30 Days of no drinking while sarging.

Yeah holding the water glass helps me too. Feels wierd not to be holding something. I remember my acting teacher saying the reason we get nervous on stage is cause were not doing something. So try to count hte number of lights or count audience members and the nervousness will go away. So replacing alcohol with water is one step. Or replacing water with talking with friends, or counting the number of people in a venue will let your mind not get stuck.

Ok last night is one of those Grey zone areas.



Me and a good freind have decided that we want to get decent at bowling so we hit the bowling alley every wed and get a couple of games in.

So at the bowling alley we are bowling and I am not sarging, so me and my friend have a beer.

So next we call up one of my other friends who is just about to get off work and see if he wants to join.

He says he wants to pass since he doesn't bowl but doesnt mind getting a drink and hanging out. So we decide to finish up our game and head over to a bar next to his house. His area is nice and trendy and it has some good bars.


So we all meet up there and have a drink.

So I am drinking but not sarging, I am still ok, correct?

We find a nice booth and we all sit back and shoot the shit. About 30 min goes by and another friends drops by. Now the booth is a bit small so we move over to a table.

I am still not sarging so I am OK, correct?


So we now sit at an empty table and there is a group of people next to us,1 guy and 3 girls.
So me and my friends are still shooting the shit, then the guy makes a loud " DAmn" and looks at us. We all notice and Friend B takes a moment to stare the guy down making sure he know the pecking order. Then 1 of the girls bumps me as she gets up to go use the restroom, she apologizes and I give her an evil grin.

So I am drinking but not sarging still so I am OK still right?

So I get a elbow in my ribs and it's friend A giving me a head nod, Friend B gives me the "look" of doubt as if I can't spit game and so I am off to the races.

The Girls comes back and takes a seat. Now reading the situation I deduced that I have to run game tailored to the situation. I knew going direct would be a risk especially if it didn't hook, because I wouldn't take advantage of my number one factor that was available which was time due to our siting arrangement.

Platonic
A:

Me:Looks like your friends took up some of your space.
HB: I know
Me: Good thing your not that big (smile), whats your story tonight.
HB: I know, Just out with some friends after work.
(now most guys would jump on a question here or see rapport through work had I gone Direct and it hit then I might be able to jump into the C phase, But I need to add more value before she can open up)
Me: Thats cool..
Me: Me and my friend just got back from bowling (Bowling story)
Me: So now we came here to meet up with my friend, he lives down the street. They got some good Bars around this area. I like it, its a chill place, you can sit down and have a nice conversation with someone interesting.
HB: I like it too.
Me: You ever been to xxx up the street?
HB: nope
Me: wow, are your serious? hmmm what about xxx over at abc?
HB: Oh yeah I have been to that place it's really nice.

(So now I can see she being social time to switch it up)

Personal
B:
Me: What did you say you did?
HB: I am a waitress...
Me: [tease] A real one? [DHV]I got some friends in the industry and they told me that whenever someone says that it's because that want to act.
HB: ....Well.... I am trying to make it..
Me: Anything specific? ( I ask just so I could drop another DHV, otherwise I would have cut it)
HB: Producing and directing...
Me: Production? (misinterpretation) [DHV] [Sexual Safety] One of my roommates did theater she did xxx over at abc and yyy over in def and is now doing zzz in ghi. I got friends that dabble in film also. I respect anyone that goes into that field it can be tough.
Me: So what do you do for fun?
HB: I like to hang out with my friend (mental note: It went from "friends" to "friend")

AFOG: (hugs HB) YEAHHHH!!!
Me: (smile at afog turn to hb) This must be your friend. (turn back to AFOG) HI! your name was?
AFOG: MY NAME IS AFOG..
Me: Nice to meet you AFOG...
AFOG: WHAT was YOouR NAme?
ME: I am xxxxx
AFOG:OKKKAAAyyyy..


(back to HB)

Me: where were we?
HB: What do you do for fun?
(at this point I felt like her answers were still short and I need more attraction)

Me: It all depends... Don't you think it depends on the mood? If I feel like spending time to myself I will either go to a book store and get lost in a good book or relax on me couch and watch a movie. I got a huge DVD collection. Or if I want to get out I go [shooting from both barrels] bowling,golfing,mountain biking,jet skiing or I hang out with friends.

Me: So what do you like to do when you want to spend time with yourself
HB: I also like movies... [1minute rant]
(now she is opening up)

C:

Me: [logistics and comfort] So where are you from?
HB: Like now? or where I grew up? (they always ask that)
Me: Both.
HB: Well I grew up xxx and went to yyy [she begins to storytell]
Me: Oh wow, now way! My sister live up by AAA
(HB is white so I see this as an opening to throw in my interracial DHV)
ME: Yeah my family....[interracial story]
Me: (Pause sit on my drink) wait for her to reinitialize [compliance]
HB: So where are you from?
Me: Born and raised?
HB: yup
ME: Well I was born and raised xxxxxxxx and I live in zzzz
HB: Oh I live by zzzzz
Me: Nice, you know where gggg is at.
HB; YESSSS I LOVE THAT PLACE!
Me: The Burgers are good.
HB: I LOVE THE BURGERS!
Me; We are defiantly doing lunch there on of these days. [small seed]
Me: So tell me a little more about you.
HB: Well I have been living here for 1 year.. and work at xxxx and do yyyy (life story)
(at this point we have lift off)
HB: What do you do?
Me: [dhv story]

D:
Me: you know, you don't have that typical L.A girl vibe which is cool, Plus i like the way you put your outfit together it is very simple but sexy at the same time, you are really attractive.
HB: AWWW thanks...
HB: Well I am not a typical L.A girl, I am not xxx and yyy I am more xxx and yyy [qualifying]
(she moves in closer)

AFOG: HEY!!!! who are you here with????
Me: My good freinds....Hey have you meet friend D?

(Intro AFOG and Friend D...HE losses it in 30 sec)

I turn back to my table and there is 6 shots and 5 glasses with something in it.

Me: You will have to excuses me I have to take care of something.
HB: Sure no prob.



Me: Yo. Wtf is this
Friend A: We are all taking shots!
Me: NO shit! Dumb ass I can see that...What is this?
Friend A: Its one of my conk-ack-sssiiiooon.
Me: Wtf............

I finish my shot and what tastes like redbull and lean back and wait for her to reinitialize
[compliance]
HB: What did you take?
Me: I have no clue..it was some shot and redbull
HB : Maybe it was ........................

After that I knew I was in..
Me: I enjoy this, how do we keep in touch?
HB: Take my number
Me: (hand her my phone) Punch in your number.

I wait and then call her phone so she has my number in there.
Then AFOG comes back in..

AFOG: HEYYY!
Me: Here leave a message.
AFOG: WTF! OKAY!! Phone: HEY Its ME!
AFOG: Who is that?
Me: You left here a message (point to HB)
AFOG: oh..HEYY! I LEFt YOU A message! (talking to HB)

Afog turns to the table and yells at the guy.

AFOG: HEY! were are with them now! (pointing to our table)

I turn to the HB.

Me: you know them
HB: Nope its just me and her tonight

Turns out they all just meet that night.

I cycled C/D/B for the next 20 min

Then the AFOG comes back into play:

AFOG: I NEED TO GO the BATHroOM!

HB: (talking to me) Hey I got to take care of this is I dont see you when I come out it was nice and give me a call.


And so me and my friends are off to find some tacos...

SO I guess I owe the forums 10$

I game on drugs high as a mofo from time to time.
But I can hide it extremely well and nobody will know (not even my friends LOL).
I dont make a habbit of this.

The same state is achievable without drugs though.
I've certainly done it before.

I dont drink alcohol and I'm trying to stop smoking cigarettes.

yo,

is this 30 continuous nights of going out + not drinking, or 30 nights of not drinking the next 30 times you're out? It seems like the latter may span more than one month then.

It's not 30days in a row...




Does this count if I am out the country?

Got another night done. Went to venue xxx and it looked promising.

Upon entrance the talent pool dropped. I made my rounds but I just wasn't feeling the talent.

The music wasn't that good either.


No targets
No Good music
No drinking

all equals a pretty boring night.