chick is coming back to town after a hook up on a holiday

hey all, first post tonight hope you guys can help me out on this one!

from the start,
broke up with my girlfriend about 6 months ago and had rebound sex with a work mate for about a week, started getting complicated so we left it at that and ended up becoming well.. very good friends, she'd come over after work some nights, we would get ridiculously drunk n then fall asleep together in bed but be comfortable and not edging for something to happen, then this started happening sober and I didn't mind, thought it was pretty cool having a chick mate to talk shit with, fall asleep and no strings.

about 1 month ago she left to go and travel for 2 months but found out we would cross paths for 2 days as I was going jungle trekking for surf for 2 weeks in Indonesia. we met up after i found were she was staying, went for dinner, a few drinks, a dance and BOOM! biggest passion i've had in a long time, anyway, left after 2 days and didnt talk for a week, just so happened the swell forecast missed where i was and was hitting back near her so went back, put it this way, didnt do much surfing....

been back home now and haven't seen her for a month, we were texting strong for the first week and a half then things started getting slow on her end. im not one to chase but i did drop a text here and there with no reply and now its doing my head in!! can feel myself liking her abit more than i think i should.

how do i deal with the situation when she comes back as i have no idea where we stand? or do i text? or would that be retarded? balls boys i am officially lost for the first time, also sucks cause close mate! help!

She probably (most likely) only wanted to have casual sex with you.
Anything beyond that emotionally is probably too much for her, she sounds like a free spirited girl who wants to explore and have lots of fun before she settles down.

If she wanted to have an emotional relationship with you, I'm sure she would of escalated it that way after you guy's had sex multiple times. Usually they start getting emotional to you and that's how you know they want more than just sex.

If I was you I would just appreciate the moment for what it was and nothing more, a lot of dudes on these forums unfortunately get nothing. Enjoy casual HOT sex it's fun and it is what it is.

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have to give it to you, you know what your talking about. you pretty must got the kind of chick she is in one swing.
she was affectionate during our week together, eg wanted to hold hands, cuddle when sitting or kiss when she hadn't seen me all day. but thats the problem, she is that kind of spirit that you explained but we did have the emotional side too... am i looking into this way to hard?? she gets back to WA next week and am picking her up (i think, no contact for a while), i just need some help on what way to handle the situation when we see each other... do i wait for her reaction to me or jus kiss her or go for a hug or what? you can see im mad about the girl, its bull, never been like this before thats why i need to chat about it!

cheers

I personally wouldn't pursue it any further than sex. Of course flings can be hot & affectionate but that's all they are flings. I wouldn't get strung up on some girl I'm flinging with, that's just me because I know it leads to no good. You should know better you're in the game to improve your skills, not think about settling down. You can't play game if you're in an exclusive 1-1 relationship.

Mind you she could possibly be flinging with multiple guys and not only yourself. And if she's not she's probably open to the possibility that she may any time in the future.

It's kool like that, I'm sure she won't mind if you were seeing multiple other girls too. If you can get multiple girls like her on the side you will have multiple fuck buddies. That's a good thing, don't think about settling down with her that's so weak.