Ralph's Beginner's Hell PUA Journal: Now with pics see pg 3!

None of the guys ever replied to you, did they Ralphie?

It's been awhile since I was college age. I find the techniques to block you guys kind of interesting, that these girls are doing. I have a 19 y.o. niece who looks a lot like Cameron Diaz (not quite as cute, but pretty dang cute). I am going to quiz her next time I see her on what the college girls are doing to block guys. When I was in that age range, we, girls, as a group, were not that sophisticated to actually be running counter-defenses.

So it was my first Direct Day game success.

I was at a coffee shop today since I went sarging at the mall and I was like shit no sets. Mostly chics with moms and 16 year olds shopping. So I decided to go to a coffee shop. So as I am sitting there with my friend talking. I see this girl. I was like ohh cutie! There were 2 girls I had to decide on so whatever.

I see her get coffee and I was like I hope she does not walk out the door. BAM nope she does not. I see where she sits. At this point I really cant see her and she cant see me to well. So then I wanted to figure out logistics where to sit etc. I see her bag and stuff on the chair in front of her so I had to think. What do I do?!?!

So I decide to run with my opener. I ask her a question and say do you mind if I move your stuff. I only have a minute. She says yes and I sit. So I go in direct and we start to chat. I started to qualify blah blah blah some were like omg I dont know... So I lead her and gave her some senairos. I did some DHV some other routines I have learned in the past which works well. So I banter we talk she asks about me. I have a friend of mine listening in on the convo. He started to txt me like too fast etc slow down with my talking. So then I number close her as we chat. I txt her in front of her face. Using a bit of txt game. I start talking about the power of now. She is asking me if I normally come up to random people and chat with them. I said well if theres an opportunity I will go for it. I run into a bit of a vunerable routine on how my mom is a really negative person.

I say about how we should seize the day. Live life as if there is no tomorrow or like in fight club where he says that your life is ending every minute. I go into my power of now routine. Asking types of books she reads. I say how the power of now is my favorite book and I should let her borrow it.

Suddenly there is a band that plays in the coffee shop which is so loud. So then Im thinking in my head... shit I need to bounce this girl just to see what I am capable of. So theres barnes and noble down the street. I say oh lets go to the barnes and noble its too loud here. She resists a bit then I say oh and I can show you that book. So she complies.

BAM we walk to barnes, shes checking me out IOIng my cowboy boots etc. I say thanks and she tells me that she has a pair and I told her she should wear them too when we go out. I have her hand on my arm as we walk to barnes. We go up the stairs and I tease her with new moon shit. I bring her to that section and I say that Edward is her secret love lol. So then I find the power of now and I show her. After that we bounce back to the tables.

She gets settled in and asks me again if I normally do this. I say no I do not unless theres an opprtunity. So shes like okay I gotta get back to my work blah blah blah so then I cut to something else she gets distracted for another 10mins. So I cut it and say alright I gotta meet my friends. So I hug her and have her kiss my cheek. She complies.

I txt her later on with nice meeting you blah blah blah.

Total time of the sarge 1hour! I used to think that is too long but now I see that if she is investing her time with you. She is putting aside her work to chat with me and that she bounced with me to the barnes and noble. This is really solid. We decided to go for sushi on wed which is pretty long from now. Its all good because I have a few things to keep up the covo. Txt her tomorrow. Call her Sunday chat for about 30 mins. Build more comfort. Then txt her Monday and then call her tuesday to set up the day 2. So I would say that I had an instant date. So day 3 I guess. I am going to count the hours to see how long it takes for me to close her.

So 1hour so far. I have 6 more to go. Goal is 7 hours! HOLLER!

So I had another day game direct. Well semi direct.

I am at my usual dojo the coffee shop. As I am reading text game lol and other things I need to take care of. So I am sitting there and I am waiting to see if there are any girls to sarge. So far none. Then I see a target. BAM Target acquired and locked in with logistics. Available seats to sit in and her bag is not there. So I give her about 30 mins to get her work done so I wont get blown out by her saying "Well I gotta get back to work etc".

I wait about 30 mins or so. She is writing stuff down and doing work on her laptop. So 20 mins pass by BAM time to approach

A
I did the whole describe the girl routine

B
I do some BT tactics

C

I go into some comfort routines etc. asking questions I made up for myself that fits me. She jumps though them as whatever response she says I find something that I can talk about. I "wikipedia" it. we talk chit chat. She jumps though my hoops as I qualify her. The convo seems as if things were going well. I tried to set up for a day 2 she tells me shes REALLY busy. So im like shit! So I ignore it. We keep talking about the most random things. She tells me how random I am haha. Then shes tells me that she really needs to get going since she has to go running with her friend. I number close and then time bridge later.

I sprinkle in a DHV about a gay guy hitting on me etc. talk. She starts to ask questions about me

D/E - Really cant do it since we are at a coffee shop. Well not that I can think of since she was preparing for her interview.

I really do not have a time to do a time bridge with her since its going to be really long. Considering that I am going to LA and will probably will not be able to hang out with her in like 2 weeks. I will keep txting her just to have the attraction going.


Overall it went alright who knows. She does reply to my texts for the most part. What I am noticing about myself is that I am not scared as I used to be when I open a girl during the day with direct. Before I used to be really nervous and my heart is going like 100mph!

Okay I guess I will just not only make it my 30 day direct game challenge but this will just be my daily basis log of sarging!

So my wing and I go out to this bar that is good to sarge on a Tuesday night. We get there not to many girls yet so I find a friend of mine who told me about it. She came with some dude whatever shes cute. So I opened a few sets did not go so well just kinda flopped. So then I saw this girl (2 set) one ugly and one cute (of course its like that), the ugly girl had these peacock feather earrings.

BAM I open her with a compliment and told her that it looked like a dream catcher earring and its really cool. I start to describe it. Then I open her friend and we start talking. I push the ugly one to my wing since he has really good conversation game. So we talk I DHV I go in direct with her and ask about her self. I ask my 3 comfort leading questions. As we were talking my friend Nichole started to take a pic of us with out her and I seeing until the flash. Then she takes her camera (side note: I feel that its a great IOI or I am running solid game when a girl whom she just met takes a picture of you and her, I mean why would she want to remember some guy on her camera? I don't know that is just my take on it) So we take pics and she's like cute pic of her and I.

With my DHV I do my gay guy story - she thought that I was gay or had some gay suspicion. So then I told her you know what, I truly think you are adorable and why else would I want to get to know you. So then I keep talking about other things. I finish my questions but was unable to get much sexual IOIs from her. I did though move her away from her friend, I turned her off to the side so now she is back turned to her friend while my wing games her. At this point she is about a good 5 feet away from her while we chat.

I ask more about her and I told her about "tagging" me on facebook since she took a pic of us (side note: I think Kfeng wrote an artiicle about this on getting a girls facebook - I feel it creates more comfort and that she will not just have you number but yet have a face to remember you by it. I think it also builds more comfort and she gets to see my personality - So from now on I am going to start to add all the girls I meet with good interactions on facebook) So we chat and then a few minutes later she talks about being picky. I bring up about food that I am only picky with that. Then talk about sushi. I tell her about this place I know of that she has never been to and then I say we should definitely grab some sushi next time.

So we keep chatting then she had to use the "bathroom" she brings her ugly friend away. I move on and continue to game. In between I would run into her and she came up to me for a bit and we chat some more. Again another friend she sees and says HI. I walk and start to game more.

At the end of the night I say bye to her hug and kiss on the cheek. Craziest thing was that she remembered that we are still on for sushi and she remembered my first and last name. Gangsta! I cant believe she remembered my first and last name. I will make an update with her and see how this goes. With the day 2.

So things I learned: Tone down the gayness haha shit! and I need to be more of a listener. My wing noticed that I just talk and talk with out her talking. I guess that is why I feel like my mid game kinda flops at times. So next time I'll talk talk then her talk and listen more. If I feel like the convo is dying out then I'll BT spike her and bring up other topics.

Anyway I am going to try to religiously keep making field reports!

Alright so I am here at the coffee shop doing my day game sarging.

There is really not many sets here but I see a cute girl on her laptop. She's doing some homework studying for an exam. I pretend to say something to her by lip syncing so she will pull her earphones off. So as she does she's like "HEYYYY" (as if we met before)

(Im thinking shit, I must of met her before)

So I go on and I'm like you look very familiar blah blah blah. Shes like I think we met at blackfinn before - I am thinking fuck! I sarged her already. (which I probably did)

So then I go on and tell her how shes cute and I was like tell me about yourself. Shes like UHH I have a big exam on Friday and I have to work Thursday night. BAM I was out of the set.

I think I shouldve just chatted did some DHV then finally realize how awesome of a girl she is then go direct.

Things I have learned: When a chic is does they "heyyy" I know you or met you before type. Just go with it and pretned you dont know much. I think instead of going direct to her, I should have calibrated and not went in direct and just kept talking for a bit. I think thats what went wrong. OR she legitimately really needed to study for her exam.

So last night my wing and I decided to hit up more of the "upscale" area of Metro Detroit. Kevin if you are reading this it was in Birmingham. I would say this is the closest thing to get to LA style haha. Mostly Arabic people thinking they are highclass and just other people who truly do have money doing other things.

So we get there and a few nights ago I was haning out and met these naturals/good looking white guys few days before. I ended up running into them at the same bar that night haha. Thier game sucks ass but they are good looking white dudes so they have a lot of leway to fuck up. So I decided to befriend them lol. As Kevin told me try to find some good looking white guys to go out with to make your game a lot easier. I am now all about the less amount of work for the most back haha. So basically that whole night I was opening sets not really hooking well but then I was not really getting blown out. I got blown out about 2 times that night.

Overall it was fine. That night was not too great I did get a few numbers but I did not game as much as I can. I was mostly gaming and doing flash game for the white guys since they go to the high end/classy clubs so next time they see me they would want to chill. Its kinda funny when you see some Asian guys look at me like damn that guy is dancing with a bunch of white chics haha.

What did I learn last night: I think when I go to more "high end" clubs I need to be super direct instead of sayin fucking adorable switch it to goregous? That worked last time in LA. Ill try it out again next week.

So I have been working four 12hour shifts in a row the past few days. Sat/Sun/Mon/Tues. I decide "fuck I'm tired" but I must go out! So I go to the usual spot I went to last Tuesday. I was there a few weeks ago and I saw this really cute girl. She was giving me crazy IOIs few weeks ago. Then this evening I see that same girl. I go to my wing dude is that the girl from few weeks ago. YUP it was her. I notice her looking at me again this night.

So I'm like oh shit its sooo on! I am gonna go direct on her ass. We pass each other by, but I am busy with the 2 girls I came with as social proof. So time passes by and then I see her group. I make eye contact with her and say HI.

I didnt even need to go direct but she was like HI arent you some guys bro? or something like that. So we talk and one of the girls I came with was like nooo get away from her. That girl I was with was like a good 8. But I thought whatever so she leave us. We talk, I run my game. Chit chat dhv etc. Then her friends kept buying her shots. Sooo many interruptions so I talk to her friends. Then she tells me shes gonna go and chat with some of her friends. So I leave.

I come back to her and game her again at this time its still cool. Then more dudes come talk to her ppl she knows. I find out its her birthday this Friday and she is celebrating early I get her number and will add her on facebook later. So then I leave. I feel that the attraction is going down. Nothing really goes anymore. My ass started to get needy since it hooked well and I did not really need to game. So then I noticed this when I tried to dance with her on the dance floor and she some what danced but then pulled away from me.

So that was basically my night. I didnt really open much sets few went well. All good I have more days to go!

Positive points: I was able to BLP maneuver her around which was great! I never do that! And I am starting to!

What I learned from this: Do not be super needy and if she goes and walks away let her go and don't come back unless she reopens me or something. I think if I just ignored her and gamed other girls then the attraction would be there. Lesson learned.

Edit: I also realized that I was just being a 10 her and being a 5 to her friends! ah!

So tonight I went out with a natural who knows a lot of girls. I befriended him from last week just to observe his game and tactics. Good looking Italian guy supposedly gets chics like its nothing. So we went out to this restaurant/bar. He knew some of the girls there he met from last week.

So I am thinking hmmm of what Kevin told me (befriend a good looking white guy) haha even better he knows a lot of girls. He even works for Michael Kors (a purse store) so Im thinking hell yeah.

My wing and I were just smoking and chillin then all of them come out. He swoops around sees me talking to a chic so he go talks to the girls he knows. After that I'm like why not go into his set. A 2 set and him. The thing is that I do not want to really steal his girls since I do not know which one he likes. So I come in and befriend them as well. Things are going good just fluff talk. Nothing to big.

So I talk to the 2 set he leaves I get thier number and make plans to go out next week. Nothing really but I do some small kino since she's just sitting on the bar stool and not standing. I shouldve moved her out of her seat and been more sexual and gamed her more.

Nothing really excting tonight but what my plan is to befriend a bunch of chics and then have them as pivots or just social proof. Since most community guys just roll with a bunch of dudes. I am planning on making a big social circle of girls just to call out to hang with. If something happens then great. If not all good I have a home base with girls to go back while I sarge at the club or bar. I also decided to pick up the girls as well. Just as long as they don't live to far. The girl from tonight only lives a mile away from my house. I am hoping that she has her own place haha.

Well that was the night.

If I can re do the night: I should have taken her out of the bar stool and moved her around. All good we made plans to chill and decided to add each other on facebook. Create more comfort and some BT via FB and txts.

So last night went out again I did not really open much sets. I opened one set a blonde 9 who was just sitting there. I open did my thang did not really hook that night. One girl I bumped into and she accidentally hit me and I started to BS with her about it. Giving her shit. She walks away and my wing tells me "did you just realize that you could have gamed her?" I was like oh shit! True!

So later on during the night she purposely bumps into me. So then I was thinking oh shit game on!

So I start to tease her and joke around with her. It was her and her ugly friend. So then I tell my wing to talk to her friend. I did the kino turn lol I am so glad I started to learn that move. (Take a bootcamp and an instructor will show you) So I did that gamed her. Shes like Oh we should go shopping. Now I am thinking "fuck this chic thinks I'm gay" so I immediately did some DHVs about some chic I dated convincing me to do nursing since she is also going for nursing.

So we talk and chit chat I kiss her on the lips lol a few times haha. So I bring up that I do need to go to the mall as well since my niece I dont have is having a birthday party on Sat and I need some help picking out some cute outfits for her haha. Turns out that she has a kid. Damn it babys momma! whyyyyy?! LOL. So then she has to go to the bathroom like they all do. I number close etc. Funny thing was that she was the one making the plans. Shopping at 3 and the location.

At times like this I wonder. Did she hook well because she has a kid and when women with kids they are at the bottom of the mating pool? Or was it bc I was gaming well?

So that was the night.

What did I learn that night?

This time to be non-needy when things hooks. So I played it well with her unlike the past week when one hooks I was on that. I also realized that I really need to work on my banter game. It is not consistant. At times Ill be on fire with banter and then at other times I will not be and be speechless.

I gotta work on that.

Alright so I just got home and what I realized was that back when I was new to the game, my goal was to open every set and see what happens. Although this time I just go in the bar and chat with my wing and see whats going on socially. I see some sets here and there. As we were chatting and drinking I notice a girl giving me IOIs looking at me across the room. They were a 3 set sitting at the bar. Now I was thinking I wanna go open but then thier backs are turned towards me and I can easily get blown out. So I wait and game other girls.

They sit at a table so I look for logistics. Nope no open seat. I dont want to game them standing up while all of them are at a bar stool. I open a few sets. My wing being an idiot goes for my target so I leave. Its cool though she has a bf with her haha. So then I finally see that set standing...

TIME TO GOOO

I go and go direct. I was getting the good IOIs. I ask the friends if its cool if I flirt with them for a bit. They tell me how foward I am. So I tell them I cut the BS haha they like it. So I game game game. I tried to BLP maneuver her but nopeee she kept going back to her spot. So im like fuck ok let me try again no go. What I realized I shouldve done was the PUA spin. So we talk and vibe. I go for the number close she's like "ahhh I cant im with someone" damn it!!! I also shouldve realized that when her friend was going to leave her and go to the bathroom she was like "Waiiit where you going" - I think by realizing this was that if she was truly interested or attracted she would of not minded her friend leaving her and I alone.

That was the night. All good, I am happy because I saw what I want at the bar then later on when the timing was right I went for it. Back then I would've been like ahhh fuck it! I am just glad that I am able to open what I see and like and game like crazy.

What I learned: When I do my dhv story about a gay guy grabbing my ass I noticed she did her arms cross. I think I might need a new dhv story because I had a few girls do that to me. As if they know I am BSing (which I was just to dhv myself).

Also when I ask questions about her she is always like I dont know. Asking the comfort questions I asked is sometimes too deep and I think I need to make it a bit different and think of a way to reword somethings so it does not sound too crazy type questions to ask at a bar.

hmmm