These are my thoughts on grinding with girls, how to do it, and what role it plays in getting laid. If anybody has anything to add or something they disagree with, please share. Here, I will NOT teach you how to dance. I'm not even talking about dancing with a girl in a non-sexual way. I'm only talking about grinding.
If you haven't already, please read JT's article on dancing (
http://theasianplayboy.blogspot.com/200 ... me_17.html) and the forum's previous dance discussion (
main-lounge-f22/dance-floor-game-t5152.html).
THE ROLE OF GRINDINGSince dancing is almost entirely non-verbal, it is also something which is NOT necessary to get laid. Period. So remember that. It's something that can help you if you're comfortable with it, but you totally don't need it.
Also, since grinding is a 2-person event, THE GIRL ALSO HAS TO BE COMFORTABLE WITH GRINDING. If you're dancing with some shy white girl, well sorry she probably can't dance. She has to be able to dance WITH you, not NEXT to you or ON you, but WITH you.
To me, grinding is either B-phase or E-phase stuff. If you're in B-phase, don't spend too much time grinding with her. Do some stuff to make her laugh and HAVE FUN with you. If you spend too much time grinding with her at this time and if she's still compliant, you might get a SNL, but you might not be able to get multiple lays out of it. Eventually, you'll want to pull her from the dance floor and run C-game on her.
If you're in E-phase, then grinding is perfect. You have infinite sexual CTs at hand. The k-close is very, very, very easy here. You guys are isolated. When you're regularly making out and you know you've run enough C-game, use this time to come up with your extraction excuses and sort out your logistics!
HOW TO DO NOT BE BAD AT GRINDINGYou need confidence and dominance first, then experience later. You can generate a LOT of attraction with a girl by grinding with her, but only if you know what you're doing. Chances are, the way you dance is reflective of the rest of your game. The things which you need to be an attractive dancer are the same as what you need to be an attractive man in general. So yes, even in grinding with a girl, you need confidence, dominance, maybe even a little bit of disqualifying when you've begun making out (control the pace of escalation and prevent ASD!) and of course DO NOT BE DESPERATE.
As you get more experience, you'll teach yourself little tricks and moves you can do to spike the girl's BT.
Smile. In my experience, most girls won't make eye contact when dancing with you. However, they definitely notice the lower half of your face. So give them a smile and show them that they're dancing with a cool guy! Lip sync with the song if you know it.
Know music and know THE music. You don't grind if a slow song or a non-club song is on, or else you'll look like a fool. If you know the music, you'll have a lot more fun yourself, you can forecast small fun dance things you can do to the girl, and therefore you can make the girl have more fun too.
When you're trying to kiss her, slow down. I think JT said this in his article, and I think this is VITAL.
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Anyway, these are my thoughts only. There's a lot more I could say, but it'd be hard to communicate it without doing it in person. Please question or comment!
