1000 COLD Approach FURY - Inspired by Ben J

Awesome man. If you do in fact record all 1000, like Hydro said on the CC forum, you will be the first, ever...

I didn't even record all of my many approaches when I started out. My AA was demolished somewhere along the way. Keep it up sir!

Yep! I will , in fact, record ALL 1,000 approaches.

On to this FR
Haven't approached in the longest time!! Probably a week. Bright side.. 3 dates today.

Background - just finished making out with my make out buddy at the mall. She left, I went to barnes and nobles to chill (connected to the mall)

As I'm walking out of B&N, I spot this girl who I'd rate a 7.5, 8 - 8.5 if she had more body/dressed less casually, but then again it's the mall.

She walked past me and I say to myself... "Did I just let that girl walk past me? .... NOPE"
I turn around and call out to her

"Hey!"
I walk to her and look at her full in the eye and say "I just saw you right now and thought you were freaking adorable, I had to come say hi... I'm LAPB. Who are you?"

We talk for about 2 minutes in the middle of the bookstore, she tried twice to go by saying she's in a rush, she has to go get some book, I ignore and continue talking.

Then I say, "Hey, I'm about to meet a friend in about 15 minutes, so I have some time, let's go get some coffee"
Her - Something + I'm in a rush
Me - Okay, are you a coffee or a tea person?
Her - Okay, tea.
I turned and walked without saying a word, she complied and followed me to the coffee place.
I ask if she's tried this one tea, and I say it's really good. She says no, she hasn't.
I say "Okay, I'll get you that."
I order for both of us, and pay for both of us... she complied so I rewarded.

We sit down and talk comfort talk, future ambitions, passions, etc. I qualify her, but then forgot to disqualify later on in the conversation. As I feel that it's time to go, since I said I had 15 minutes, I bring up ice skating and have her put her number in my phone, she puts in down and I write mine on the receipt and gave it to her.

Talk little more, stood up, hugged and gave her a kiss on the cheek, said good bye. I walked out like a boss.

PS: The girl... is 23. I... am 17. LOL
I was also wearing my 2012 class ring, so I'm not sure if she saw that...

Did well: my FIRST "instant date". Correctly rewarded a compliance test pass. Gave her a kiss on the cheek and went direct without hesitation. It was part of my bootcamp homework to do 30 approaches, but I wasn't even thinking of that, I was just thinking... "Did I really just let that chick walk out?"
Will improve on: Getting into state without help (I used my makeout buddy for help... by making out), remember to disqualify, and find out more about who the chick is rather than what she's trying to be. Oh, and positioning, I couldn't kino from across the table..

Oh, then my friend hit me up to wing him on a double date. A cute girl + her twin since her twin was the driver, my friend needed a wing. 3 dates, 1 day, fuck yeah.

-959

HELLO GRAD NITE! SIX FLAGS

Let me start off by saying... it took me an hour to get into state. SUCKED BALLS. Why'd it take so long? Who knows...
I thought I was already in state, but then felt I lacked... this word.. FUN.
I was such a value seeker, it sucked. Then after I had left my group and started cold approaching, I instantly became fun.


Anywho, onto the sets, I'm gonna go backwards because that's easiest to remember.

6-Set, it was on the shuttle from the park to the parking lot. Ride was say.. about 1-2 minuets at the most.

Started talking to this group that sat behind me with an opener that's irrelevant. Talked with them about how amazing my night and there night was and how my night beat their night's ass. Half way there, I decide to pop mystery's tried & trued question

"how do you guys all know each other?"
Everyone was friends, 1 guy jokingly called my target his bitch...
I pointed to my target and say "you are incredibly cute, but if you're some guy's bitch already.... nhuh"
Then the guy was like "dude, she's all yours, props for saying she's cute blahblahblah some shit"
I tell the girl to spell her name for me
Her friends were all like "damn, smooth, blahblahblah some shit"
Then I tell her to put my number in my phone
Friends "damn, smooth, props, blablabla some shit"
Time to get off... I leave set.
Did well: Well, I was already in state, so I was telling awesome stories, I didn't give a shit, I was direct & funny.
Improve on: Comfort, she texted back with a complying text, but still, 1-2 minute, though it works sometimes, is very high flakage rate
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3-set Dancefloor Game.
1 guy 2 girls. I had just brought my friend's (her name in my phone is Beaner Booty Call) boyfriend out to the dancefloor because he wanted to dance and his girlfriend was to tired to dance.

I grab my target's hand, make eye contact, smile, bring her to me & grind. Her name? Who knows? Gave her a peck on the lips for a good dance after the song and proceeded to show my friend how to do dancefloor game. He couldn't do it.
He eventually revealed that he didn't have my confidence. His girlfriend revealed to me, after I demonstrated the proper technique on her, that he couldn't dance either.
I could probably fuck his girl.

Did well: showed high value by teaching another guy, completely confident about dancing with that girl.
Will improve on: getting to comfort... again...
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Blow out sets. 5 of them.
Hey! You! Dance. 1 shake head no , 1 verbally no, 1 verbally no and move away.

Then, grabbed girl's hand, moved towards me. 1 shake head no, 1 resisted.

This happened before I showed my friend's boyfriend how to get a girl to dance with you. So, I had no previous success to inflate my ego.

Did well: Unreactive-ness to rejections
Could've done better: eye contact + smile before approaching. "priming the approach"
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Totally unrelated note: made out with makeout buddy, but brief, and figured out she hates Public Displays of Affection. AND AMOGED the CRAP out of 7 black guys and 4 white guys from my group when I was dancing with my 3 gorgeous friends. That was fun. LMFAO fun.

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another group on the dance floor. I don't know why this was so easy? Mayhaps she believed I was part of the group from the manner I joined in. I just jumped into the fun, and one of the guys, I believe the most alpha, accepted me. Then I motioned to the girl, come hither, and she came. (not like that, perverts)

We started grinding for a while, she said she was tired
I pull out a bottle of 5 hour energy, gave her a tiny sip. Then told her to come with me. Sat her down, talked for a bit, got her number, talked some more. She wanted to continue dancing with her friends and so I gave her a "graduation kiss"

She's like no. So I kissed her on the cheek, then the other cheek. Then pointed to both my cheeks. Then pointed to the middle. No go, but it's cool, I hug her & leave.

Did well: jumped into the group (the group was dancing) and added to the fun. Pretty good opener, did SOME comfort. which was good. Tried again after a fail attempt at a kiss.

Will improve on: more comfort.. (she hasn't texted back, I'll give her another day or 2), getting the kiss, move her around more.
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2 - set asian, on the rollercoaster 2 seats behind me. In between them and me were my friends.
me Hey! You two are really cute. Do you speak english?
1 What is he asking us? *whisper*
2 Do we speak english
2 Yes, we speak english
me *nada*, the ride started.
the ride ended, they were nowhere to be found, my conclusion: They were zombies.

Did well : opened directly in front of my friends, yeah that's it
Will improve on: opening earlier? maybe while in line? Finding real humans rather than zombies
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4-set latinas that turned into 6 set
They were looking at the directory, I had a paper map

Hey! Do you guys know where we are?
Blahblahblah banter about some stuff. Rides, friends, dancing, etc. They wanted to go on a water ride in which I wanted to as well. Later on told them that I knew exactly where I was but thought they look interesting and so wanted to talk to them

Their friends joined them and wanted to go go-carting. My target: 1 of the new friends that joined.
They went go carting, I went to talk to my other friends, came back told them if they wanted to come to the water ride, to text me. Gave 1 girl my number, and told the whole group I thought the girl go carting was cute. They were like "OH, She's Taken"

I say "Oh, that's too bad for her. If you guys still wanna go, hit me up"

Needless to say, they didn't "hit me up"

Did well: Transitioned from indirect to direct.
Will improve on: less seeking value, though I was giving value, I was also seeking.
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2-Set Blonde, first dancefloor set of the night
They were both dancing, I was there and it looked like I was dancing with a couple of my lady friends, but I really wasn't.
Hey! You guys look interestingly fun!
WHat??
I said you guys look fun!

They stayed there. Looked at me expectantly for 2 seconds, then turned their backs and continued dancing. I blank out.

Did well: got the ball rollin',
Will improve on: gettin' the ball rollin' earlier, playing some improv games before hand.
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5-set 4 girls, 1 guy., all sitting down. I was standing up (dumbass, I should've sat down)
Hey! Blahblahblah
We talk about rides and food and expenses and other stuff. I keep energy high, I gave value, but again, I also took value. Got names. Made fun of some names, so gave back value.

Mind blank.

Did well: approached, gave value, made fun of someone's name.. gave more value, smile & shared eye contact
Will improve on: selection of a target - I didn't know who my target is/would be, do NOT take value, eat before + play some improv, do some stupid shit, get that ball ROLLIN'
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3-set, 1 guy 2 girls, me + friends were buying food, we were all in line
Hey!
Talk about rides and food.

Blanked out... again!! wtf??

Did well: approached, shared eye contact, smiled, high energy
Will improve on: giving value, not taking value, knowing what to say, being slightly more animated yet less energetic.

I believe that was all the approaches of the night... that I could remember. Most the night was hanging out with my friends. Oh, and a really cute friend of mine that's taken, yet whom I'm still extremely flirtatious with, and we've only met once. Flirted with her A LOT. After the first couple of approaches, I gave out LOTS of value, I did whatever the fuck I felt like doing. My other cute friend that's taken whom I don't flirt with, thought I was on something, but also thought I was the coolest guy in the group. I felt slightly heightened by that. The group I was with has some really cool guys and for her to think I'm cooler, that means a lot. Also means, I need to do some stupid shit to get the ball rolling and for me to not care so much.

That's the end of my Grad Nite. It is 10:27 am. I've finally finished typing up the Field Report that I started on as soon as I got home.

Good night & Peace mother fuckers.

-LAPB OUT

-946

Recuperating from Grad Nite FUCK YEAH. So I was feeling like shit and didn't want to do anything when the epiphany hit me.

Dress up like SuperMan (gear from Grad Nite), go to the mall, and hit on girls
#SimplePickup style.

1st set
Me - Hey! Can you see my eyes? (I had I <3 Superman glasses on)
Her - No, nope, I can't see them
Me - Great, (took off glasses after every opener) I thought you looked really pretty and had to come say hi.
Her - Oh, thanks, somethingsomething
Me - somethingsomething, talked about something.. can't remember this set much.

In the end, no close.

Did well: everything, I had so much fun, I didn't care, I walked away laughing.
Improve on : closing
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2nd set, saw her walking past, looked at her booty, like DAMN, I wanted that. So I ran up past her, turned around and threw up the STOP hand sign
Me - Hey, I just saw you back there, and you kept walking, so I had to run over here to say...
Her - Oh, thanks
Me - that your bag is ripped.
*checked her bag*
Me - Just kidding, I meant to say you're pretty gorgeous.
Her - Oh, thanks, but I'm looking for my husband right now. (WOW)
Me - Oh, okay, cool. GOod luck!

Did well : she interrupted my opener, so I countered FUCK YEAh! Still went direct after the opener.
Will improve on : determining the MILF's age before approaching.
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3rd set I went to B&N, a super gorgeous girl left and I didn't open, so I went down and did 20 push ups in the MIDDLE of the store.
These 3 girls ran and jumped over me at like 15, I thought it was great. Finished my push-ups and walked a bit to catch up.

Me - (voice projected) OKAY OKAY (they stopped), Who.. was the first one that had the great idea of jumping over me?
Them - Her, her, me. (they were all pretty damn tall. Like, all of them were taller than me.)
We talk a little bit, I tell them I'm here to hit on girls. I guess their heights completely correct (5'11, 6'1, 5'9)... I'm 5'7.
Traded names, I made fun of theirs and told them my name was Bruce, then added a fobby asian accent for kicks. Gentleman's grace the 5'11.

I tried to isolate, pulled the 5'11 over, told her friends I'm gonna take her for 2 minutes while they go off and buy her rings. All declines were put aside (I kept saying, doesn't matter, irrelevant, they're your best friends they can find you something, bull shit, blablalballbalbla)
I achieve isolation! We talk for a bit, she keeps trying to leave, I tell her I'm gonna find out about her and if I like her I'll get her number. She says she has a boyfriend, I then begin asking SuperAFC questions: What's his name, what does he do, what car does he drive?

She answers all of them and ends with Toyota. I tell her she has an Asian Fetish. Give her a hug then a kiss on the cheek.

Did well: Pushed the objections out the door. Gave her a kiss, made her day.
Improve on: Duno, Pretty solid set, maybe number closing?
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4th set 1 girl just walking to get her watch engraved or whatever. She went to the same grad nite as me.

Me - Hey! You! (I pointed) You're fucking adorable. Who are you?
Her - I'm HBPD
Me - I'm LAPB.
I do some mini cold reads, (I'm getting good at this) we talk for a bit, but it seems she's late for an appointment, I'd push harder, but then, I felt like she should probably go to her late appointment (I know, I should've said, well you're already late, if you're late a few more minutes, you'd still be late)

Did well: I did well. I stopped another moving set. I opened directly. I smiled like a gorilla on D0pe.
Will improve on: Should've got her to stay. I'm more important than any engraving shit she had to do.
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5th set Wetzel's Pretzel girl
Me - Hey! You. You probably have the worst job in the world.
Her - What? Why? I love it!
Me - You have to stand there watching all these children jump up and down on the trampolines while you have to give out pretzel samples.
Her - Blablabla it's not that great blablabla
*we talk some more*
Me - Really, I didn't want any samples, I just thought you were really cute and I wanted to come say hi.
*She starts edging away*
Her - I have a boyfriend
Me - You have a boyfriend? I can be your MAN FRIEND.
Her - no thanks *starts backing up* ..
Me - You know they call me the MAN OF STEEL for a reason
Her - ahah, no, really, I have a boyfriend *continues to back up*
Me - Okay, that's all of my SuperMan pickup lines, have fun watching those kids... *do the nvbl "call me" sign*
*still all smiles & as soon as I left, I burst out laughing*

Did well: stayed in! Kept comin' back.
Improve on: going directly earlier. Finding someone more... socially knowledgeable and doesn't run away because she sees a guy hitting on her as a stressful situation .
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6th set THE BEST.
A guy and a girl were walking towards me as I was walking towards them. I noticed they weren't holding hands.

Me - Hey! stop. You *pointing towards the girl* are very pretty. I'm LAPB, who might you be?
Her - I'm So&so. *BF stands there, looking dazed*
Me - I hate to ask, but are you guys together?
Her - Yeah, we are
Me - Then why aren't you holding hands??
Her/Him - Shrug/Idk. Start touching fingers.
Me - *Grab both of their hands, held them up, and slapped them together* LIKE THIS.
Her *smiles at me brightly*, Him *still looks dazed*
Me - *pat the guy's back* Good luck bro, if I wanted to, I could've stolen your girl from right in front of you. Better cuff yo' chick next time!

Did well: Attempted AMOG, but then felt sorry that the guy had NO game. Led the entire interaction with almost 0 input.
Improve on: Just steal the damn girl.


Results today: 0 closes whatsoever. Had SOOOO much fun dressing up as SuperMan and hitting on girls.
So much for being lazy, eh? Oh, and got opened a couple times. But those weren't cold approaches.

LAPB - out
-943

Just got on the bus. Yeah, that's how my stories normally start out

I see this cute girl, I sat down in my seat, and think... "She's cute... Cute girls get laid... Someone's gotta fuck her.. It should be me"

Me - Hey... (kino)
Her - Hi
Me - (kino turn again) I thought that you're really cute so I wanted to sit next to you and say hi.

We talk. About Virgin Mobile and school.
However, she became unresponsive as soon as I try to make her qualify herself with "Tell me something cool about yourself"

After that, no matter what I said, she was disinterested. Poor girl, probably thinks I'm way cool and wonders why I'm talking to her. I need to qualify her.

What I did well: Found a good mindset to go in with and tried it out. Used 0 routines.. then again, I never really use them anyways
What I'll improve on: Qualifying the girl, then disqualifying, then having her qualify herself.

-942

Reposted on accident

So this week long break turned into a month break.

Was so relaxing.

Anyways, the report, it's tiny. I had AA up the ass anyways. Only 1 approach. Still happy about it.

At the mall,
2 set, girl & guy walking. They're not holding hands and she's slightly in front of him. Friend zoned. LOL

I was with my friends, said I'll be right back, and run over to them.

Me - Hey, I just saw you right now, and thought you were so pretty, I had to come say hi.
Her - Oh, hi, thanks.
Me - *to the guy* are you guys going out?
Him - *stammers* Oh, umm, no.
Me - Okay, I'm Jason.
Her - I'm HB, I think you're very good looking yourself and you're very kind, too.
Me - Thanks.
Her - But I have a boyfriend.
Me - Bull shit!
Her - No, I really do, sorry.
Me - That's fine, then. I'll see you guys around.
Her - Oh, okay. Bye.

Did well - Approached. I had AA up the ass for like the past 2 weeks. I went in direct. Weird thing about running over to someone, you can't just NOT approach.
Will improve on - Time. I need to make longer approaches. Use of boyfriend destroyers. Get her to stop thinking about her boyfriend. Probably couldn't have went on an instant date because her LJBF friend was there, but next time, go on insta-date, get number, hit up for more fun later.

LABP, out.

I wish you would put more details into your frs as it would help me pinpoint where you are messing up. Your frs are starting to all sound the same and I want to see you improve, so help me help you.

-Jay

AA pretty badly all day at the mall.
So I asked for some paper and wrote down what my problem was and steps to solve the problem (AA). My solution was to go approach and get blown out with a line. Funny right? It was.

I saw a 2 set, relatively nice looking from the back. So, I ran to catch up to them, touched one on the shoulder, said "hello", pulled out the piece of paper I had written my Blow Out pick-up lines.

Me - I have... a boob phobia... Would you... like to.. help me with it? *big ass smile*
Then, one of the girls recognized me and said my name.
Me - Wait a second, how do you know my name?
Her - Cause we graduated from the same school, went to grad nite on the same bus, etc.
We then walked and talked and I explained what I was doing. I told them how I was trying out stupid pick up lines to see how they'd work. They laughed when they saw my list.

Apparently, I had attempted to pick up this chick at the beginning of the school year. Her & her friend.
We end up walking around the mall doing stupid shit and I left after a while

Goods - Used a fancy pick up line. Left as soon as I figured I was leeching value more than giving because I was doing a lot of the talking early on the conversation and when I tried getting them to talk more at the end, it wasn't working too well.
Bads - I don't really count this as an approach, but I do since there's a girl I didn't know as well. Also another bad thing, it seemed like I was getting annoying like just chilling with them or something? Like leeching value or something?

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Then I went to starbucks and grabbed a magazine and as I walk to my table, I notice this fine ass mexican girl. I sit down and think to myself, damn, I want to talk to her. If I just go say she's beautiful, I'll have to think of more to say.

So, last approach of the day.
*touch shoulder*Hey, I saw you and thought you were so beautiful I had to come say hi (I was standing up and her sitting down)
her - thanks (kinda shy)
Me - I'm LAPB *offer hand*
her - I'm soandso *shakes my hand*
Me - *I sit down* You know what it is I like about you? Your skin, it's so clear and smooth. You must put a lot of work into that.
her - *finally sensing genuiness from me* talks about how she doesn't do much

We talk about school, future, jobs, common friend that we both have, festivals, street fairs, etc.

Push & pull a bit. Great eye contact. Good posture, but still laid back.

I got her number and we talked some more about the street festivals and some upcoming/recent movies.

I bid her goodbye, gave her a big ass hug, and left.

Goods - I approached despite my crippling AA. Consciously remembered about my body language. Conveyed that I was genuine. Broke eye contact once in a while to the side so I wouldn't be staring.
Bads - little kino until the end but it was a coffee table, how do you get across that?

UPDATE* Number was solid. However, my shit text game ruined it all.
I push too hard during non - in - person communication. I NOW UNDERSTAND.
-939

Alright dude, I have a beef with that opener.

"I have a boob phobia... Can you help me with it?"

Yes, I understand it's funny, it's sexual, and it's what a ton of PUA weirdos out there would say "AWESOME DIRECT OPENERRR! YOU ARE AWESOME!!!"

But it goes against a lot of principles of human 101. First off, you do that in day game - you can get your ass kicked for sexual harassment. Not cool, and it looks bad, really bad. Even in a nightclub, even if you do that with a big ass grin, the girl can easily go to the bouncer and say, "that guy wanted me to put my breasts on him." and within 4 seconds, your ass is kicked out of the club.

If you're going to go direct, it has to be genuine, real, and honest. We are looking for SINCERE, not shady or weird. Girls like nice and honest guys. The girls who like dishonest assholes that will take them down the wrong road will most likely not be the kind of girl you;re looking to start a relationship with.

Don't ever use that opener again. If I was a girl and some kid came up to me and said that, I would slap him and go to the police. That's just super rude and inconsiderate. Even for a blow out line, that's just super rude.

Be genuine, be real, be you.

Ben J