Bullet's Journal: 30 Days of Direct

I've gotten this one before. I usually say: "Ya know, I'm a busy guy and don't have a lot of time for games...but for the girls who are worth it, I don't mind staying on my toes. Put your number in my phone (smile and hand over phone)."

For the barista, it's okay to not grab the number then. The only thing you have to worry about is keeping the momentum going. Make sure to keep things flirty and fun with her and do try to create an opportunity for her to get to know you and you to get to know her (beyond a superficial level of course). Don't get deterred if she appears busy or distracted from work, know you have opportunities to see her again, but DO keep the momentum going forward.

For the girl the the number, I have a friend that says the following a lot



Basically, it doesn't matter what she says, you intend to call her and that is why you are getting her number. It just doesn't matter if she says she's flakey. Get it anyway because it's what you want to do. She may even be testing you to see if you are a guy that gets deterred by a comment like that. When in doubt, go back to your intent.

July 11, 2010 (Day 14)

I was having a bad day at work today so my energy was pretty low. Anyways, I went direct with low energy on a girl in a bookstore. I placed my arm on her shoulder, turned her to me and told her she was cute. She appeared to have a blank look on her face. I think she needed to have what I just said to sink in for a moment. She said thank you. I said something that I cant remember to make her laugh for a split second. Then she glanced behind me and said, "Nice meeting you" very quickly and looked away fast. I immediately thought two things... 1. She totally rejected my approach and did not like me at all... or... 2. I just hit on her in front of her boyfriend and he saw me do it or is very close by. Whatever it was, I walked away. I was pretty sure the answer was 2. lol. After being several feet away I decided to look over my shoulder to see if the answer was indeed number 2. I saw her boyfriend get really close to her and look as if he wasn't going to leave her side. I thought it was funny and it made me laugh for the next few minutes. I texted MrSmith about what I accidentally did and he thought it was pretty funny. lol.

July 15, 2010 (Day 18 )

Today I got an instant date and number close.

As I was walking to get some lunch today, a beautiful woman walked passed me. I have to admit, I'm not the type to put my hand out and stop them. Instead, what I did was let her walk past me then I ran up to her and went direct. I've had better success running up to women after they've walked passed me and, from there, I come up to their side and place my hand on their shoulder to stop them. Then I cross their path and stand in front of the direction they were going (DOMINANCE). I then face them and go direct. I try to make a big impact...

ME: *I place my hand on her shoulder and cut her off* "Hi there! I thought you were cute and I wanted to say hi. I'm Bullet."
HER: *Startled for just a moment* "Oh." *Smiles.* "Thank you. I'm [her name]."
ME: "So what are you doing today?"
HER: "Just going to the grocery store to buy some oranges."
ME: "Well I'll walk with you."
HER: "Alright." *Smiles* "But aren't you going the opposite direction?"
ME: "I was... But I'm the type of person who thinks life is too short and if you see something that attracts you, you need to do something about it."
HER: *Nods her head in agreement* "That's an interesting way to see things."

I could sense that she wasn't feeling awkward about any of this. I get right into comfort and we get to know each other a little more. I tell her more about myself.

We are about to walk past a coffee shop so I stop. She stops. INSTANT DATE.

ME: "Hey, you have time for a coffee? Let's get a coffee."
HER: "Sure."

She said more stuff after that but I can't remember.

After we get our drinks, we sit down. I continue with comfort but also remember to throw in a DHV here and there by using quick stories and checking my body language. I teased her and also used a little cocky/funny.

HER: "Where do you live?"
ME: "Not far. I live..."
HER: "Oh that's not far at all."
ME: "Yeah. But don't stalk me now. I'm trusting you with this information." *I playfully smile*
HER: *Laughs*

Throughout our interaction, she kept showing IOIs. I knew I was in. I qualify her and use compliance testing. I get her to jump through my hoops and made her guess how old I am when she asked.

We talk about our families. She asks me about siblings and I tell her I'm an only child.

HER: "No way."
ME: "Why is that hard to believe?"
HER: "Well, I have a few friends who are only children and... not to stereotype... but all of them seem to be like everything revolves around them. You are very open and social and humble. I'm impressed."
ME: "Thank you. You're pretty social yourself."
HER: *She laughs*

I find out that she lives in New York for graduate school but is originally from here in the bay. She's only staying for a week to see family.

She says that in New York, no one would ever come up to her on the street like the way I did.

ME: "And they do here in California?"
HER: "Well... I've had people come up to me and say hi... but that's all. Then it goes nowhere."

We talk more. Shortly after that, I tell her I have to go. I tell her to give me her number. She gives it and I give her mine. NUMBER CLOSE.

I told her I want to do something before she leaves back to New York. Then I told her that when she does come back here in the bay, we would continue hanging out. She was happy about that.

We said our goodbyes as I placed my hand on her lower back and pulled her body close to mine to give me a hug. She continues smiling and we walk our separate ways.

Keep it up Bullet!!
I wish I have the balls to take up the challenge. Maybe I will after I come back from my vacation. main-lounge-f22/picking-up-stewardess-t4966.html

Just a reminder about going direct. I haven't done it much since I took the day game workshop but this is what I noticed. When I was successful it's because I was being VERY DOMINANT. I can't pull it of all the time. So this is more of an inner game. You have to be convinced that you are the shit! You're a high value man, and she's lucky that you think she's cute. And if she doesn't respond, it's her lost.

Good luck man! Write up more field report.

I'll be out of the country the next couple of weeks you I won't be texting you. But I'll check on you FR in this forum.

- MrSmith

Alright, time to wrap this bad boy up!

...And I know, I know... I didn't do a good job with posting on a regular basis and keeping things up to date in this journal. My bad for that. lol.

ANYWAYS! I'll just get to the point and share some things I discovered during my 30 day challenge.

But first... MR. SMITH! You got $120 coming your way! Blah. I'm not too thrilled about that. lol. It's not a good excuse but work got in the way much of the time.

Next...

I initially decided to take this challenge to get over a girl. At the time I thought she was really special to me and she was definitely one of a kind. However, one thing I learned from this challenge was that every girl is different and unique in their own way. I thought my oneitis was special because she seemed so different. The truth is, the reason why she was so different was because every girl IS different when you can connect with her on a deep level. The cold hard fact was that I had not been with and connected with enough girls to realize this.

Now...

During my 30 days I have been blown out (many times), opened sets to nowhere (even more times) due to lack of dominance, number closed, and even instant-dated. Here are some of the things I've figured out and have worked for me:

-When you approach a girl direct, I find it's better to do it when she least expects it. For example... and this is what I do... If I am walking and I see her in front of me walking the opposite direction, I will let her walk past me then I will turn around and chase after her. When I catch up to her, I kino turn her. She may get startled at first but as long as you give your opener in a friendly and calm way, she will ease up and actually be flattered. So make a big impact... but don't creep her out. Do this by being relaxed and remember to smile.

-Be dominant. If I'm chasing after her because she walked right past me, I will run up to her side and kino turn her. I will then step across her path and block it. If she wants to walk away because she isn't feeling you, then let her. But the moment you cut her off, let her know you think she is attractive and keep talking. If she is feeling you, she will stand there and chat with you. If not, you will notice her body trying to move away or move aside. Let her go. Don't be creepy and follow her. You already showed masculinity and dominance by stopping what she was doing that very moment. Those traits of masculinity and dominance are VERY attractive to women. If she ain't feelin' you, bitch is crazy.

-Going out of your way just to tell her she is beautiful says a lot about you in her eyes.

-When you go direct, say it with passion. For example, "You are SOOO cute" or "You are FUCKING beautiful" or "You are VERY attractive." Emphasize that word just before the adjective of your choice. You show this passion by exaggerating your facial expression just a little. Sometimes what I will do is close my eyes and shake my head once to one side almost like I'm giving a big "NO" to someone asking me a question. There were times where women were just cold to me after I went direct because I didn't show passion in my tone and facial expression. I figured out that if I exaggerated my direct opener a little, they were more open to talking to me.

-Whether I got blown out or not, constantly going direct decreased my AA by a lot. Indirect seems easy now.

-Adopt the mindset that you are the hottest piece of ass that a woman can get her hands on! Seriously, doing so will give off that confidence that I think women are looking for in a guy. This is embarrassing for me to say, but I like to pretend that I'm the Filipino version of George Clooney. Of course I don't tell her that, I just think it. Lol.

-Don't deliver a direct opener like you are seeking approval or a reaction. For example, don't tell her she is fucking beautiful and have that dumbfounded look on your face like you are expecting her to jump on top of you and rip your clothes off. Seriously, it makes the opener seem like it isn't genuine. Just continue talking. What you're doing is basically telling her WHY you approached her but that shouldn't be the ONLY reason. Get her to tell you about her herself. It let's her know you are willing to get to know her beyond the physical. I've delivered direct openers thinking that if I told her she was fucking cute and just shut up, she was going to want me so bad. lol. NO. It didn't work for me.

-Know that as the man going direct, YOU have high value from the initial moment of interaction because YOU have the ability to brighten a lady's day. YOU have the power to make a woman feel good. I mean think about it. How would you feel if a very attractive girl came up to you and told you that you were very handsome or very sexy? Makes you feel good, right?

So to sum up this journal, I just want to say that I FUCKING LOVE GOING DIRECT.

Thanks for reading.

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