Ace's 30 day direct challenge

day 14
another day

major AA prevented me from doing anything especially alone.... must learn this alone... must stop relying on crutches.
Anyways, I saw this hottie brunet on the bus stop...HB 9.5
I thought she would get on the same bus as me but my bus came and she was still sitting there on the bench. What happened afterwords was let's just say a good learning experience.
I went over to her
I tried to kino open as I always do.... but made the mistake of reaching for her leg... automatically... ARGHH~!!!
She gets a bit weirded out and pulls her leg back.
I still tell her that I just had to come over and tell you that you look adorable today
Her: no response
Me... ejection going back to bus
I hear laughter from behind.... my friend who was watching the interaction told me that they were laughing afterward... phew at least they were not totally creeped out.
Lessons learned:
Kino open BUT not on the leg.
Hey all in all a good learning experience... better than not doing anything.

Ace,

As with all field reports, I'd like to encourage you to follow this format:

1. Describe what you did in each of the phases: A-F. If you didn't get to a particular phase, or if you skipped a phase, write down that you either skipped it or didn't get to it. That will help you keep track of it in your mind, so that you will be less likely to make that mistake next time.
2. At the end of the report, write down three things:
A. Things you did well
B. Things you never did before
C. Things you could improve upon.

Why is 2.A. important? You, in particular, Ace, should always celebrate first. You are like me in that we are very hard on ourselves when we fuck up. It took me a long time to re-wire my brain to celebrate the things I did well, and I encourage you to begin that process for yourself.

For example, one thing you did well is you opened a super-hot brunette without hesitating. Was that also something you never did before? Great! Now you're really pushing your limits and extending your comfort zones.

Things you could improve upon? Stick with what we taught you. Go back to your notes and recall what we said about what the safest place on the body is, and why that is where you should start kino-ing from.

-William

day 15

my previous approach scarred me a bit so it will take a while to get back up. But today was more of a natural approach.
I was standing in the line at my bank. There is a dude in front of me. I ask him for the time.... I really needed to know. As I look back there is a girl behind me. I smile. She was a 6 black HB so it was easy to talk to her since I was not attracted to her in the least bit.
A
Me: Hey long line, isn't it?
HB: yeah it sure is. I am broke and I need to cash this check
Me: Me 2.
B
Me: They cut back on my hours so I only work around 5 hours/week
HB: No way
Me: yeah one of my friend got a check for 2 dollars and 50 cents... totally true
HB: laughing... no way. Is that even possible? What did he work for half an hour or something. (matching my humor)
C
We talked about what kind of work she did and where she worked. Before I knew it, it was my turn to be in the bank and that was that. Could have pushed for more but I wasn't attracted to her.
This was prolly the most natural approach I ever did. As I have previously stated, due to my previous approach I have been a little down on myself. But will keep trying.

I know that it's tough not to get down on yourself, but you really shouldn't. That's the beauty about The ABCs, you can reflect back on the approach and you know what you did wrong. It wasn't you, it was the approach and specifically the kinoing of the leg. Hell, she probably would have given the same reaction to Brad Pitt if he did what you did.

day 16
massive sickness + unstoppable coughing + AA = Feeling like shit but today I did something. Although it was very very minor, the fact that I actually went out and did it well, made me feel a bit better.
Feeling very sick lying in bed, decided to go to the university union to get coffee. The coffee stall was closed but got soup instead. I see a HB cashier... she is wearing a different uniform than what workers usually wear.
Me: How come you don't have your regular wok shirt on? Did they change it?
Hb: No. My manager gave this to me.
Me: Well, it looks cooler on you.
HB: (smiling) thanks

small steps baby small steps to get outta this mini-funk

day 17

Used a situational opener at Library; Was feeling massive AA before. Had a lot of freeze out moments. Finally did it. Location: in the library. A girl sitting adjacent next to me (prolly a 6.5 at best but I wanted to open her to practice and also cure my AA). She was reading news articles online.
(A)
Me: said something along the lines of "Hey I am thinking of topics to talk about in my debate club today (which was totally true) and I saw you reading through news articles online. Do you have any suggestions.
HB: Like what
Me: I explained her that I had to come up with 3 topic questions for my meeting. Then, I showed her one of the questions I already came up with. It was about how does your view of fashion change when you move from HS to college?
Hb: Long @ss response... way more than what I wanted.
(B)
Me: wow, you are really into this
Hb: (laughing) not really.
(C)
Me: so what kind of articles did you read about?
Hb: O traveling...I am from Honk Kong and I like to travel.
Me: Kool. What year are you?
Hb: I am a grad student
Me: wow. you look like an undergraduate student.
Hb: yeah (laughing)
Me: So whats your name
Hb: HB
Me: Me
Handshake.
At this point the set went extremely well. Before approaching, I thought that everyone would be looking at me but no one really looked. I was a bit relaxed now that I had already approached. I was about to number close.... but at that same moment she turns to me and says "Is that all you need" (albeit in a friendly tone).
Me: yeah. thank you for your help
Then, I got up said have a good night and off I went to my meeting.
Things I did well:
Approached, one of my previous field experiences screwed me over... argh!!!!
Ran a situational opener. for the first time
I was actually smiling a bit during the opener.... i think it helped
I actually spoke slowly for like the first time and not my usual phoenix suns talking speed.
Things I need to work on:
AA
Getting outta my head
my body is fighting me like a bitch these days.... like now that the spring break is so close my mind is like "lets just go home to NYC for Spring break.... there you will approach more which will give you more practice for when you get back to college after spring break and you will approach more". Which I know is total bullshit and an excuse by my brain just to talk me out of approaching both here and in the city...cuz when I get to the city my brain will say " nah you should approach college girls.. they are so much easier".

Anyways after doing this approach I felt much better.


kinda bonus approach
I also have like a group of semi one-ituses on campus. Let's just say that there are about a handful of girls that I always wanted to approach on campus... they are like my fantasy girls.... only if I could approach them. So I have even stared at them... nothing too creepy but let's just say that they know this brown guy lol. But anyways I talked to one of those dream girls... even thought she is at the bottom of the ladder of all these dream girls... lets just say it felt good finally talking to her for the first time. She works at both the library and the dining hall. So while I was getting my food... I jokingly said:
Me: Hey... how many jobs do you have
Dream HB # 5467567: Holds fingers of two while smiling
Me: wow you must have a lot of money.
Dream HB: No. they are all minimum wage jobs
Me: o ok kool said something funny and said have a good night

That's all for tonight.

day 18
Been outta this for a while.

Today I was not direct approaching but still I approached sets because I had to... (I was promoting an event which I am a part of). Still, I had to do it with this fobby girl who was working with me on the event and is clearly impressed with my talking skills (she has seen me approach strangers previously and little did she know that it was because of the post boot camp high)... w/e I said I will do it again.
We were going to go to many student groups who were tabling and try to promote our events.
She was supposed to meet me at noon, but I got there like 5 mins earlier and I was scared. Like, holyshit scared. Felt fear to the nth degree. She arrives. We go downstairs. First table, 4 set ABC sorority. Holy fuck, I have to do it. no other choice existed. I think ,as I was walking towards them, I was saying OUT loud...THIS is going to take a LOT of cojones... not sure if the set heard me or not. Opened them. Bam!!!
Even though I had a purpose and even thought this was NOT me going direct, this has to be the toughest set I have ever approached. But once I got in, it was pretty easy. Knew one of the girl from my class. Knew the other one (sort of) from someplace else. Their sense of humor was pretty lame...translation they were laughing at my lame jokes... like one of my cheesy ones. High fived one of the girl. When I was talking to them and promoting our event, one of them started to wander have and have side convos, I said "Hey the show is over here"... THAT line is money. I never knew how effective it is. Everyone turned their attention to me. After wards approaching other student groups became a piece of cake.
I don't know if this counts as my approach or not but it took a lot of effort to do it.
Lately I have been having trouble going direct because of the gaffe I did last time.. still am not over it lol.
My progress seems to have stagnated but at least I am getting out and not giving up. Hopefully, I will approach more over the upcoming spring break.
I also tried to go out at 6 pm just to look around campus to approach. I counted 38 sets in a span of 30 minutes... I actually made a tally of them. Here are some of the things that bugged me/disrupted my emotional state :
seeing girls with other guys
seeing girls that I already know
seeing a HOT HB 9 with an Indian guy... that totally got me lol that should be me... working on it =)
Also asked a directional question to a HB 8.5 .... just to at least talk to her.

day 19
not many students on campus today cuz everyone already went home but i had to stay an extra day anyways walked around campus
complimented a blond HB on her bag....
she said thanks

approached a random girl offering her if she needed help with carrying her stuff... she said thanks...


and now going home

day 20
went to a party... went direct on a blond
Me:Hey you look adorable tonight
HB:weak response
Me: No I really mean it, you really look adorable tonight.
HB: laughing... thanks

day 21
went daygamin in union square... did not go that good.
Opened a girl who was reading a book by the tree in union square park

Me: Hey, I just had to come over and tell you that you look adorable today
HB: thanks
Me: so what are you reading
HB: blah blah blah
Me: wow you have a British accent. Are you from England?
HB: no, I am actually from Rochester
Me (holding my ground despite the obvious gaffe): I have friends from Rochester, they don't speak like that.
HB: said something that I forget
Me: btw my name is acebingo2006
HB: my name is HB
At that point I said something trivial that I forget and ejected.