Be happy that you (Asian guys) are attractive to Asian girls

Okay,

I decided to run my own little subjective experiment.

I decided to take notice on what 'ethnicity' of girls give me a once look over and the frequency of such.

I went to an all Asian restaurant. We all know those ones where everything is written in Chinese or whatever and there is not a single white person in there.

So, I walk in, all 6'2" of me. Sit down, order whatever...in Chinese even, and just be myself.

How many Asian girls checked me out? None. Not one. Zero. No matter how subtle their look or glance was. Didn't notice one Asian girl looking or checking me out. Pretty or ugly. Zilch.

So then, I go to an upper middle class area in the same city. Go into a Chinese restaurant where there are white people eating there and all the 'white' girls check me out. Whether they were with guys or not. Every single one of them.

Why this is so? No clue whatsoever.

My guess is that I am either so average for Asian or that my appearance is so far off from being a typical Asian guy that traditional Asian women have no attraction to me. Whereas my appearance is naturally appealing to 'white' women because I (could be) am so unusual.

Whatever the case may be. My advice to all those Asian guys who think being attractive to Asian girls is a curse. Well, it isn't. Enjoy what you have and who you are.

In Asian cultures (especially Japan, WTF is up with tentacles man???), there's a lot of sexual repression. It's just a part of the culture that Asian girls aren't checking you out. In my own experiences with sarging Asian girls, they're a bit socially retarded. If you want to game or even try to be an attractive man to Asian girls, you'll need to build up social proof and a social circle with them. It's just part of the game.

White females are much more socially adapted and have much more social experience. It's WAY easier to cold approach a white girl than an Asian girl. Keep in mind that there's a ton of Asian girls that are attracted to white guys. The whole idea of an Asian woman marrying a white man is "marrying up" into a higher society with more money, affluence, and power. It's the sad truth, but again, survival value...

I don't know your background (hell, I don't know if you're Asian or white!) and I've been reading some of your posts. You seems like you're angry about this and have something to prove. What's wrong man? We're a community here that tries to help, not scorn or put down.

Hey Ben.

Not angry at all about things. Nor do I have anything to prove. On the contrary...I would like to see my brothers stop playing the blame game and feeling victimized by society for being Asian, a nerd or whatever.

Perhaps it is just me. Perhaps I am an anomaly. Perhaps I just never realized that being Asian was such a handicap. After all, the saying that ignorance is bliss must ring some truth.

The real thing that stops guys from meeting girls is themselves. I have 'winged' for my friends but the girls always ending up showing more interest in me than the guy I am winging for. So, now, I am just their designated driver as I am not a fan of getting drunk. And I never try to get a girl buzzed or drunk for her to show interest in me. Why? Because I am cheap and I never buy girls drinks. They always buy me drinks, which is a waste as I don't really drink.

As for Asian girls only mingling within their own social group. I can see that when I am out and about. But for me, a look is a look. Either Asian women are Jedi masters at checking out guys without making it obvious or they just simply do not find me attractive.

As for asians females marrying up when they get hitched with white guy. Well, I don't know about that. Because I have some of the highest degrees in this land hanging on my wall with a kick ass profession...and most Asian girls still don't give a crap about me even when they know who and what I am. Go figure.

As for scorning or putting down. It comes across that way because it is what I call hard truth and tough love. I have never heard true constructive criticism that was also encouraging. If you can't handle hard reality, sugar coating bullshit isn't going to make it taste any better as you chew through life.

Again, in real true relationships, there is no game let alone part of it. If a girl finds you attractive, she will find you attractive. Like Chris rock said, a girl knows within five minutes if she is going to fuck you. So shut up and let her fuck you. Does gaming girls work? I have no idea. I have never 'gamed' a girl. I don't even know how that works let alone what it truly means.

I have said this before. Average will get average. Rich will get gorgeous (for a short time). And awesome will get awesome.

There aren't a whole lot of truly beautiful women out there. Not pretty or gorgeous. Beautiful. They are usually taken by rich guys and or guys that have a complete balanced package (smart, funny, educated, great career, tall, well built). If you lack any of those characteristics, short of being a gazillionaire, then the chances of you being with a beautiful woman is pretty slim. That is hard reality.

But as I have said, average gets average. Average exists because the overwhelming majority of the people are 'average'. Cool. Run with it. I have dated mostly gorgeous to beautiful women. It is the norm for me. It is a combination of winning the genetic lottery and working hard.

So if you are average, work hard at being someone and something. You may be lucky and get above average.

Uhm it's a matter of taste.

Some asian girls are into just asian guys, some asian girls are only into white guys. It has nothing to do with you being white and not being able to nail an asian girl. When you purposely go into an all asian restaurant hoping to find an asian girl to notice you, they'd think you have an "asian fetish."

Anyone labeled as having an "asian fetish" is a big no no. It's weird. Don't be mislabeled into that category

If you want to meet asian girls, then do it indirectly like through a friend etc

Ummmm sorry dude.. If I waited for a chick to check me out before I approached her, I don't think I ever would've gotten laid. Women want a "man". A man who doesn't give a fuck about what society says and will approach them.

Now, I'm not gonna say that I've batted a 1000%. I've been denied a BUNCH of times. Lemme repeat that. A BUNCH of times. I've even been laughed at once.

Now with that being said, I've gone out on a bunch of instadates, had beautiful ex-gfs (one was a model) and NONE of them gave me the initial "look"

Now, if you get that "look" back, nothing wrong with that. But I'm just saying that you create your own opportunities, you don't wait for them.

Good luck man!

Nah,

I don't have any problems with attracting 'white' girls. The overwhelming majority of my 'white' girlfriends have been models. One was 6' tall. Which is almost too tall for me as I am 6'2". Most were Scandinavian as my current girlfriend is right now. Yeah, Whoopdeedoo, she is a model.

I don't bother with my success rate as I never bothered to keep count. But it has been always effortless that a girl is checking me out. It was fine and cool until one is in a serious relationship and one's girlfriend gets jealous thinking that you are flirting with women.

And that is the key. I don't flirt (or knowingly flirt) with women. Women have always picked me up. Women buy me drinks. Women pursue me. Not good looking women. Most are gorgeous and some are beautiful. What qualifies as beautiful to me? Well, my Swedish girlfriend is beautiful. She looks like Olivia Wilde (not so much Megan Fox as I initially thought) but prettier. She isn't an actress. She is a model.

And we both know that we are together because we choose to be together. It's more than just looks for both of us. We know that we could snap our fingers and have pretty much anyone we want. Yeah. We are that sick to the side.