Asian Men & Online Dating

Why do you think online dating is such a struggle for asian men?. If there are stories to the contrary please share. I was wondering because in all indications, online dating is such a potentially convenient and accessible forum to meet women. Most of my white friends have met dates/gfs online, some were quality some were not, but that's the case in the real world too.

My question is- I'm just wondering my there hasn't been more focus on seeing on Asian or non-white men can have success online dating as opposed to just saying- "oh, online sucks, for asians the only avenue is in the real world to show your game". I feel like there is a big potential gap, or mystery, that needs to be solved as to why the online barrier can't be broken (consistently and systematically) in a way for asian men as well. I'm fascinated by this aspect is all....

Because you need to make $247,000 more than a white male in order to get the same level of responses as a white male.

Online dating changes men from the unique individuals they are, to nothing more than a combination of words posted in a small box. It denies you the opportunity to emphasize words with tonality, use body language, BT spikes, CT's, kino, or eye contact, just to name a few.

I've personally asked some of the most intellectual women I've met what their thoughts were on this topic. They still get easily bored with the responses they receive. Some suck, but the truth is this: online "Hello" will always sound the same, whereas in person "Hello" can be spoken and delivered with a HUGE range of different emotions, which helps separate the winners from the losers.

Plus, there's always stupid lists of activities chicks want to do for fun. No guy I know takes women jet skiing, parasailing, or hiking for a first date. If she needs an adventurous date to enjoy your company, then she really just enjoys the adventurous activity, not you.

Online dating (vs. regular dating) is like switching from Blackjack to the Lottery - the odds are suddenly far worse.

Why do something that robs you of multiple chances to market yourself to the fullest by using such a cold, indirect and presumptuous method of communication?

I've been on online dating sites before and I do notice some things you should note:

1) Some women delete your message without even reading it. They basically look at your picture -- make an immediate assessment --- then hit the delete key. Some do not even bother to look at your profile either. They are also so busy with others bothering them online they have to make that split second decision.

2) If you get some to MSN chat with you -- chances are she is simultaneously chatting with a few other guys as well.

3) Like the other poster said -- you can't do BT spikes, DHV live, do BL, banter etc. You are better off (in some cases just doing straight bar pick up). Examples: I have had cases where I sent smiles and/or messages to girls online but got nothing back in return. My city is small compared to something like LA so chances are you can/do meet these women in "singles" events/bars, etc... and I'm pretty sure they do not remember me (or at least have never brought it up). I did the normal pick up stuff and got them hooked --- but then just for a bit of revenge --- I punted them out when they tried closing on me:)

4) Also --- when women enter in their search criteria, race, age, height ect -- you probably will not show up in the search results. You might get better results just to log in and just forgte about it --- that way you show up as being "online" and they can message you if they search for users online now in my city -- and you can capture some interest.