Bullet's Journal: 30 Days of Direct

Okay, so I finally decided that I just have to do this. I'm hoping that at the end of this challenge I will experience some breakthroughs, improve, and, hopefully, change for the best. The end of 30 days will be just in time for JT's bootcamp in late July in San Francisco that I will be attending.

To give you a bit about my experience with ABCs, I finished a day game workshop with Showtime in March and have been using what I've learned ever since with some positive results. In fact, I just got through seeing a girl but am still getting over the oneitis. Almost there I think. lol.

MrSmith has agreed to be my wingman thru all this. He said that he would check in on me every now and then to see if I'm still doing this. He said that he didn't want my money and asked me to just donate it to charity. At the end of 30 days, we'll see just how much money I lost and see if he still wants me to donate the doe to charity or to keep it for himself. lol.

I'm starting tomorrow. I'm interested to get your guys' feedback and all. Let's do this.

You have my support of course. I'll try to read and comment.

June 28, 2010 (Day 1)

Nothing worth mentioning today. During my break at work I decided to head out and look for any girls that I could go direct on. I saw one cute girl across the street. When we crossed paths we locked eyes. This would have been a good time to go direct and I was about to... but then a little voice in my head said, "Bullet! Don't! She looks too young!" I guess one of my biggest fears is hitting on a girl who turns out to be too young and getting called out as a pervert or something by anyone around us. I dunno. Maybe I should have just done it.

Across from my work is a mall and as I entered, I didn't see very many girls worth going direct on. The ones that did catch my eye, however, were with other guys holding hands, being really close, etc. I decided to call it quits and head back to work.

I typically work swing shifts (3pm-11pm/4pm-12am) so when I got off work, I needed to do a little late night grocery shopping. I thought maybe I could find someone there. No luck. :/

I'm starting to think that with my schedule, maybe I shouldn't have taken this challenge. lol. Well, I already started this and no matter what I'm going to see this through. 29 more days to go... let's see what happens.

Total money lost: $10

Well. I share some of m y day game stories.

I once hit a latina who is 16 years old in front of mc donalds and it was night time. (careful) Also hit a thai girl who was 13 and was asking her to be my valentine. However, I did not do anything with them. It is your discretion to do anything with them but in terms of approaching, it is pushing yourself from the mind that tells you not to go. Well, have you ever imagine how would the girl feels like when a guy thinks she is cute and call her out for that? It basically made her day and you enforce yourself have the power to make others feel happy. You are a high value man.

Hey Bullet...I did this challenge last summer and it totally upped my level of game. You can read what I went through here: 30-day-challengers-club-f58/edo-s-direct-30-day-challenge-t3454.html

Shit was ridiculous because out of the 30 days I only did 15 days direct and the other 15 days either just opening sets without intent or just letting AA control me.

This is really a hard challenge but I guarantee that the end of the 30 days, your game will definitely be a lot higher than it is now.

Stay motivated and keep going!!

@FLTB: Thanks for your feedback. You really put things into perspective.

@edo: Good to know something good can come out of this and it wasn't for nothing.

June 29, 2010 (Day 2)

During my lunch break at work, I decided to go to this food court type of place not too far and grab some lunch. As I finished up eating my food I noticed this really beautiful girl had just finished placing her order and sat down about 2 tables away with her back to me. Physically, she was totally my type. If I were to rate her on my personal scale, I would give her about a 9. I walked over to her and placed my arm on her shoulder and swung around in front of her. She seemed kind of startled at first. I told her, "Hi there. I thought you were ABSOLUTELY cute." She looked up at me with a warm smile on her face and said, "Thank you." I followed up with, "I just wanted to come over and say hi." I extended my hand out and she took it. We shook hands and exchanged names. I grabbed the chair next to her and sat down immediately. Her body seemed very closed. Her body was facing me but her arms and legs were crossed so tightly. I told her that I was on break from work and I just finished my lunch. She showed a little bit of interest by asking me where I worked. We continued talking but there was no change in her body and no IOIs. She looked over her shoulder to see if her food was ready. I could feel things being a little awkward... but I don't know, maybe it was just me. I soldiered on but I didn't think it was worth it to go for a number close because she showed no further interest and I felt like I was the one carrying most of the conversation. She didn't even smile when I made an attempt at making her laugh. I told her it was nice meeting her and that I had to get back to work. She still showed a smile on her face but out of politeness I think. Looking back, I should have done some compliance testing to make sure. Oh well... you live and you learn...

June 30, 2010 (Day 3)

Woke up this morning and some depression kicked in from my oneitis. I texted her. It definitely ruined my state of mind. I couldn't go direct on anyone. I told myself that maybe I would be in a better mood later in the day. It didn't happen. I'll feel better tomorrow.

Total money lost: $20

July, 5, 2010 (Day 8 )

Okay, so for the past few days I admit, I dropped the ball. I had lunch with my oneitis on day 4 of this challenge... Dumb, I know. It was during that day AND for the next few days I couldn't approach because I was so down (In case you want to keep score, I've lost $60). I tried to get myself to approach but my energy was so down I couldn't bring myself to go. Shortly after, I decided to just say fuck it and use the following days to do other things, to get out, and to get over her. Now I'm good.

Today, I went to a local Starbucks and went direct on a beautiful barista who was making my drink while on break at work. As she handed me my drink I said, "Hey, listen." She stops what she's doing to look at me. "I know this is forward but I wanted to tell you that YOU are VERY attractive." I made sure to say it in a very genuine way because I really DID feel that she was attractive. She responded positively with a smile and a thank you. We exchange names and shake hands. Unfortunately, a lot of time was killed during my waiting in line to place my order (I was last in line) so I didn't have a lot of time to talk to her and get into C-phase. I was going to be late getting back to work. I decided to cut the conversation short and I told her, "Listen, I gotta get back to work. I'll be seeing you again, [her name]." I smiled. She says, "Alright, [my name], I'll be seeing you again." She smiled back.

Overall, I thought my delivery was good. If not please feel free to tell me. However, here is my question. If my delivery was good, should I have just gone for the number close right away or would it be smarter to go thru C-phase then number close? The thing that stopped me from attempting a number close was because I hadn't gone thru C-phase yet. What do you guys think?

In addition, I also kept in mind that she would be seeing me again since I do actually go to this Starbucks quite often during break. I thought that perhaps the next time I do see her, I might be able to go right into C. But I also considered the fact that she would forget about me. But also know that most people I notice going in and out of this coffee shop seem like a bunch of pussies anyway. lol. I'm just sayin...

July 6, 2010 (Day 9)

Went inside a coffee shop with a friend. While we were there, he told me that there was a woman who looked at me as I walked in. He pointed at the woman doing work on her laptop. I approached her, touched her on her arm and told her she was fuckin' cute. She thanked me and smiled. I grabbed the empty chair in front of her and sat down. She seemed like she didn't mind. I noticed her sweater with the name of the university I went to. I told her I graduated from her college. I found out she was in her last year. I asked her what she was studying and it turned out her major was the same major I graduated in. We also had a common friend from another city. Small world. We talked some more and laughed a little. I was very conscious of my body language and made sure I was leaning back in my chair. She asked some questions and seemed interested to know more about me. She displayed IOIs but one thing I forgot to do was compliance test. She told me that she was waiting on a friend to get off work and meet with her. She said things like "He's suppose to meet me when he gets off work" and "I don't know if he's waiting on my call or if I'm suppose to call him." Obviously she was referring to a guy friend but she never implied that it was her boyfriend or anything like that. I left that topic and continued talking about something else. Shortly after that, I said that I had to go meet up with my friend and suggested that she give me her number to continue conversation. I pulled out my phone. Her words were something like, "Well, I'm just going to be forward with you, I'm the type of person who is flaky. I don't think it would be a good idea." It didn't bother me. I didn't take it personal. I smiled and told her it was nice meeting her and walked away. No luck with the number close. Oh well.

Looking back at the things I forgot to do... I should have done more kino. The only time I touched her was at the approach. Also, I didn't compliance test. I'll keep those in mind next time.