I am 24 y/o, Indian guy from Toronto. Been working on my game for 2 years, with significant improvement over that time period. It has and still is currently changing my life. A few months ago I saw JT give a little seminar in toronto, his stuff resonated with my experiences more than most other pick up gurus I have seen, so when I came across the forums thought I would register and share.
I love going out and making connections with women, but I wasn't always like this.
A bit of background, around 2 years ago I had massive social anxiety to the point where asking someone the time would make me physically breathless. Forget about doing anything remotely sexual with a girl. To get a better idea of how bad this was, if any of you have read the 30 day Stylelife challenge, I failed Day 1 multiple times. (I eventually got to about day 9, and then did my own challenge of approaching 100 girls with a very direct opener in the daytime in 20 days)
Today I can scarcely identify with that socially anxious person. My mindset is completely different.
Here are some positive side effects:
- Have approached 1000s girls with direct openers and indirect openers day and night has made my social anxiety disappear.
- Girls are more attracted to me a lot more, even the ones I am not trying to pick up.
- Look better, and know how to dance well.
- I tend to feel genuine kindness and compassion for other people, rather than fear / anger / arrogance as I would before.
Its not always been a smooth journey, here are some stupid things I did:
- Lost a high paying and prestigious job in finance. (I was going through some very big shifts in my internal mindset that must have seemed very unstable and crazy to others)
- Made lewd and awkward advances a girl from my social circle who had once liked me but subsequently lost interest ( I was too scared to do anything about it at the time).
- Hanging out with drug runners in Mexico, nothing too bad happened, but definitely the wrong group of people to chill with.
- Rather than get another job in finance, I spent a year working on building, and trying to convince Venture Capitalists to fund, a tech start up that solved a problem that neither I or my co-founder understood well.
But I definitely learned from the stupid stuff as well, and have absolutely no regrets about undertaking this journey and my life is better for having done it.
In terms of game and pick up, I am currently experimenting with how to recognize when a girl that I have approached is responsive to instant makeouts.
Mind you, starting from such a low base, and having been through the financial toll of various screw ups I explained above, I am still not the most successful pick guy. Though I might have a shot at the most improved.
