I decided to go walk around today with my best friend. It took a while but now he is also getting into the game which is awesome. He has also started to approach and is actually doing quite well. Anyways we decided to hit the dining hall.
As we are walking I see a HB, I want to approach her but I kinda hesitated. But, I smiled at her. As we are walking, another girl walks by,
HB: hey AJ.
ME: Hi. Where do I know you from?
HB: o we met at the bench.
Me: O yeah. (Remembering that I had approached her a couple of days ago). Since she remembered me,I kind of took that as an IOI.). So what’s you name, I forgot.
Me: kool. (We shake hands). Are you going to the bar crawl.
HB: Yeah. I still have to buy my mug.
Me: kool. Let me get your number. I will give you a call sometimes.
HB: gives her number
Before I never paid attention to all the pua articles on phone/text gaming…. But now that I am number closing, I have no idea what to do. I am too nervous too call them so what I do is text message them, inviting somewhere but most of the time they turn out to be flakey. That’s ok. Right now my goal is to get better at approaching.
We go to the CIW dining hall. (I am actually going to use the real dining hall names just cuz I am too lazy to make up fake ones)
We get in there. We are sitting. I spot a 7 set behind me. 6 girls and one guy. My friend said it’s going to take a lot of balls to approach them. I agree. I point a couple of two sets for him. I tell him that I will approach the 7 set only if he also approaches…. Good motivation for both of us to approach. I start to walk:
Me: hey guys. I am just wondering. I don’t come to this dining hall very often, but how is the food here.
As I am talking there are 14 eyes upon me…. That’s right 14 eyes looking at me. I held my frame.
Hb: it’s pretty good.
Hb to her right: it’s ok. I am having BBQ chicken honey wings.
Me: I had that today. But this is like my second time in this dining hall here even though I am a junior (DLV).
Hottest Hb: So you have never been here. Are you a transfer student ?
Me: no I usually eat in either Hinman or Dickinson.
I must interrupt this. As I am typing this FR, an HB 10 walks in. She is a 10 in every sense of the word. I have known her since last semester. Not only she is gorgeous but she is the sweetest, nicest girl I have ever come across. Plus if you add her amazing sense of fashion (she dresses up like a model), what you get is a perfect 10 in every sense of the word. Externally and internally, she is the definition of perfection. Unfortunately, she has a b/f. Anyways she walks up to me and starts talking to me. I have talked to her before and as she is talking, this is the first time I am talking to her since I have taken the boot camp so naturally our interaction is a little better. I am looking straight in her eyes. It is not easy. Joke, joke, laugh, laugh, tease, tease, comfort, comfort, REAL conversation,joke some more. It’s the easiest thing in the world to make her laugh. She says that she has a 3.92 GPA but she is not happy. I lightly hit her lol. We start to talk about finals, her summer plans, my summer plans, her future plans my future plans. I actually cut the convo short cuz I had to work, but as she went away my ENTIRE body was sweating and I was/still am as I type this shaking. Internally I was shaking but externally I was pretty confident.
Anyways back to my FR before I was interrupted by a goddess.
Hb: so you have never ate here. You gotta expand your choices.
Me: I know. But how does the food compare to other dining halls. I mean, is it any good?
Hb: I mean its Sodexho, you can’t have such high standards.
Me: I know. Hey you have really nice eyes. (Green eyes look awesome on a girl)
Hb: thank you.
Things I did well:
Approached a 7 set
Funny thing the guy did not even talk.
All the girls were hot.
Held my frame
Had good voice tonality
Things to work on:
Taking the interaction further, which was definitely possible.
My friend also approached a couple of two sets. Kudos to him for actually getting out there.
We went to the Newing dining hall. Here there were not that many sets. There was one set with one asian girl and one white girl. I don’t know why but I have real trouble approaching asian girls. Maybe where I grew up there were zero asian girls in my neighborhood. Add that to the fact that they look very different from the girls I grew up around and what you get is the fear of the unknown. One of my sticking points. Gotta get over it.
Anyways before I approached that set, I approached another two set. There were two girls. One of them had a cool grey hoodie.
Me: Hey I really like your hoodie. Where did you get it from cuz I am thinking of getting a gift for my cousin who is flying from California
Hb: O I actually stole it from my brother.
Her friend who is sitting with her responds: Well, you should try place X.
At this point, I definitely knew that I could have kept the convo going but I froze up for like 10 seconds I am just standing there… anxiety of taking things further. So her friend breaks the silence by saying “Thank you” and I eject. It’s all good. I need to learn as much as I can and right now the more I mess up, the better I will get.
Back to the original two set. They are actually sitting all the WAY across from the dining hall. I am getting very nervous. I am coming up with BS excuses such as they will probably see me walking to them and it will be very awkward to walk all the way across the dining hall just to talk to them. My friend is actually helping me out there and starts telling me what to do. Anyways after some talk with him and for the sake of gaining experience I walk over.
Me: Hey guys. I am actually doing a survey for a website. (total BS). I am going around asking people for their opinion. Who do you think lies more men or women? As I say that, I still have not looked at the girls fully. I make eye contact with both of them, first the white one and then the Asian girl. They are both incredibly hot.
Asian girl: Definitely women
AHb: yeah. Women lie way more. Men are not actually very good at it.
Blond: I don’t know. Probably women.
Me: You know men too but the women tell the biggest lies. For instance, a woman’s lie will be something like “hey the baby is not yours”.
AHb: laughing yeah, we are constantly lying.
Me: it’s also easier for women to lie. When men lie, women can always tell. For instance, my mom can always tell when I am lying. She calls me and asks me if I am studying and if I say “yeah” and I am actually not studying, she will immediately know that I am lying. (both of them laugh).
They said something else, which I could not remember but I ejected. I could have most definitely pushed the interaction further but I wussed out. Both of them were really into the question…. I know that who lies more is a weak opener but from my limited experience so far it has been working fine in terms of opening so I will continue to use it until I am comfortable going direct. There was definitely positive energy in the conversation.
My friend also approached a couple more sets, with situational openers and did pretty well. We decided to go back. As we are going back an HB with real nice outfit is walking by us.
Me: hey I love your outfit
HB: thank you.
As she is walking away she said
Hb: That was very sweet of you.
Me: have a good night
HB: you too.