Best way to break up with a girl?

I'm trying to figure out a peaceful, honest, and direct way to break up with a girl. I have some ideas, but I'm wondering if any of you guys have suggestions. What do you guys do?

Need more detail, especially how long you've been dating, but typically I go with "hey babe, you're perfect, but we're not perfect for each other. Let's be friends. " No matter how much she begs, don't launch into a list of reasons why. Just say you're "not feeling it. "

- SpacePirate

SpacePirate,

I wasn't providing detail because I just wanted to hear what some other people like to do. As I said in my first post, I already had a game plan and didn't feel I needed to share it or have it revised by anybody. I did, however, find your suggestion to be very helpful! Thanks!

Jinjo

Jinjo,

I find that the most simple, sincere, and direct way is the best way. For example, "I don't want to be your boyfriend anymore." She's probably going to want to talk with you for a few hours, a few days, or however long it takes to work through her feelings, but in the end, how you feel is how you feel. Period. The absolute worst thing you could do would be to remain in a relationship that isn't in harmony with what your heart tells you. Another thing that I feel works best for me is to do this in person. Sure, you could break up with a girl over the phone, over txt, over email, or over facebook, but only a coward would do that. A real man is comfortable sharing his feelings in person.

-William

Yes no need to be mean, just be upfront about it, like what the others above have said.

You'll find girls who are really attractive have done that to a lot of guys anyway. I've been dumped plenty usually it's just very cold, 'I don't want to be your girlfriend anymore I don't have feelings for you anymore' - kinda lines.

I didn't used to handle it well in the past, but now I'm cool with it, if she wants to be just friends and not go sexual with me anymore whatever. I wont get mad, The community kinda expects you to have the last laugh or what ever, but for me a break up is a break up. and at the end of the day it don't matter who dumped who. Because I'll go to sleep like nothing happened. XD

My memory is drawing a blank right now, but I recall reading about a system available that includes techniques used to break up in a peaceful way and still remain friends. Nobody likes being a dick to women. And as ABC's teaches, leave her better off than you found her.

I'm still digging around the web, since similar questions were posted in other forums and I've already been searching to answer those.

If anyone finds anything, by all means let me know.

I haven't taken the bullet and bought it yet, but this is the only product I've found so far that is specific to Break Ups: http://www.lovesystems.com/audio/vol-57-bonsai-calabrese-breakups

I'll try Amazon next. There's bound to be plenty of books.

Following up on this thread, is there a good way to reject a girl upfront? Although I find that using the same strategy girls use on guys (which is just one-word answering everything and ignoring) works on some girls, there are a few that are really persistent and I find to be very annoying. Any way I can reject them? I don't care if I look like a dick to her, but I don't want to make a bad impression on the hot girls around me. I've been stalked by a fat Asian girl before in middle school and I've been put off Asian girls forever, so I want to reject them before they hit on me (which they will) without making other girls feel like I'm a jerk.

Rejecting is far easier than breaking up.

In fact, you don't need to be cold.

Be your energetic self. Just say things like

"You're so fun! I totally have a friend who'd go out with you. I'm a great match maker!"

"We really should hang out. You'd make an awesome wing girl. We can go find hot dates for each other."

Making friends with women really helps. Other women see this and think "Wow, he must be cool if those women are enjoying themselves with him".

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