1000 COLD Approach FURY - Inspired by Ben J

On the way home. It was 10:00 at night. Very dark. Just got off the bus.

I spot a 3-set, 1 guy 2 girls. guy & 1 girl were holding hands

A/befriend group
BF just asked the 3rd wheel (HB7, target) if they looked like a cute couple
HB7 target was answering sarcastically

Me, from behind, Laugh and yell out
"Hey! I wasn't listening in, but that was really funny. For the record, you guys DO look like a cute couple"
BF - Thanks bro!

(Walk up to group, the hb7 was walking in front of the couple)
*Loud* So is your friend there just butt hurt about being a 3rd wheel while you guys are here holding hands?

Banter with group, but not talking to target (she was still walking in the front trying to ignore me)
I say I have to go, the dude asks me my name, I tell him. Then stop the group (3rd wheel moves on)

I have them call her back and the guy (great wing) tells her I just wanted to say hi/bye

She yells back Bye LAPD!
I wonder out LOUD how she knew my name *stalker!*
The BF urges the GF to keep moving so that he doesn't cockblock (love this guy)
I tell the two that he knows what's up
She comes back & I go direct telling her she's fucking gorgeous
*she's astonished*

Then I tell her about how those 2 left so that they wouldn't be cockblocks. Banter about how she's probably a party girl since she's holding a bottle of.. WHAT? 92% ALCOHOL!? She laughs, hits me, and tells me its soda. Get her name, we banter. I try to qualify SUPEr early

me - Tell me something that makes you super cool
her - Idk, you have to find out
me - Something cool like sky diving! I personally don't do it, but I think it's cool.
her - I'm cool cause I stay in school
Make fun of her for that. then tell her I... absolutely love... to eat. (she was waiting for my EVERY word, good EC here too)

Grab the number, gave her a kiss on the cheek. Pointed to one of my cheeks and told her to kiss me there (she did) pointed to the other one and she said that's enough for now. I shrug it off, walk home, tear off all my clothes... and write up this FR.

What I did well - Approached a set on the street for the first time. Befriended a potential cockblock and removed all obstacles. Had the girl awaiting my every word. So yeah, pretty good.
What I'll improve on - Going into comfort for longer after the number. Comfort leading questions, etc.
-973, LAPD out.

UPDATE* Number was real, but the chick didn't reply. Til I made a phone call, to which she answered saying she had a boyfriend.
Need to work on that.. Awaiting BenJ's reply on dealing with flakes

Just got Chipotle & ran to the bus!
Sit next to a cute girl, and opened with a smile.

"I ran here for nothing!?" (The bus was stopping for 6 minutes)
We banter about Chipotle, the bus, some other stupid shit.
I go into comfort about her job, career goals, etc.

Whenever I get a good answer, I pump BT

Told me she was married, though she was only 19.

Shit tested her.
Asked "Quick test, what's my name?"
She guessed 3 times and says she doesn't remember. I tell her its fine. Whenever you just meet someone new and have a brilliant conversation with that person, you tend to forget unimportant details such as their name.
We exchanged names again, but instead of shaking normally this time, we made up a handshake.

Didn't verbalize interest, nor did I do so with body language. I count this as an approach because of the solid BT spikes and Comfort game I played.

What I did well: I opened naturally with the shittest opener in the world and we turned it into a full on conversation. When she left, I gave her a hug. I had great kino when tracing her back tattoo with my finger.

What I'll do better: fuck her on the bus... While finishing my Chipotle burrito

-972

I was trying to post this FR on my phone earlier, but it wouldn't work, so now, I'll post it.

Day time, at school.
I had opened 2 sets today. Extremely tired from having a crash from the monster I had earlier, I opened the first set

Me - Hey! It's fuckin' hot today, and I don't mean the weather. (I sit down)
Her - Uhh thanks? (like, wtf, is this a pickup line?)
Me - I was talking about me. *huge smile on my face* Although you're cute, too.
Her - Thanks!

Right afterwards... I feel the exhaustion and could only stay in comfort. I tried to do what BenJ said and to convey direct interest again, but I guess it didn't go too well. She later reveals that we've talked over facebook before (I checked and it seems like she blocked me). Over and over though, our friends (the really cool ones), came over to greet us.

After a while, I eject when I saw the set going nowhere..

What I did well: Came up with that opener myself! It worked like a charm~!
What I'll improve: Pumping my BT before talking to the chick... That conversation was as boring as eating fried rice when you're thirsty. or watching paint dry, whatever floats your boat.

UDPATE* I just realized, this was a good set... had 3 passed CT's but I was too focused on IOI's and missed out on the number close... UGH, next time I see her, she better be ready for some dick!

Set DOS
I felt that my energy was too low in the last set and so did 30 push ups before the next set
Me - Hey!
Her - Hey!
We chat about the most ridiculous things, I pump BT, I tease, I compliment, I push-pull. I number close.
I'd set up a scenario and then she'd put some ridiculous stuff in there. Ex. We're going to prom together and she decides that her cheap dress wasn't cool enough so she decides to show up in a suit.. her birthday suit.

Then her ride comes and she has to leave.

I texted the number few hours ago... no response. :/ sucks but oh well.

What I did well: transitioning from my last set, I re-calibrated BT very well. I came in with high energy. Good push-pull.
What I'll improve on: finding more time to get into Comfort and so the number won't be so flaky..

-970
LAPB

Just got home.. First thing on my mind, write a field report before I forget the details... Sleep can wait another 5 minutes.............

Anywho, tonight was prom night.
Fuckin great. Yeah!
Also made me realize that I've been missing out on a LOT of parties... Went to a single kickback afterwards in one of the suites and.... didn't know what to do!. sucked balls. sitting there like wtf? anyways, more on that later...

Prom...
We arrived an hour late, there's still a line. I pumped up my mood sooooo much! Like in the limo ride/at dinner it was like I was in a zen mode, pretty awwesome. Saw some RSD vid about it and thought I'd try.
So anyways, zen mood. get to prom.. My ENERGY goes through the ROOF! I started out dancing with some friends
Kiss from a fwb that doesn't put out. We've made out once, and that's all...w tf? (fwb=friend with benefits) anywho, danced with a lota friends in a circle, mostly me + 3 or more girls. AWESOME time!!! Had so much fun!

Then started grinding with fwb, back to friends, grinding with another friend, back/forth til the end. Didn't get to kiss anyone besides the fwb, kinda dissapointed, but didn't matter since I had such a great time.

COLD approaches... (blown out each time)
Went in direct, kept plowing for as long as I can!
Kept mentioning adventurous, are you just gonna sit here with a ghost or come dance blablabla.
My goal was for them to come dance with me.. maybe I should've tried some game on them? BT spikes then comfort, then dancing, then comfort again? Might've gotten laid that way, but too occupied about having fun.

Oh and then I went to a kickback in one of the suites... There was bp and some people just sitting around. I start flirting with the birthday girl (found out she had a bf, pretty big), with some of her friends (they grew disinterested.. idk why! I was so fun)
Then tried to play bp.... but asked around and no one wanted to play with me .... I probably became needy.. Wonder what gave it away, I had pretty decent body language, it could've been my eyes though... Like the please play with me eyes.. UGH

Anyways, I need to go to more parties to get comfortable with them and have some fun. That was my first one ever. Had 3 shots & some bottle of something.

Wow, my whole goal tonight was to have fun. Goal... accomplished.
Fuck the rest of the world! BAHAHA

Will improve on: going to more parties. Plowing too
Did well: opened, and plowed, but .... didn't get through oh well.

-968

1 approach on the bus &
2 approaches tonight. Interestingly enough.

On The Bus Adventures! Pt5
I had my foot on a seat and she had her drink there, we both removed it when a guy walked by and replaced it when he moved on.

*look into each other's eyes & bust up laughing*
I tell her to come over to the seat next to me and we start talking

About.. coffee and some other stuff, ran out of time & her stop came before I got her number.
If she was more attractive, I might've put more effort into it, I'd say about a 6

Did well: nonverbal opening that's the stuff. Started connecting
Do better: Connect more than just a little bit.

Location: Backstage of a theater (;

First one of the night!
Somewhere in the dark, we started talking about the performance (we were in a different part of the performance)

I tell her to come with me for a moment. Yeah, I'm starting to feel pretty damn manly. Make jokes if you can, it feels GREAT

She follows me & I directly tell her I think she's adorable. We exchange names, I wanted to Gentleman's Grace, but I've been out of practice and wussied out of it.
We banter for a few moments about the performances

I qualify her by telling her to tell me something cool about herself. We talk for another minute or so, then I'm called to go change
Later, I overhear her talking about her boyfriend

I know, I'm a hypocrite, I just told someone that boyfriends don't matter and I let it affect me. Harder than it seems! Bahaha


2nd set of the night
I got opened. Fuck yeah!
I had pretty great social proof all night (I looked cool & social)

I was sitting on a bench outside waiting to be picked up and the girl who's already around the area (Def. IOI) says
"Ugghh! My family is so annoying!"

We begin talking, she's sitting like 4 feet from me so I couldn't kino. We banter about races. I made her jump through a pretty big hoop by guessing my ethnicity, DHV for not being so easily impressed.
I already felt like the shit, so I gestured to her to come sit next to me. She wouldn't do it. A friend called her over and she came over, I start sexting a girl I had been seducing earlier
And she comes over and sits next to me.
I say "hah, I know, I'm just being an ass hole, I'm actually Vietnamese"
She agrees with me, calls me a douche bag, we keep talking.

We go into comfort for about 2 minutes before my mom calls and tells me she'll be there in about 1 minute.
We talk some more, my mom pulls up. I tell her to spell her name and then put her # in my phone. (I had forgotten her name, asking her to spell it is a DAMN useful trick). She's desperately asking me for my name
I give her a hug, seductively looked at her eyes, and whispered it into her ear.


Solid, I'm pretty sure.
What I did well: DHV'd by not being so easily impressed because that's how I felt at the moment. Need to make those moments more
concrete since I laugh a lot, even when things aren't that funny. Lots of good kino, too
What I'll improve: I wanted to kiss her right there, but my mom was waiting for me... So next time.. kiss, make out, then disqualify!
-965

I got Number Closed 4 TIMES! by guys... Then got left for dead afterwards with no ride home & 3 hour walk from home.

Anywho...
Ice Skating night, had pretty GREAT social proof. Lots of fun. Lots of laughs. Lots of new friends.
Nothing sustainable... Didn't get to know any of them.

Approached 2 groups tonight, wanted to approach this one girl who was with a guy... but pussied out

The two groups....
First group, outside the line, 3 set 1 guy 2 girls. All friends 2 girls are cousins.
Bantered for a long time.. making stupid jokes & whatnot.. But then, I guess I was a value taker or something? I don't know what was up with them, I gave value, I high-fived, I made jokes, ALL the fun shit. They wouldn't give me their number, who knows? I left afterwards to hang out with my usual group of hardcore ice skaters.

Did well: Situationally approached. High energy. Stayed in for a pretty long time.
Will improve on: selecting my target, going into comfort. I'm sure that would have killed the value taking I accidentally did.

2nd group!
4 girls, had a friend in it. Approached, made intros, made jokes, was high-energied & friendly, left afterwards to continue skating.

I come back and their still sitting & talking, but there's guys with them now, we make stupid faces at each other (guys & I) and jokes and shit. I'm loud and funny and fun, but again... I think I took value rather than gave value because of the way the girls were looking at me? IDK, just felt some kind of " he's weird " kinda vibe from them

Maybe it's just me? Who knows... Who cares?

We had a buncha fun! The guys were freaking cool. Cavemanning the girls & shit. taking stupid pictures. I took a few of them for them.

Did well: Had too much fun, was in my head for a bit but got out of it and started being in the moment. OH! And realized a sticking point
Will improve on: the sticking point: value leeching off a group, and... that's probably it

-963

Cool beans, yo.

OH! and if anyone can help me improve on my sticking point... That'd be fuckin great!
and CHEERS to everyone!

HAPPY SATURDAY NIGHT

Bus Adventure #6.
My friend was sitting behind me next to a girl (target) and me in the front. I was rejected, but it was cool.

My friend and I were just talking about school and swimming, then I suddenly say to the girl, since she was sitting there kinda awkwardly
"Hey!" <--- still my best opener.
We bantered about some stuff about school and how she's a "super senior"
My friend was talking too, good thing he's cool (non community)

I tell her I think she's cute and for her to tell me something about herself (intending to number close soon as my stop was approaching)
Her - "I have a boyfriend"
Me - And how long have you had THAT problem?

my Friend + her + half the bus eavesdropping burst out in LAUGHTER
We start talking again. My stop comes up. I say bye to both of them and depart for home.

-962

Did well: Kept high social value since I was being the only one on the bus talking with a friend (was gonna talk regardless of there was anyone or not) and directly complimented AND stayed unreactive to the boyfriend comment and even made it funny
Will improve on: directly complimenting earlier so I'll have time to comfort enough to close.

LAPD out!

Background story (if you wanna know how I felt).
I was NOT feelin it.... (AA UP THE ASS)... I walked around the mall for about 2 hours with absolutely NO motivation to approach. I wanted to, but eventually gave up on it since waiting did me no good, and so just began to chill and relax.

Ate some food, and my adventures BEGAN.


2 Sets in total (3, but I don't count hired guns, though I'll put it in there)

1st set (1-set)
Hollister, Hired Gun. Had her take me all around the store, I made jokes the whole time.

She ran out of shorts to show me, so I go into comfort and we talk about what schools we go to and which ones we're planning to go to.
I tell her I think she's cute and we're back into comfort, but with more intense eye contact. I say something, then stop mid-sentence, walk a few steps and she turns to follow me. Now, she's not facing her boss who's giving me the eyes.
We talk more and says she has to go. I say give me your number. She says she has a boyfriend right as I'm typing in her name into my phone and I tell her it doesn't matter (like right away, without hesitation) Get her number, give her a hug and go.

Texted with no response. Doesn't matter, warm up

Did well: warmed up after 2 hours of wishing I'd approach. Even though it was indirect and a hired gun... it got the ball rolling for me. Momentum... is KING.We had brilliant eye contact. Smiles on both sides. Light, friendly kino. Even if she did have a boyfriend, she should be fine answering the text... Who knows? Maybe cause she's a hired gun?
Will improve on: getting less flakes, I'm not sure what was wrong with this one.
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2nd set (2-set) 2 girls

I literally opened with
"WOAH! You have huge tits!"
Yeah, that's right.
We talked for a while, they're uninterested (probably wondering why such a high valued guy is talking to them) She's ugly, I just wanted to motorboat that then leave. I know, kind of an ass hole. We board the bus, they haven't invested SHIT. My next set walks BY and I say BYE

Did well: Opened more directly than I ever did. DAMN
Will improve on: qualifying
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3rd set (3-set) (2 girls 1 guy)
I was at the mall and she nearly ate shit behind me on the escalator (first encounter).
I see her walk past me on the bus, and off I go! I go over and say "hey". At first the girl talks to me, but then turns SUPER A.D.D.
I bantered with her friends a lot, calling one of them a webcam stripper SO many laughs! She then turns her attention to the guy, like slowly at first, then more and more til her back is facing me. I go over and sit by her friend and talk to the group that way.

We switch buses, and I claim they're stalking me. The girl's friend REALLY wants me to get with that girl and encourages it 3 times!!

1. (beginning) "Hey talk to him"
2. When I tried to qualify the ADD chick, I tell her to tell me something cool about herself. Then the friend starts advertising this chick like a piece of meat!
3. When we get onto the 2nd bus, she switches seats so that I say next to the girl.

ONWARD WITH THE FR
I blp so she's facing only me and the bus, we go into comfort with no distractions. BRILLIANT eye contact, I number close her. Then tell her my stop is coming up and she almost begs for my number. I get off and tell her to give me a good-bye kiss. She shakes her head no, I point to my cheek, no again. I shrug and give her a kiss on the cheek and walk off.

Did well: approached immediately. Brilliant eye contact. Unreactive towards being ignored and unreactive towards the goodbye kiss.
Will improve on: getting that kiss. I wonder how she felt afterwards... if I needed to do damangecontrol.. but it's only a cheek kiss. Next time, it's a forehead kiss :p

-960

LAPB out!

Hey bro,

I see your total number of approaches is getting up there. Just to measure how everything is going, what's your AA on a scale of 1-10? 1 being nothing and 10 being crying in the corner.

It looks like you've got 960 left, and it seems that they're done only a few a week. I would actually suggest getting 30 approaches a week to start getting over AA, which is pre-bootcamp homework #2.

Keep us in the loop bro!

Ben J

AA is at about 4-6 range at the most part. After my first approach of the day, I'm usually excited for more. I would do more, but I don't get to go out much... About 1/2 the signings in my yearbook has ALREADY included my being a flirt/player/etc. Not sure how many girls I HAVEN'T talked to in my school.. And they were mostly talked to before starting this.

Yeah, I know, bunch of excuses, but I really can't go anywhere... The mall is pretty empty a lot of the time. Too young for anywhere else.

Oh, and life. I chill a lot more now that graduation is coming up

& I Will!
Every approach will be posted