She closed Me?

Interesting.
So I went to this party yesterday, it was boring as shit when I got there. The DJ had bad music the people were just talking to whoever's at their table. From 1 look around, I knew what I must do.

So I went around saying hi to half the people, introducing, shaking hands, giving hugs, by the time I'd gone around to the last person, everyone knew my name. Then I returned to my table with my friends and chilled there. There was 1 maybe 2 girls I'd like to get to know, but I promised myself no cold approaching for a week and to just chill out.

However, being who I am, I couldn't help but to introduce myself, compliment them, and make small talk for at least a minute or two.

Then I started making requests to the DJ, me and a girl friend of mine went to the dance floor (it was empty) and did the Macarena for kicks, joined up halfway by about half the party. We danced for a few more songs and let the rest of the people join in. We'd occasionally pull people out of their comfort zone to dance though.

1 of the girls that I thought was pretty cute, HB8, kept trying to get me to go dance with her. I went a couple times and declined a couple other times. I tried to get her to sit down so I can go into comfort, but we never seem to have time to talk, since whenever we'd both be sitting down, there'd be something either of us would like to do.

Whenever I left, the dance floor seemed to empty itself and whenever I came back in, it'd fill up again. When one of my friends started playing guitar for a song, I'd go up and dance by myself back up. Then I requested him play happy birthday so I can sing. I had an awesome time.

Barely talked to her, yet in the end, before I left. She asked me "Is there any way we can keep in contact"
And in my head, I was like Hey, that's what I say when I pick up girls. So I told her to find me on facebook and left the party.

Things I did well: I chilled out, had fun, 0 routines/games/etc., became the life of the party.
Things I'll improve on: well, this wasn't a cold approach so it won't go in my 1k approaches. but, I'd like to learn Salsa, because I couldn't dance to the Mexican songs.

LAPB out-

Comments/Advice/Etc. appreciated

Hey there,

Saw you texted me about this, good stuff.

You're starting to turn away from being the "funny" guy and start being the "fun" guy. This is good. As much as the funny guy gets girls to laugh and smile, the funny guy simply does not get laid. Who wants to sleep with a clown? No one - The fact that you just chilled out and hung out with your friends is really important. To have friends of the opposite sex is a great way to social proof yourself and to just have a good time with those people. I have my own group of girls that I do not sleep with, nor ever kiss, but we hang out and grab lunch, or go do cool things together like SCUBA dive or surf.

When you're in a social circle setting like this, it's great to just hang out and chill. Don't worry about game, what stupid routine you're going to do next, or how you're going to open girl XYZ. The art of being Cool - as noted by Gareth - is to not try to be cool. It's as simple as that.

On the other hand, to be the most interesting person in the room-
1. Do a bunch of stupid shit
2. Love to talk about yourself

For the next step, I feel like you should concentrate on being a really interesting person and show it in a way that doesn't seem try-hard or "tough as nails." Have fun with it, you've got a whole summer ahead of you to explore and try new things. One of my favorite blogs is LifeHacker. Go try out some of the stuff they have on there and let us know how it goes!

Ben J

Wow nice man, you brought everyone value and "made" the party.

I like how you said "find me on facebook." girls always say that...