Casper's 30 days of Direct College Game

Why hello everyone.

I just flew back into Los Angeles on Sunday and I have decided that I want to take my game to a whole new level this semester. Already, I look around and find myself overwhelmed by the ridiculously high quality of girls surrounding me on a daily basis. These women are dressed up and look fine as hell.

So here's my mission:

Every day for the next 30 days I will:

1) Approach at least 1 hot women (7+ on the looks scale)
2) Ask for the phone number on every woman
3) Follow up through text message

Start: January 10th, 2012
End: February 10th, 2012

Each day will be posted as a reply to the previous post.

Day 0-- January 9th

Today is Monday and I went to the gym early. There were SO many hot girls already in there, but I don't think I want to be a guy who approaches girls in the collegiate gym. What do you guys think about gym approaches?

Anyway, as I'm walking out I see a hot woman and find myself running to catch up with her.

I approach with my standard line for this mission
"Hey... I don't mean to be random, but you are absolutely gorgeous"

She smiles and I say "fuck, I'm sweaty.... anyway, I would be kicking myself if I didn't introduce myself to you.. I'm Casper" We don't shake hands, I'm sweaty.

She is smiling still so I ask her where she is from. She tells me she lives under an hour away and I ask her if she commutes. We talk a little about how badly it would suck to have to commute to school.

Then I ask her her major. She is a broadcast journalist and I look her up and down and say "You have such an indie style, you would make an interesting TV personality"

I find out she is a spring admit and that I'm like the first guy she has talked to on this campus! I tell her I want to show her the campus center and we could grab a meal there. She agrees.

I then tell her to take down my number and give me a missed call because I didn't bring my phone into the gym.

She does all of this and then we part ways. When I get back I find that I don't have a missed call... So either she was acting into the interaction and faked calling my number or she missed a digit. How do I follow up?

My second approach of the day happened later while I was on the phone with my friend:

I run up to this girl and tell her my standard opener with the additional "I literally had to stop my conversation with my friend to come over"

We run a standard conversation and I find out she's from Georgia. She lives in a party dorm. I ask if she's a party girl and she says she's just social. I get her number by finding out that her favorite restaurant in the student center is the same as mine "Lemonade."

The pickup happened at 3pm yesterday.

I texted her this message today at 2:41pm:

"Hey Georgia-- dont party too hard in New/North (the dorm name). They charge everyone for the damages and the bill last year was $ridiculous$"

She hasn't responded.

I know that I need to work on my text game follow up. That is definitely a crucial part of college game.

Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.

I haven't done my approach for today (Tuesday), but I will post it up as soon as possible. Waiting until 6pm is actually not part of the game plan. Ideally, I would approach the first attractive woman I see. The FIRST one. I need to overcome my AA as soon as possible so that I get those thoughts out of my mind early in the morning, living the rest of my day in a mindset of freedom rather than restriction.


There was another girl I knew from class last semester, I got her number too.

She had told me she would drive me to some raw food restaurants around the LA area and I texted her today:

"I was just having a conversation about juice bars... I've never been to one! I'm imagining either an oxygen with juice instead of gas or lots of alcohol"

She hasn't responded.

Day 1-- January 10th

Ironically today was the first day and I found it to be relatively successful even though I didn't do my standard opener. I had wanted to do it all day but I found myself getting up in my head like I don't want to be that pick-up guy on campus. I had 3 classes today that led me, without stopping, from 10am to 2pm so I was admittedly a little fried after.

I ended up watching videos of direct game instead of actually doing it. That's a habit I'm definitely going to break in the future. It's an old habit of mine and its a reason why I haven't had great success with women so far.

Today wasn't a total loss. I found some old friends to connect with and I stayed social. I got my homework done on time and I did a lot of walking. I met some interesting new people and I made good first impressions in my classes, which is important.

Honestly, I'm getting slightly overwhelmed with the number of hot women on this campus.

From now on, I want to do my approaches early in the day to get them out of the way and to free up my mind. If I wait then I just end up thinking about it all day and it consumes me. I feel like a pussy and start to berate myself.

Today was a great learning experience because I realize how I'm not necessarily learning pick-up as a fun new skill. It's more of this hard-work process and that kills the flavor of so much social interaction. Trying to be cool and confident and cocky and all of those other things seems to deaden my spirit. Instead, when I am curious about the other person and more expressive, I am in a state where I am confident because I don't necessarily give a fuck what the other person thinks as long as I am being true to myself and the other person likes me because I'm interested in them as a person.

I made so many new friends in the weirdest places, like the guy behind the bar at the restaurant, the guy serving food from a food truck, the girl behind the counter at the cafeteria, my teachers. I tend to get a long much better with older people. I have much more respect for them naturally. They have already proven themselves in the world.

Also, I want to get good at pick-up not just for me but so I can get good enough to teach other people. My getting better actually affects the lives of many other people around me!

Tomorrow is a new day. I might start the counter over but it's only day 1, no big deal.

I also think I need to modify my texting strategy in college because the girls are not responding to my messages at all. Maybe I'm not pinging right or I need to structure the messages different.

Day 2-- January 11th-- Wednesday

The whole day I am hesitant of performing the direct approach. I really do not want to start being known as "that pickup guy" around campus and I feel there is no better way than cold approaching with a line like you are so beautiful. Even though it could be the most genuine and sincere compliment, that specific woman is already inundated with potential guys who she is into and wants to fuck (if she is horny). My coming over and talking to her, although powerful, doesn't necessarily change my status in her eyes unless she would be down to have sex relatively soon. Yes, it puts me on her radar but I imagine that girls want/need more time to warm up to me or at least that is how it feels. Maybe I"m overreacting because these girls aren't responding to my text messages...

Additionally, opening women with social openers where I basically say what is on my mind has worked so much easier. I find that its not only seamless to go from being strangers to introducing yourself to asking the basic questions "where are you from" "whats your major" "whats your name". Girls expect this type of conversation. They will laugh about it to each other and to guys who understand the dynamic.

I still got a number without going direct, and I am happy that happened because it shows me all the different possibilities there are to get numbers at any given time in the day, but I'm still trying to work through whether I want to continue doing this direct approach game.

It was relatively late at night, I had just finished hanging out with my senior friend and smoking at his homegirl's place. Btw, I realized that those relaxed social situations are just as important in college as when I am in a set trying to get with a girl. Even though there is not a girl present in my conversation, I think about giving love/value, respecting social dynamics and manipulating those parameters to my benefit.

For example, I used to be a very passive observational guy. I would literally not speak and watch people as they spoke and acted. Part of me was analyzing their every move, not in a judgmental way where I could figure out their personality and mentality through their unconscious gestures, but rather I was watching them so that I could copy them in the future. I had no confidence in my real personality. I was literally incapable of acting on my own and contributing to a conversation without being extremely self-conscious about the whole ordeal. This could apply to even saying a simple sentence.

While hanging out with my senior friend, he introduces me to three girls who are his tight friends. I had the strongest fucking urge to hit on them and game them and then I had this separate urge to find out more about them. I ended up relaxing, talking to my senior friend the most (which would make sense because I know him the best and we click) and entering their conversation every once in a while to keep open the lines of communication and engage them in our reality.

Anyway, I was just making the point to mention that I realized right then how important my lifestyle is to being an overall attractive man. I know at ABCs they focus on the holistics, and only thinking about game when I am in set and making that my reality 10% of my life instead of becoming an attractive man who lives that reality 100% of the time is what is truly holding me back from greatness as both a seducer and an individual...

The pick up happened right after I got out of that apartment. I started skating back and as I approached the gate to my apartment complex (i live with a bunch of sophomores) there was a cute girl walking through the door. I shout "Hey, hold the door!" and she apparently doesn't hear me because she keeps walking and I'm like "Awwww" as the door closes.

She hears my Awww and turns around and helps me out. SHe realizes her mistake. When she opens the door I compliment her (reward for good behavior) and then follow her as she walks her bike. Right here I was feeling a little uncomfortable talking to her because she was walking a good 10 feet in front of me and I was kinda projecting up to her for her to understand me but I eventually got her into conversation.

I shouted up to her as we were still walking
"whats your name?"
"HBLasagna"
"Hi. I'm Casper, I can't believe I haven't seen you around here, what building do you live in"
"B"
blah blah about our complex a little...
"Where are you from?"
"New Jersey"
"No way.. Really? You don't have that Jersey vibe at all!
"haha what do you mean?"
"I wouldve never guessed you were from Jersey.. You seem like you are more from..."
"Where?"
"Here let me take a look at you.." At this point, I closed the distance between us to about an arms lengths, before we had been standing very far apart and I was slowly walking forward when we would laugh or as I was talking (the laughing and the talking disengage the rational mind of "why is he coming closer" and make it more seamless. That is why you sit into a seated set during a BT spike at the beginning)

I look her up and down with a sly smile. She cracks under the sexual tension and starts to laugh. That's a good sign.

"You look like you are from the Midwest."
"HAHA"

I tell her that my roommate just came into our apartment carrying alcohol and that we are going to pre-party for an epic fraternity party tonight. She says she would be interested in coming. I tell her I will text her when I get back to my room in about 2 or 2.5 hours.

# exchange.

THen she wants to leave, so I keep talking to her about this lasagna stuff that she has in her hands. She is telling me that she is cooking dinner tonight. So I tell her she should cook me dinner. She laughs and tells me I should cook HER dinner. I then tell her that if she likes a gourmet bowl of cereal or mac n' cheese I can hook her up. She laughs. I compromise and tell her that we can both cook a meal, I'll make the salad and she can make the main course. THen I say that one day I might make her chicken marsala if we ever get to date 3...

I texted her:

"Hey Jersey I'm walking back to my apartment around 9:30 with coke (the soda) and like I said my roomate brought some captain Morgan. You and one or two of your roomates should come chill for a while... We will leave after an hour or so and hit up the row"

No response.

Frustration.

Next My roomate and I hit the fraternity scene.

Wednesday Night continued...

The night was totally open. Every fraternity on the Row (a single street where all Greek houses are located) was having an open party. All guests allowed.

Can you spell frenzy?

At first we run into a guy and a girl that I had met earlier in the week. I got a full appreciation for the concept of simmering: where a girl can be less attracted to you simply because of the time in the month that you met her and her current mood, and a thousand other reasons, and then INEXPLICABLY more attracted to you the next time you see her. She can move up and down this scale forever, the goal is to pay attention to her present attitude toward me and then capitalize when the iron is hot.

So My roomate and I roll into the first fraternity with this girl and guy. There is instant social proof in that and I roll up to a group of 7 sorority girls that I have known for the past year or so. We talk about our breaks and everything. They are giving me massive hugs and loving me! They are definitely attracted and some girls are already giving me the look like they want to take me home!

I lean against the bar while I am talking to one girl, and then move around and talk to everyone just to make sure I am making nice with everyone in that group. That group eventually leaves and I make friends with other guys there and some other girls.

At this point in my night, I was still thinking that maybe I wanted to join another fraternity, a thought that I have now (being sunday as I am writing this) completely disregarded. I cannot deal with spending the time and energy investing myself completely in another fraternity. I have to make the best out of what I have in my current fraternity.

Because I think I might want to join a fraternity, I am making friends with guys and getting their numbers, mostly disregarding the girls I meet and overlooking the hot ones who are looking over me. I'm the guy who seems like he knows everyone in this situation. In truth, they probably just think I am one of the brothers. Either way, I remember the looks on their faces and its clear what an AI is from now on.

My roomate and I roll out and there is some drama between us once we leave because he ended up hiding a very important piece of information from me about his family. I am passive aggressively pissed but I tell him I'm not cool with what happened.

We continue to roll and the rest of the night was rather uneventful because we just got more drunk and ended up talking to a bunch of guys. So gay. My roommate may be gay or at least shy. His drive does not match mine.

Lesson learned.

Things I want to improve on:
My dance floor game. I want to be able to grind with girls consistently when I want to. I also want to be confident in my ability to grind and turn a girl on through dancing in general. I am taking a salsa class which might help.
Making eye contact with random girls and trying to seduce every girl I see until I have one who is receptive. I don't mean that I will approach every girl, but I will walk slowly in an alpha manner (chest out, shoulders back, chin high, smile) and make eye contact with girls until I find one who clearly gives me an AI or IOI as I am walking toward her. This will keep my mindset in seduction mode.
My reactivity. I want to be more confident in myself and less dependent on other people's thoughts about me. I want to do what makes me happy instead of doing something because it makes someone else happy.

Day 3-- Thursday-- January 12

I am slightly hungover but its honestly not that bad. My roommate has a pretty good method for drinking large quantities of alcohol without experiencing the horrible hangover the next day.

The day is rather uneventful. I am still unsure with whether I want to evaluate the success of this 30 days off of whether I approach these girls randomly and directly or if I just situationally or observationally approach 30 girls and switch to direct once I am in conversation. I think I would prefer the latter because just walking up to a girl I have never met before and saying "Hey I know this is kind of random but you are absolutely gorgeous" might be flattering in an open environment, but on a college campus it seems weird.

As the night rolls around, my roommate and I head out again after downing 6 drinks and getting pumped up into state.

I had just watched a video by Nick Sparks about college and how sex is morally neutral. Its ok to have sex with a random girl I just met and not remember the next morning.

Just as we are walking outside, my roomate and I bump into a group of 2 guys and 4 girls. My rooomate knows one guy pretty well and I know him relatively well. They are hanging out with these four girls who go to LMU... One instantly grabs onto my arm and starts talking to me. Within 1.5 minutes we are kissing. Within 4 minutes we have made out. Within 6 minutes I'm grabbing her boobs. Within 10 minutes she is propositioning me for sex.

Right at that moment, I think back to Nick Spark's video and ask myself do I really want to wake up next to THIS girl in bed? I say no because she isn't good-looking enough for me to have a One Night Stand. I wouldn't value hooking up with her enough to override my inherent discomfort with having sex without actually knowing a girl. I, and my dick, prefer the emotional connection that gets enhanced with sex. Sometimes my dick physically won't let me have sex with the wrong woman.

Furthermore, My roommate was actually cock-blocking me. I was in shock. This girl was letting me touch her boobs and make out with her, but my roommate for some unknown reason thought it was chill to put his arms around her and look deeply in her eyes like he was going to kiss her. She had to pull away from him and keep pulling me back to her. The whole time I was just playing it cool even though I was furious with my roommate. The worst part was after they almost kissed he comes up to me and we have this pleasant exchange:

Me: "Bro, you are such a dick"
Roomie: "She wants to kiss me"
Me: "NO. You want to kiss her, asshole."
Roomie: "No dude she wants to kiss me."
Me: "NO, you are being an asshole" [walk off]

The girl follows me into our first fraternity. I run into the same girls from last night and we all vibe again. At this point I should've picked a target or something and maybe tried to hook up with one of them. Otherwise, that whole group is going to fall away from me because I'm acting super ambiguous to all of them and treating them the same. I needed to pick a girl that I preferred so that the other girls could know how to act around me. Now they will be a little bit more uncomfortable, the weight is on me to make my intentions clear.

Anyway, as I finish talking to them, the girl who wants my dick starts grinding up on me harder than any girl ever has before. I am not into it so I grab her and take her with me away from the floor and then find her friends and leave her with them. She tries to call me but we never get in contact. I wanted to call her later in the night and I ultimately did but she didn't answer. End of that story.

Next we roll around some more. College is awesome because the party is in the street as much as it is in the houses. We are seeing hot girls everywhere I am just chatting to everyone. Situational, observational, I'll straight up butt into people's conversations and see whether they are open or closed to being opened. If they are closed, I just keep rolling forward, it doesn't even phase me. Just the fact that I opened builds my momentum forward so that I can open easier in the future and find the proper set to pull the trigger on.

Anyway, the rest of the story is boring to write up. I meet up with some of my fraternity brothers who I had no idea drank and we party for the rest of the night. It was epic getting to connect with them in that way. Now I know that I can use these guys as pivots to get laid. Guy friends are the greatest asset to college game.

By the end of the night, I had collected 2 more numbers. Turned down sex and made really tight connections with some Junior/senior brothers in my fraternity. Overall, that sounds pretty damn successful and fun.

Day 4-- Friday-- January 13

Woke up relatively hung over.

Had a couple of classes and I am realizing that my PUA skills are contributing to my participation in class. I am not socially afraid to give my own opinion in a classroom setting. I am more willing to raise my hand and say what I think is true because I am confident that what I have to say is important and matters.

I am writing this on Sunday, and honestly I feel stupid for not going up and doing my approaches this week. Its at least one approach a day and I have been stopping myself because of all the self-psych-out shit. I have this mentality of "if I approach its weird because its not normal in college and she will think I'm weird because I couldn't have met her any other way and blah blah blah." But I'm sitting in my room on a sunday night with a holiday tomorrow and I am just pissed off. Like I'm so confused with myself. I don't know what I want. I don't know who I am.

THe community has brainwashed me so hardcore that I can't even follow my own heart anymore. I am seriously on a path to becoming a copy of somebody else because I don't even want to put the trust in myself to be a good person. There was a time when I was thinking it would be really cool to have a video of pick up artists just talking to eachother. Where they can be in conversation during a regular day, so that we as aspiring PUAs can see how they handle daily life.

In reality, what I really wanted was the see how these guys acted so taht I could mimic and copy their behavior. I wanted to sit in front of my computer and just watch hours of footage of these guys so that I could go out and not feel horrible for doing what they did. In my mind I could always justify my actions by thinking that "oh X PUA already did this" so regardless of the reaction I could feel confident in the behavior.

This has been my mentality for basically every routine I do. I'm not in the moment with a girl, I'm just a scared shitless guy who needs to say something so I pull a line that someone gave to me and told me to say it. I have no confidence in myself so I just say the line out of shit scared-ness and hope for the best. Regardless of the reaction I can justify it to myself. If she reacts good, its not even my fault, its the LINE. If she reacts negatively, its not my fault it was the DELIVERY, because the line is guaranteed to work, right?

So I'm put in this massive double bind where I am fucked either way.

WHat I need to do is get out of my head and build momentum. THe only way to successfully do that, and it happens all the time on bootcamps is to do THESE APPROACHES EVERY DAY.

I am renewing my commitment to appraoch the first honestly hot girl I see EVERY DAY. No excuses. I will run to her. I don't care who is watching. THis is the ONLY WAY TO ACHIEVE WHAT I WANT. I am tired of being this guy who spends so much mental energy devoting myself to this practice without putting in the physical time and effort. I need to go out into the field of my college campus and RUN THIS SHIT. THis is my life and I want to be happy. I am happiest when I'm not so in my head and can free flow because I feel good enough about myself that I don't care if other people react negatively. Their reaction literally doesn't matter TO MY EMOTIONAL STATE, but I still register their reaction because its valuable information in regards to the pick up. I can tell where they are at and calibrate how I interact with them to that level of attraction or comfort.

I have been super critical of myself lately, over thinking every situation, always trying to stand upright and breathe deeeply. I realize that the BEST POSSIBLE EXERCISE is to approach women every day. That's bar none the BEST. It puts me into a whole separate mode of existence where I acknowledge my power as a man and my sexuality and it helps me relieve so much frustration. I can concentrate on other areas of my life after I have approached.

As Friday rambled on, I ended up getting lunch with two of my close fraternity brothers. I noticed that I still get sociall anxious around guys when I respect them and consider them more powerful than me. I wanted to be cool and impress them with my social savvy or whatever. Instead of being happy and truly interested in them and in the moment, I restrained myself and put myself into a box and thought I was being "cool." Awesome. I am trying to making friends by changing who I am. that's a great strategy.

Next, my friend's car got towed. That sucked.

During the night, I ended u smoking with my friend and we just talked for like 5 hours. It was epic. We talked about everything. God, life, women, sex, college. So great. I got really up in my head when I started to smoke and then as I got more and more relaxed, things started to ease up. I am just really incapable of handling how other people try to tool me around and it gets uncomfortable when I am not focused on my own well-being and instead focus on my "social value" or "appeared status."

This mentality has become so entrenched I literally think about it in every social interaction. Maybe thats not horrible because I want to internalize the correct way of looking at the world and acting as a result but at the same time it causes me anxiety at times and stress.

Anyway I didn't do my approaches today or yesterday. I have been chatting up girls on campus that are convenient but I really think I need that first set direct mentality because it will enhance everything else. I need to be better as pulling the trigger because I meet girls and do no future projection and no escalation to the number. These girls are waiting to be fucked and I am doing nothing. How lame.

Day 5-- January 14-- Saturday

Today was interesting. I woke up drowsy from smoking. I ended up taking a nap until 3pm.

When I woke up, I ate some food and watched some more videos on my laptop of PUA. I hate doing this. I hate watching the PUA videos because I don't think they help me all that much anymore. I am pretty sure I have ingrained enough theory about this stuff to last me a lifetime, I just need to figure out how all the pieces fit together at this point, so I am greatly trying to cut down the time I spend sitting in front of my computer and more time in front of real life women. I need to go on more dates.

I go back over to my friend's place and we work out. Then we head out and go to hollywood for dinner. GO BURGER!!

We smoke a little beforehand. I get really messed up and start thinking about the world. LIke how messed up it is how people are just staring at the TV screens when tehre are real people right next to them or how there is music blaring inside the restaurant, like it was impossible to stay with the sensations in my body and be present!

I was SO SELF-CONSCIOUS. Smoking makes me crazy thought-oriented. Or at least it reveals thats how I am in real life when I am sober.

I open the hostess with the worst line, like I was such an idiot. I was definitely high. I see my friend sitting in a booth and I had gone to the bathroom so I'm walking back and I go up to the hostess and I go..

"Is that my friend over there?"
She looks over.
"Where?"
"In that booth, I am waiting for a booth for 2 to meet up with my friend"
She looks so confused at this point. "Is that your friend over there?"
"OH yea... Thank you"
And I walk over...

Dumbest. Thing. Ever.

The meal was amazing. A 20 dollar burger though, it better be amazing.

That night I went back to my room and just thought about the world and how I turned down sex on thursday.

I still can't believe I did that. I'm so torn about the subject. I don't know whether I oppose the thought of sex in 10 minutes in general or just if the girl isn't hot enough.

Day 6-- Sunday--January 15th

I am losing my momentum and its only the first week of school! This is bad... I really need to pick up my pace and focus on my dreams!

I need to do those approaches every day.

I played poker and there was a girl there who was really cute. I didn't even chat her up that much. In my head I'm like "ya, I'm so cool, I'm acting all aloof and uninterested" but thats such bullshit. Now she is gone and I possibly wont ever see her again in my life.

After poker, I go back to my room and watch more PUA videos and write on this blog...

Sigh. This weekend is turning out to be much like every other weekend I've experienced before I got into the game and decided how frustrated I am with my life. I want to be more social. I want to experience the world at no cost to my health but at whatever cost to my energy and motivation. I want to succeed so badly.

Today has just sucked, I haven't hit any girls up, I haven't really hung out with people I care about. I don't really know how to handle my life sometimes and that is the most frustrating thing. I really think that is what I would benefit from the most. Learning how to best manage my time to suit my own needs and meet my own demands instead of those demands placed upon me by external sources.

@CasperKid, I like your attitude. continue like this and good things will happen. all the frustration is just a good sign that you are on the right track. Going the way to success is often plastered with frustration and pain. get used to it und simply continue!