"Why Are We In The Game?" by The Asian Playboy

"Why Are We In The Game?" by The Asian Playboy

Is it to have as much wild rampant sex as possible? Sure. Is it to be with as many BEAUTIFUL women as God and Government will allow? Sure. Is it also to find that perfect woman, that woman of your dreams, and finally win her over? Hell yeah.

One chap mailed me, basically saying that while he was still new to the Game, he couldn't see himself doing the One Night Stands and was a more relationship oriented person. There's nothing wrong with that, at all.

Because, to me at least, the bottomline of being GOOD at the Game is being able to get whatever woman YOU want. To never have to settle with second best. And of course, if things don't work out, you always have the Game to go out and find someone else you can fall in love with.

See, here's the Catch 22... Ladies like men with Confidence.

But what does that exactly mean? Well, men gain confidence with women by, quite simply, BEING (in both the sexual and nonsexual way) with women.They want someone who's attractive, fun, and sexy... but those are the same guys who are EXPERIENCED with women.

If you're still in the newbie/young phase, you're not going to find your "soulmate" any time soon, no matter what Disney & Hallmark would love to feed you.

So think of it this way... You finally see YOUR perfect 10. She could be anywhere, at the library, the club, or wherever. Every guy there is checking her out and/or hitting on her.

Do you think YOU have the skill level and confidence to win her over when she gets hit on every single fucking day of her life? Do YOU have the confidence to approach her while your heart's hammering away and your stomach is doing lurches? Do you have the ease of conversation and the spontaneity to involve her in a meaningful conversation so that SHE wants to BE with you? Do YOU have what it takes to close the deal with YOUR perfect woman when she has SOOOO many other options out there?

Because, straight up, if there isn't a physical attraction, all you have to rely on is your Verbal Game. And if your Game ain't up to par... the woman of your dreams just walked out of the grocery store...

Being good at the Game means never settling short. It means when you see who and what you want, you can go out there and get it.

Sometimes, ALL YOU HAVE IS A MOMENT. She's the future mother of your child, your future wife and confidante... And you've got all of 60 seconds to approach her and hopefully win her over.

If you can't do that, if you still lock up when you see someone attractive, if you still stutter and have brain farts in conversations with beautiful women... then you still need to learn the Game. Because SOMEDAY, the love of your life is gonna breeze on by and if you've got Game, she sure as hell won't be walking OUT of your life.

THAT'S why we learn and get good at the Game... And if you happen to fuck a plethora of hotties on the way, even better.

Well said brother.

Well said, you need to practice with quantity first before going for quality.

here's a painful example of this:

i've been talking to an fb of my wing over facebook.
she's hardly an fb to him, cuz he really likes her..but he knows she's young and needs to do her thing blablab.

now, my friend is a single good looking guy with his shit together. but he's so fucking picky and wont go out there and just game. i told him, "don't be like me. go out there and fuck a lot of girls, just to get more experience..blablabla", for the reasons jt stated.

yesterday, this chick confides in me, that she wants to break it off with my friend because. and she's real blunt as says, "to be honest, the sex with him is really bad"

ouch ouch ouch!!

so again the moral of the story: fuck a lot of girls.

if i found myself newly single, that's what i would do.
fuck a lot of girls.
they don't have to be hb10s. i'll fuck an hb5 who's fun and has good hygeine.

Excellent words of wisdom. There were times when I saw a gorgeous woman, had nothing to say, and stared. She smiled, walked right by me, and disappeared.

Yup, that is the same message I keep harping on...because it goes against everything society has taught us thus far.

Unfortunately, we are still bludgeoned with the false memes that women generally either seek love/romance and/or money/resources/power.

Whereas, sex is downplayed as a mere formality that women can grudgingly put up with as a chore or do without...

Well, if you want to keep and "control" your woman, DON'T make that same mistake! Fact is, women these days are primarily sex-driven. Remember, these girls have been subscribing to COSMO and watching Sex In The City since you were still flicking boogers at them. So, they have developed some rather high expectations in the bedroom now - and in fact now use sex as a gauge of who their "true love they never got over" is.

Forget about the sappy soulmate BS, it's ALL ABOUT SEX & ORGASMS now.

As I've been saying for the upteenth time, not everyone is in it for sex.

If this community was all about sex, then I will never return to it every again. Actually, I despise the name of the "seduction" community and I pretty much hate most people in this community. I've met a few cool people in this community, but met FAR too many weirdos.

I dont need sex to externally validate myself. I enjoy and ABSOLUTELY love good sex, but guys that use sex to validate themselves, are lame in my eyes.

Here's a list of the 10 most important things in game, written by a big-name PUA, who other than APB, is the only guy I bother reading stuff from.



Read #2. Oh, and is sex even mentioned in it?



Yeah it's a chore, but sex is definitely a compliance test. The ultimate compliance test.

^ AZ, I think you read me wrong.

My statement was not about what PUAs are in it for...but what WOMEN are in it for.

And I can guarantee you that at the top of most of their lists is:
1) TEH BEST SEX I EVER HAD. BEST LOVER I EVER HAD = "THE ONE" I LOVE MOST 4EVAHS! This is why when most obsess over their "true love" or baby daddy, he's often the best lay they ever had.

It's really that simple. All the rest is icing on the cake for them. At least here in the US...vs women in Asia who are still looking more for providers.

Anyhow, I guess we can just agree to disagree on this one...

Not only am I in the States right now, I know a ton of girls all over the country. (Especially the city I'm at, where girls for my displeasure, are too smart and nerdy, sex is def not top of their list) I've been with enough girls + intimately befriended enough to know better. I was born in PA so I still have a ton of friends there, and I regularly talk to them too. Theyve told me some of their sexual fantasies, but I know very well sex isnt top. Ive said this time and time again:

Girls are all emotional creatures. Everybody that is sane enjoys good sex, but I guarantee you that not all girls have sex topping their list.

Pardon me if I'm being a douche, but I'm getting tired of trying to say that the fucking world doesnt revolve around sex. Nor do male-female interactions. God damn, enjoy a nice interaction with a nice beautiful woman and stop trying to assume she needs to get fucked hard. In fact, after this post I'm going to enjoy more beautiful interactions rather than debating why the girl I will meet is obsessed about fucking hard up the ass and pussy.

Sorry to break this to everyone, but we are not in the primitive era, where caveman go out and hunt for food and fuck their women, while women just sit and home and wait to get fucked and cook food.

Generalizations are a fallacy.

I think to redeem our past and not following the late boomer path...

at least I start to do it even though it is quite absurd in AZn community but F*** it

I will not be the nice guy finish last

last but not least to have a better chance for being able to approach or gaming or dating ...those who I think it is impossible....