Finding quality people to hang out with

This is something that comes up often when questions are asked about social circles. I'm closing in on my mid-30's and a lot of the friends I had back in high school or university in the U.S. are still stuck in their "old" ways of thinking and introverted lifestyle. I guess people are used to their tight little uniform cliques and a pecking order has developed. I used to be part of a typical asian clique and it really retards social development. The group still dates the few girls that exist within that social circle since high school. It's ridiculous. If you go outside the boundaries to try and do something that the group thinks is out of character for what they know of you then they try to put you down for it.

Needless to say I haven't hung out with my old crew for 5 years now because of this but I find it harder to associate myself with the level of people that i'd like to. I've also been living overseas for the past 5 years. I met a lot of people in the course of my hobbies such as scuba diving, etc.. but it's difficult to remain in contact with these people for a length of time.

Professionally speaking i'm in a career where I don't meet a lot of different people outside at work as it's partly independent and entrepeneurial.

So what sort of activities can I get involved in to meet a wide range of interesting and good men and women?

With a lot of people in these hobbies you should just enjoy the moment for what it is, I certainly do. I get along with lots of people very well but I know I'll never see them again. The same could be said for hot one night stands, they are after all one night stands I accept that.

Don't even bother with your old social circle anymore. Create your own and be the boss, make events like karaoke nights, board game nights, go see a comedian there are endless amounts of things you can do. Invite lots of pretty girls and be fun person, I can't explain it in any other way.

If you live in a big city taking a boot camp helps, you meet likeminded people who have the same goals as you - that's a start. Sometimes the qualities of guys in boot camps are poor though they never get any better. It's their issue not the instructors or anybody else's. You seem pretty normal though so that's cool.

Or if you live independently, you don't need to do entourage or social circle game. Just go solos sarging and invite girls back to your place. Social circle take's alot of time to manage and friendships must be nurtured. Get a balance between sarging (to improve your skill set) and social circle because it's fun. Pick up is an art and there are really no hard and fast rules only considerations.

Hope that helps bro!

Hang out with people who do the same stuff you do (like scuba diving). It does take a while before you find some people that you click with. http://www.meetup.com is a good resource if it has events where you live in.