Newbie Thinking about taking BC BUT

AJ,

You're not alone in your problems, a lot of our students are in university and very few of them have extra money laying around to take a bootcamp. One of the reasons why bootcamps are so effective is because you invest so much into it, including your time, emotion, and money, you come willing to get pushed way past your normal comfort limits and you really want to learn and take advantage of the experience.

If the end of 2008 way painful and lonely for you, don't let it happen again in 2009. There is never a good time to do something like a bootcamp, but when you ask previous students they usually say that they wish they had done it even sooner.

However, before you come to the bootcamp YOU MUST MANAGE YOUR APPROACH ANXIETY. Ironically one of the best ways to do this is to put down your deposit on a future bootcamp which forces you to have a timelimit. It is really easy to put off learning how to approach women, months can fly by without trying, even years...think about it, how many years have you gone without manning up and approaching women?

Commit to yourself, and set goals. It will not be easy, it will not be comfortable, and it will never feel like the perfect time. But I guarentee you that if you put it off for another 6 months or a year, you'll end up with tears in your eyes again next holiday season, this time with more since you'll know there was a solution you could have took.

Put down your deposit for the next new york bootcamp, I'll be there in March.
Then FORCE Yourself to manage your AA before then.
I posted a newbie mission that you should follow.
Good luck.

thank you
i will try my best
but now that I am back at my university my AA is even worse than it was before
my biggest sticking point right now is if i approach a girl here, and it does not go well (which will probably happen since i am a beginner) what if I bump into her again? What if she tells her friends?

Dude, I never talked to women throughout college. I did have some female friends, but it took a sexually aggressive fat girl my last year for me to lose my virginitiy. Looking back, I was just as hard on myself as you, but it was a lot easier than I thought it ever was.

I would say the best advice I've seen is to start small. Instead of doing a routine or an opener and worrying about escalating it sexually, start with the simple stuff:

"Does this bus go to xyz street?"
'That's quite a load you're carrying!"
"Are those boots really comfortable, because my friend back home swears by those"
"My phone's dead, do you know what time it is?"
"You're so hot I want to split your legs open and sink you with my pink torpedo"

(that last one was a joke)

The point is, you need to learn to walk before you can run. If you can begin a conversation out of any of those, great. If not, no worries. What can a girl say to her friends, "OMG, that guy asked me for the time! How dare he!" ?

And to don't fall too hard on your humor to try and impress anyone, let alone girls. In fact, I'd say to try and not use it at all at first. In college my social awkwardness led me to studying magic. I became pretty good at it, but it was also my biggest crutch. If any women were impressed with it, they sure as hell weren't impressed with me once my bag of tricks was done. Now, I only reserve my magic skills for kids under the age of 12. Or when I'm really drunk and want to mess with other drunk people.