30 days no jerkoff challenge

For those having difficulty overcoming masturbation, I am here to help.

I was diagnosed with depression primarily because of my low esteem, poor situational awareness, and low concentration which severely hindered my self-perception, social skills with women, and my ability to be honest and open with myself since I was so tired all the time from wacking it.

My sleep schedule was fcked up, I had poor concentration, low energy, it was terrible and it became impulsive.

Day 1: Saturday, May 30, 2010 - Very easy. I knew I could do it, believed in my self, zero urge to do it.
Day 2: Sunday, May 31, 2010 - Felt happy and proud I was taking the first step towards changing my life for the better.
Day 3: Monday, June 1, 2010 - Good (Severe urge to go "do it" - it was terrible. What kept me going forward was self-discipline and remind myself that I wanted good concentration, situational awareness, and high energy in social situations (which jerking off kills) and self-confidence in my girl-relations skills which would be "blown away" if I just resorted to easy jerk off.)

Lesson learned: To defeat an addiction, you need something EXTREMELY strong motivating you.

What motivated me was: I was diagnosed with depression, shitty slow, poor awareness,attention, concentration, overall low energy. I know what good energy feels like and my potential to do extraodinary well in social situations when I first took Adderall because I had elite concentration and high energy. So... I experienced what my potential was, I knew what my potential could bring me and what "success" was.... so I used that as justification for defeating this bad habit. I made this bad habit the root cause of me "not being able to succeed" and thus, I made it a mission to defeat it.

Another lesson learned: Quitting is an easy way out for avoiding life's problems. Heh, Do you want to be the dude that has Zero game and then realize it at the last minute because you've been indulging in too much fantasy dream world imagination porn for so long in your life? Maybe you realized it but haven't realized the entire scope of how shitty your life is because you masturbated wayyy too much? TO MYSELF: Don't quit, quitting is for bitches who like to take the easy route out to solve life's problems. hehehehe, it's like a drug. Bad drug.

haha.. I'm going to be completely honest about this topic.

BEFORE I made changes in my life and took my bootcamp I jerked off ALOT... and I didn't think there was anything wrong with it. I was in a place of depression trying to replace a relationship that ended.

I did have an allergic reaction to a latex condom post boot camp. And yes, I did jerk off during recovery.. mostly because I had to do some test runs. HONEST TRUTH.

NOW.... I can't remember the last time. I think it was good phone sex. I have value and get laid when I want. I really do.. and the whole experience is soooo much worth it.

I will admit as well I used to jerk off as well. How I stopped this was I made myself goals. I know there are times when you say fuck it Im gonna wack off. Realize that when you do you're only screwing yourself. Instead why not have a girl do it for you, once you start to date a chic then you can wack off all you want. What I did to stop this was that I created goals for myself.

For example:

When you go for one week without it reward yourself with something. Such as a new shirt or something you really want or like.

Then one month goes along reward yourself with a vacation somewhere. Two months pass by then another reward. You get the idea. Every time you go longer and longer without doing it then give yourself bigger rewards. What I am doing now is the next time I get laid again I am going to reward myself with a new pair of biker boots. Once it happens then I will buy myself those boots. As for me I make things possible and I know you can do it to.

My friend and I are having a competition. Whoever jacks off first owes the winner $50. He lost and I got his 50 then again the contract resets. Every month we have to do without doing it. Once that month is up and both of us has not done it then we renew the contract again. This is all based on the trust system. Both to help us improve our game and energy.

Also to help you with your depression, watch "The Secret" and read the book too. It helped me with a lot of things in my life and I am sure it will help you too. Asides from game I feel that this helped my inner game in all aspects of my life. These are some ideas I can think of. Anyway keep me updated with your progress.

Ralph

Day 4: Jun 2, 2010: I decided to start this topic. Got fired up. Got motivated by hanging out people who has discipline and that I have respect for. The friend who I hung out with is a Marine Officier candidate. Really disciplines, really motivated me to control my impulses, finely control my behaviors, and eliminate all negative behaviors and impulses and emotions from my life.

Day 5: Jun 3, 2010: Easy peasy lemon squeasy. Still going strong. Highly motivated by reminding self that: A) Excessive masturbation is the cause of your depression and all the sadness and misery in your life, B) You are gaining self-discipline and mastery of yourself. That I love and respect myself for that.

Lesson learned: If you can imagine how you would want to live your life 20-30 years from now, what would your 'successful mindset' be like 20-30 years from now? You got it? NOW MAKE IT RIGHT NOW. It's worth it - stop wasting your time and just get this fundamental masterpiece in check so you can live life to your max potential.

My personal objective was to be the master of my impulses and eliminate all negative child-like behaviors. To eliminate my identity which has flawed and pulled me back for so long and letting my executive part of my brain to control me and to create my own pure desires in life.

I manned the fuck up, now I do not let my childish tendencies take hold of me any more

Day 4: June 4, 2010 - It was certainty grueling. Took a few peaks at pics - OMG. It was tough. Thought about quitting, but nah, I couldn't give up! no way man, my life depends on it. My honor and integrity depends on it - as does my wishes for 'change'.. lol

I am actually going to give up on looking at porn period. Yay...

Vision

- If ever you masturbate within the 30 days, think about a girl you tried to hit on at the bar/club. Not some big tit anime character (sailormoon) on the internet

- This will motivate you to get out here, and yes, you won't get laid all the time, but thinking about that hot chick you tried to hit on while masturbating is worth it. Think of this as a reward. (concept taken from william lee)

Vision I feel for you bro. I think I once too had an addictance to porn during stressful times. But now my previous year of stress is over, I feel I have better control and less reliance on porn.

It might be worth using those internet filtering software for kids. For example, you can download leechblock for firefox, which can block all porn related stuff.

Dude, goddamnit. Can I not go a week without hearing about your fucking sandpaper foreskin hahahaha..

Very sincerely,

Muchclosertoyou thanIshouldbe

I felt you bro. I was in the same situation. It messed up my grade in school too. The only way to control this is to have women in your life. It's the abundant mentality. I start to be able to control my body now. The guys who're very good with women don't jerk off, so if you want to be one of them. It's the time to start installing the mindset.

I put up a post on my experiences dealing masturbation; how I went from 3-5 per day to going weeks at time without even thinking about it.

Hope it helps!

http://thelegendofjt.blogspot.com/2010/09/when-its-over-youre-really-only-fucking.html