dance floor game

This is something that's been holding me back a lot during my whole study abroad trip here in Sydney. I'll keep it short and simple. Right now i've gotten to the point where I have really good social proof when I go out, always have hot girls with me, etc, and the thing is there's often girls that come along with us or girls that i'm kind of acquainted with that I run into at the clubs. 90 percent of the time we all go there and everyone just goes to the dance floor and is there like almost the entire time.

I really want to be able to consistently hook up with these social circle chicks that I'm seeing out but they're basically dancing the whole night and either way it doesn't seem right to be waiting around for them to leave the dance floor. I need to figure out how to work the dance floor, particularly with girls who I'm connected to socially. The thing is I don't let myself get trashed every night i go out so a lot of the times I'm kind of sober, and I pretty much just feel uncomfortable dancing when I'm sober, and these chicks are all just in these big groups/circles of people dancing. I also really think I'm not taking full advantage of my social proof. So I guess it boils down to two situations:

1) what's the best way to hook up with girls who are in YOUR group, and you're all just kind of in a big circle/group dancing on the dance floor?

2) how about girls who aren't with you, but who you may or may not be connected with socially (not sure if it makes much of a difference)?

Since every party I've been to with the whole international crowd has ended up at a dance club, I feel like learning how to work the dance floor is basically crucial.

I have said it before and I will repeat it:

There's no such thing as "dance floor game"!

If you want to get laid, you game them! ABCDEF!
Dancing is just BT and there is other ways to BT.

Okay, I have a couple things to say about this. As usual, I shall start philosophically, then I shall get to the NITTY GRITTY!

First, you are very clearly lacking in Dominance (check it: http://www.abcsofattraction.com/blog/wh ... isqualify/). You're being dragged from club to club by these people that are doing things that you feel uncomfortable doing. I'm not saying to put your fist down and demand that you don't go to the club at all, but what I am saying is that this lack of dominance is reflected in your position (now) trying to figure out how to adapt YOUR behavior to the situations that THEY are putting you in. Think about that one!

Second, let's talk about the function of the dance floor: Chicks love dancing because it's a fun way to expel energy and it pumps up their BT. Coincidentally, it's really fun for guys, too, but we get so caught up in being "uncomfortable" that we don't do it. I hereby give you permission to lose yourself in the music, to go out to the dancefloor and not give a fuck what anyone things of you, and to enjoy dancing for the sake of dancing. Provided you don't hit anyone in the head or knock over any drinks, this is going to a) make you feel great and b) women are going to think you are awesome because you DONT GIVE A FUCK. You're there, dancing for the sake of dancing, and living life for the sake of having fun!

Now, we all know women would love to take a break from dancing to hang out with the right guy, so go out, let yourself go, dance for a minute with a girl, pump up her BT and then say "wow, that's crazy, let's get a drink" and use that DOMINANCE (right??) to bring her to the bar!

Some specifics: Start dancing. Have fun. Smile a lot. Dance with your friends and make a big scene. You'll be pumping up everyone's BT, even the guys and ESPECIALLY your own (I have included a picture of me being an idiot on the dancefloor because I can't dance to save my life)

Everyone on the dancefloor will see you not caring and envy you (because they all feel just as uncomfortable as you do), they will then become more attracted to you. Try to engage them with a big smile and a quick dance. Sort-of dance AT them, not with them. When you try to dance WITH a girl, she can reject you, but if you're just sort of dancing at a girl, giving value, she can choose to engage or roll off. Make sense?

Once you've got her all pumped up from dancing (the more outrageous, the better), you can bring her to the bar for a drink or a sit-down or a whatever


Now, the disclaimer: I don't like dancefloor game. Go be social and talk to people, it's more fun and more interesting. If you're with girls that are doing nothing but dancing, they might not be the ones for you, anyway, since once you're with them, they're still gonna want to dance.

Either way, good luck!

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The Importance of Dance Game

I wanted to throw in a quick blurb of the importance of Dance Game.

First of all, dance game is a huge demonstration of value and sexuality. It really sets you apart from the circle of lamers. You don't even have to be really good, just good enough to make the GIRL look good dancing with you.

I myself only know a few moves, but I can mix it up a lot and match it with what the girl is doing and it actually looks like I know what I'm doing. The only ones who can tell that I'm only using basic movements are the guys and girls that are actually any good.

Secondly, it's a great opportunity to isolate and physically escalate. You don't want to stay in high energy mode too long. Once you feel like escalating, SLOW HER DOWN. Then take her hands, place them on your shoulders (having her hands locked behind your neck), and SLOW DANCE. Fuck the high energy music, you're creating a very intimate, dominant frame where it's US versus THEM. Great time to kino and kiss.

Finally, it's just good for you physically and your body language. Especially with hip hop dancing, which requires both upper AND lower body movement. You need muscles in your torso, arms, and legs in order to do a few moves like "popping" and it gives you a more finely controlled, toned, yet relaxed body language beyond just dancing.

Basically, you can use dancing to open up girls on the dance floor (I don't use that method myself) as well as pulling girls to the dance floor and then upping the physicality.

Another method to open with dance, which sometimes I'll use, is when girls are off the dance floor and kind of just bebopping to the music, not fully dancing but feeling the dance energy and sexuality. As I'm walking by, I'll kind of be nodding my head (while I'm smiling of course) and make a motion with my hands (and thusly my upper body) that's in tune with the beat. Usually the girls will then assume that I can dance, smile at me, and comment. Roll from there.

thanks everyone for the great tips.... awesome advice as usual.

Gareth.. good shit, but just a couple questions on what you said. When you mean dance at a girl, do you mean to get in front of her and dance while facing her as opposed to trying to grind up on her? also how long do you think one should keep up the outrageous dancing before trying to get her to sit down with you?

similar question for APB... you mentioned slowing her down before putting her hands on your neck and doing the slow dancing thing. what exactly do you mean by slowing her down, and at roughly what point would you actually do this?

thanks guys. probably going out tonight so definitely will try some of this.

This, is dancefloor game:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ruKBoPr4zns

Yes, don't dance WITH her. Grinding on her is pretty obviously dancing with her.

Don't think about times. There is never a specific length of time to dance with a girl. Just enjoy yourself and you will learn more from being immersed in the situation than you will from gauging particular amounts of time.

Go try it out and good luck!

TheCoolAsianGeek,

nice video...but hate to burst your bubble..80% of the time..those guys who are dancing are going home with BLUE BALLS.


SC

Yea of course, but if done right, great for social proof and tacky makeouts. Belt Limbo ftw.

edit: The above sentence makes me sound like I know what I'm doing, which I mostly don't. But I have seen first hand from people from my lair that dancefloor game can work.

I don’t have much dance floor game since I’m an old guy but I did use some of it in a recent rare nightclub outing my singles mixer had. I don’t like any of the girls in our local internet singles club but I went along anyways to game girls outside of the internet mixer and specifically game girls in the actual night club instead.

I managed to hook a White HB but I danced with 4 White girls from the internet mixer club instead of dancing with HB. I think it activated the pre-selection switch in the eyes of the HB since it shows I am “approved” by girls of her similar ethnicity. It helped in jealously plot line too and the girls in the group and HB kind of started competing for me. I ended up number closing HB and she did not flake.

The reason I avoid the dance floor is because I saw a educational show with Desmond Morris about sexual attraction and it was saying that society invented dance as a socially acceptable “outlet” for our sexual energy. In other words --- if it weren’t for dancing to blow off some steam --- we would be having intercourse!

Does anyone know what show I’m thinking of and confirm??