am one of those cursed individuals who has people clambering for him all the time. Just today, my assistant looks at me and shakes her head saying that I look tired from everyone always wanting to be with me.
It isn't always fun and it definitely is tiring. My girlfriend is pretty much a copy of me. She has people wanting to be with her all the time. There are people in this world where there isn't enough of that one person to go around.
Privacy and not being noticed is a total luxury. Anyone who is constantly noticed and approached will attest to this.
Why I originally wrote this was for a couple of reasons:
1) I think it is odd that one needs to be taught how to pick up women. Now, I never took boot camp so I am only guessing that what is used to pick up women and what the real person is are completely two different things. Correct me if I am wrong.
Why I think it is strange is because we are who we are. If I am short and physically unnoticeable with an average job. I should expect to be with a nice average woman. I have never seen a short, overweight, balding unemployed guy with a super hot girl. Never say never? Well, I am saying never on this one.
Do you know why I am with my super good looking, tall, natural blonde, intelligent, witty, successful girlfriend? Because I am exactly the same as her (except for the blonde part). We compliment one another. We don't look odd together. It took a hell of a long time for us to find one another. And just as long for each of us to build up trust to be together. We match each other seamlessly.
I talk to her about my (at best) average friends wanting to go out with a girl like her. She looks at me, shakes her head and just says that one should never play out of their league. It just doesn't work in the long run.
I had one of my poor homely friends date this (at best) average girl. He took her on a cruise, bought her dinner, flowers etc. He never even kissed the girl after all this (which was weeks worth of 'dating'). When he finally wanted a little lip locking, she said 'oh, I don't like you in that way. I have a boyfriend. I thought we were just friends.' Really? Going on a cruise and having intimate (expensive) dinners is what a guy and girl do as 'friends'?
He is now in a happy relationship with a girl that is his equal. I thought he was dating his sister that they are so alike.
I have tried dating average girls. Every one of them were either so nervous or so jealous of everyone that it just wasn't worth it.
2) I am a firm believer that you can not love another person until you love yourself first.
I see so many of my friends thinking that they are going to find happiness in another person. This is about as far from the truth as I can think of. If you are terrified of being alone and with yourself then being in a relationship only heightens those insecurities. Remember that if you give someone the 'power' to make you feel happy. That same person can take away your happiness. But if you possess your own happiness and self contentment from the get go, then no one can take that away.
Is it easy to 'find yourself'? Heck no. It is the scariest darkest path you will ever journey down. Force yourself to uncover every hidden insecurity about yourself. You may still have that insecurity but instead of it crippling you, recognizing it can empower you or at least not paralyze you.
3) Again, I have not taken the boot camp so I have no idea what it entails. What I don't understand is why would anyone want to follow a 'method' to picking up girls. To me, this makes picking up girls a 'game' and the girls become a 'commodity' which, imo, devalues them as a nothing more than an end goal.
I have never ever actively tried to pick up women. I have never asked for a phone number and I have never gone home with anyone from a bar or club. Different strokes for different folks? Sure. But I like being around people who are in natural surroundings where they are themselves as much as possible.
I had a friend who desperately wanted to be like me. To be a 'natural' if that is what you want to call it. He started acting like me one day. You know what happened? Not only did every girl that sat around us get up and move away but one guy nearly wanted to punch his lights out because he was so annoying.
I have never considered myself smooth or slick. I don't dress overly nice (peacock I guess would be the pick up artist term).
All I have is me and my personality. Love me or hate me, I don't care.
Yes, people like my girlfriend and I exist. 'Perfect'. We are lucky in so many ways yet also cursed in others.
Don't think 'perfect' didn't come without work or effort. It does require one to desire for self improvement. But that self improvement is for oneself and not for others.
To paraphrase luke and yoda in 'empire strikes back'
Luke: I don't believe it.
Yoda: That is why you fail.
I am such a geek at heart!!!
