Vocabulary When Speaking to People

Vocabulary When Speaking to People
During my studies this past summer reading various pickup books I've learned to eliminate the words like, uh, um, and you know from my vocabulary. I read and have learned to not say these things because it makes you sound more clear about what your saying. You sound more certain and confident during your conversations with people. I still do catch myself saying these words sometimes but I've noticed the powerful effects this has on people when your speaking.

I've noticed most people out there use these words quite often when I speak to them. Try to remember this and give it a shot. It will help you trust me. You will also start to pickup on how much other people use these words and you realize how uncertain of themselves they sound.

I'm throwing this out there and hope this helps.

It is true that if you use too many filler sounds (em, ah, etc.) when speaking, the listener might be put off listening to you.

If you can, take up acting, debating or public speaking classes to improve the way you present yourself when speaking to people. A bonus is that there are women looking to improve themselves in these classes.

Techniques like voice projection, vocal variety, breath control and (assertive but not aggressive) eye contact can be learnt. Watch videos of great speakers like Barack Obama, or someone you admire, and copy what they do well if their speaking style suits your own speaking style.